Don't know what to do with this Taurus boyfriend..

Hello everyone on this forum.
I've been reading the different topics about Taurus boys/man and most of what i have been reading helps a lot but then again every situation and person is different.

I still would like to ask for some advice with my situation.


My taurus experience started 2/3 years ago we met at a party and he liked me and couldn't stay away from me from the moment he saw me. He wanted to stay in contact but i was in a relationship that time he had later found out and he kept his distance as he later had explained he was too shy to approach me again.


Still there was something about him that i liked and got me drawn to him when i would see him occasionally on the road or at a next party. After a short period he left the city and we stayed in contact through facebook just as friends we would talk because i was still in a relationship and respected that. When the relationship ended, me and him didn't talk for awhile so i just send him a casual what's up message and he replied back and we kept in touch. I notice this time that he was changing from the friend zone to more flirting.

To speed up the story we started to call each other and from that time we had contact every day. He wanted to see me and i decided to go and see him where he was. When we finally met he treated me like a princess. Even though he would openly flirt with some girls to get their attention and i let him know right away that i didn't appreciate that at all. He seem to make it like it was nothing. I didn't want to dwell too much on it and stayed focus on us. When i went back home i felt our bond being even stronger and he decided to come back to where i and his family lives. He stays by his family and in the mean time i had already met them and it was clear to them that i'm his girlfriend. When he was back we argued a lot about the smallest things. I wanted to please him and make everything at my place comfortable for him and he took that with pleasure. When i found out one night that he was talking to several girls i got so upset and he told me that those girls didnt mean anything to him and he deleted them from his phone. There is basically where my trust in him was damaged. After a few months i got a feeling to check his phone and yes there it was again. Talking to girls and one was the same girl he had already deleted. I had walked away from his house and he came after me, we talked things out but i also made it clear to him that he needs to block and

these girls and i did notice that i relieve came from him. And i told him how you expect us to have a happy relationship when you are not focused on us and he admit that that was true. Things were going good for awhile i didn't get a bad feeling and i was doing my best to trust him again even though we had our moments.

After that we had some big arguments that i again take my distance away from him and i would notice that he didn't like that. When i give myself time to think i would meet up with him to talk and get answers and try to work things out. At the same time i had been reading about taurus man and finding out why they act this way. It helps a lot but i still don't understand how he says i'm his girlfriend his family knows that but he still keeps the flirting going. Now at the moment i'm not sure if he's still private messaging with girls but seeing that i don't trust him i don't believe what he says anymore even though he begs me for it. I have seen him commenting on girls pictures that he says are friends. The thing is at the moment a little part of me wants to make this work, but since our last blow up that had nothing to with catching him doing something he just disrespected me for nothing. I really took myself away from him and didn't talk to him even though he reach out to me. He then saw me and was surprised that i ignored him, my friend had told me that he kept looking at me. When i reach home he had send me a message. Thats when i replied back to him since days. I had told him how i felt and i told him that i still don't want to see him we could stay in contact but i have no desire in seeing him, he understood that and said take all the time you need. When we text he keeps saying that he misses me and that he wants to see me but i don't want to see him and i tell him plain simple because you hurt me. Every morning he sends me a text and i don't get it if he treats me like this and at the same time claims that he loves but dont want to show me that i can trust him and be honest to me. Thats all i'm asking for and i tell him that time and time again. He wants to me to believe his words and i said i can only believe you by your actions. I notice the more i take my distance the more he wants me. And right now im at the point that my feelings for him are far away. He blow his chances with me. But its like whatever i tell him he says he understands but there's still no change. From what i've been reading about Taurus i have to have patien

From what i've been reading about Taurus i have to have patients but come on how a in love Taurus can't show his girl that she's the only one and doesnt have his eyes wondering every where. I find it annoying and disrespectful to the relationship he has with me, sorry but that's how i see it. Another thing that bother's me and is so not Taurus is that when he gets paid he spends his money like crazy in a few days it's gone! I can't live with a guy like that, he's not giving me any security that he for example can take care of the bills.

Anyway long story short shall i have patient with this Taurus to see him develop in the loving Taurus that i do read about or just move on. Part of me would regret leaving him and then see him making it work with someone else. Because even though i'm bringing up all the bad, he can also still be very sweet to me and we can laugh and enjoy each other company. I even notice recently that when i talk to him with a attitude he would calmly ask me whats wrong and i do appreciate that change.

Sorry for the long story, just have to say he's 11 years younger and in his early 20's.

Thanks for the long reading and please not to harsh with the advice for my sensitive Pisces heart 🙂

Posted by piscesheart
From what i've been reading about Taurus i have to have patients

Patience is required with a Bull, yes, but it does not mean that you have to subject yourself to demeaning, disrespectful behavior.

I would never have the wandering eye, or flirt with another man in the company of my SO or someone I was getting to know. Very classless.

With my Virgo, I moved slow, but I was never disrespectful.

I'm possessive. MY man is MY man. It's all or nothing with me.

And his woman should be his woman.

My guess....

He's young and unevolved.

You can't fix him. He has to be the one to gradually evolve out this 'playa' phase.

Hmm, well. Myself going through a spell with an amazing Scorp girl, being a Taurus myself I can honestly say that he is way to young and immature to understand the concepts you are putting on the table here. I am 28 and only more recently really really understand and embrace what you are seeking. Although I am not one to have ever flirted with anyone if I am interested or in a relationship with someone. Like you said, that is utterly disrespectful.

Being in my current situation with a Scorp who is 4 years younger than me I for the first time see these effects in full view and also am starting to understand my actions then and now a bit better as it feels like I am looking into a mirror with my love interest. Not that she could eve be like me, but it does seem that fundamentally most people do have similar characteristics during certain development phases of their lives.

The only thing I can say is from something quoted to me once; "Every human being discovers themselves between 20 and 30." This is probably the biggest truth be told. As I have noted my evolution and still evolving state. Either your going to wait this out, as I would expect him to only start maturing when he turns 27 or 28, (for some reason I get this feeling) or you are going to move on and not waste your precious time with a young man who is still playing the field and enjoying his life at your decide expense.

I do hope I am not coming across to harsh, if I am, please do pardon me.

Thanks for the reply every one.

I forgot to mention that i did tell him numerous time that it will be better for us to end this relationship and for him to go and live his life. Be free and wild enjoy his 20's and that later who knows we can get back together. Because i know myself when i was around that age. But he keeps saying no he already passed that and if he wants do wild things he wants do it with me.

Now i'm not giving him any attention he's the one that keeps reaching out to me. The last incident i already made it clear to him that i dont want this no more. It's like he doesnt want to give up and i don't know why. I was exhausted and stressful with him in my life. Now that i'm putting me first and doing things for myself that i like to do, i notice i'm happy again and enjoying life. It really shows me i don't need him in my life because i'm not moving forward with him he's not there yet and he doesnt want to see when i talk to him it's for his own best, he sees it as me complaining.

Thanks for the replies and yes this is indeed confirming what i was already thinking. It's best i move on and be with someone thats more on the same level as me. Funny to say there has been someone in my heart for 13 years now but its not a easy situation. He's a Capricorn so i guess i would have to swift to that forum 🙂