Looking for some Taurus male insight to my man...

Hi, I'm hoping to get some insight to the current situation I'm in with my Taurus guy. First, I'm a sag and I have never dated a Taurus. We met online 3 months ago and we live 1500 miles apart. Communication and expression was free flowing right from the start. We talked on the phone for hours almost every night and the text messages were always very long and beautiful (from both of us). We knew what we had was very special from the beginning, even before we met. It only took two weeks for him to come see me. We were both nervous prior to meeting but when I picked him up at the airport we instantly melted into one another. There was that kind of crazy instant, undeniable connection. I felt like I had known him my whole life. It was very special and we both knew it. Anyhow, that trip was amazing he even extended his stay because he didn't want to leave me. The day he got back home he booked my ticket to go see him and stay at his home. By this time we were talking about me moving, marriage and future home purchases. It was important to both of us for me to see where he lived and meet his teenage daughter who he lives with. He even booked a ticket for my daughter to go out there with me so she could be comfortable with the decisions we were making. We all had a fantastic time together. He asked me to move out there within two months and I told him I needed at least 6 months. After that trip, we kept taking turns going back and forth to see each other. He always paid for flights and 5 star hotels (I estimate he spent in excess of 20k in 3 months on our relationship). Every time we saw each other we got more serious and it was intoxicating to say the least. The love making was incredible, best I ever had and he said it was the best he ever had...never lasted less than 3 hours and at our best it was 5 hours. Crazy passion. Like I said, we totally melt into each other and the rest of the world disappears. He loved that about us and so do I. Loved everything about us. Constantly told me he loved me and missed me etc. So, this is my dream come true, right? I have to say that all of this completely turned my sag ways upside down... nothing I had ever experienced before and I was ready, willing and able to give it all up for him. Don't get me wrong..I was still very much my own person and he liked that but I considered doing things for him I would do for no one before.

The issues were, he worries a lot and he worried what he was taking

The issues were, he worries a lot and he worried what he was taking me away from, was I going to be happy (he lives in the middle of no where), how it was going to affect my adult kids, etc. Anyhow, long story short, the last time I went to visit him he wanted me to stay for a longer period of time so he booked my trip for 11 days, he also booked a trip for his older daughter to come home from college so I can meet her at the same time. Well, 11 days is a long time and of course, after all we had talked about and where we were in our relationship, I made myself kinda at home. I cooked (I'm a really good cook), I cleaned, took out the dogs, etc. I noticed that he started to withdraw a bit after the 3rd day and it took him a day or two to communicate what was going on. I was patient and I let him withdraw but then when we finally talked about it he said that I was the first woman in his home since his ex left and having me in the kitchen using all of the things she used to use brought back a lot of unwanted feelings for him. There was a small amount of missing her taking place but more importantly, he was scared - in general of having that suffocating feeling again of being in a bad relationship. He was always honest about the getting over the ex thing...said it had always taken him about two years to get over exes and it had only been almost a year and a half. When I left I let him be, I knew he needed time to digest. He reached out via text every day but it was 3 days before we spoke. He said he missed me and loved me and he was sorry for the way he acted but he wasn't prepared to have those feeling surface. I was patient and understood. He immediately booked a trip to come see me - would have been only 10 days separated. The next two days were back to normal and out of no where he sends me a text asking me if I missed and loved a boyfriend I had from 4 years ago. Clearly projecting and I knew it but I also knew he was pushing me away. I had a couple of glasses of wine in me when I got the text and I responded with "do you want me to miss him?" - clearly the wrong thing to say but at the same time...i had nothing to do with that guy for over 4 years. I followed up with I love you and only you and all the rest. He then broke up via text saying clearly he was right. He loved me but he just doesn't see it moving forward. He wasn't ready for the financial obligation and the emotional responsibility so on and so forth. I tried calling he di

I tried calling he didn't answer. I texted he didn't respond. The next morning he apologized and said he loved me, loves being with me but I deserve more than what he could give me right now, he needs time. Said he would like to keep talking and "maybe even see one another again" but he's not over his ex. He said he was not coming to see me "emotions will only get higher. I'm not coming there when my mind is all over the place. I only want good thoughts and memories". Again, I responded with patience, understanding and kindness. I get it, he needs time but there was a finality to his texts that frightens me. I can tell he needs the time and the distance but how much is too much? I told him everything I can to let him know I have faith and I am here. However, I'm not quite sure if he's gone for good - if I should let go or keep reminding him I'm here. I just don't know how to interpret all of this. I know he clearly loves me but is love not enough when he sees only obstacles (the distance) and still misses his ex. I love this man very much but my understanding is when a bull makes up his mind there is no turning back. Any insight, suggestions is appreciated. (I don't know if it matters but we are both in our early 40's).

OMG, why he can't move on with an ex? how long she left him?

I feel he is very sentimental man. OMG. hate this kind.