Cancer Lady, Taurus Man, Affection is missing

I need the attention he gives me when he is drunk more often....even when he's sober. Doesn't seem like so much to ask.... What is the friggin deal with this? How can I help this situation? I don't want to get on his butt about this, he is impossible to talk to, as he shows via actions, not words. I'm not even sure if I've ever gotten a straight answer out of him, lol, he always leaves the answer open for possibility. Thank God we are both so intuitive, I think he can read my mind...kind of creeps me out sometimes.

I know he loves me, no doubt in my mind. He thinks the right way to show his love is just by being there. Yea, of course I love the fact that he is there. How can I get him to show me how important I am to him? How can I better feel receptive to his love? How do I get more affection, more hugs, kisses? Thanks!

Here is some background Info...Sorry about the long friggin post - Ps, ya, our life together started fast 🙂

I'm a 26 year old Cancer female, in love with my (almost!) 33 year old Taurus partner. He and I met Dec 3, 2011, and have been inseparable since. Found out I was pregnant before our 3 month mark, welcomed the most perfect baby boy Oct 26, 2012. Our relationship is amazing. He calms me when I get all riled up, we give each other the security we crave, I give him the happy home he's always wanted. We compliment each other's life's...what void I have, he fills, and vice versa.

He has an awesome group of friends that I've become a part of; I hear constantly how I am the first girl he's allowed to stick around, how happy he is, how the relationship has affected him for the better. I know how lucky I am to have him 🙂

Posted by CluelessCancer
Tell him, teach him, show him.

Totally agree...but its so hard to show him when I get blown off/feel like Im raping him. So difficult to teach him when I lack opportunity. I've told him, so far that has not improved the situation. Im not even given the satisfaction of a response...its a dumb sad predicament

Posted by CluelessCancer
Well it takes time, it can't happen over night, especially if he grew up without being affectionate or doesn't know the importance of it. I'm not a Taurus, but talking to a man never works anyways...

Its been a year and a half, no effort on his part. Im not desperate, but I haven't a clue what to do. Thank you for your responses 🙂

Posted by CluelessCancer
Tell him, teach him, show him.

This ^^^^^^^^

Posted by TaurusBull1977

Posted by CluelessCancer
Tell him, teach him, show him.

This ^^^^^^^^

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Any recommendations on how to approach the telling, teaching or showing? Cause right now I am failing...

Posted by HeavyMetalCancer

Posted by TaurusBull1977

Posted by CluelessCancer
Tell him, teach him, show him.

This ^^^^^^^^

Any recommendations on how to approach the telling, teaching or showing? Cause right now I am failing...

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Tauruses are naturally sensual physical signs. You will just have to find ways to stimulate those five senses.

1. A nice perfume. (smell)

2. A nice sundress, polished nails, anything feminine, ladylike. (sight)

3. Soft touches..nothing to aggressive (touch)

4. A warm baked apple pie (or homemade choice of dessert)

5. Pleasant music. Judging by your screen name, it's fair to say that you probably both are into heavy metal. 😛

Is he into any other types of music.

Posted by TaurusBull1977

Posted by HeavyMetalCancer

Posted by TaurusBull1977

Posted by CluelessCancer
Tell him, teach him, show him.

This ^^^^^^^^

Any recommendations on how to approach the telling, teaching or showing? Cause right now I am failing...

Tauruses are naturally sensual physical signs. You will just have to find ways to stimulate those five senses.

1. A nice perfume. (smell)

2. A nice sundress, polished nails, anything feminine, ladylike. (sight)

3. Soft touches..nothing to aggressive (touch)

4. A warm baked apple pie (or homemade choice of dessert)

5. Pleasant music. Judging by your screen name, it's fair to say that you probably both are into heavy metal. 😛

Is he into any other types of music.

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I really like the idea of creating the right setting to approach him...full tummy, mellow mood, etc. I have to make sure im always smelling good, because he is such a sniffer! Lol. Im very feminine in appearance, its our looks that is probably the cause of us getting together initially. I could definitely work on my touch, I may tend to be too aggressive because of my neediness...I over comensate for any opportunity I get to touch him. Lol. We are definitely into metal, its something that brings us together...I love getting him music related presents. I believe it is fair to say I stimulate him...I just miss out on receiving it back. When I try to talk about the lack of affection/attention/physical relationship, he teases/jokes with me to avoid the convo. When I try to show him phsyical attention, I usually get brushed off. When I take a chance to teach him what I like, he might do it, but never tries again.

Yet when we are drinking, he feels totally comfortable with showing me affection, and the bedroom time is great. Sure, I could just get him drunk all the time...but really?! Lol. How do I get past these inhibitions he has? Is it a trust thing? A commitment issue with fully opening up to me? He's so overly possesive (I believe insecurities cause this...) he does not want to lose me, I am sure to provide him the security im not going anywhere...plus he kind of has me on lock with our kiddo 😛 j