IAMTimo
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I want my ex taurus boyfriend back
Posted by P_AndsThe second time, if i did it. it's because i thought he litteraly left me. i was just being week and insecure. but I really love him
yup flirting is a deal breaker for me
He knows that & he knows that this is something i will never ever do again. it just seems that i turned him off ( as he stated)
so, is there a way to reignite the love he had for me ?
Posted by IAMTimoI noticed that and it hurts me a lot because I know as well as he does that I can a better lover, that i am better than thisPosted by P_AndsI noticed that and it hurts a mot because I know as well ah he does that I can a better lover, that i am better than this
i doubt it man. he is probably grossed out right now but i admit we can be ridiculous about it. what's done is done.
i jsut feel like his ego is hurtclick to expand
i just feel like his ego is hurt. is there way to fix it ?i'm crazy about him
thanks a lot for your comments. .. even though i think it's pretty unfair and not very wise to let someone go that you know truly loves you just because of one or two mistakes. you can feel powerful but i don't think u'll ba happy ...
he said that it's too late .. so you think i should just GIVE UP?
Posted by tizianisometimes when i hurt him, he can become very mean. it's not ideal, but i really love him and wanna be with him. cs apart from that there's beauty in his charachter, beauty in his love and beauty in his heart.Posted by IAMTimoFrom what you've said, he sounds controlling. I'm not sure why you'd want to make it work.
he said that it's too late .. so you think i should just GIVE UP?
I wouldn't be surprised if he comes back later to offer you the same deal as when you both met. But frankly I know very little about Taurus romantically. Never dated one.click to expand
what makes you think that he'll come back later ?
Posted by tizianiPosted by IAMTimoBecause 3 months is a short time to get to know someone. For him to say what he did in his last message to you, he was looking for a bit of a fantasy there. A lot of projection. If he doesn't find it elsewhere he could easily just end up messaging you again.Posted by tizianisometimes when i hurt him, he can become very mean. it's not ideal, but i really love him and wanna be with him. cs apart from that there's beauty in his charachter, beauty in his love and beauty in his heart.Posted by IAMTimoFrom what you've said, he sounds controlling. I'm not sure why you'd want to make it work.
he said that it's too late .. so you think i should just GIVE UP?
I wouldn't be surprised if he comes back later to offer you the same deal as when you both met. But frankly I know very little about Taurus romantically. Never dated one.
what makes you think that he'll come back later ?click to expand
i'm hoping he will ...
thanks a lot for your answer, really appreciate it
looking forward to hearing from another taurus man
Posted by Gemican01
Just move forward my fellow cancer & learn from your mistakes!
I fought for himn i really did
again, i' m gonna give it one last shot, and if he doesnt want me then ... i gotta move on with my life
I really want another taurus' man point of view
IamTimo,
Did this Taurus guy ever give you an explanation as to why he was on Grindr both times?
I thought deleting accounts went both ways?
Did this Taurus guy ever give you an explanation as to why he was on Grindr both times?
I thought deleting accounts went both ways?
if i was a betting lass, my money is on that this is done. he probably feels he can't trust you. i understand why you did it but likely from his perspective, he forgave you once, that you did it again means he can't take you at your word.
i had a similar issue with my taurus early on. he forgave me and i have made it a point that i would never repeat the same mistake again because i know how much it hurt him. i think if i were to repeat it, i can only imagine there would be no chance at reconciliation. he would forgive me but never allow me back into his inner sanctum again.
what makes it hard is that you were only 3 months in. had it been longer i would maybe think you had a better shot of being forgiven with enough repentance and contrition and a probationary period to earn the trust back again.
i had a similar issue with my taurus early on. he forgave me and i have made it a point that i would never repeat the same mistake again because i know how much it hurt him. i think if i were to repeat it, i can only imagine there would be no chance at reconciliation. he would forgive me but never allow me back into his inner sanctum again.
what makes it hard is that you were only 3 months in. had it been longer i would maybe think you had a better shot of being forgiven with enough repentance and contrition and a probationary period to earn the trust back again.
Posted by jeanehe knows for sure that IM A LOYAL person he said it himself and he knows that this was just a mistake and that by no means this is my nature. but the thing is: he can't seem to understand and see where i was coming from and why i did it in the second time. the truth is eeeeeverybody would have done the same thing. especially when you're insecure and not sure if loves u or just likes u. but it's not something he seems able to wrap his head around .
if i was a betting lass, my money is on that this is done. he probably feels he can't trust you. i understand why you did it but likely from his perspective, he forgave you once, that you did it again means he can't take you at your word.
i had a similar issue with my taurus early on. he forgave me and i have made it a point that i would never repeat the same mistake again because i know how much it hurt him. i think if i were to repeat it, i can only imagine there would be no chance at reconciliation. he would forgive me but never allow me back into his inner sanctum again.
what makes it hard is that you were only 3 months in. had it been longer i would maybe think you had a better shot of being forgiven with enough repentance and contrition and a probationary period to earn the trust back again.
which is sad cs I love this gentleman, and if only he gives me one week to prove it just one week. i'll show him that i can never ever hurt him again in the same way.
Posted by TaurusBull1977
IamTimo,
Did this Taurus guy ever give you an explanation as to why he was on Grindr both times?
I
as for the second time he didn' find out on his own, i had chosen to let him know out of respect for him
and for the first time, i think he said that he wanted to surprise / visit me in my city ( because he was in another city) and thought he should check on grindr because he felt something was off.thought deleting accounts went both ways?
Posted by IAMTimoi know exactly what you are talking about. my mistake also was borne out of insecurity. and i know also what you are saying about them not seeing it from you point of view, again, snap. he just couldn't fathom it. he wouldn't do it to me therefore he couldn't see how i could do it to him.
he knows for sure that IM A LOYAL person he said it himself and he knows that this was just a mistake and that by no means this is my nature. but the thing is: he can't seem to understand and see where i was coming from and why i did it in the second time. the truth is eeeeeverybody would have done the same thing. especially when you're insecure and not sure if loves u or just likes u. but it's not something he seems able to wrap his head around .
which is sad cs I love this gentleman, and if only he gives me one week to prove it just one week. i'll show him that i can never ever hurt him again in the same way.
again, i can only guess with your guy but speaking from my own experience, you have to be a super strong person to be some taureans. you can't let your impatience get in the way, nor your insecurity. it's really hard at the start, especially because they don't tell you how they are feeling and your own emotions are running high.
i apologised, apologised and apologised some more. it took longer than a week to prove to him how sorry i was. i'm still so incredibly sorry. the hurt i caused was immense. it took about 5 months for us to get back where we were. there is one difference in my situation - we never split up over it. he never finished with me. that was my saving grace. so i don't know how this will likely to pan out for you given he has said he can't move forward with you. i wish you the best.
Posted by Gemican01Gemican the bf wasn't on the site. Timo told him he went on as a way of being honest and forthcoming.
He makes you feel insecure so then you go on a dating site and then you make him feel insecure when he finds you on it so he doesn't want to be with you.
WOW.
Posted by jeanethanks a lot 😢 😢 😢Posted by IAMTimoi know exactly what you are talking about. my mistake also was borne out of insecurity. and i know also what you are saying about them not seeing it from you point of view, again, snap. he just couldn't fathom it. he wouldn't do it to me therefore he couldn't see how i could do it to him.
he knows for sure that IM A LOYAL person he said it himself and he knows that this was just a mistake and that by no means this is my nature. but the thing is: he can't seem to understand and see where i was coming from and why i did it in the second time. the truth is eeeeeverybody would have done the same thing. especially when you're insecure and not sure if loves u or just likes u. but it's not something he seems able to wrap his head around .
which is sad cs I love this gentleman, and if only he gives me one week to prove it just one week. i'll show him that i can never ever hurt him again in the same way.
again, i can only guess with your guy but speaking from my own experience, you have to be a super strong person to be some taureans. you can't let your impatience get in the way, nor your insecurity. it's really hard at the start, especially because they don't tell you how they are feeling and your own emotions are running high.
i apologised, apologised and apologised some more. it took longer than a week to prove to him how sorry i was. i'm still so incredibly sorry. the hurt i caused was immense. it took about 5 months for us to get back where we were. there is one difference in my situation - we never split up over it. he never finished with me. that was my saving grace. so i don't know how this will likely to pan out for you given he has said he can't move forward with you. i wish you the best.click to expand
Posted by Gemican01that is not how it went down
He makes you feel insecure so then you go on a dating site and then you make him feel insecure when he finds you on it so he doesn't want to be with you.
WOW.
he didnt make me feel insecure : but he didn't make me feel secure : he didn't open up to me
my insecurities are internal , because i've had in the past met 2 guys online whith whom i had really connected / then all of sudden baaam they disappeared
Posted by IAMTimoIamTimo,
then a month later he just vanished into thin air, i didn't hear from him anymore. I was devestated and vulnerable, i thought he was not coming back at all therefore, out of insecurity and just to try and move on, i re-downloaded the app. . But, eventually he did showed up again & when he did, i was sooo happy but still, i regreted going on grindr. out of respect for him, i thought the best thing would be is to come clean and tell him that not two days ago i had re-downloaded the app. i thought i was being courageous and honnest. but he just snapped. he just said it was over and that i'm a lying jerk. doesn't suit you and u're probably loving and loyal but I can't.
Should I just give up ?
ps : i'm infatuated with this man
This section in your story is what concerns me.
He vanishes into thin air.
Then he reappears out of nowhere.
Especially after an exclusive relationship was already established.
If a Taurus pulls a disappearing act, it's usually during the initial stages of a courtship. This would be due to a myriad of reasons, especially if you haven't establish any closeness with us, or became an integrated part of our inner circle. But after a relationship has been established, and we trust you, those disappearing acts become monotonous acts. Predictable routines. Our significant other becomes witnesses to our everyday lives.
Something tells me he's being dishonest with you. He wants out, and is looking for an excuse to do it. He wants to be with other people, and doesn't have the balls to admit it.
My gut instinct tells me that his vanishing act was based on 'keeping his options' open from a Grindr account that he NEVER deleted.
I could be wrong.
Just don't let him pull the wool over your eyes. You seem like a sweetheart.
Posted by TaurusBull1977the thing is : he travels a lot for work, & when he came back i asked why he disappeared like that, he said he wasn't able to contact mePosted by IAMTimoIamTimo,
then a month later he just vanished into thin air, i didn't hear from him anymore. I was devestated and vulnerable, i thought he was not coming back at all therefore, out of insecurity and just to try and move on, i re-downloaded the app. . But, eventually he did showed up again & when he did, i was sooo happy but still, i regreted going on grindr. out of respect for him, i thought the best thing would be is to come clean and tell him that not two days ago i had re-downloaded the app. i thought i was being courageous and honnest. but he just snapped. he just said it was over and that i'm a lying jerk. doesn't suit you and u're probably loving and loyal but I can't.
Should I just give up ?
ps : i'm infatuated with this man
This section in your story is what concerns me.
He vanishes into thin air.
Then he reappears out of nowhere.
Especially after an exclusive relationship was already established.
If a Taurus pulls a disappearing act, it's usually during the initial stages of a courtship. This would be due to a myriad of reasons, especially if you haven't establish any closeness with us, or became an integrated part of our inner circle. But after a relationship has been established, and we trust you, those disappearing acts become monotonous acts. Predictable routines. Our significant other becomes witnesses to our everyday lives.
Something tells me he's being dishonest with you. He wants out, and is looking for an excuse to do it. He wants to be with other people, and doesn't have the balls to admit it.
My gut instinct tells me that his vanishing act was based on 'keeping his options' open from a Grindr account that he NEVER deleted.
I could be wrong.
Just don't let him pull the wool over your eyes. You seem like a sweetheart.click to expand
i asked him why, he said it's because he had no internet. which is weird. i'm not gonna lie : i didn't reallly beleive this but i was glaaaad that he came back & that'w why i decided to brush it off
Posted by IAMTimoHe felt something was off?Posted by TaurusBull1977
IamTimo,
Did this Taurus guy ever give you an explanation as to why he was on Grindr both times?
I
as for the second time he didn' find out on his own, i had chosen to let him know out of respect for him
and for the first time, i think he said that he wanted to surprise / visit me in my city ( because he was in another city) and thought he should check on grindr because he felt something was off.thought deleting accounts went both ways?click to expand
So he checked Grindr?
Bulls are intuitive, but a strong intuition to initiate any form of fact-checking would only be reflected from your actions and statements.
Your actions and statements would have to be inconsistent.
But my gut instinct tells me that you're in such total 'awe' of this Bull (not being presumptuous), that your actions and statements reflected that as well.
I call 'Total BS' on his story.
Posted by IAMTimo
Why didn't he contact you by phone?
the thing is : he travels a lot for work, & when he came back i asked why he disappeared like that, he said he wasn't able to contact meHow long was he away? (months/days)
i asked him why, he said it's because he had no internet. which is weird. i'm not gonna lie : i didn't reallly beleive this but i was glaaaad that he came back & that'w why i decided to brush it off
Why didn't he contact you by phone?
Posted by TaurusBull1977my statements weren't inconsistent at all ... 😢 i don't know what to think reallyPosted by IAMTimoHe felt something was off?Posted by TaurusBull1977
IamTimo,
Did this Taurus guy ever give you an explanation as to why he was on Grindr both times?
I
as for the second time he didn' find out on his own, i had chosen to let him know out of respect for him
and for the first time, i think he said that he wanted to surprise / visit me in my city ( because he was in another city) and thought he should check on grindr because he felt something was off.thought deleting accounts went both ways?
So he checked Grindr?
Bulls are intuitive, but a strong intuition to initiate any form of fact-checking would only be reflected from your actions and statements.
Your actions and statements would have to be inconsistent.
But my gut instinct tells me that you're in such total 'awe' of this Bull (not being presumptuous), that your actions and statements reflected that as well.
I call 'Total BS' on his story.click to expand
Why didn't he contact you by phone?
Iamtimo,
I do not believe that you gave him any reason to doubt you.
Call it intuition, but something tells me his account was/is still open.
...And he's quite active on that site.
I do not believe that you gave him any reason to doubt you.
Call it intuition, but something tells me his account was/is still open.
...And he's quite active on that site.
Posted by TaurusBull1977
Why didn't he contact you by phone?
i asked for his number once cs i was afraid hy may disappear again
he said he didn't have one cs he's usualyl on the road going from country to country ...
Posted by IAMTimowait, you don't have his number?Posted by TaurusBull1977
Why didn't he contact you by phone?
i asked for his number once cs i was afraid hy may disappear again
he said he didn't have one cs he's usualyl on the road going from country to country ...click to expand
he doesn't have a phone?
i thought Grindr was a phone app?
Posted by Gemican01of course i owned what i did and apoologize maaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaany times, i can't describe how sorry i felt and i can't describe how vulnerable i became.
My chart is ruled by earth and it's filled with Taurus placements. I can tell you in my most Taurus point of view you might not have hurt his feelings but he's just tired of lack of stability in the relationship. I do not care for people's excuses especially when they blame their partner by saying he wasn't doing this or that enough for the reason they chose not to be loyal to their partner it shows that the person is lacking in taking full on blame and responsibility for their actions. If you don't own what you do a Taurus can't take you serious.
If your boyfriend wasn't doing enough and you had to go get comfort in other men you should have broke up with your boyfriend first instead of stringing him along while you go about talking to other men on dating sites.
when i went and talked to other men, we weren't boyfriend/boyfriend. we knew both of us wanted to be exclusive but we didn't have THE TALK
Posted by jeaneyeah, u can have a phone but not a phone number ^^Posted by IAMTimowait, you don't have his number?Posted by TaurusBull1977
Why didn't he contact you by phone?
i asked for his number once cs i was afraid hy may disappear again
he said he didn't have one cs he's usualyl on the road going from country to country ...
he doesn't have a phone?
i thought Grindr was a phone app?click to expand
Posted by IAMTimooh. that is new to me.Posted by jeaneyeah, u can have a phone but not a phone number ^^Posted by IAMTimowait, you don't have his number?Posted by TaurusBull1977
Why didn't he contact you by phone?
i asked for his number once cs i was afraid hy may disappear again
he said he didn't have one cs he's usualyl on the road going from country to country ...
he doesn't have a phone?
i thought Grindr was a phone app?click to expand
Posted by Gemican012 weeks or a month .. i can't recall
Okay I see I'm sorry I thought when you said both of you wanted to be exclusive that you two had been in a serious relationship the whole time after that.
How long did you say he disappeared for?
Posted by jeanei feel like i' mdefending him right now ...Posted by IAMTimooh. that is new to me.Posted by jeaneyeah, u can have a phone but not a phone number ^^Posted by IAMTimowait, you don't have his number?Posted by TaurusBull1977
Why didn't he contact you by phone?
i asked for his number once cs i was afraid hy may disappear again
he said he didn't have one cs he's usualyl on the road going from country to country ...
he doesn't have a phone?
i thought Grindr was a phone app?click to expand
Posted by IAMTimohow do you contact him?
i feel like i'm defending him right now ...
we just want to help you. you aren't objective in this situation and frankly, neither are we really but a different set of eyes might illuminate something you hadn't considered before.
ONLY SKYPE
You sound stalkerish TBH....
Posted by Hemispheres
You sound stalkerish TBH....
Yiop. I AM. That's the way I AM. when i fall, i fall haaaaaaaaaard
don't make me fall for you, if you're not gonna catch me
if i'm this way, it's only because i see the good in people and kinda beleive in Magic :/
-lays out net and walks away-
yeah eventually he deleted me 🙂
Posted by jeaneJeane,Posted by IAMTimohow do you contact him?
i feel like i'm defending him right now ...
we just want to help you. you aren't objective in this situation and frankly, neither are we really but a different set of eyes might illuminate something you hadn't considered before.click to expand
I don't think the OP wants to see this situation with a new set of eyes.
Fact:
This Bull never deleted his account.
This Bull 'allegedly' doesn't have an cell phone.
This Bull went a month of no contact with the OP.
This Bull only communicates with the OP via Internet, no phone calls, no visits.
When the Bull was going to attempt to visit the OP in his city, the OP gets accused of cheating. (How convenient).
The OP seems real sweet, but extremely naive, and blind-sighted by love.
The guilt which was set intentionally by this Taurus man to prevent the OP from asking real legitimate questions.
The OP is still punishing himself by accepting full responsibility for the demise of their union.
I promise you the Bull's family members and close friends are not communicating with him via internet....
...And the OP is being mindf&cked!
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