Distressed Libra Need other Taurus

My relationship with this Libra has been complicated since ive known her. I have a hard time understanding. She seems to have closed off and became moody and distant. She even seemed to disappear a few times but always comes back. So I did some reading on Libras and I ve read libras do this when their done with you or don't care and become flaky. Last time I spoke to her I asked her flat out why she hasn't talked to me and she got choked up and looked down. I told her I felt she was flaking on me and that I don't do friendships like that I talk when somethings bothering me and don't just be all moody. She just looked at me and her exact words were how she cared for me very much. And that she cant talk right now. She seemed to try but kept choking up. SHe couldn't even speak right. I told her to figure it out. But she so sad and yet its been a week and she still hasn't spoken to me. SHe texts about little things. But she wont tell me whats going on. Then she said out of no where. "I would do anything for you, you know that right?" which threw me off as I told her that's NOT the point. Point is I want her to TALK to me not just mope about. then she says all teared up "I love you".

I care for her of course but I don't know what this is about. She made me feel bad for weeks and was all moody then when I confront her she wont tell me. I can see she has something in her life that's obviously really hard but what I don't understand is WHY she wont TELL me! We are friends and pretty close I thought so whats up?

The point is.. she just can't talk now. why are you forcing her to talk. Is it difficult for you to give

time and respect? I am sure she have this diplomacy trait. wait until she is ready to talk.

@M143 I am giving her time. Shes had nothing but time. Its been over two months of her being absolutely distant and moody. She is only now trying to not be so moody. I just don't know why she keeps reassuring me about how much she "loves" me when I confront her about being moody. how much time could she need? It bothers me because what is so bad she cant tell me

ST,

Lol. Then she might confused. She is in love and you just said you are friends.

I have friend libra and she loved this taurus man at work as well, but she can't understand this taurus. lol

Maybe she is waiting for you to invite her and talk. lol

Posted by Hotbeefy
Whats your birth chart and hers?

Sun Taurus/Libra
moon Sagg/cancer
merc Taurus/libra
mars aries/libra
venus aries/scorpio
Rising aquarius/leo or virgo not sure

I have a link to a compatibility chart that has both our charts if it helps

http://astro.cafeastrology.com/cgi-bin/astro/comp2f?d1day=13&d1month=5&d1year=1979&d2day=24&d2month=9&d2year=1989

Posted by StierToros

Not sure if the quote bit above will come out correctly.

In my opinion and experience, Cancerian qualities, sun or moon, can be highly moody and very emotionally manipulative. Her actions seem more related to her moon. My first boyfriend (which was a long time ago) was Cancer sun and he loved to be moody, push me away, start arguments, just so he could go through the 'making up' process as it made him feel secure. They generally have trouble verbalising their intense emotions.

My dad and sister are Libra's and they are not like you describe above.

I don't know what her issue is but my point is that much of what you wrote reminds me of Cancer and then I saw she had Cancer moon. It probably doesn't answer your questions but that my two pennies worth!

Great! The whole thing appeared as quoted! Bloody iPhone 'delete' went too fast. Grrrrr

I am Libra Sun and Cancer Moon. What you described, reminds me of my own long relationship with Taurus, in some way. Moody behavior is indeed Cancer trait.

Our relationship lasted five and a half years. After the third year, there were some issues that we couldn't handle. We talked about them in many occasions, but they were not resolved.
We loved each other, but those things brought a lot of stress in our relationship. My pure logic was telling me this won't go. My heart was full of love for him.
We lasted 2and a half more years when we finally ended it.

I remember, on some days, sometimes even a week, I would be distant. There was a struggle in me gong on between my mind and my heart. I would isolate myself in the room (we lived together all that time) and cry or simply sit and think, like I will find some secret way out, some secret solution to our struggles. He would try to talk to me, but I would coldly sent him off. As soon as he would leave me be, I would break in tears thinking how I am hurting him. I am hurting someone that I love and want to be with cause I don't see the future in our relationship if things won't change. Sometimes I would watch him secretly, thinking how I love him so much, but something would rip me apart inside cause I knew it won't work. It was like my terrible truth that I didn't want to say out loud. Didn't want to accept it or admit it. I felt like choking. After long silence, I would also tell him something like: You know I would do anything for you, You know I love you, etc...I did gather courage to talk openly about everything though. It was painful, but it also brought me some peace knowing he knows my every single taught. My fears.

Anyhow, it was my first long time relationship. My first big lesson on love. It needed some courage and some pain.

To you I would only advise that you don't push/poke her. Yes, there is something going on in her, but it won't be brought out by fore. She needs to open up herself.

WOW..This must be very common with Libra and Taurus relationships. This was almost identical to the two relationships I had with the Taurus guys I dated when I was younger. They insisted that I was complicated and they just didn't get me and would say all the time that I was just breaking their hearts, but I cared deeply for the both of them and reassured them both, but again, as LucyL said, I didn't see the relationship working for the long term. Not sure why it was like that, but one thing I did notice was the constant need to be under me all the time. As much as we love LOVE, Libra's need space and both of my Taurus guys were kinda clingy. They were wonderful guys and at least with one of them, I wanted it too work sooooo bad, but it just didn't. I still have fond memories of the both of them even til this day. Also, I have 3 extremely close female Taurus friends for over 20 years and we all get along great. Once they understood my need to be myself sometimes, they were cool with it. As social as Libra's are, we still need A LOT of time to think and sort things out. Every sign has it's positive and negatives and that just maybe one of ours, but it doesn't mean that we don't care or love you.

Only thing is I don't recall being that moody, so the fact that she has Cancer as her moon could explain why she's so moody and emotional. I have a Libra Sun/ Scorpio rising and Virgo moon, so I'm pretty jacked up when it comes to showing emotions..lol. I've been called cold and nonchalant so many times that I can even count. I never thought that I was either, and I think apart of me will always be reserved, but now that I'm older, I feel like I can express myself a little better now.

been going thru something similar too with a libra...believe her moon is also in cancer. I am a leo.

She's been avoiding me (ie. online / phone calls)...but yet she will come online once a week and last time she was on, i ask her wy she vanished, she flat out tells me she's trying to avoid me...n keeps telling me how happy n giddy she is when she talks to me n gets my txt msgs...but yet she says she never opens up any of my txts from last 2 to 3 weeks...LOL she says she's saving em for a special days...😆 i guess it's their fear of getting hurt...or analyzing to see if we are even compatible...their indecisiveness plays a big part in this... feel free to tell me if this is right or wrong for all u libras reading this

being a fire sign, we are impatient, so i'm tryin to wait it out. hopefully she will slowly open up...
nothing else i can do so just chill, but i do still leave msgs to tell her i'm still thinking of her 😄

@Mavi..all Libra's are not like this. I think the other placements play a key role in how a Libra reacts to certain things. I've never been one to ignore anyone UNLESS they became difficult, disrespectful or just too annoying. My motto has always been to TREAT PEOPLE LIKE YOU EXPECT TO BE TREATED. I may have been indecisive about things, but I've never ignored anyone or intentionally hurt them. Regardless of how I feel about a person, I'm always quick to respond.
I am a very blunt and upfront person, but I always try to be TACTFUL with it.

Seems like your Libra is running game with your emotions and maybe taking advantage of your feelings for her.
I wouldn't waste my time waiting for her to come around, and honestly she shouldn't expect you too.

@lib4life

😄 agree. so I just do my own thing now... if she decides she wants to chat I have told her I am here as a trusted frd....she has got virgo in venus too.. which makes her go hot n cold...n over analyze situations.