My ex (Taurus male) has me so confused. Back in may he was pursuing me (Cancer girl) really hard. At the time I wasn't interested in having a relationship with anyone and in all honesty he kinda weirded me out with how persistent he was. I finally gave in and went on a date with him. It was magic. We just clicked like I had never with anyone else. He opened up to be right away which he said he never does with anyone. He would always want to see me or talk to me. Things moved very quickly and I was hesitant at first but he made me fall in love with him. We spent the whole summer with each other. He brought me around his friends and family and made me a big part of his life. He told me he loved me and never felt this way with anyone else and he wanted me to be his. I finally told him I was ready for a relationship in august and a week later he broke things off with me. He said he didn't want to be in a relationship. He wasn't sure anymore if it was love or lust yet the day before he was telling me how much he missed me and wanted to see me. He crushed me and I felt like there a piece of me missing. He has gone on dates with other girls and after a little while I went on dates with other guys but no one has come close to making me feel the way he did. Somewhere along the way his best friend of 12 years fell for me. I do not share these feelings back. My ex told him that he was okay with him dating me and that he wanted me to be happy. I made it known to both of them that even if he really did not care I would never do that to him (my ex). I respected their friendship and my ex to much to ever do that. My ex would try and test me by making little comments. All I could do was keep reassuring him that no matter what I wouldn't do that to him. Even though he never said anything I think it made him happy. Last month I started going on dates and one night I posted a picture on social media of me and this new guy. The next day my ex texted me asking "So how's ---". I found this very strange and out of charter. Was he jealous? If so why. After that about 2 weeks later out of no where my ex started snapchatting me (texting with pictures). This is where my confusion comes into play. He tell me he wants to see me and I should come over his house, then he says well it's risky because I may fall for him again. I tell him I think he is scared of falling for me and he says he really is. But then tells me he can't get the feels again and that he doesn't want a girl friend. Then in the next breath he wants to see me and wishes he could be with me at that moment but doesn't want the best friend who likes me to find out. We are very playful and both have a very strong desire for each other and that's clear. (we never had sex while dating) He did admit to wanting me that way. He send me hearts 1/2 the time and other times wont. He seems to be hot and cold. Its been almost two weeks now and he has snapchatted me everyday/all day. Part of me thinks he just wants to have
confused by ex (Taurus Male) Help!
It sounds to me like maybe he wanted more time and by telling him you were ready for a relationship he got scared that you would begin to pressure him and that would strain the connection you two shared. He probably really did have all of those feelings for you and it definitely made him jealous to see you with a new guy. I would say if you can hang out with him without expecting anything and just go with the flow then go for it. It's clear he likes you but taureans do move at their own pace and they will run away and back out at the slightest hint of pressure. Don't do it if you think your feelings will be too strong because that can end up leaving you worse off.
As far as his ex liking you and him giving you his blessing, it sounds like a test of your loyalty to me. You passed by not going for it. It definitely would have bothered him.
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