I don't get it... :(

Hey!
Well I need some help understanding a Taurus man. We've been seeing each other for about 2 weeks and in the beginning he was really sweet to me, wanted to hang out and showed a lot of interest in me and said that he wanted to see how things was going and hopefully start a relationship later. He is my collegue at work. So, things were just great and I started to really like him, but then his ex gf texted him because she wanted him back and he said to her that he didnt want her back because she hurt him a lot in the past and he didnt want to mess up what he is building with me, because I make him feel that he deserves more and he finally wanted to move on with his life. But I felt that he was really upset by that and since then he was not the same from the beggining. And I asked him if he REALLY wanted to try with me and he said yes, said that he never felt like this in a long time, that I treat him very well. And ok, I started to think that maybe he doesnt like to show much emotions or something like that. Yesterday, we were supposed to go out to dinner and he texted me saying that he wanted to talk to me. I was shacking because deep inside I knew what he was going to say. And basically he said that he is not feeling so good, that the thing with his ex bothered him inside and that I deserve a guy that responds to all of my sweet words and actions and that he is confused right now....but in the day before he said that he wanted to continue :/. I was in shock. He apologized to me many times, he says that feels like shit because he feels like he let me down when I as nothing but sweet and caring with him and he was cold. He said that wants to continue to be my friend and dont want to lose but I really like this guy, I did everything I could to make him happy 😭. I was really devastated and couldnt stop crying...I told him that he was everything I wanted in a man and I showed him every single day that I like him...I don't know what to do...

How can he show me that he wants to be with me and build something and in then all of a sudden he feels confused and wants to be alone? 😢

Posted by cheekyfaerie

Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
two weeks?

*facepalm*

Hahaha! "We've been seeing each other about 2 weeks and in the beginning...".

Sweetie... this *is* the beginning. 🙂

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well, thank you...

I know that 2 weeks is a short time, and actually I know him for about 5 months, we started to ''try'' in about two weeks. I'm just trying to understand him, that's all, because I'm starting to like him, I'm not playing games and he knows because he wanted to do more than just kissing and I told him I wanted to wait (because I don't want the relationship to be just physical)...and he understood that...

and i'll never forget his words: ''you helped me to get out of a black hole, and i'll never forget that, you deserve more than i can give you right now''...

Sorry for my english...

what do you want? you want to figure out how to keep him? or just figure out why this happened?

It's called life. You gotta get over it usually it's the Gemini doing this to other people. I suspect your planets don't mesh well, namely Venus Mercury Mars, Moon. That could be the problem. The way you guys think and express love may be different even of you have a couple good aspects.

both

Do you know his birthday. Compared with yours? There could be a semi square but unlikely also your personal planets vs his?

yeah post his chart.

well he was born in April 27 1990 and I was born 17 june 1989...hope that helps 🙂. I'm a Gemini and my ascendant is Taurus. I relate more with my asc than my sun sign...

Exactly. Without knowing charts sun signs don't do much sice these signs are back back. I have some inferences.I'm guessing she has some cancer or Taurus in her chart. Sounds emotional and possessive traits of the Cancer and Taurus respectively. These go against her Gemini Sun sign. She doesn't sound its a typical Gemini BC they move easier than almost any sign. Its hard for Gemini energy to express love in a pure form. They prefer more mental stimulation and more superficial filler relationships.

well if you thing I'm clingy you should see his actions towards me...he never let me go, always near me, always texting me and then this...

I agree with you she should move on but it's important to see why it didn't work also.

Posted by cheekyfaerie
Sorry. I'm just an ass. Best of luck to you, but if he's broken, maybe he's not the best thing to try to keep right now. Attempting that may ruin something that would have otherwise worked, ya know? Either way, at least he's being honest with you and not leading you on.

Yes, he always was honest with me and as soon as his ex texted me he wanted me to know right away. He assured me that he wanted to be with me. And I give him his space because I felt he needed but he came back. But I think that now he is really confused, but the thing is: was I just a toy to him? Did he only like the attention I gave him?....I dont know.
But thanks for the advice..I guees I should move on...

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Posted by Gemini772
well if you thing I'm clingy you should see his actions towards me...he never let me go, always near me, always texting me and then this...

it was two weeks. it's not like you were engaged. you're coming across as extremely delusional.

you actually don't seem very safe to date in general if you're so attached after TWO FUCKING WEEKS.

i feel like this taurus guy dodged a bullet with you by getting out when he did.

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Yes I KNOW! You're obviously not getting the point of this...anyway, thanks

Posted by scorchedearth
it's strange she's so invested in him when they've only been involved for two weeks. that's some clingy shit there.

the obvious response to this thread is STFU AND MOVE ON.

his chart doesn't matter in all honesty. it's not like picking apart his chart is going to make him come back. it'll just give her false hope.

Well tbh, I'm kinda only really being nice cus she's Portuguese.

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Posted by Gemini772
well if you thing I'm clingy you should see his actions towards me...he never let me go, always near me, always texting me and then this...

it was two weeks. it's not like you were engaged. you're coming across as extremely delusional.

you actually don't seem very safe to date in general if you're so attached after TWO FUCKING WEEKS.

i feel like this taurus guy dodged a bullet with you by getting out when he did.

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Whats the matter of wanting to try to build a relationship with someone that you feel that you like, that you feel that could complete you and bring something good to you? We're getting to know each other and it's normal to start feeling something. I'm not ATTACHED as you said. I'm trying to figure out why it didnt work. And for your knowledge he said that I was perfect for him, everything that he once dreamed but he dont know whats happening to him...I just think this is confusing

For what's it's worth there is minimal compatibility with your main planets. Your Venus and Jupiter are square which is very bad for a relationship. Your mercury aspect is mixed both good and bad. Mars forms solid aspects with Uranus meaning spontaneous passion. Also Your Venus is opposite his Neptune is what probably causes the deception or disillusionment as someone said as Neptune is associates with delusion.

U can use Cafeastrology or any other site to calculate comparability but it discounts your house placements.

LMAO! Just let him go.

Sun Taurus 6.58
Moon Gemini 9.51
Mercury Taurus 16.44 R
Venus Pisces 22.35
Mars Pisces 4.55
Jupiter Cancer 6.22
Saturn Capricorn 25.18
Uranus Capricorn 9.30 R
Neptune Capricorn 14.33 R
Pluto Scorpio 16.41 R
Lilith Scorpio 19.26
Asc node Aquarius 12.40

Posted by Gemini772
well he was born in April 27 1990

He's a baby bull, sweet and admirable boy, but clearly still has raging hormones for his ex.


He will get older, mature a bit, and make better decisions in his life regarding 'girlfriends' that doesn't involve his penis.

He will look back, and only have fond, grateful, non-hedonistic memories of you.

In the meantime, cherish the two weeks you spent together. Accept the loss, make peace with it and move on.

Think of this way. It could have been worse. He could have lead you on and kept you around a lot longer.

Very few people do this (most people are selfish by nature).

Good luck to you.

Cookie Monster and Bullbutter love it.

Posted by Gemini772
then his ex gf texted him because she wanted him back and he said to her that he didnt want her back because she hurt him a lot in the past and he didnt want to mess up what he is building with me, because I make him feel that he deserves more and he finally wanted to move on with his life.

BTW this conversation, never went down like that. I'm pretty sure of it.

Idk if he's lying or if your fibbin' it, but.... No.

Not necessarily always mutable. Mars is fixed and cardinal like Venus. The moon is associated the cardinal cancer but it is know for oscillating or wavering.

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Posted by Gemini772
well he was born in April 27 1990

He's a baby bull, sweet and admirable boy, but clearly still has raging hormones for his ex.


He will get older, mature a bit, and make better decisions in his life regarding 'girlfriends' that doesn't involve his penis.

He will look back, and only have fond, grateful, non-hedonistic memories of you.

In the meantime, cherish the two weeks you spent together. Accept the loss, make peace with it and move on.

Think of this way. It could have been worse. He could have lead you on and kept you around a lot longer.

Very few people do this (most people are selfish by nature).

Good luck to you.

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Thank you so much for you response. I really appreciate. Thank you *

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Posted by Gemini772
then his ex gf texted him because she wanted him back and he said to her that he didnt want her back because she hurt him a lot in the past and he didnt want to mess up what he is building with me, because I make him feel that he deserves more and he finally wanted to move on with his life.

BTW this conversation, never went down like that. I'm pretty sure of it.

Idk if he's lying or if your fibbin' it, but.... No.

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He said that to me several times, maybe he was lying and i didnt notice it...I just don't know anymore

with that gem moon, and all that pisces... I'm sure he can be very creative in the way he words things.

@Gemini772: He probably gave her his all and she crushed his heart....in the ppl a taurus invests himself in, he can never let go of them. Best example is my taurus mom, my shi+ty dad cheated on her twice and shes still with him. Because 1)hes the only dad me and my brother have

aww!

Gemini772,

Tauruses can't let go their exes. really... I think he invested time to that lady.

knowing you for 2 weeks. doesn't count girl. He's just flirting with you... for some

reason Taurus men loves a lot of women. if you want to be his girl... give time. make it

even at least 3 months and see where it leads. for now, don't expect a lot from him. I think

you are young lady ( 20- 25) this age is more immature. I even coaching a friend of mine who

is libra 38 yrs old and she thought that this dude at work who is a Taurus 35 yrs old love her or

likes her.She was even trying to convinced herself... lol. just like you. and 1 day, this dude bring

his lover in their work place...lmao. from there... yes she told me I was right.

well thank you all for your responses, it helped me a lot to understand him...maybe he is stuck in her. It's sad because I think that we would have been good together...I just think that was uncessary to lie to me, saying that he's done with her and wanted to move on with me...I feel so betrayed because I thought that he liked me in the same way...he says that now he wants to be my friend because I got him out of a hole when he was down and he will never forget it...I dont think I can do that 😢..

Aw im sorry 😢 Honestly i think that this is just a guy thing. My ex did that..and ive heard other stories that were similar. It was wrong of him to make u believe that he was done with his ex. I wouldnt bother talking to him again. He already proved how unreliable he would of been anyway--Hes not really over her. At least he told u right away it seems, before it went any further than that...but i am sorry.

But i bet u when they break up again, dont be surprised when he 'all of a sudden' wants to start being close to u. I think u guys can be lightly cordial, but nothing more than that. At least thats what id do. A simple 'hey' and then the cold shoulder.lol

I am sorry he did this to you too. At least he let you know relatively quickly that he was still hung up on his ex. Always listen to what a taurus says. He is telling you exactly how he plans to act and proceed. He said that you deserve better, he is saying he isn't going to be around like he was before. Let him go. And if he comes around, be casual. Just a quick "hi". He will get the picture is vivid colors that you are fine and have moved on.
and ps: He won't be able to stand that! Good luck

Well I cant even look at his face...I get the part that he wanted space and is confused...i just dont get why he had to lie like that. I was really nice to him and i know that i didnt deserve what he did to me. He works in the same place as me and his ex too...so its kinda awkward...thank you all for the responses. I guess I should move on. Even if he comes back I wont trust him again...

Well, ywsterday i wrote him a letter to let him know how i feel about what he did to me()wich he already know) and i also told him that i think he his an amazing guy and that i would like to be his friend. He actually responded vety well to the letter sayng that he really appreciated and that it just shows that i am a special girl to do that. I wrote the letter because for me its easier to express my emotions. I dont do this often but i thought that would be nice to do that. What do you think?
Did i do wrong by writting him a letter?

yes... you are wrong. lol

at some point.. I saw one post in a Taurus board... Do not tell the taurus man how much you love

him. They have their own time. and professing our love would might bring into confusion. In my

experienced with taurus men... I guess it's true. Until, they cannot stand it anymore and will

tell you how much they love you... oh yeah I was in a right tract. lol.

Really? :/ i thought that would be a nice gesture and i made it clear that i wanted to be his friend..but i dont know. Well, moving on.

Just an update: well i havent talk to him since the letter. But when i wrote it he later on that day said that we should schedule a coffe time. But he didnt say anything since then...well i was about to start moving on but the thing is that when i am at work he is always looking at me, staring behind some wall or something and he sometimes goes online on watsapp ( he only talked to me through watsapp and nobody else, maybe to check all our conversations). This little things may not mean that he wants me but it makes me wonder because i really do miss him and the moments we shared 😢. i really want him but i dont want to make the first move to meet him because i want to respect his spave...dont know what to do...