I miss my Taurus and I need to send her a message saying so?

Guys, I need help advice again. It’s with the same girl as before. We were going out and I wasn’t sure how she felt for various reasons I can’t go into, but we kept meeting up and I thought we were having a good time. Then she had to go on vacation. I asked her out before her vacation but she was busy and she said she’d let me know. Then I sent her a few messages like wishing her a good time and stuff and said that I’d booked a vacation too. She didn’t reply, they weren’t exactly messages that required a reply though. Then I probably left it nine days without contact as I was on vacation too. I messaged her last Wednesday (28 March) and asked if she could make it out for my birthday on Wednesday (4 April). She said she was in London and I asked about the Monday instead, she said no, just a one word answer and my friends said it was rude and she isn’t interested. But this kinda seems like how she messages anyway, and my brother Taurus does this too, just I think it’s how Taurus message, kind of very logical? But difficult to read from my point of view. I just asked her to let me know when she was around. That was the last message I sent (on 28 March).

She didn’t message me on my birthday, she did go out of London at the weekend, but she was in town for my birthday, and then I think this weekend she goes back to London. So her plan could have changed and stuff, she probably didn’t know if she would stay the week or not.

The problem is, I miss her, I wanted to give up hope and move on, and I think I can but I don’t want to quit either. She goes abroad to work in summer anyway and she might not come back. Why do Taurus have to be so logical when it comes to dating? I both love and hate it, right now I just want to meet her, not worry about the future. So I was thinking about sending her a message from the heart saying I miss her and I know she’s going away but I want to see her until then? I just don’t know how she will react? Or do I just ask her out very casually again? Or ask her out casually and then respond with the heart felt message if she says no?

Just not sure on the order of things. I could be wrong, but I just think that’s when it changed a little bit, I’m older, I can provide and I have my own business and should be settling down, she wanted that when we started, but now she’s realised she’s young and a party girl and her priorities have totally changed, I know she doesn’t know what she wants out of life yet, and I don’t even blame her, but I miss her and maybe I should let her know?

Posted by AriesJo
Guys, I need help advice again. It’s with the same girl as before. We were going out and I wasn’t sure how she felt for various reasons I can’t go into, but we kept meeting up and I thought we were having a good time. Then she had to go on vacation. I asked her out before her vacation but she was busy and she said she’d let me know. Then I sent her a few messages like wishing her a good time and stuff and said that I’d booked a vacation too. She didn’t reply, they weren’t exactly messages that required a reply though. Then I probably left it nine days without contact as I was on vacation too. I messaged her last Wednesday (28 March) and asked if she could make it out for my birthday on Wednesday (4 April). She said she was in London and I asked about the Monday instead, she said no, just a one word answer and my friends said it was rude and she isn’t interested. But this kinda seems like how she messages anyway, and my brother Taurus does this too, just I think it’s how Taurus message, kind of very logical? But difficult to read from my point of view. I just asked her to let me know when she was around. That was the last message I sent (on 28 March).

She didn’t message me on my birthday, she did go out of London at the weekend, but she was in town for my birthday, and then I think this weekend she goes back to London. So her plan could have changed and stuff, she probably didn’t know if she would stay the week or not.

The problem is, I miss her, I wanted to give up hope and move on, and I think I can but I don’t want to quit either. She goes abroad to work in summer anyway and she might not come back. Why do Taurus have to be so logical when it comes to dating? I both love and hate it, right now I just want to meet her, not worry about the future. So I was thinking about sending her a message from the heart saying I miss her and I know she’s going away but I want to see her until then? I just don’t know how she will react? Or do I just ask her out very casually again? Or ask her out casually and then respond with the heart felt message if she says no?

Just not sure on the order of things. I could be wrong, but I just think that’s when it changed a little bit, I’m older, I can provide and I have my own business and should be settling down, she wanted that when we started, but now she’s realised she’s young and a party girl and her priorities have totally changed, I know she doesn’t know what she wants out of life yet, and I don’t even blame her, but I miss her and maybe I should let her know?

maybe she feels the vibes about your activities with the other ladies? 🙂

that it feels like only you want her because you cant get her?

its not really secure and confirming for a Taurus (and they are really slow, btw., you would get bored very quickly) but I dont really feel your genuine interest in her in your posts..... I think, its just that she is very active (travelling to places, doing things) = she can activate your ambitions and dreams, but I cant help thinking, if its just her being an "action girl" and not wanting you (the chase), or is it a possible true love on your part

you know, Aries can act very cheap with people who they are not really interested in.... maybe the vibes? 🙂

Posted by Timon
No means no. You're friends are right. She isn't interested. I think I said that in your previous thread too.

I don't think you commented on my previous threads

What other girls? And why would I chase an action girl, but I think I showed interest by asking her out every week, I wasn’t with other girls. And I don’t even know if I am trying to tie her down either, how can I. I’m a little confused.

Posted by Ineedadvice
Message her and put cards on the table. I 100% would. That will stay with her. Do it. No games. You'll know by the response or lack of her intentions. If she doesn't bother to respond then that's just rude and any decent mature human would.

Thanks, the more I think about it, I have to. She's out with friends tomorrow so maybe Sunday I'll message her.

Timeline was: I met her on 27 January, restaurant and bar together on 3 Feb, restaurant and bar together on 9 Feb, restaurant and bar together on 14 February, afternoon tea 18 Feb, Restaurant 22 Feb, Restaurant 25 Feb, Restaurant 3 Mar, Theatre 8 Mar, Restaurants and bar 9 March, and Restaurant and bar 10 March. We kissed on all dates. So I don’t know if I didn’t showed too much interest or not enough really. But I think you could be right, maybe we just went into friends mode. But I kinda thought I was pushing for too many dates and that pushed her away, and then I didn’t see her because she went on vacation.

This is weird, and I think it’s right, I just showed my phone to a good friend and told him what’s happening. He looked at all the messages and said she goes from being 100% interested to zero interested between 9 March when we were messaging that night, to 10 March morning when her messages change, and he thinks there’s another guy. And I was kinda thinking that, because her ex was in London, so she could have seen her ex that weekend, don’t want to jump to conclusions though.

To me, she doesn’t seem very interested. Lack of responses, didn’t wish you a happy birthday, nor attempt to meet up with you about it. I know not everyone takes birthdays seriously, but with friends and even a guy I’m interested in, I’ll at the very least wish a happy birthday and if I can’t see them that day for whatever reason I’ll at least try to catch up with them another day.

Your best bet is to be upfront, direct and open with her about what you want and if she’s into you or not. I know for me as a Taurus I prefer people to not beat around the bush. I find it irritating and a waste of my time and theirs. As another poster said, just lay your cards out and see what she says.

I’m feeling a bit lost again. Do you always regret the things you don’t do more than the things you do? I sent a message, just asking her out to dinner before she goes away. She replied something like “..might be nice..” and emoji. I asked when was a good time, and she said she didn’t know but she was busy this weekend. This was one week ago. So my plan was to suggest a restaurant today, but now today is here. I’m not sure. A lot of my friends are saying what’s the point (have some pride, you’re only delaying the inevitable etc), but I think it would be nice to say goodbye in person? Is that crazy?

I wrote the message to send but keep thinking I need to explain that I would like to enjoy her company one last time, but everytime I look at it, i keep thinking it kinda sounds pathetic to say that? But I don’t want her to get the wrong idea, like I don’t want her to think I have strange expectations? I don’t know if I’m overthinking it again. I just think it’s a nice thing to do? How would you react if a guy tried to do this?

I’m still not sure if she even wants to meet, “might be nice” is difficult to interpret over message, does not sound excited obviously. Maybe it’s better to not risk rejection again and let her go. I just feel like I need to have a bit of confidence and have a bit of faith in the situation, but maybe it’s making me deluded.

Posted by AriesJo
I’m feeling a bit lost again. Do you always regret the things you don’t do more than the things you do? I sent a message, just asking her out to dinner before she goes away. She replied something like “..might be nice..” and emoji. I asked when was a good time, and she said she didn’t know but she was busy this weekend. This was one week ago. So my plan was to suggest a restaurant today, but now today is here. I’m not sure. A lot of my friends are saying what’s the point (have some pride, you’re only delaying the inevitable etc), but I think it would be nice to say goodbye in person? Is that crazy?

I wrote the message to send but keep thinking I need to explain that I would like to enjoy her company one last time, but everytime I look at it, i keep thinking it kinda sounds pathetic to say that? But I don’t want her to get the wrong idea, like I don’t want her to think I have strange expectations? I don’t know if I’m overthinking it again. I just think it’s a nice thing to do? How would you react if a guy tried to do this?

I’m still not sure if she even wants to meet, “might be nice” is difficult to interpret over message, does not sound excited obviously. Maybe it’s better to not risk rejection again and let her go. I just feel like I need to have a bit of confidence and have a bit of faith in the situation, but maybe it’s making me deluded.

Dont send that message "I want to enjoy your companion one more time"

this message screams " I have imaginary conversations with you, and this is my answer to what you said in my imagination" 🙂

just ask her, if sushi or steak 🙂

Haha, I knew it didn’t sound normal. Thanks.

Posted by AriesJo
Guys, I need help advice again. It’s with the same girl as before. We were going out and I wasn’t sure how she felt for various reasons I can’t go into, but we kept meeting up and I thought we were having a good time. Then she had to go on vacation. I asked her out before her vacation but she was busy and she said she’d let me know. Then I sent her a few messages like wishing her a good time and stuff and said that I’d booked a vacation too. She didn’t reply, they weren’t exactly messages that required a reply though. Then I probably left it nine days without contact as I was on vacation too. I messaged her last Wednesday (28 March) and asked if she could make it out for my birthday on Wednesday (4 April). She said she was in London and I asked about the Monday instead, she said no, just a one word answer and my friends said it was rude and she isn’t interested. But this kinda seems like how she messages anyway, and my brother Taurus does this too, just I think it’s how Taurus message, kind of very logical? But difficult to read from my point of view. I just asked her to let me know when she was around. That was the last message I sent (on 28 March).

She didn’t message me on my birthday, she did go out of London at the weekend, but she was in town for my birthday, and then I think this weekend she goes back to London. So her plan could have changed and stuff, she probably didn’t know if she would stay the week or not.

The problem is, I miss her, I wanted to give up hope and move on, and I think I can but I don’t want to quit either. She goes abroad to work in summer anyway and she might not come back. Why do Taurus have to be so logical when it comes to dating? I both love and hate it, right now I just want to meet her, not worry about the future. So I was thinking about sending her a message from the heart saying I miss her and I know she’s going away but I want to see her until then? I just don’t know how she will react? Or do I just ask her out very casually again? Or ask her out casually and then respond with the heart felt message if she says no?

Just not sure on the order of things. I could be wrong, but I just think that’s when it changed a little bit, I’m older, I can provide and I have my own business and should be settling down, she wanted that when we started, but now she’s realised she’s young and a party girl and her priorities have totally changed, I know she doesn’t know what she wants out of life yet, and I don’t even blame her, but I miss her and maybe I should let her know?

You sound like a shweetheart..... 😁