Chapter 2: Am i Bull-dozing the relationship with my Bull?

I know I know.

some of us hate reflecting on our online horoscopes but they always seem to relate to my current.

always. and it says this month is this....

"August 2017 - A Uranus retrograde begins on August 3, allowing you to gain a new perspective on the puzzle you call your love life. Have some approaches been working better than others? You should know why by the end of this aspect. A Venus-Pluto opposition on August 15 brings out your game-playing tendencies, but you’ll have to work on limiting this approach if you want to find your true love. Manipulation won’t bring the results you seek. Mercury backs into Leo on August 31, warning you not to confuse bravado with confidence. Sometimes it’s OK to feel unsure of yourself. Your dates might even find it endearing."



the other night me and my bull went out to a rave to see a dj we like.

apparently this night I wasn't paying him the attention he wanted and it made him emotional.

we got into a little but of a fight, mainly because he got mad at me for not informing him on something I thought he knew was obvious. and in casual conversation with people he thought I was expressing myself too much to someone other then him, and then we went outside to talk more and he got really emotional with me. telling me im all he thinks about, and he cares about me so deeply, and that there are things about me he is noticing that is taking him time to get used to now that he understands. like "do what I want" mentality, or my need to explore or be independent. he cried with me, and when we parted for the night he called me immediately from home to talk more. we talked for 4 hours and he cried and talked and needed reassurance from me, and I was so unemotional. I was so annoyed by the public argument and I was so annoyed that I wasn't doing anything right to him the entire night and it was late and I was just very unemotional about his feels. I rolled my eyes on the phone a couple times.

but we spend the week together and I felt like some was off.

he give me affirmations of love and affections but when we would have sex, I didn't feel like he was wanting it I felt like he was just doing it because its what we do. and I feel like he lied and faked his orgasm. I don't know what's going on, but I feel like things are really off with him and I. and its making me insecure.

im starting to nit pick at things as to why its not going to work.

but the past couple months iv been so happy and hopeful for us and a future.

I feel like he isn't giving me back what I put in - two days in a row we made plan, even ones he initiated but when it came down to execute those plans he bailed on them and said he wanted to just stay home with me.

also it bothers me that he senses something is wrong and he just over exudes physical affection. I mean its nice but does he actually mean it. when he asks me whats wrong, why doesn't he know whats wrong? do they really not get it.

are we crashing and burning

I just don't know what to do. and im stuck in my head.

hes so wonderful but all these other things are over powering me.

and im starting to withdrawal

Posted by m200991

Posted by sagittariusxo
I know I know.

some of us hate reflecting on our online horoscopes but they always seem to relate to my current.

always. and it says this month is this....

"August 2017 - A Uranus retrograde begins on August 3, allowing you to gain a new perspective on the puzzle you call your love life. Have some approaches been working better than others? You should know why by the end of this aspect. A Venus-Pluto opposition on August 15 brings out your game-playing tendencies, but you’ll have to work on limiting this approach if you want to find your true love. Manipulation won’t bring the results you seek. Mercury backs into Leo on August 31, warning you not to confuse bravado with confidence. Sometimes it’s OK to feel unsure of yourself. Your dates might even find it endearing."



the other night me and my bull went out to a rave to see a dj we like.

apparently this night I wasn't paying him the attention he wanted and it made him emotional.

we got into a little but of a fight, mainly because he got mad at me for not informing him on something I thought he knew was obvious. and in casual conversation with people he thought I was expressing myself too much to someone other then him, and then we went outside to talk more and he got really emotional with me. telling me im all he thinks about, and he cares about me so deeply, and that there are things about me he is noticing that is taking him time to get used to now that he understands. like "do what I want" mentality, or my need to explore or be independent. he cried with me, and when we parted for the night he called me immediately from home to talk more. we talked for 4 hours and he cried and talked and needed reassurance from me, and I was so unemotional. I was so annoyed by the public argument and I was so annoyed that I wasn't doing anything right to him the entire night and it was late and I was just very unemotional about his feels. I rolled my eyes on the phone a couple times.

but we spend the week together and I felt like some was off.

he give me affirmations of love and affections but when we would have sex, I didn't feel like he was wanting it I felt like he was just doing it because its what we do. and I feel like he lied and faked his orgasm. I don't know what's going on, but I feel like things are really off with him and I. and its making me insecure.

im starting to nit pick at things as to why its not going to work.

but the past couple months iv been so happy and hopeful for us and a future.

I feel like he isn't giving me back what I put in - two days in a row we made plan, even ones he initiated but when it came down to execute those plans he bailed on them and said he wanted to just stay home with me.

also it bothers me that he senses something is wrong and he just over exudes physical affection. I mean its nice but does he actually mean it. when he asks me whats wrong, why doesn't he know whats wrong? do they really not get it.

are we crashing and burning

I just don't know what to do. and im stuck in my head.

hes so wonderful but all these other things are over powering me.

and im starting to withdrawal

I've said this probably 100 times in 100 different posts.

If a Taurus is still communicating with you, all is not lost. Just make sure to listen and be respectful about the topic the next time the Taurus brings up the matter or talks about how you made them feel (and they will).

It is only when a Taurus has become cold and unwilling to communicate that represents dire times.

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thank you, I believe that but im worried about the things im noticing.

and although they might not be as big as feel they are there and they are unwanted and they pertain to him. and communicating is so hard because I want to know what is happening and I don't think point blank bringing this things up and asking him is going to be any more helpful.

im really emotional about this.

we had a weird night, it happens and good conversation was had from it

but the past week has felt off and something is happening.

what do I do about him having sex with me and faking it?

how long have you been going out for?

Posted by m200991

Posted by sagittariusxo
I know I know.

some of us hate reflecting on our online horoscopes but they always seem to relate to my current.

always. and it says this month is this....

"August 2017 - A Uranus retrograde begins on August 3, allowing you to gain a new perspective on the puzzle you call your love life. Have some approaches been working better than others? You should know why by the end of this aspect. A Venus-Pluto opposition on August 15 brings out your game-playing tendencies, but you’ll have to work on limiting this approach if you want to find your true love. Manipulation won’t bring the results you seek. Mercury backs into Leo on August 31, warning you not to confuse bravado with confidence. Sometimes it’s OK to feel unsure of yourself. Your dates might even find it endearing."



the other night me and my bull went out to a rave to see a dj we like.

apparently this night I wasn't paying him the attention he wanted and it made him emotional.

we got into a little but of a fight, mainly because he got mad at me for not informing him on something I thought he knew was obvious. and in casual conversation with people he thought I was expressing myself too much to someone other then him, and then we went outside to talk more and he got really emotional with me. telling me im all he thinks about, and he cares about me so deeply, and that there are things about me he is noticing that is taking him time to get used to now that he understands. like "do what I want" mentality, or my need to explore or be independent. he cried with me, and when we parted for the night he called me immediately from home to talk more. we talked for 4 hours and he cried and talked and needed reassurance from me, and I was so unemotional. I was so annoyed by the public argument and I was so annoyed that I wasn't doing anything right to him the entire night and it was late and I was just very unemotional about his feels. I rolled my eyes on the phone a couple times.

but we spend the week together and I felt like some was off.

he give me affirmations of love and affections but when we would have sex, I didn't feel like he was wanting it I felt like he was just doing it because its what we do. and I feel like he lied and faked his orgasm. I don't know what's going on, but I feel like things are really off with him and I. and its making me insecure.

im starting to nit pick at things as to why its not going to work.

but the past couple months iv been so happy and hopeful for us and a future.

I feel like he isn't giving me back what I put in - two days in a row we made plan, even ones he initiated but when it came down to execute those plans he bailed on them and said he wanted to just stay home with me.

also it bothers me that he senses something is wrong and he just over exudes physical affection. I mean its nice but does he actually mean it. when he asks me whats wrong, why doesn't he know whats wrong? do they really not get it.

are we crashing and burning

I just don't know what to do. and im stuck in my head.

hes so wonderful but all these other things are over powering me.

and im starting to withdrawal

I've said this probably 100 times in 100 different posts.

If a Taurus is still communicating with you, all is not lost. Just make sure to listen and be respectful about the topic the next time the Taurus brings up the matter or talks about how you made them feel (and they will).

It is only when a Taurus has become cold and unwilling to communicate that represents dire times.

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sorry to hijack, but if you reach the dire times, how do you repair it?

Posted by jeane
how long have you been going out for?

8 months

Posted by sagittariusxo

Posted by jeane
how long have you been going out for?

8 months

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i've read that the 6-8 month mark can be quite hard on relationships. it was hard in mine.

this is often thought of as one of the make or break stages. it's when the romantic/blissful stage starts to wear off. the earlier months are the heady, can't-get-enough-of-each-other months. we all project ourselves to be the person we think the other wants to see. by the time 6-8 months rolls around we can't keep that up anymore. we start showing our real selves and it's then that the relationship shows itself to be what it is made of.

this is him. the sometimes needy, insecure, jealous person he is underneath.

you have to decide if you can put up with this. if you can't, then you need to get out sharpish. you're already beginning to lose respect with his emotional self.

if you can and more importantly, you want to, you have to be kind. you have to be able to give him want he needs from you. again, if you can't and your reaction is to withdrawal, finish it. these things do not get better. they get worse. relationships take work. this is your crossroads.

do you want to work at it? or do you think this is too much for you? there is no wrong answer. it's how you feel.

for me, my major crossroads came about 7 months in. it was tough but it forced me to make a decision i needed (we both needed) to make.

You been struck by a smooth criminal.

You went to a rave sure it's just not disco Tuesday if you know what I mean 🙂) ??