How can i gain his trust/love ?

So i'm a cancer woman talking to a taurus male, we've been talking since this summer for almost 6 months now.

He had a rough breakup with a libra woman (last year) she cheated on him and since then he hasn't been able to love someone again and he doesn't open up to anyone he prefers to play around with girls without having any kind of feelings for them.

Now i had dicided to move on and leave him alone because he wasn't good to me and it became kind of depressing for me to stick around..

Now last week he had sent me a text saying he wanted to see me again but i said "no" after 3 days he came back to me saying that he really misses me and that he wanted to meet up to talk so i went to see him just to hear what he had to say and he apologized for the way he treated me in the past and that he didn't want me to move on and forget him because he would regret losing me, he opened up to me (a little) saying that it isn't easy for him to love again because of his ex girlfriend & he even told me he wanted to try to make things work with me but that it will take time.

So yeah... I still don't know where we stand but i just want him to know that i wouldn't try to break his heart or hurt his feelings and that he can trust me

This isn't about you. This is about him.

It doesn't matter if your intention is not to break his heart. His heart is still broken.

It's great that he wants to try and make things work with you and he admits that will take time.

I have a better solution for you. Allow him to take that time he knows he needs and tell him to come back when he's ready.

Otherwise all you're gonna do is be stuck baby sitting this dude and his broken heart. You'll give him all this love and support to help him heal yet what will you get in return? A man with a broken heart who saps the energy from you.

Give him time. If he's that interested in you and respects you then he will come back for you. Ido f think you can be 'friends' either as you'll still end up baby sitting him. Keep your life moving. There might be a man out there who has a full heart ready to give to you instead. Don't sell yourself short.

He's not ready for a relationship. He needs to heal before he can move on. If not, as you can already see, he will just bring in the old issues from the past relationship into this relationship.

If you dont want to lose him, I suggest being platonic friends to begin with and strictly platonic. The best relationships start as friends. So be his friend, he will slowly see he can trust you, and let it grow slowly from there, Good luck!

I totally understand how you feel as I am a cancer woman as well. You want so deeply to take of him, to make him feel special, loved, and appreciated. You want him to see how much you love him and you want him to feel the same way back.

It's hurtful when they don't feel the same way, especially after being with them for several months and you're already invested. Staying in the relationship the way it is doesn't seem like an option, but neither does moving on.

Time and time again men claim that women dont help them build, help them be better, grow with them. They say we always want the finished product. So many times, women want men clear from all entanglements so men only have room for our issues. Kinda selfish of us women.

How many times as women have we entered into a relationship damaged or with baggage? Expecting the man to help us, heal us, handle us, simply deal with it.

Give this man a chance. See if you can be the woman, the girl friend, the healer he needs.

I mean youre a cancer. You're supposed to be the epitome of the nuturer.

Posted by TheCancerGirl

Posted by pinkbird03
I totally understand how you feel as I am a cancer woman as well. You want so deeply to take of him, to make him feel special, loved, and appreciated. You want him to see how much you love him and you want him to feel the same way back.

It's hurtful when they don't feel the same way, especially after being with them for several months and you're already invested. Staying in the relationship the way it is doesn't seem like an option, but neither does moving on.

I agree completely with your statement as a cancer women who has been with my Taurus for a year and 3 months now.. As a women who has been through this exact same situation I will tell you it is extremely hard and will take ALOT of patience. Mine was harder because he had ended a marriage prior to me. It took him a year to come around following our anniversary we got pregnant and we are finally planning our wedding and future together.. It's hard but it is a great sign that he opened up and was honest with you that shows that he does care. My guy was the same way and he never said anything he didn't mean. If you have the patience to wait for him it will be worth it.

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This was just what i needed to hear, thank you for your comment you assured me and this just gave me the strenght to wait a little bit more !

I know that it will take time and i'm ready to give him that time but i just don't want to wait forever...

Posted by cancersunpiscesmoonsagittariusrising
So i'm a cancer woman talking to a taurus male, we've been talking since this summer for almost 6 months now.

He had a rough breakup with a libra woman (last year) she cheated on him and since then he hasn't been able to love someone again and he doesn't open up to anyone he prefers to play around with girls without having any kind of feelings for them.

Now i had dicided to move on and leave him alone because he wasn't good to me and it became kind of depressing for me to stick around..

Now last week he had sent me a text saying he wanted to see me again but i said "no" after 3 days he came back to me saying that he really misses me and that he wanted to meet up to talk so i went to see him just to hear what he had to say and he apologized for the way he treated me in the past and that he didn't want me to move on and forget him because he would regret losing me, he opened up to me (a little) saying that it isn't easy for him to love again because of his ex girlfriend & he even told me he wanted to try to make things work with me but that it will take time.

So yeah... I still don't know where we stand but i just want him to know that i wouldn't try to break his heart or hurt his feelings and that he can trust me

Cancers are so lovely and easy to trust, just be yourself.

On the other hand, i think you might get attached. The one that invests more work in a relationship, always gets more hurt.

Men don't want to be fixed, they want to be loved at their best, when they are ready. He needs your reapect and admiration.

Stay friends with him if you truly like him that much, but please don't get your expectations high for this relationship. You can't fix him...

Posted by cancersunpiscesmoonsagittariusrising
So i'm a cancer woman talking to a taurus male, we've been talking since this summer for almost 6 months now.

He had a rough breakup with a libra woman (last year) she cheated on him and since then he hasn't been able to love someone again and he doesn't open up to anyone he prefers to play around with girls without having any kind of feelings for them.

Now i had dicided to move on and leave him alone because he wasn't good to me and it became kind of depressing for me to stick around..

Now last week he had sent me a text saying he wanted to see me again but i said "no" after 3 days he came back to me saying that he really misses me and that he wanted to meet up to talk so i went to see him just to hear what he had to say and he apologized for the way he treated me in the past and that he didn't want me to move on and forget him because he would regret losing me, he opened up to me (a little) saying that it isn't easy for him to love again because of his ex girlfriend & he even told me he wanted to try to make things work with me but that it will take time.

So yeah... I still don't know where we stand but i just want him to know that i wouldn't try to break his heart or hurt his feelings and that he can trust me

the last part of the message is different to the title of the thread.

if you want him to know he can trust you then tell him and then show him with your actions by being "trust worthy".

if you are looking to gain his love then that is something that is gifted and bestowed upon you - you can't demand it, manipulate it, or plan for it. as others have said, he has to be in a place where he is able to give you that and given his very recent history, it doesn't seem he is capable yet.