Chasing?

Okay so you Taurus people got me all fucked up. I'm confused how to approach or maybe just this one in particular? Hes a taurus sun, sag moon, aries merc, aries venus and taurus mars. Let me now if hes not interested but sometimes hes hot sometimes cold. He's initiated contact like twice and I'm usually the one that does. What I'm wondering is should I keep chasing or should I just give up because he's not interested? I dont know if I should chase because he's taurus and has a taurus mars or if I shouldn't be chasing because of his aries venus which is known for loving the chase. Thank you for the replies sorry for pretty much babbling

Cool he's a Taurus sun Sag moon like me!

I'm the type of person that will think about you all day and want to talk to you but you have to text first... I feel like if I always initiate the communication I might be pestering you. If I reach out to you and you don't reply it's a hit to my self esteem, until you reply and then I'm all jittery. I over think about things I send to you. I like to be chased but if I'm crazy about you I may chase you some...

Oh and I hate feeling smothered, weird huh?

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Oh and I hate feeling smothered, weird huh?

Smothered how? Like if I were to txt you every day would that be a turn off even if you did like me

Not if I like you, unless you seem controlling, or restrictive. Then if that was the case I would find it annoying, then when you offend me I'll be like... Maybe we should try this again when we both are more mature..... With no intentions of trying again . But that's worst case scenario.

In my opinion Taurus men are very likely to go after you...and be very patient with you while doing so.

If they really like you.

Maybe he thinks you're aggressive. I'm only stating that from your original post.

Posted by happyface1
In my opinion Taurus men are very likely to go after you...and be very patient with you while doing so.

If they really like you.

Maybe he thinks you're aggressive. I'm only stating that from your original post.

So because he thinks I'm agressive (hypothetically) he'll let me do the chasing?

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Posted by happyface1
In my opinion Taurus men are very likely to go after you...and be very patient with you while doing so.

If they really like you.

Maybe he thinks you're aggressive. I'm only stating that from your original post.

So because he thinks I'm agressive (hypothetically) he'll let me do the chasing?

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No. How did you gather that from what I said.

They like to go after the woman they choose if they like or care. Meaning you won't have to chase.

I don't think it's chasing, I think it's called the winged man or woman because if I like someone I show it by being around you, doing things probably subtle things...Maybe for Taurus is called adaptability to transform into thinking out of the box which means getting taurus out the comfort zone and more extroverted.

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In my opinion Taurus men are very likely to go after you...and be very patient with you while doing so.

If they really like you.

Maybe he thinks you're aggressive. I'm only stating that from your original post.

So because he thinks I'm agressive (hypothetically) he'll let me do the chasing?

No. How did you gather that from what I said.

They like to go after the woman they choose if they like or care. Meaning you won't have to chase.

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Because you just said maybe he thinks I'm agressive I guess thats kind of vague to me idk. Then okay because I'm agressive hes not chasing or possibly doesnt like me I gotcha

Let me add on that when I do text him there's time in between. Like I'll take days to text him but I always end up doing so. I don't know if that changes anything but yeah

he has initiated twice out of how many times?

when you text him, how long does it take for him to text back?

how long has this been going for?

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he has initiated twice out of how many times?

when you text him, how long does it take for him to text back?

how long has this been going for?

We've only been talking for about two weeks. And 2 out of 5 times. When I text him it depends on the time if it's early in the morning it'll be a couple hours later but if its the afternoon/evening maybe like 5 minutes. I feel like he mirrors me though like if I take an hour to reply he'll do the same but if I'm fast he's fast

I would think that with the Aries merc and venus and Sag moon, he'd do most of the initiating/chasing. Perhaps the Taurus mars slows him down too much?

Hard to determine if he's interested or not since you haven't given much in terms on context. How did you guys meet? Who approached whom? And yes all the Qs Jeane asked above.

Posted by letterbox10
I would think that with the Aries merc and venus and Sag moon, he'd do most of the initiating/chasing. Perhaps the Taurus mars slows him down too much?

Hard to determine if he's interested or not since you haven't given much in terms on context. How did you guys meet? Who approached whom? And yes all the Qs Jeane asked above.

Lol this is embarrassing but we met on tinder. He approached me first and asked for my number first.

slow down...patience...they dont like to be rushed...he wants to get to know you first...if you like him, give him a chance to get to know you first before involving in anything romantic...

how old are you guys? he has a job? if he doesnt reply to you right away...it doesnt mean he is ignoring you, maybe he doesnt have time...

Posted by hera
slow down...patience...they dont like to be rushed...he wants to get to know you first...if you like him, give him a chance to get to know you first before involving in anything romantic...

how old are you guys? he has a job? if he doesnt reply to you right away...it doesnt mean he is ignoring you, maybe he doesnt have time...

Yeah he said he's just trying to get to know me first. So I should just treat him as friend and text him whenever I can? I actually dont knowif he has job. I havent asked him yet

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he has initiated twice out of how many times?

when you text him, how long does it take for him to text back?

how long has this been going for?

We've only been talking for about two weeks. And 2 out of 5 times. When I text him it depends on the time if it's early in the morning it'll be a couple hours later but if its the afternoon/evening maybe like 5 minutes. I feel like he mirrors me though like if I take an hour to reply he'll do the same but if I'm fast he's fast

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Only 2 weeks? 2 weeks is nothing for a Taurus, even with all that fire! 😄

Hera's got a good point. Just get to know each other first, slow and steady. If he's really interested, he's not going to go anywhere. He might be static but at least you'll know he's still there.

And you're probably correct about the mirroring. It sounds like it to me.

you are analyzing this too much...relax...smile...hang out with him...you actually dont know anything about him, but you are already asking if he likes you or not... what if this..what if that...slow down... they need time to relax...but you will know when they do...they dont say anything...but you will know...just dont rush...

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Posted by jeane
he has initiated twice out of how many times?

when you text him, how long does it take for him to text back?

how long has this been going for?

We've only been talking for about two weeks. And 2 out of 5 times. When I text him it depends on the time if it's early in the morning it'll be a couple hours later but if its the afternoon/evening maybe like 5 minutes. I feel like he mirrors me though like if I take an hour to reply he'll do the same but if I'm fast he's fast

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oh it's really young. i wouldn't have too many expectations at this time and two out of five times is not a bad strike rate. treat this guy as a friend for now. don't worry about who is chasing who or playing games. work on trying to establish a friendship and text as often as appropriate for that. if you can't be friends you can't be anything so take one step at a time.

@hera @jeane @letterbox10 Hhaha thank you guys so much I'm sorry I go fast all the time (leo venus and sag mars) and overanalyze. Thank you for clearing my anxiety. I just didn't understand them so when I dont understand something I freak out and ask a bunch of questions.

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Let me add on that when I do text him there's time in between. Like I'll take days to text him but I always end up doing so. I don't know if that changes anything but yeah

You didn't had time to observe him in 2 weeks before giving him your number, forming a routine,a base, a friendship. You'll only get inconsistency from now on.

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So I would have had to talk to him every day? I like giving people space and I like my space

heh...girl...been there done that...thats why i say, dont think soo much...i used to be like that ...and sometimes still am....no need for that... my ex is a taurus, and i learned what patience is while i was with him... best gift he ever gave me 🙂

relax and enjoy the ride 😉

you met on tinder. you have to accept that he is probably talking to other people as well which is why you'll get inconsistency.

don't text him everyday. would you text a person you just met everyday? these things take time and with a sag moon, he is not going to want to be smothered.

Think about all the other people he reached out to..

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Let me add on that when I do text him there's time in between. Like I'll take days to text him but I always end up doing so. I don't know if that changes anything but yeah

You didn't had time to observe him in 2 weeks before giving him your number, forming a routine,a base, a friendship. You'll only get inconsistency from now on.

So I would have had to talk to him every day? I like giving people space and I like my space

That's not what i'm saying. But you talked to him for 2 weeks and you don't even know what's he's doing for a living,that doesn't sound like interest from your end. What have you talked about?Does he asks you about you, do you even talk about your passions, that would be a good way of getting to know each other for starters. Don't focus too much on who's starting the talking,make sure you have something to say and just enjoy his company when he's looking for you. Just get out of the crowd that gives him a number and end up in his phone for filling his time when he's bored. Notice what you like about him and go with that, it's not about chasing who,you need to find out if he's even a person you would invest your time in the first place.

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Of course we've talked about what we've aspire to be, his likes and dislikes. The relationship isn't deep enough so I'm starting with small things because he could be uncomfortable talking about something too personal. Idk Im being cautious