Leo Taurus breakup

I don’t even know where to begin.

I’m a Leo, he’s a Taurus. Yes, I know, bad mix, wish I had known that before I got involved 4 years ago.

This past week, in a firestorm of insults on both sides, our crumbling relationship came to it’s projected demise. I have read up on every possible topic for the Leo / Taurus dynamic, and it’s all very much exactly as it all reads. This time the no contact has reached a record breaking 4 days and counting.

I have looked back on past arguments and things were always smoothed over when I apologized, only this time, I’m not bending, he insulted me with the worst possible comment I have ever heard stumble out of his mouth. I have a pretty decent way of thinking, and I believe in, you don’t destroy and annihilate the ones you love. It was one thing to tell me when I was being a witch or something that rhymes with it, but to insult me on a personal level the way he did is unforgivable.

This relationship was the most gratifying and toxic relationship I have ever experienced. We loved hard, and we hate hard. It was this relationship that made me see the truely thin line between love and hate. Honestly, if you were to ask me what I’m going to miss the most I will tell you the incredible hugs that he gives and the mind blowing sex. I’m not young, so I know the passion that was in this relationship is rare.

That being said, of course I am in severe mourning, but I don’t think I want it back. What I want to know is, is this narcissistic man capable of feeling loss, or experiencing the hurt even close to the level I am?

He’s a Taurus on the Gemini cusp and I’m a Leo on the Cancer cusp. It’s this crazy combination that I can’t seem to look up and find answers for. I guess with these two cusp combos, I would like to figure out if this is worth fighting for or just moving forward? But more than anything I just want to know, how can he hurt me and say such hurtful things and not even flinch. I want to know is he capable of hurting, does he feel regret?

I know his Taurus mindset won’t do too well with no contact once he realizes I’m not going to contact him first. He hurt me really bad and I know that it’s most likely time to move on, but just in case those cusp bdays make this a dynamic that is truly special.

Help any thoughts please

Thank you all. You all have pretty much confirmed what I’ve already figured out. I think I was looking for a reason to not let go, “just in case”. It’s been a rocky path lately. And it hasn’t been easy for either one of us, and it’s taken it’s toll.

I have learned from other breakups that it’s time I turn to myself now and focus on me and do what I need to do in order to heal. Self reflection is a huge part. I think I was just looking to the zodiac in the hopes of something being there that I can’t see.

By no means am I innocent. I know I have a role in this. I can fling an insult just as good. I try not to, I try to always keep in mind you can’t take something back once it’s been said. And the worst part about this all is that this all went down because I called him out on his actions and words. So the last fight and communication on the books between him and I went from him telling me in so many words he didn’t like how I was speaking in that moment, him calling me a bi***. Me not standing for it this time. I’m always apologizing, even when I didn’t do anything. I was generally fed up with him never owning anything and this time I stood up for myself. He didn’t like it, and he went in for the kill shot and insulted my personal looks. It’s never come to this. I felt like the wind was knocked out of me. I asked him if the convo was over and if I could just hang up. He said “see ya”. And that was it.

I’m just sitting here reflecting and going over my part in the relationship, and how in a million years I could not let someone think horribly about themselves and leave it be. Not like he is with me. So I guess I’m trying to see if he’s sorry or if he will swallow his stubborn pride and apologize.

For years he has told me I was beautiful. On days when I was feeling off or tired or whatever, he would tell me I looked perfect. Yes. He took out my ego. And he used other things that had stressed me out and turned it on me and flung it making me feel like he’s lied to me for all these years.

Toxic relationship for sure, and I know this. And I know it’s time to let go and move forward. I will not stand for that kind of insult. I have taken far too much from him, and this was a step too far. I don’t think I will ever get an apology from him, I just wanted to know if he was capable of feeling bad.

Posted by brokenleo
I don’t even know where to begin.

I’m a Leo, he’s a Taurus. Yes, I know, bad mix, wish I had known that before I got involved 4 years ago.

This past week, in a firestorm of insults on both sides, our crumbling relationship came to it’s projected demise. I have read up on every possible topic for the Leo / Taurus dynamic, and it’s all very much exactly as it all reads. This time the no contact has reached a record breaking 4 days and counting.

I have looked back on past arguments and things were always smoothed over when I apologized, only this time, I’m not bending, he insulted me with the worst possible comment I have ever heard stumble out of his mouth. I have a pretty decent way of thinking, and I believe in, you don’t destroy and annihilate the ones you love. It was one thing to tell me when I was being a witch or something that rhymes with it, but to insult me on a personal level the way he did is unforgivable.

This relationship was the most gratifying and toxic relationship I have ever experienced. We loved hard, and we hate hard. It was this relationship that made me see the truely thin line between love and hate. Honestly, if you were to ask me what I’m going to miss the most I will tell you the incredible hugs that he gives and the mind blowing sex. I’m not young, so I know the passion that was in this relationship is rare.

That being said, of course I am in severe mourning, but I don’t think I want it back. What I want to know is, is this narcissistic man capable of feeling loss, or experiencing the hurt even close to the level I am?

He’s a Taurus on the Gemini cusp and I’m a Leo on the Cancer cusp. It’s this crazy combination that I can’t seem to look up and find answers for. I guess with these two cusp combos, I would like to figure out if this is worth fighting for or just moving forward? But more than anything I just want to know, how can he hurt me and say such hurtful things and not even flinch. I want to know is he capable of hurting, does he feel regret?

I know his Taurus mindset won’t do too well with no contact once he realizes I’m not going to contact him first. He hurt me really bad and I know that it’s most likely time to move on, but just in case those cusp bdays make this a dynamic that is truly special.

Help any thoughts please

Hey OP! I was in relationship with a Leo and I'm a Taurus - Gemini cusper. I know about the love hate thing. The whole I just love him so much but fuck it's not working. Been there, done that. Honestly, I'll advise you to move on because there's nothing bigger than mental peace. For some strange reason, sometimes, two people may both love hard but end up not being together. Is because you're too opposites or two similars? Whatever it may be, if it doesn't make you happy, leave.

Regardless of the sign, if I'm used to you coming back to me first, I'll honestly not ponder much unless it's been sometime and the other party hasn't contacted. As a Taurus I'll say, I will feel bad later if I said something wrong. But then again, if you equally insulted me, I wouldn't really get back to you if I've had enough. But then again he loves you so who knows if he's reached his saturation point or not, time will tell.

And, if you're done him, just move on. Don't waste your time thinking if he's hurting or remorseful or not. Just don't contact him anymore and eventually he'll regret, if that's what you're looking for but honestly, never take anybody who makes you feel like nothing ever into your life again. We all deserved to be loved to the fullest. I hope you find your peace.

Thank you for your time and input. I’ve been so up and down the past few days going back and forth emotionally.

I should clarify, yes, I can give back to an extent, but I have never fired off a personal shot the way he did the other day. This is what I would consider a first / last time event. And do you know what I actually did that fired him up so badly? I wouldn’t listen to his bs for once. And I called him out. And I would not bend. I truly did not do that much wrong this time. If calling someone out for running their mouths before they actually listened, then I am guilty and I have been properly slammed.

As much as I love this man, I need to love myself more. When not messed up in this kind of stuff I’m fairly logical and the advice I’m being given is pretty in line with what I would say to someone.

Since this incident happened on Wednesday of last week, there has been zero contact from either party. Usually it’s me that bends and apologizes, but for my own need for self preservation, not this time. What he said was just a direct brutal blow to my ego and it made me doubt everything he’s ever said to me. I’m sorry, but no matter how much someone makes you mad, you just shouldn’t say things that cannot be taken back. I can spit venom, but I’m not going to say something that will have someone questioning every word that came out of my mouth.

The point I’m at currently is that I’ve chosen to move forward, but I think what is really going on in my head that made me post this, is I think I’m seeking my own closure. I know to not expect that from him. The whole thing went down in a phone call and from the looks of it, it is just over now. So I think this is essentially what I’m after. So yes, in a sense you did give me an answer. I wanted to know if he’s capable of feeling sorry. He crushed me. It was a sudden ending and I’m left exposed trying to sort it out for myself.