How serious is he?

Need some advice on my taurus man. We've been together for about a year and a half. Things started slowly and I was a patient Aqua(was a new experience for me lol). Once he fell for me it surprised me that this reserved guy asked me to be exclusive, told me first that he loved me and wanted to move in after 4 months. He had been slow to fall, but like I've read once he knew he wanted me things moved quickly.

He moved in last October and things were great for awhile. A little stressful with money because he went back to school so I was the main provider (and I have a son with most of the custody)

I knew that he would graduate soon and things would improve so I tried to be patient. BUT... The laziness or "comfortable" state of my bull got to me. Not helping with household chores and basically expecting me to do the money making, cooking and cleaning. Too much stress for this Aquarius. So... We started fighting more and more and I became resentful. He graduated in the spring and got a job that is basically an internship for awhile (no money). Fighting got worse and we almost broke up and he moved out.

We've been apart for about a month but he stays with me every weekend. He's still been pretty good to my son (although with the stress of his job he's less patient)

He told my son last year that he wants to marry me. We talked about this again since he moved out. He said he wants to be financially set before moving back in. (Sounds right for a bull). He said he does want to marry and wants to have a baby with me. I thought I was done but I told him I'd consider with him since he has no kids of his own.

I guess the kicker is he's younger than me and I don't want to push him in to anything, but I'm almost 37 and I don't wanna have a baby after 39/40. We've talked about this and he said that's fine.

I guess my fear is getting hurt, my son getting hurt(always asking where he is now) and hoping that my bull really means what he says. I'm kind of an impatient girl and I don't want to get heartbroken waiting too too long since I know Bulls take their time. But I do love him and I wouldn't want to push him into anything. (Not like it would work on a bull anyway lol)

Funny thing is that my son is a bull too €

I'm sure he's genuine in his feelings for you... but he needs to get his act together. He's young, he wants to do his thing, but he also wants to be with you. One thing I can say is do NOT change yourself or give in just for him... for example if you don't want any more babies don't let a man who doesn't have his act together change your mind and cause you to make such a big decision. Tell him you care about him, be honest, but he needs to get his act together and pull his own weight around the house. As a Taurus I can say that we are either very hardworking or very lazy. Give him the ultimatum (with love, reminding him that you're giving this ultimatum because you want to have a healthy and functioning relationship with him), but let him know that he's gotta meet you halfway if he wants to be with you. You're a grown woman with your shit together and he gotta step it up if he wants you in his life!

Posted by Minanim
I'm an aqua with a Taurus ex and Taurus best guy friend. I had a similar situation. When my bull moved in, I couldn't believe how lazy he was. He wanted to make all the money but he didn't really try hard to..

As for his word to you, I would take it seriously. Taurus are very reliable and they care very much about their friends and family. Unless he felt pressured to say things to make you happy, he's probably serious about you.

How do you feel about his laziness streaks? I'm a very focused and ambitious aqua, so seeing my "hardworking" bull move in and lounge around and relax more than work, it was a big turn off to me. He was the sweetest and most loyal man but work ethic is a huge deal to me... I'm just saying if you want to marry him and have his baby, I just want you to remember that this part of him won't change.

The laziness with household stuff would be the thing that may end us. Like this weekend for example... He played soccer this morning for like 4 hours. My son and I went to watch the end of the match and then we went to get pumpkins. All was well until we got home. It was dinner time and his one "job" is to help with dishes. Well... He had let them go all weekend because he was "busy" and "tired" and tonight it was such a mess I could barely cook. I asked for help and he said he needed time to relax and watch a game since he was tired from playing this morning. Omg ¡.

I am a great cook (which he loves but takes for granted) but I end up feeling like a restaurant chef and maid... And I also have 2 jobs ”

Posted by TaureanGoddess
I'm sure he's genuine in his feelings for you... but he needs to get his act together. He's young, he wants to do his thing, but he also wants to be with you. One thing I can say is do NOT change yourself or give in just for him... for example if you don't want any more babies don't let a man who doesn't have his act together change your mind and cause you to make such a big decision. Tell him you care about him, be honest, but he needs to get his act together and pull his own weight around the house. As a Taurus I can say that we are either very hardworking or very lazy. Give him the ultimatum (with love, reminding him that you're giving this ultimatum because you want to have a healthy and functioning relationship with him), but let him know that he's gotta meet you halfway if he wants to be with you. You're a grown woman with your shit together and he gotta step it up if he wants you in his life!

I agree 🙂 it just sucks because when I talk to him about this stuff he rolls his eyes at me like he's tired of hearing it. He's pretty bad at communicating. Sometimes when I'm pissed he just stares at me or looks away and doesn't respond at all. He says he just doesn't know what to say. This just infuriates me and I start freaking out yelling. That's kinda what happened when I suggested he move out.

I feel like I've tried talking nicely, yelling, and basically begging for him to help me. Since nothing worked I thought maybe our "break" from living together would help him know what he's missing but I'm not sure it's working. And advice on that tauruses?

^^^ what she said!