TheEmpress
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Did i just get asked out?
Okay guys, apparently my opening comment was too long so I'll continue here:
I don't know if the emoji meant that he was unhappy about not being able to meet up for lunch or if he didn't want me thinking he was making up stuff. What do y'all think?
My other question is how to interpret the lunch thing: was he asking me out for lunch or just for lab stuff? He said we can do it over lunch, which odd because we can't eat in the lab and he doesn't have lunch at a specific time so it's not like that was supposed to mean a specific time; if he was talking about just lab stuff then it would've made more sense to say that we should meet up in lab at some point so he can show me how to operate the machinery. At the same time though, he didn't seem to have a lot of time that day so it may have just been that that was the only time he was available but I don't really see how it explains getting lunch with me. So what do you guys think about that? Was he asking me out or was this just about lab and I'm an idiot for thinking otherwise?
I don't know if the emoji meant that he was unhappy about not being able to meet up for lunch or if he didn't want me thinking he was making up stuff. What do y'all think?
My other question is how to interpret the lunch thing: was he asking me out for lunch or just for lab stuff? He said we can do it over lunch, which odd because we can't eat in the lab and he doesn't have lunch at a specific time so it's not like that was supposed to mean a specific time; if he was talking about just lab stuff then it would've made more sense to say that we should meet up in lab at some point so he can show me how to operate the machinery. At the same time though, he didn't seem to have a lot of time that day so it may have just been that that was the only time he was available but I don't really see how it explains getting lunch with me. So what do you guys think about that? Was he asking me out or was this just about lab and I'm an idiot for thinking otherwise?
Posted by InstantkarmaI thought so too and yeah, i felt like I'd be making a huge mistake if I didn't apologize and tell him the truth. He looked so insecure and hesitant, I felt like I was torturing him, which I probably was. I'm also trying to figure out if he always felt something for me or if he started feeling something after I told him the truth.
The guy is interested just not confident enough.
Give it some time.
Btw good you apologised. I remember asking you to :-)
Posted by idkYeah, I read that part too, playing them will get me kicked out of their life. It's not that I don't know what I want from him but rather that I'm pretty disbelieving when it comes to signs so I've been looking at all his actions in the perspective that we're just friends and there's nothing else to it so even if he rejects me, I won't feel the brunt of it as I usually do. I guess it's my defense mechanism.
it sounds like you aren't sure what you want from him
i'm big on lists, maybe writing down pluses and minuses can help you decide
i'd say play it by ear, but as a taurus sun aries moon, i can tell you i'd probably be a little hurt if i thought i was being played with
Posted by busyeyes88Why, I'm touched that you're so excited to hear from me again! Honestly lady, I appreciate criticisms, as hard as they are to swallow, but I don't take disrespect lightly.
Not you again! Are you the virgo who played April Fools on a love interest who happens to be a taurus and who will be leaving the lab soon?
Yes, I'm the same person.
Posted by InstantkarmaYeah, that is true about the invitation thing and I've seen him pick up on things that piss me off about him (small stuff like if I ask if he will be busy at a certain time, he used to just say 'idk' and not give an explanation and I was pretty pissed at him for it because it was for work reasons and he somehow figured out that I was pissed from the way I said 'ok' instead of 'okay' and apologized for it and is careful to explain every time he says 'idk' now) and change them which I think is very sweet. I'm going off topic, I get the feeling that he felt something before because he did seek me out a few times before the incident but I never knew if he thought of me as a friend or just really liked spending time with me.
Don't over think it! He was weird after you said you pranked him and asked you few times about the prank!! And he accepted some invitation for a function even before you could ask him to attend! I would like to believe he was interested even before you played that prank.
See, if a guy is painfully shy but likeable, be a bit easy for them to get comfortable. If he is an asshole, don't be easy. Simple. After you guys get close, you could ask all those questions and get your doubts cleared 😄
I think that at this point, he's using lab as an excuse to spend time with me and I'm not sure how to tell him that he doesn't have to do that. Hell, I don't know why he's even doing that at all, it's not like I'd say no to lunch (i love food
Empress if you have to ask if he's asking you out then NO he was not asking you out for a date.
You'll know when you're being asked out properly because he will set up the time, day, and date.
He may seem confusing to read but honestly between the prank and playful behavior you seem to be a bit OFF with your behavior which can cause him to appear off as well.
Be consistent. Stop playing games, the little school girl act is annoying and confusing. You're in College so act like it.
You'll know when you're being asked out properly because he will set up the time, day, and date.
He may seem confusing to read but honestly between the prank and playful behavior you seem to be a bit OFF with your behavior which can cause him to appear off as well.
Be consistent. Stop playing games, the little school girl act is annoying and confusing. You're in College so act like it.
Posted by busyeyes88Posted by TheEmpressI tried very hard to tell the situation exactly as it happened and then inserted my opinion on certain parts of it.Posted by InstantkarmaYeah, that is true about the invitation thing and I've seen him pick up on things that piss me off about him (small stuff like if I ask if he will be busy at a certain time, he used to just say 'idk' and not give an explanation and I was pretty pissed at him for it because it was for work reasons and he somehow figured out that I was pissed from the way I said 'ok' instead of 'okay' and apologized for it and is careful to explain every time he says 'idk' now) and change them which I think is very sweet. I'm going off topic, I get the feeling that he felt something before because he did seek me out a few times before the incident but I never knew if he thought of me as a friend or just really liked spending time with me.
Don't over think it! He was weird after you said you pranked him and asked you few times about the prank!! And he accepted some invitation for a function even before you could ask him to attend! I would like to believe he was interested even before you played that prank.
See, if a guy is painfully shy but likeable, be a bit easy for them to get comfortable. If he is an asshole, don't be easy. Simple. After you guys get close, you could ask all those questions and get your doubts cleared 😄
I think that at this point, he's using lab as an excuse to spend time with me and I'm not sure how to tell him that he doesn't have to do that. Hell, I don't know why he's even doing that at all, it's not like I'd say no to lunch (i love food
Personally, I think it's all in your mind! I think you are 'analysing' his behaviour (typical virgo) and making more of it than it is!! If in doubt why not just ask him?! But I don't think this is going anywhere! Especially after the prank you pulled!click to expand
Of course I'm analyzing his behavior, yes I do that as a Virgo but you're saying it like it's a bad thing, it really isnt, it's helped me out quite a bit. The reason I'm analyzing his behavior is because he did some things that are out of character for him if our relationship is strictly that of lab partners. I'm describing the situation on here so I can get some third party views on this so I'm not crazy for interpreting it the way that I am.
For future reference, you're entitled to your opinions but try not to belittle the opinions of others while trying to express yours. I'm looking at other forums and it's making you out to be a fool.
Posted by busyeyes88Ahahhaa omgosh that was hilarious
Not you again! Are you the virgo who played April Fools on a love interest who happens to be a taurus and who will be leaving the lab soon?
OP I am happy that you apologized and confessed your attraction to him, that was a pretty cruel joke...never ever tell someone you like them as part of an April Fools joke, its just playing with people's emotions and egos.
With that all said, I'm happy you figured that out. Good for you and I'm happy for him too. I think he is attracted, but he seems like a pretty shy guy. I think he just needs more time to get to know you and grow more comfortable around you.
Just be patient and continue having a healthy and friendly relationship with him and in time you will soon see.
With that all said, I'm happy you figured that out. Good for you and I'm happy for him too. I think he is attracted, but he seems like a pretty shy guy. I think he just needs more time to get to know you and grow more comfortable around you.
Just be patient and continue having a healthy and friendly relationship with him and in time you will soon see.
Yeah, I didn't even consider the feelings aspect of that prank but I did realize it was a cruel idea to include the crush part with the prank.
He is a very shy guy, I'm pretty sure he's not used to attention from girls in a romantic sense. I guess I'll just wait for him to make another move. He knows I like him but he hasn't explicitly said anything of the sort to me so the way I see it, the ball is still in his court.
Yup, I've been making an effort to be nice and cooperative so even if he doesn't feel the same way towards me, we're still friends.
He is a very shy guy, I'm pretty sure he's not used to attention from girls in a romantic sense. I guess I'll just wait for him to make another move. He knows I like him but he hasn't explicitly said anything of the sort to me so the way I see it, the ball is still in his court.
Yup, I've been making an effort to be nice and cooperative so even if he doesn't feel the same way towards me, we're still friends.
Posted by busyeyes88Thank you for your input, I appreciate that this one didn't seem like you were basically attacking me, I respect that. I guess I'll have to wait and see what he does next.
I'll it again.. If a taurus man is interested you will know... Even the shy one hunt down what they want and I know 5 Taurus males. As said by Tikki. If you have to ask that question it's obvious he is not interested !!
Good luck ... !!!
He's a man, he gets all kinds of attention and queues from women but he could be Gay, unsure of his sexuality, he could be disinterested in the women that appear interested in him, have a girlfriend or boyfriend already. there could be a number of reasons why he's not picking up on your queues.
Some of these guys can be fat, out of shape, one eye ball on their foreheads, teeth jacked up as if they've been chewing rocks for breakfast and they still get attention and even get married and have children, it's gotten that bad for women these days.
I've seen the most unattractive man pull a woman because the women in 2016 are a bit aggressive and/or desperate and behave in desperate ways which can turn a lot of men off. Now it doesn't mean he won't use her as in sleep with her but he doesn't want to be stapled to the hip with her and have to deal with her on a daily basis.
If he's not hunting then he's willing to lose. Who wants a man that is willing to lose? No one but the desperate I can't get a man so I'll settle for this guy is the only woman that is willing to date a man that refuses to hunt and willing to lose. He don't hunt then he don't eat---forget him and move on.
Some of these guys can be fat, out of shape, one eye ball on their foreheads, teeth jacked up as if they've been chewing rocks for breakfast and they still get attention and even get married and have children, it's gotten that bad for women these days.
I've seen the most unattractive man pull a woman because the women in 2016 are a bit aggressive and/or desperate and behave in desperate ways which can turn a lot of men off. Now it doesn't mean he won't use her as in sleep with her but he doesn't want to be stapled to the hip with her and have to deal with her on a daily basis.
If he's not hunting then he's willing to lose. Who wants a man that is willing to lose? No one but the desperate I can't get a man so I'll settle for this guy is the only woman that is willing to date a man that refuses to hunt and willing to lose. He don't hunt then he don't eat---forget him and move on.
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