Dating a Taurus...his ex is trying to come back

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I've been dating this Taurus guy for a couple months. He kinda wanted to get serious pretty quick, wanting us dating only one another etc. It's been easy sailing until a few days ago his ex wife- recently divorced knocked on his door 6 months pregnant saying she wants to get back together with him. She cheated on him while they were married- which only last one month because he found out. Anyways he knows he needs to get a paternity test etc. the thing is he has vanished...when this happened initially he told me about it right away and told me he needed a few days to figure out what to. He's definitely considered about his child, says he doesn't love his ex but wants to do the right thing so needs time...he told me he'll contact me when everything gets figured out. WTF. So what is a girl to do?
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s only been like 4 days since we found out about this, a little fresh. He didn't even know his wife that long before marrying her, doesn't know if it's his kid even.... It is crazy. Completely blew me away.



Posted by GemStoned
Posted by Dragonfly80
Of course he's doing the right thing..,but she cheated the whole time they were married! They were married for 1 month! Lol....I dunno
They could of been married for 1 day!! She's Pregnant and legally she has rights because they just Divorced? Legal or Not.. he has Unfinished Business to take care of and you need to find somebody who has No Baggage. It's always the ones that go for men with baggage RIGHT IN THERE FACE and then complain later when things are up and down.. That's why you go for men who have no baggage. He is having a baby come a long whether you like it or not, he has to deal with all of that.. what ever all of that is.. isn't Mine or Your concern.. It's His and Hers and what is your horoscope sign? Like.. who tolerates these things? You just started dating him and she was before you... it's not like you have been with him for Over a Year? Then maybe I would have more consideration or sympathy for you but nope... Let the man be.
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he advice....let me tell you, it's not easy being a Scorpio...I already told him this AM that I would have to back off for now and try to be friends because it's TOO much...SUCKS. You're right tho! Thanks!



Posted by GemStoned
Posted by Dragonfly80
Scorpio. It's only been like 4 days since we found out about this, a little fresh. He didn't even know his wife that long before marrying her, doesn't know if it's his kid even.... It is crazy. Completely blew me away.



Posted by GemStoned
Posted by Dragonfly80
Of course he's doing the right thing..,but she cheated the whole time they were married! They were married for 1 month! Lol....I dunno
They could of been married for 1 day!! She's Pregnant and legally she has rights because they just Divorced? Legal or Not.. he has Unfinished Business to take care of and you need to find somebody who has No Baggage. It's always the ones that go for men with baggage RIGHT IN THERE FACE and then complain later when things are up and down.. That's why you go for men who have no baggage. He is having a baby come a long whether you like it or not, he has to deal with all of that.. what ever all of that is.. isn't Mine or Your concern.. It's His and Hers and what is your horoscope sign? Like.. who tolerates these things? You just started dating him and she was before you... it's not like you have been with him for Over a Year? Then maybe I would have more consideration or sympathy for you but nope... Let the man be.



In that case.. wait for him, give him space.. Demand that he gets a DNA / Paternity test when you speak with him! You can get one while pregnant but there is a risk of potential Miscarriage... so it is better to do one before the baby is born but if they are Both equally desperate to find out if the baby is his they can get one done. Talk to him about that and stay away from relationship conversations.. Just have his back. Your a Scorpio, I can see why you don't give up easily and that's okay.. it shows your genuine about your feelings.. Just be there for him when he needs you and everything will play out. You guys Might or Might Not be together, so don't get your hopes up.. but if you really care about this man.. The best thing you can do for him right now at this moment, is just have his back and be there for him when he needs you.

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Wait... wait. So this bull married a woman he didn't know that long? They were married for 1 month divorced because she cheated... you guys rushed into a relationship that has lasted for a couple of months and now she is knocked up and wants to get back together?

See this is WHY bulls take forever to choose their mate...well normally.

Ah...if you want to wait for him you can. Just know that you have 3-4 months to find out if that is his child or not. Also, you also have to deal with the fall out that will happen if that is his kid or not.

Regardless you are going to be waiting a WHILE before he gets back to "normal". I mean he loved her at one point and her coming around saying hey you knocked me up will effect him in one way or another and it will be a while before he can give your relationship the focus it needs.

Bail or stay put... it's up to you... Just make sure you look at the situation in both ways. If the kid is his (he can go back to her or he can stay away and you will have to deal with a baby and baby momma drama) or the baby can not be his and deal with that situation.

Just sounds like a big ball of wth.
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Follow your gut Ms Scorp. Pay no mind to the ones blasting you with hate talk. The Bull just got hit with some serious life changing shit. I'd just keep in touch with him and comfort him. Show him you care and it will help ease his stress level.

Scorps are good at being there for others when it's most needed. Be there for him, no matter the outcome.

Remember, he's done nothing wrong to you!
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Thanks for the advice....one thing about scorpios...we can handle the haters 😉

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Follow your gut Ms Scorp. Pay no mind to the ones blasting you with hate talk. The Bull just got hit with some serious life changing shit. I'd just keep in touch with him and comfort him. Show him you care and it will help ease his stress level.

Scorps are good at being there for others when it's most needed. Be there for him, no matter the outcome.

Remember, he's done nothing wrong to you!
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Yeah...he was moving our relationship pretty quickly as well. Thanks for the advice. There's really nothing to do at this moment I guess. I know he's getting a paternity test so that's that. Thanks!

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Wait... wait. So this bull married a woman he didn't know that long? They were married for 1 month divorced because she cheated... you guys rushed into a relationship that has lasted for a couple of months and now she is knocked up and wants to get back together?

See this is WHY bulls take forever to choose their mate...well normally.

Ah...if you want to wait for him you can. Just know that you have 3-4 months to find out if that is his child or not. Also, you also have to deal with the fall out that will happen if that is his kid or not.

Regardless you are going to be waiting a WHILE before he gets back to "normal". I mean he loved her at one point and her coming around saying hey you knocked me up will effect him in one way or another and it will be a while before he can give your relationship the focus it needs.

Bail or stay put... it's up to you... Just make sure you look at the situation in both ways. If the kid is his (he can go back to her or he can stay away and you will have to deal with a baby and baby momma drama) or the baby can not be his and deal with that situation.

Just sounds like a big ball of wth.
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ly time will tell for sure this time!



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Thanks for the advice....let me tell you, it's not easy being a Scorpio...I already told him this AM that I would have to back off for now and try to be friends because it's TOO much...SUCKS. You're right tho! Thanks!



Posted by GemStoned
Posted by Dragonfly80
Scorpio. It's only been like 4 days since we found out about this, a little fresh. He didn't even know his wife that long before marrying her, doesn't know if it's his kid even.... It is crazy. Completely blew me away.



Posted by GemStoned
Posted by Dragonfly80
Of course he's doing the right thing..,but she cheated the whole time they were married! They were married for 1 month! Lol....I dunno
They could of been married for 1 day!! She's Pregnant and legally she has rights because they just Divorced? Legal or Not.. he has Unfinished Business to take care of and you need to find somebody who has No Baggage. It's always the ones that go for men with baggage RIGHT IN THERE FACE and then complain later when things are up and down.. That's why you go for men who have no baggage. He is having a baby come a long whether you like it or not, he has to deal with all of that.. what ever all of that is.. isn't Mine or Your concern.. It's His and Hers and what is your horoscope sign? Like.. who tolerates these things? You just started dating him and she was before you... it's not like you have been with him for Over a Year? Then maybe I would have more consideration or sympathy for you but nope... Let the man be.


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Chances are he will choose You in the long run.. my boyfriend is a Taurus and we live together and these men are Loyal and Faithful to the T and want nothing but Love and Loyalty in return. Taurus's are usually the ones that stay in relationships for the long haul.. Most Earth Signs are, so if he chooses you, your in good hands. I know it's hard.. I dated a Scorpio and lived with one of my good Scorpio friend's temporarily and you guys are Something.. I thought us Gems were Something but trust me.. Scorpios and Geminis are very different from the rest, that's for sure. Keep your head up love.. if it is meant to be, it will be. She already broke his trust after ONE Month of Marriage.. that's a Huge No No with a Taurus.. so your chances are very high with this guy, he just needs to figure out what's going on between him and her. that's all..in his mind it's completely over.. She's
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nly time will tell I guess!



Posted by GemStoned
Posted by Dragonfly80
Scorpio. It's only been like 4 days since we found out about this, a little fresh. He didn't even know his wife that long before marrying her, doesn't know if it's his kid even.... It is crazy. Completely blew me away.



Posted by GemStoned
Posted by Dragonfly80
Of course he's doing the right thing..,but she cheated the whole time they were married! They were married for 1 month! Lol....I dunno
They could of been married for 1 day!! She's Pregnant and legally she has rights because they just Divorced? Legal or Not.. he has Unfinished Business to take care of and you need to find somebody who has No Baggage. It's always the ones that go for men with baggage RIGHT IN THERE FACE and then complain later when things are up and down.. That's why you go for men who have no baggage. He is having a baby come a long whether you like it or not, he has to deal with all of that.. what ever all of that is.. isn't Mine or Your concern.. It's His and Hers and what is your horoscope sign? Like.. who tolerates these things? You just started dating him and she was before you... it's not like you have been with him for Over a Year? Then maybe I would have more consideration or sympathy for you but nope... Let the man be.


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Chances are he will choose You in the long run.. my boyfriend is a Taurus and we live together and these men are Loyal and Faithful to the T and want nothing but Love and Loyalty in return. Taurus's are usually the ones that stay in relationships for the long haul.. Most Earth Signs are, so if he chooses you, your in good hands. I know it's hard.. I dated a Scorpio and lived with one of my good Scorpio friend's temporarily and you guys are Something.. I thought us Gems were Something but trust me.. Scorpios and Geminis are very different from the rest, that's for sure. Keep your head up love.. if it is meant to be, it will be. She already broke his trust after ONE Month of Marriage.. that's a Huge No No with a Taurus.. so your chances are very high with this guy, he just needs to figure out what's going on between him and her. that's all..in his mind it's completely over.. She's
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I would say run but if u want to stick it out, give him space, stand your ground on what u expect from him and be understanding and have patience. The ball can go either way. the most important factor right now is communication.

I'm not him nor a guy so take this advice and apply what u feel is right. When I love, I am 1,000 % in. No one can distract me from my love, loyalty and faithfulness to u. With that being said. It's HARD to turn that off and move forward unless I feel the ultimate betrayal and hurt. So tread lightly and watch his actions. His actions will tell u exactly where his head/heart is.
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Hello Dragonfly,

The issue here isn't the paternity of this child, it's the Taurus guy's impulsive approach to relationships. There must be a lot of "Aries" or "Fire" in his charts. He barely knew his wife before he married her, and he hardly knew you before he solidified a relationship.

Most Bulls prefer to take relationships slow. We need to examine the potential union from all aspects before diving in.

But with this particular Bull, he just makes a decision, burns, makes another hasty decision, and then burns again. Not a reliable pattern if you ask me.

He's going to do the honorable thing whether he loves her or not. He's an Earth sign, paternal, reliable and practical. His final decision will be devoid of any real emotion. Just a pragmatic solution that would benefit himself, the ex-wife, and the child.

If the child isn't his, and he decides to move forward with you, take a step back, take things slow, and get re-introduced to the courting process. This was a gradual process in which I believe that you were 'robbed' of. He doesn't really know you, and chances are, you probably don't know him either.

Something tells me he knew about the pregnancy 6 months ago, but disregarded it because of the infidelity on his wife's part, and just avoided her at all costs (which explains why she was pounding on his door). Call it angry confrontation. Nevertheless, he still should have told you about it.

Whatever you decide to do, I wish you the best.
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^^^ this is good advice from TB1977 OP.

I read your post and the fact he didn't know his wife long before jumping into marriage is not good. Then trying to rush you into a relationship and not going through a good courtship/dating process is another concern.

I do think RedOct makes some good points here especially getting involved with someone who is only recently divorced. Just lay off the Scorp bashing!!

My concern for OP here, from one Scorp to another, is that you'll hang on or wait around for this guy. You'll label it up as being supportive etc but what might happen is you'll continue on and before you know it more months have passed and you're in much deeper. Deeper into a very complex situation with a guy who has a recent ex wife and kid on the way. Baggage galore which you could find difficult to unattach yourself from - being a Scorp, we often don't always know when we should walk away.

I'm not saying this guy isn't a good guy. I'd just seriously consider letting this guy go and finding someone who is available to offer you a relationship you want in the way you want.

If you want to proceed then I'd proceed with caution.
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es, mean-ness. Wow you sound more upset then me!

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Posted by Dragonfly80
Thanks for the advice....one thing about scorpios...we can handle the haters 😉

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Follow your gut Ms Scorp. Pay no mind to the ones blasting you with hate talk. The Bull just got hit with some serious life changing shit. I'd just keep in touch with him and comfort him. Show him you care and it will help ease his stress level.

Scorps are good at being there for others when it's most needed. Be there for him, no matter the outcome.

Remember, he's done nothing wrong to you!

Yes, that's right because people like you don't come here for truth. They come here for validation and what sounds pleasing to the ear..

Well you are knee deep in shit right now... Wait till the baby shows up. I'm betting on it now girl, your "relationship" is not going to work....

But I forget "scorpio love drama"... I will wait for your next thread...

GOOD LUCK OP, you will need it.. Just count the days of his MIA. Probably in "baby talks" with his ex wife right?!! Laters
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Posted by Redoctober2000
You should not have got involved with him in the first place!!! Who on earth in their right mind gets involved with a recently divorced person unless they are not looking for a serious relationship?

He is more than likely going to go back to her?!!

I suggest you move on... When a Taurus man has shite up to his eyeballs you won't hear from them. And this one has shite past his eyeballs!!!

Make better decisions next time... You were just a "gap filler"...

Come on now!!! Men will use you for sex and comfort if you let them and if you are not smart enough to see clearly!!! He had way to much baggage to begin with!!!
Wow u really is something. Why so mean? Why the attitude? Give this Scorpio girl a break. I just feel sorry for u n glad I don't know u in person honestly. I will just pray for u instead.. *sigh*
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Posted by TaurusBull1977
Hello Dragonfly,

The issue here isn't the paternity of this child, it's the Taurus guy's impulsive approach to relationships. There must be a lot of "Aries" or "Fire" in his charts. He barely knew his wife before he married her, and he hardly knew you before he solidified a relationship.

Most Bulls prefer to take relationships slow. We need to examine the potential union from all aspects before diving in.

But with this particular Bull, he just makes a decision, burns, makes another hasty decision, and then burns again. Not a reliable pattern if you ask me.

He's going to do the honorable thing whether he loves her or not. He's an Earth sign, paternal, reliable and practical. His final decision will be devoid of any real emotion. Just a pragmatic solution that would benefit himself, the ex-wife, and the child.

If the child isn't his, and he decides to move forward with you, take a step back, take things slow, and get re-introduced to the courting process. This was a gradual process in which I believe that you were 'robbed' of. He doesn't really know you, and chances are, you probably don't know him either.

Something tells me he knew about the pregnancy 6 months ago, but disregarded it because of the infidelity on his wife's part, and just avoided her at all costs (which explains why she was pounding on his door). Call it angry confrontation. Nevertheless, he still should have told you about it.

Whatever you decide to do, I wish you the best.
Great great advice. Head palms *