Posted by FPV72
After my taurus man telling me he wasn't excited to see me when he was coming home after being away with work for the last couple of months! I got upset and sent him a message telling him how I felt about a couple of things. I was really hurt! I just wanted him to know how I felt. The next day he text me that he was sorry for upsetting me and that he would leave things there and let me move on so I could be happy! How do I repair this situation? He is only home for a week? Please help 😢
Posted by FPV72
I'm Aries. Yes I do have a life lol. His work is very stressful, long days and not much time off, in an isolated environment! He was fine up until he told me he was coming home. But he also told me he wasn't excited about anything related to coming home!
Posted by FPV72
We have a lot in common and very attracted to each other and he kept saying he was looking forward to spending more time together. We talked on the phone nearly every day and text! We would talk about private things you wouldn't just talk to anyone about! He flew me to see him because he couldn't come home!
Posted by FPV72
Yes I know it takes time!!! But I'm not prepared to just give up on him!!! He is a beautiful soul and I have never felt this connection before with anyone else! Why would I just walk away!!! Some things are worth fighting for!!!!!
Posted by FPV72
Have done a lot of reading and find it somewhat contradicting! Some say stay in touch and let him know your not going anywhere and others say leave him. Confusing!!!!
Posted by Roam
Beloved...he doesnt want you. Why do you want us to get you to convince someone to be with you who already made their mind up that they dont want to be with you? Love yourself Exactly! I totally agree. If he told you that, you have no choice but to accept it. I keep saying this and so many women aren't seeing it but you cannot make a man love you or be with you if he doesn't want to be. The best thing now is to just leave him alone and you move on with your own life.
Posted by cheekyfaeriePosted by FPV72
Yes I agree with the later!!! Mining site! Has not been home for about three months! I have never done the long relationship thing, have tried to be very patient as it doesn't come naturally for me as an aries! I just think really bad timing and stress etc for both of us! It just really hurt and I reacted, wish I'd shut my mouth!!! But now I just hope I can get him back because I really do like him, I was ready to do the hard yards and still am!
Then I'd apologize for being a bit of a jerk, but I wouldn't try to sort anything out right now. Let him enjoy his week. I'd ask to go back to the calls and texts and try to rebuild for a better next time. That said, I wouldn't put my life on hold until he got back, either.click to expand
Posted by cheekyfaerie
Maybe invite him for a meal. If he accepts, make it fun. Not about sex!, but fun. If he declines, he declines and I'd be apt to think he's done. If he says yes, then you're probably right about it being #2 and now he won't go off for a few months only remembering the bad stuff.
Posted by IamawineloverPosted by Roam
Beloved...he doesnt want you. Why do you want us to get you to convince someone to be with you who already made their mind up that they dont want to be with you? Love yourself Exactly! I totally agree. If he told you that, you have no choice but to accept it. I keep saying this and so many women aren't seeing it but you cannot make a man love you or be with you if he doesn't want to be. The best thing now is to just leave him alone and you move on with your own life.click to expand
There are so many more fish in the sea then to live with knowing you're trying to get back with a man that said he didnt want you. Why would anyone want someone like that? I dont get it.
Posted by Impulsv
A man that walks out on you on the simplest thing,(let alone expressing a personal truth) is not a man I want walking by my side in life's journey
Posted by cheekyfaerie
Normally I'm all about telling chicks not to waste their time. I'm usually on here crushing the hopes and dreams of random women trying to capture what doesn't wanna be caught. This time tho... my Scorpio moon's tingling. I think it was a knee jerk reaction on his part because he's tired. I'm not saying hound him. I'm saying show some understanding, let him know you're still interested and he'll come around or he won't. But! If you think you fucked up, you prolly did so apologize and go from there.
Posted by cheekyfaeriePosted by RoamPosted by cheekyfaerie
Normally I'm all about telling chicks not to waste their time. I'm usually on here crushing the hopes and dreams of random women trying to capture what doesn't wanna be caught. This time tho... my Scorpio moon's tingling. I think it was a knee jerk reaction on his part because he's tired. I'm not saying hound him. I'm saying show some understanding, let him know you're still interested and he'll come around or he won't. But! If you think you fucked up, you prolly did so apologize and go from there.
He broke up with her!
And she's hellbent on trying to get him back. What's the worst that can come from inviting him for a meal? Closure? I don't see the big deal.click to expand
Posted by cheekyfaeriePosted by RoamPosted by cheekyfaeriePosted by RoamPosted by cheekyfaerie
Normally I'm all about telling chicks not to waste their time. I'm usually on here crushing the hopes and dreams of random women trying to capture what doesn't wanna be caught. This time tho... my Scorpio moon's tingling. I think it was a knee jerk reaction on his part because he's tired. I'm not saying hound him. I'm saying show some understanding, let him know you're still interested and he'll come around or he won't. But! If you think you fucked up, you prolly did so apologize and go from there.
He broke up with her!
And she's hellbent on trying to get him back. What's the worst that can come from inviting him for a meal? Closure? I don't see the big deal.
She doesnt want closure she wants a man that broke up with her back. That said shes not exciting anymore. I mean. Would you advise your daughter to take a man that did these things back?
My advice would be different if he weren't leaving in a week. But here's the thing, I can't say what kind of man he is by just the tidbit of info that's been given. It sounds like, until this, all was right in their world. If he's truly checked out, I may be wrong!, but I don't think he'll accept. If he does, I think he realized he spoke too soon. She'll know. Either way. Regardless of the outcome, she'll be mentally free when he leaves. As far as she's concerned, it's a win/win.
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u made me mad enough to want to pick a fight with you over a past discussion? OK.Posted by cheekyfaeriePosted by RoamPosted by cheekyfaeriePosted by RoamPosted by cheekyfaeriePosted by RoamPosted by cheekyfaerie
Normally I'm all about telling chicks not to waste their time. I'm usually on here crushing the hopes and dreams of random women trying to capture what doesn't wanna be caught. This time tho... my Scorpio moon's tingling. I think it was a knee jerk reaction on his part because he's tired. I'm not saying hound him. I'm saying show some understanding, let him know you're still interested and he'll come around or he won't. But! If you think you fucked up, you prolly did so apologize and go from there.
He broke up with her!
And she's hellbent on trying to get him back. What's the worst that can come from inviting him for a meal? Closure? I don't see the big deal.
She doesnt want closure she wants a man that broke up with her back. That said shes not exciting anymore. I mean. Would you advise your daughter to take a man that did these things back?
My advice would be different if he weren't leaving in a week. But here's the thing, I can't say what kind of man he is by just the tidbit of info that's been given. It sounds like, until this, all was right in their world. If he's truly checked out, I may be wrong!, but I don't think he'll accept. If he does, I think he realized he spoke too soon. She'll know. Either way. Regardless of the outcome, she'll be mentally free when he leaves. As far as she's concerned, it's a win/win.
your advise wouldnt be to leave him...got it.
That's not what I said, but I'm not gonna clog up her thread making exchanges with you when you're still trying to pick a fight with me over old shit.click to expand
Posted by FPV72
Roam you sound so passionate. What star sign are you?
Posted by FPV72
No he said ' I'm not excited about coming home and seeing you, I'm not excited about anything to do with coming home though, I just feel flat about everything'. And no I don't use exclamation marks when I'm talking to him!
Posted by FPV72
Yes because I got scared as he did!!! Which he also told me on the phone! If I didn't think we had a great connection I would just leave it! And if we can come out the other side and compliment each other I think it will be a long and loving Union!!!
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