male taurus strange behavior

i am obsessed w this taurus guy i met back in august. we matched on a dating app and he asked for my snapchat. i was so in awe of how hot this guy is, i call him the hottest guy i've ever dated. he's over 6ft tall, has long dirty blonde hair, quirky tee
Posted by WallFlower422
I have to agree with JohntheBaptist and jeane. It sounds like you should move on at this point-he seems to have some complex issues that he ought to battle out on his own. He doesn't sound like someone who could be in a healthy relationship at this point in his life.

But, if you really like him and really want to fight for a chance to have something with him, I say make it very known. Be spontaneous and let him know exactly how you feel about him and how (if possible) you'd like to move forward with a relationship with him. I think most Tauruses appreciate candor and clarity in these initial stages of dating (I know I do!). If he accepts, then you'll have to have a weighty conversation about any personal issues he has (his jealousy and the resulting petty "revenge" tactics) that will affect your relationship if left unchecked. After that, it's just baby steps to get where you want to be with him.

But, if your only option to elicit a serious response from him about your relationship is to peg him with an ultimatum, then keep on stepping. Otherwise, you'd be catalyzing a turbulent relationship with this man.


A good reasoned response. It covers all bases.
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I have to agree with JohntheBaptist and jeane. It sounds like you should move on at this point-he seems to have some complex issues that he ought to battle out on his own. He doesn't sound like someone who could be in a healthy relationship at this point in his life.

But, if you really like him and really want to fight for a chance to have something with him, I say make it very known. Be spontaneous and let him know exactly how you feel about him and how (if possible) you'd like to move forward with a relationship with him. I think most Tauruses appreciate candor and clarity in these initial stages of dating (I know I do!). If he accepts, then you'll have to have a weighty conversation about any personal issues he has (his jealousy and the resulting petty "revenge" tactics) that will affect your relationship if left unchecked. After that, it's just baby steps to get where you want to be with him.

But, if your only option to elicit a serious response from him about your relationship is to peg him with an ultimatum, then keep on stepping. Otherwise, you'd be catalyzing a turbulent relationship with this man.
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Posted by Bricks195
Some of the things I see on these forums make me shake my head.

"Is this a Taurus thing? Are all Scorpio men like this? If I make my Pisces feel more secure, will he stop passive-aggressively dicking me around and commit? Will my Sag stop cheating on me eventually if I'm patient?"

Smdh.

This guy sounds like he has a big problem with jealousy and now he's trying to make you jealous. He can't handle you having other guys in your life, so now he's got this other girl-maybe-and he's using her-if she's even real-to hurt you because he thinks you might have other guys in your life.

The fact that you couldn't get simpatico and meet up at the festival or subsequently probably adds to it for him.

When I was younger, jealousy was a bigger issue for me. It would bug me if I thought my girlfriend was flirting with someone else, but I never would say anything. It would stew inside me and the girl could usually tell, but I would deny it.

As I got older, I stopped getting so jealous. I think a couple of the girls I dated when I was younger really were too flirtacious with other people. The women I've dated as a full-blown adult haven't acted that way.

Hate to say it, but that contrast-super chill one minute, jealous bastard the next-is kind of a Taurus thing. I think we have a tendency to be placid and harmless as a rule, but easily triggered by certain things to be jerks.

That isn't an excuse, though. Your dude needs either time to grow up or someone to get in his face and tell him his bullbutter won't fly. Personally, I respect women who won't take my butter. Maybe he needs you to call him out on his jealousy issue, let him know you'll leave him in the dust if he doesn't cut the crap.


haha! i like how annoyed this is making you feel too! yes!!
i thought he was joking about there being other guys bit, i mean, is he serious? i never chase this much, but i really dig him.
i never saw it from that point of view, i wasn't being flakey because of another guy, it was literally the worst timing. my phone service cut off during the festival and i was dead asleep the second time. i can see it from his point of view though...
well for now he's ignoring me :/ i've tried giving him an ultimatum before but he will just drop me so hence why i've backpeddaled.


I'm not sure of your sun sign but DO NOT give ultimatums to anyone.... They don't work and you are in no position to especially to a Taurus male.. He will leave you in the dust forever once he has dug his hoofs in... He has already tried to go out with you a few times (although mine hunted me down for 18 months but that is another story). I suggest you stop chasing him and give him space and if he is still interested he will show up. Just continue to "obsess" from afar.

I'm a Taurus male and I suggest she give that Taurus male an ultimatum.

I am 100% in favor of turning the tables on someone whose actions make you feel pinned to a wall. I already don't like the jealousy issue with this guy. I think she should put his ass against the ropes fast, before she makes a real investment in him and that crap of his goes unchecked for so long that she thinks she has to play along.

If he's a decent guy, he'll start to reevaluate.


I like the way you think. But what kind of ultimatum would you suggest? I've already deleted him from Snapchat twice, matched with him on the dating app 3 times, and both flaked on hanging out a few times. I've told him twice that "this isn't a match" and "goodluck" and failed hard. He didn't budge, but he did start to kinda initiate again.

I don't know why you would start something that can only get going with a power play.

To me he sounds like he setting you up as a FWB.


also, I wasn't trying to use a power play exactly, more like I got annoyed and forgave him / got over bein annoyed. Seems like he did too cause he literally showed up to my house one day when I was sleepinz



No matter how it is painted ultimatums are two people wrestling over power. He may come round to your way of thinking but at what cost? Yeah, he may come to his senses and sort himself out but will it stick if the motivation is external?

He already tried exerting too much power in her life.

"I'm gonna show up when I feel like it and you should be ready for me. Who are these guys? How do you know them?"

To me, in my mind, that's disrespect and she has the right to assert her own power as opposed to letting him act that way freely.

I think it's a bad sign when one person wields all the power while the other allows it for whatever reason. People need to keep each other in check. I don't remember everything about this guy anymore, but what I do remember made me think he had control issues.

Maybe. All the more reason to not engage. An ultimatum now will set the tone of not two people coming together but a relationship (in whatever form it takes) built on not a foundation of friendship but one that is combative and adversarial.
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U are absolutely right Libraurus.... The OP is far better off calling it quits and finding a far more suitable candidate like a fire sign than to go down the "ultimatum" Road. It's far too early in the game for that!
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Posted by JohnTheBaptist100
Posted by 4ever_confused
Posted by Bricks195
Some of the things I see on these forums make me shake my head.

"Is this a Taurus thing? Are all Scorpio men like this? If I make my Pisces feel more secure, will he stop passive-aggressively dicking me around and commit? Will my Sag stop cheating on me eventually if I'm patient?"

Smdh.

This guy sounds like he has a big problem with jealousy and now he's trying to make you jealous. He can't handle you having other guys in your life, so now he's got this other girl-maybe-and he's using her-if she's even real-to hurt you because he thinks you might have other guys in your life.

The fact that you couldn't get simpatico and meet up at the festival or subsequently probably adds to it for him.

When I was younger, jealousy was a bigger issue for me. It would bug me if I thought my girlfriend was flirting with someone else, but I never would say anything. It would stew inside me and the girl could usually tell, but I would deny it.

As I got older, I stopped getting so jealous. I think a couple of the girls I dated when I was younger really were too flirtacious with other people. The women I've dated as a full-blown adult haven't acted that way.

Hate to say it, but that contrast-super chill one minute, jealous bastard the next-is kind of a Taurus thing. I think we have a tendency to be placid and harmless as a rule, but easily triggered by certain things to be jerks.

That isn't an excuse, though. Your dude needs either time to grow up or someone to get in his face and tell him his bullbutter won't fly. Personally, I respect women who won't take my butter. Maybe he needs you to call him out on his jealousy issue, let him know you'll leave him in the dust if he doesn't cut the crap.


haha! i like how annoyed this is making you feel too! yes!!
i thought he was joking about there being other guys bit, i mean, is he serious? i never chase this much, but i really dig him.
i never saw it from that point of view, i wasn't being flakey because of another guy, it was literally the worst timing. my phone service cut off during the festival and i was dead asleep the second time. i can see it from his point of view though...
well for now he's ignoring me :/ i've tried giving him an ultimatum before but he will just drop me so hence why i've backpeddaled.


I'm not sure of your sun sign but DO NOT give ultimatums to anyone.... They don't work and you are in no position to especially to a Taurus male.. He will leave you in the dust forever once he has dug his hoofs in... He has already tried to go out with you a few times (although mine hunted me down for 18 months but that is another story). I suggest you stop chasing him and give him space and if he is still interested he will show up. Just continue to "obsess" from afar.

I'm a Taurus male and I suggest she give that Taurus male an ultimatum.

I am 100% in favor of turning the tables on someone whose actions make you feel pinned to a wall. I already don't like the jealousy issue with this guy. I think she should put his ass against the ropes fast, before she makes a real investment in him and that crap of his goes unchecked for so long that she thinks she has to play along.

If he's a decent guy, he'll start to reevaluate.


I like the way you think. But what kind of ultimatum would you suggest? I've already deleted him from Snapchat twice, matched with him on the dating app 3 times, and both flaked on hanging out a few times. I've told him twice that "this isn't a match" and "goodluck" and failed hard. He didn't budge, but he did start to kinda initiate again.

I don't know why you would start something that can only get going with a power play.

To me he sounds like he setting you up as a FWB.


also, I wasn't trying to use a power play exactly, more like I got annoyed and forgave him / got over bein annoyed. Seems like he did too cause he literally showed up to my house one day when I was sleepinz



No matter how it is painted ultimatums are two people wrestling over power. He may come round to your way of thinking but at what cost? Yeah, he may come to his senses and sort himself out but will it stick if the motivation is external?

He already tried exerting too much power in her life.

"I'm gonna show up when I feel like it and you should be ready for me. Who are these guys? How do you know them?"

To me, in my mind, that's disrespect and she has the right to assert her own power as opposed to letting him act that way freely.

I think it's a bad sign when one person wields all the power while the other allows it for whatever reason. People need to keep each other in check. I don't remember everything about this guy anymore, but what I do remember made me think he had control issues.
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Maybe. All the more reason to not engage. An ultimatum now will set the tone of not two people coming together but a relationship (in whatever form it takes) built on not a foundation of friendship but one that is combative and adversarial.
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Posted by jeane
Posted by 4ever_confused
Posted by jeane
Posted by 4ever_confused
Posted by Bricks195
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100
Posted by 4ever_confused
Posted by Bricks195
Some of the things I see on these forums make me shake my head.

"Is this a Taurus thing? Are all Scorpio men like this? If I make my Pisces feel more secure, will he stop passive-aggressively dicking me around and commit? Will my Sag stop cheating on me eventually if I'm patient?"

Smdh.

This guy sounds like he has a big problem with jealousy and now he's trying to make you jealous. He can't handle you having other guys in your life, so now he's got this other girl-maybe-and he's using her-if she's even real-to hurt you because he thinks you might have other guys in your life.

The fact that you couldn't get simpatico and meet up at the festival or subsequently probably adds to it for him.

When I was younger, jealousy was a bigger issue for me. It would bug me if I thought my girlfriend was flirting with someone else, but I never would say anything. It would stew inside me and the girl could usually tell, but I would deny it.

As I got older, I stopped getting so jealous. I think a couple of the girls I dated when I was younger really were too flirtacious with other people. The women I've dated as a full-blown adult haven't acted that way.

Hate to say it, but that contrast-super chill one minute, jealous bastard the next-is kind of a Taurus thing. I think we have a tendency to be placid and harmless as a rule, but easily triggered by certain things to be jerks.

That isn't an excuse, though. Your dude needs either time to grow up or someone to get in his face and tell him his bullbutter won't fly. Personally, I respect women who won't take my butter. Maybe he needs you to call him out on his jealousy issue, let him know you'll leave him in the dust if he doesn't cut the crap.


haha! i like how annoyed this is making you feel too! yes!!
i thought he was joking about there being other guys bit, i mean, is he serious? i never chase this much, but i really dig him.
i never saw it from that point of view, i wasn't being flakey because of another guy, it was literally the worst timing. my phone service cut off during the festival and i was dead asleep the second time. i can see it from his point of view though...
well for now he's ignoring me :/ i've tried giving him an ultimatum before but he will just drop me so hence why i've backpeddaled.


I'm not sure of your sun sign but DO NOT give ultimatums to anyone.... They don't work and you are in no position to especially to a Taurus male.. He will leave you in the dust forever once he has dug his hoofs in... He has already tried to go out with you a few times (although mine hunted me down for 18 months but that is another story). I suggest you stop chasing him and give him space and if he is still interested he will show up. Just continue to "obsess" from afar.

I'm a Taurus male and I suggest she give that Taurus male an ultimatum.

I am 100% in favor of turning the tables on someone whose actions make you feel pinned to a wall. I already don't like the jealousy issue with this guy. I think she should put his ass against the ropes fast, before she makes a real investment in him and that crap of his goes unchecked for so long that she thinks she has to play along.

If he's a decent guy, he'll start to reevaluate.


I like the way you think. But what kind of ultimatum would you suggest? I've already deleted him from Snapchat twice, matched with him on the dating app 3 times, and both flaked on hanging out a few times. I've told him twice that "this isn't a match" and "goodluck" and failed hard. He didn't budge, but he did start to kinda initiate again.

I don't know why you would start something that can only get going with a power play.

To me he sounds like he setting you up as a FWB.


also, I wasn't trying to use a power play exactly, more like I got annoyed and forgave him / got over bein annoyed. Seems like he did too cause he literally showed up to my house one day when I was sleepinz



No matter how it is painted ultimatums are two people wrestling over power. He may come round to your way of thinking but at what cost? Yeah, he may come to his senses and sort himself out but will it stick if the motivation is external?
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He already tried exerting too much power in her life.

"I'm gonna show up when I feel like it and you should be ready for me. Who are these guys? How do you know them?"

To me, in my mind, that's disrespect and she has the right to assert her own power as opposed to letting him act that way freely.

I think it's a bad sign when one person wields all the power while the other allows it for whatever reason. People need to keep each other in check. I don't remember everything about this guy anymore, but what I do remember made me think he had control issues.
He's a random person on a dating site, just find another.
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Posted by jeane
Posted by 4ever_confused
Posted by jeane
Posted by 4ever_confused
Posted by Bricks195
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100
Posted by 4ever_confused
Posted by Bricks195
Some of the things I see on these forums make me shake my head.

"Is this a Taurus thing? Are all Scorpio men like this? If I make my Pisces feel more secure, will he stop passive-aggressively dicking me around and commit? Will my Sag stop cheating on me eventually if I'm patient?"

Smdh.

This guy sounds like he has a big problem with jealousy and now he's trying to make you jealous. He can't handle you having other guys in your life, so now he's got this other girl-maybe-and he's using her-if she's even real-to hurt you because he thinks you might have other guys in your life.

The fact that you couldn't get simpatico and meet up at the festival or subsequently probably adds to it for him.

When I was younger, jealousy was a bigger issue for me. It would bug me if I thought my girlfriend was flirting with someone else, but I never would say anything. It would stew inside me and the girl could usually tell, but I would deny it.

As I got older, I stopped getting so jealous. I think a couple of the girls I dated when I was younger really were too flirtacious with other people. The women I've dated as a full-blown adult haven't acted that way.

Hate to say it, but that contrast-super chill one minute, jealous bastard the next-is kind of a Taurus thing. I think we have a tendency to be placid and harmless as a rule, but easily triggered by certain things to be jerks.

That isn't an excuse, though. Your dude needs either time to grow up or someone to get in his face and tell him his bullbutter won't fly. Personally, I respect women who won't take my butter. Maybe he needs you to call him out on his jealousy issue, let him know you'll leave him in the dust if he doesn't cut the crap.


haha! i like how annoyed this is making you feel too! yes!!
i thought he was joking about there being other guys bit, i mean, is he serious? i never chase this much, but i really dig him.
i never saw it from that point of view, i wasn't being flakey because of another guy, it was literally the worst timing. my phone service cut off during the festival and i was dead asleep the second time. i can see it from his point of view though...
well for now he's ignoring me :/ i've tried giving him an ultimatum before but he will just drop me so hence why i've backpeddaled.


I'm not sure of your sun sign but DO NOT give ultimatums to anyone.... They don't work and you are in no position to especially to a Taurus male.. He will leave you in the dust forever once he has dug his hoofs in... He has already tried to go out with you a few times (although mine hunted me down for 18 months but that is another story). I suggest you stop chasing him and give him space and if he is still interested he will show up. Just continue to "obsess" from afar.

I'm a Taurus male and I suggest she give that Taurus male an ultimatum.

I am 100% in favor of turning the tables on someone whose actions make you feel pinned to a wall. I already don't like the jealousy issue with this guy. I think she should put his ass against the ropes fast, before she makes a real investment in him and that crap of his goes unchecked for so long that she thinks she has to play along.

If he's a decent guy, he'll start to reevaluate.


I like the way you think. But what kind of ultimatum would you suggest? I've already deleted him from Snapchat twice, matched with him on the dating app 3 times, and both flaked on hanging out a few times. I've told him twice that "this isn't a match" and "goodluck" and failed hard. He didn't budge, but he did start to kinda initiate again.

I don't know why you would start something that can only get going with a power play.

To me he sounds like he setting you up as a FWB.


also, I wasn't trying to use a power play exactly, more like I got annoyed and forgave him / got over bein annoyed. Seems like he did too cause he literally showed up to my house one day when I was sleepinz



No matter how it is painted ultimatums are two people wrestling over power. He may come round to your way of thinking but at what cost? Yeah, he may come to his senses and sort himself out but will it stick if the motivation is external?
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Yeah girl I'm not sure, idk idk. Time for another nap. I'll update this thread if anything changes!
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Posted by jeane
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Posted by Bricks195
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100
Posted by 4ever_confused
Posted by Bricks195
Some of the things I see on these forums make me shake my head.

"Is this a Taurus thing? Are all Scorpio men like this? If I make my Pisces feel more secure, will he stop passive-aggressively dicking me around and commit? Will my Sag stop cheating on me eventually if I'm patient?"

Smdh.

This guy sounds like he has a big problem with jealousy and now he's trying to make you jealous. He can't handle you having other guys in your life, so now he's got this other girl-maybe-and he's using her-if she's even real-to hurt you because he thinks you might have other guys in your life.

The fact that you couldn't get simpatico and meet up at the festival or subsequently probably adds to it for him.

When I was younger, jealousy was a bigger issue for me. It would bug me if I thought my girlfriend was flirting with someone else, but I never would say anything. It would stew inside me and the girl could usually tell, but I would deny it.

As I got older, I stopped getting so jealous. I think a couple of the girls I dated when I was younger really were too flirtacious with other people. The women I've dated as a full-blown adult haven't acted that way.

Hate to say it, but that contrast-super chill one minute, jealous bastard the next-is kind of a Taurus thing. I think we have a tendency to be placid and harmless as a rule, but easily triggered by certain things to be jerks.

That isn't an excuse, though. Your dude needs either time to grow up or someone to get in his face and tell him his bullbutter won't fly. Personally, I respect women who won't take my butter. Maybe he needs you to call him out on his jealousy issue, let him know you'll leave him in the dust if he doesn't cut the crap.


haha! i like how annoyed this is making you feel too! yes!!
i thought he was joking about there being other guys bit, i mean, is he serious? i never chase this much, but i really dig him.
i never saw it from that point of view, i wasn't being flakey because of another guy, it was literally the worst timing. my phone service cut off during the festival and i was dead asleep the second time. i can see it from his point of view though...
well for now he's ignoring me :/ i've tried giving him an ultimatum before but he will just drop me so hence why i've backpeddaled.


I'm not sure of your sun sign but DO NOT give ultimatums to anyone.... They don't work and you are in no position to especially to a Taurus male.. He will leave you in the dust forever once he has dug his hoofs in... He has already tried to go out with you a few times (although mine hunted me down for 18 months but that is another story). I suggest you stop chasing him and give him space and if he is still interested he will show up. Just continue to "obsess" from afar.

I'm a Taurus male and I suggest she give that Taurus male an ultimatum.

I am 100% in favor of turning the tables on someone whose actions make you feel pinned to a wall. I already don't like the jealousy issue with this guy. I think she should put his ass against the ropes fast, before she makes a real investment in him and that crap of his goes unchecked for so long that she thinks she has to play along.

If he's a decent guy, he'll start to reevaluate.


I like the way you think. But what kind of ultimatum would you suggest? I've already deleted him from Snapchat twice, matched with him on the dating app 3 times, and both flaked on hanging out a few times. I've told him twice that "this isn't a match" and "goodluck" and failed hard. He didn't budge, but he did start to kinda initiate again.

I don't know why you would start something that can only get going with a power play.

To me he sounds like he setting you up as a FWB.


also, I wasn't trying to use a power play exactly, more like I got annoyed and forgave him / got over bein annoyed. Seems like he did too cause he literally showed up to my house one day when I was sleepinz

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No matter how it is painted ultimatums are two people wrestling over power. He may come round to your way of thinking but at what cost? Yeah, he may come to his senses and sort himself out but will it stick if the motivation is external?
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Posted by 4ever_confused
Posted by Bricks195
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100
Posted by 4ever_confused
Posted by Bricks195
Some of the things I see on these forums make me shake my head.

"Is this a Taurus thing? Are all Scorpio men like this? If I make my Pisces feel more secure, will he stop passive-aggressively dicking me around and commit? Will my Sag stop cheating on me eventually if I'm patient?"

Smdh.

This guy sounds like he has a big problem with jealousy and now he's trying to make you jealous. He can't handle you having other guys in your life, so now he's got this other girl-maybe-and he's using her-if she's even real-to hurt you because he thinks you might have other guys in your life.

The fact that you couldn't get simpatico and meet up at the festival or subsequently probably adds to it for him.

When I was younger, jealousy was a bigger issue for me. It would bug me if I thought my girlfriend was flirting with someone else, but I never would say anything. It would stew inside me and the girl could usually tell, but I would deny it.

As I got older, I stopped getting so jealous. I think a couple of the girls I dated when I was younger really were too flirtacious with other people. The women I've dated as a full-blown adult haven't acted that way.

Hate to say it, but that contrast-super chill one minute, jealous bastard the next-is kind of a Taurus thing. I think we have a tendency to be placid and harmless as a rule, but easily triggered by certain things to be jerks.

That isn't an excuse, though. Your dude needs either time to grow up or someone to get in his face and tell him his bullbutter won't fly. Personally, I respect women who won't take my butter. Maybe he needs you to call him out on his jealousy issue, let him know you'll leave him in the dust if he doesn't cut the crap.


haha! i like how annoyed this is making you feel too! yes!!
i thought he was joking about there being other guys bit, i mean, is he serious? i never chase this much, but i really dig him.
i never saw it from that point of view, i wasn't being flakey because of another guy, it was literally the worst timing. my phone service cut off during the festival and i was dead asleep the second time. i can see it from his point of view though...
well for now he's ignoring me :/ i've tried giving him an ultimatum before but he will just drop me so hence why i've backpeddaled.


I'm not sure of your sun sign but DO NOT give ultimatums to anyone.... They don't work and you are in no position to especially to a Taurus male.. He will leave you in the dust forever once he has dug his hoofs in... He has already tried to go out with you a few times (although mine hunted me down for 18 months but that is another story). I suggest you stop chasing him and give him space and if he is still interested he will show up. Just continue to "obsess" from afar.

I'm a Taurus male and I suggest she give that Taurus male an ultimatum.

I am 100% in favor of turning the tables on someone whose actions make you feel pinned to a wall. I already don't like the jealousy issue with this guy. I think she should put his ass against the ropes fast, before she makes a real investment in him and that crap of his goes unchecked for so long that she thinks she has to play along.

If he's a decent guy, he'll start to reevaluate.


I like the way you think. But what kind of ultimatum would you suggest? I've already deleted him from Snapchat twice, matched with him on the dating app 3 times, and both flaked on hanging out a few times. I've told him twice that "this isn't a match" and "goodluck" and failed hard. He didn't budge, but he did start to kinda initiate again.

I don't know what kind of ultimatum. If you guys are barely talking right now, I'd say don't bother. Just go on with your life.

If he pops up here and there, contacts you to complain about his life, hangs out with you and acts like he owns you and no one can talk to you, that's when you need to set things straight.

Even if he just goes back to stalking your Snapchat and asking about the guys you hang out with. That would be a good time to tell him he better stop acting like you can't have guys as friends or he can get lost and bother someone else.

Are you still trying to have a relationship with him? I'm starting to forget all the details here lol.
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Thanks for the advice bricks!! I'll try to retain your kickass attitude πŸ’‚πŸ½
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Posted by jeane
Posted by 4ever_confused
Posted by Bricks195
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100
Posted by 4ever_confused
Posted by Bricks195
Some of the things I see on these forums make me shake my head.

"Is this a Taurus thing? Are all Scorpio men like this? If I make my Pisces feel more secure, will he stop passive-aggressively dicking me around and commit? Will my Sag stop cheating on me eventually if I'm patient?"

Smdh.

This guy sounds like he has a big problem with jealousy and now he's trying to make you jealous. He can't handle you having other guys in your life, so now he's got this other girl-maybe-and he's using her-if she's even real-to hurt you because he thinks you might have other guys in your life.

The fact that you couldn't get simpatico and meet up at the festival or subsequently probably adds to it for him.

When I was younger, jealousy was a bigger issue for me. It would bug me if I thought my girlfriend was flirting with someone else, but I never would say anything. It would stew inside me and the girl could usually tell, but I would deny it.

As I got older, I stopped getting so jealous. I think a couple of the girls I dated when I was younger really were too flirtacious with other people. The women I've dated as a full-blown adult haven't acted that way.

Hate to say it, but that contrast-super chill one minute, jealous bastard the next-is kind of a Taurus thing. I think we have a tendency to be placid and harmless as a rule, but easily triggered by certain things to be jerks.

That isn't an excuse, though. Your dude needs either time to grow up or someone to get in his face and tell him his bullbutter won't fly. Personally, I respect women who won't take my butter. Maybe he needs you to call him out on his jealousy issue, let him know you'll leave him in the dust if he doesn't cut the crap.


haha! i like how annoyed this is making you feel too! yes!!
i thought he was joking about there being other guys bit, i mean, is he serious? i never chase this much, but i really dig him.
i never saw it from that point of view, i wasn't being flakey because of another guy, it was literally the worst timing. my phone service cut off during the festival and i was dead asleep the second time. i can see it from his point of view though...
well for now he's ignoring me :/ i've tried giving him an ultimatum before but he will just drop me so hence why i've backpeddaled.


I'm not sure of your sun sign but DO NOT give ultimatums to anyone.... They don't work and you are in no position to especially to a Taurus male.. He will leave you in the dust forever once he has dug his hoofs in... He has already tried to go out with you a few times (although mine hunted me down for 18 months but that is another story). I suggest you stop chasing him and give him space and if he is still interested he will show up. Just continue to "obsess" from afar.

I'm a Taurus male and I suggest she give that Taurus male an ultimatum.

I am 100% in favor of turning the tables on someone whose actions make you feel pinned to a wall. I already don't like the jealousy issue with this guy. I think she should put his ass against the ropes fast, before she makes a real investment in him and that crap of his goes unchecked for so long that she thinks she has to play along.

If he's a decent guy, he'll start to reevaluate.


I like the way you think. But what kind of ultimatum would you suggest? I've already deleted him from Snapchat twice, matched with him on the dating app 3 times, and both flaked on hanging out a few times. I've told him twice that "this isn't a match" and "goodluck" and failed hard. He didn't budge, but he did start to kinda initiate again.

I don't know why you would start something that can only get going with a power play.

To me he sounds like he setting you up as a FWB.


Yeah possibly. Hence my username, 4everconfused, I still don't understand what the heck is going on or why he's acting like this, but I'm not super attached to what's going to happen. I posted this topic to try to decipher his behavior and I'm intrigued by all the different responses I've gotten πŸ€“

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Basically you come across as being in "awe" of him and would use any kind of desperate measure to get him to date you but he is totally not having any of it.. The "beginning" stages should not be this hard and if he is "out of your league" it just signifies that he is better looking than you and Taurus being quite superficial and into beauty, he may not think that you are his "ideal"... I could be wrong... But I think you are biting more than you can chew here...
female
aqua sun taurus moon *~
Posted by Bricks195
Posted by 4ever_confused
Posted by Bricks195
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100
Posted by 4ever_confused
Posted by Bricks195
Some of the things I see on these forums make me shake my head.

"Is this a Taurus thing? Are all Scorpio men like this? If I make my Pisces feel more secure, will he stop passive-aggressively dicking me around and commit? Will my Sag stop cheating on me eventually if I'm patient?"

Smdh.

This guy sounds like he has a big problem with jealousy and now he's trying to make you jealous. He can't handle you having other guys in your life, so now he's got this other girl-maybe-and he's using her-if she's even real-to hurt you because he thinks you might have other guys in your life.

The fact that you couldn't get simpatico and meet up at the festival or subsequently probably adds to it for him.

When I was younger, jealousy was a bigger issue for me. It would bug me if I thought my girlfriend was flirting with someone else, but I never would say anything. It would stew inside me and the girl could usually tell, but I would deny it.

As I got older, I stopped getting so jealous. I think a couple of the girls I dated when I was younger really were too flirtacious with other people. The women I've dated as a full-blown adult haven't acted that way.

Hate to say it, but that contrast-super chill one minute, jealous bastard the next-is kind of a Taurus thing. I think we have a tendency to be placid and harmless as a rule, but easily triggered by certain things to be jerks.

That isn't an excuse, though. Your dude needs either time to grow up or someone to get in his face and tell him his bullbutter won't fly. Personally, I respect women who won't take my butter. Maybe he needs you to call him out on his jealousy issue, let him know you'll leave him in the dust if he doesn't cut the crap.


haha! i like how annoyed this is making you feel too! yes!!
i thought he was joking about there being other guys bit, i mean, is he serious? i never chase this much, but i really dig him.
i never saw it from that point of view, i wasn't being flakey because of another guy, it was literally the worst timing. my phone service cut off during the festival and i was dead asleep the second time. i can see it from his point of view though...
well for now he's ignoring me :/ i've tried giving him an ultimatum before but he will just drop me so hence why i've backpeddaled.


I'm not sure of your sun sign but DO NOT give ultimatums to anyone.... They don't work and you are in no position to especially to a Taurus male.. He will leave you in the dust forever once he has dug his hoofs in... He has already tried to go out with you a few times (although mine hunted me down for 18 months but that is another story). I suggest you stop chasing him and give him space and if he is still interested he will show up. Just continue to "obsess" from afar.

I'm a Taurus male and I suggest she give that Taurus male an ultimatum.

I am 100% in favor of turning the tables on someone whose actions make you feel pinned to a wall. I already don't like the jealousy issue with this guy. I think she should put his ass against the ropes fast, before she makes a real investment in him and that crap of his goes unchecked for so long that she thinks she has to play along.

If he's a decent guy, he'll start to reevaluate.


I like the way you think. But what kind of ultimatum would you suggest? I've already deleted him from Snapchat twice, matched with him on the dating app 3 times, and both flaked on hanging out a few times. I've told him twice that "this isn't a match" and "goodluck" and failed hard. He didn't budge, but he did start to kinda initiate again.

I don't know what kind of ultimatum. If you guys are barely talking right now, I'd say don't bother. Just go on with your life.

If he pops up here and there, contacts you to complain about his life, hangs out with you and acts like he owns you and no one can talk to you, that's when you need to set things straight.

Even if he just goes back to stalking your Snapchat and asking about the guys you hang out with. That would be a good time to tell him he better stop acting like you can't have guys as friends or he can get lost and bother someone else.

Are you still trying to have a relationship with him? I'm starting to forget all the details here lol.
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yeah idk either 5 pages in and everyone's messages are blurring together.
female
aqua sun taurus moon *~
Posted by jeane
Posted by 4ever_confused
Posted by Bricks195
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100
Posted by 4ever_confused
Posted by Bricks195
Some of the things I see on these forums make me shake my head.

"Is this a Taurus thing? Are all Scorpio men like this? If I make my Pisces feel more secure, will he stop passive-aggressively dicking me around and commit? Will my Sag stop cheating on me eventually if I'm patient?"

Smdh.

This guy sounds like he has a big problem with jealousy and now he's trying to make you jealous. He can't handle you having other guys in your life, so now he's got this other girl-maybe-and he's using her-if she's even real-to hurt you because he thinks you might have other guys in your life.

The fact that you couldn't get simpatico and meet up at the festival or subsequently probably adds to it for him.

When I was younger, jealousy was a bigger issue for me. It would bug me if I thought my girlfriend was flirting with someone else, but I never would say anything. It would stew inside me and the girl could usually tell, but I would deny it.

As I got older, I stopped getting so jealous. I think a couple of the girls I dated when I was younger really were too flirtacious with other people. The women I've dated as a full-blown adult haven't acted that way.

Hate to say it, but that contrast-super chill one minute, jealous bastard the next-is kind of a Taurus thing. I think we have a tendency to be placid and harmless as a rule, but easily triggered by certain things to be jerks.

That isn't an excuse, though. Your dude needs either time to grow up or someone to get in his face and tell him his bullbutter won't fly. Personally, I respect women who won't take my butter. Maybe he needs you to call him out on his jealousy issue, let him know you'll leave him in the dust if he doesn't cut the crap.


haha! i like how annoyed this is making you feel too! yes!!
i thought he was joking about there being other guys bit, i mean, is he serious? i never chase this much, but i really dig him.
i never saw it from that point of view, i wasn't being flakey because of another guy, it was literally the worst timing. my phone service cut off during the festival and i was dead asleep the second time. i can see it from his point of view though...
well for now he's ignoring me :/ i've tried giving him an ultimatum before but he will just drop me so hence why i've backpeddaled.


I'm not sure of your sun sign but DO NOT give ultimatums to anyone.... They don't work and you are in no position to especially to a Taurus male.. He will leave you in the dust forever once he has dug his hoofs in... He has already tried to go out with you a few times (although mine hunted me down for 18 months but that is another story). I suggest you stop chasing him and give him space and if he is still interested he will show up. Just continue to "obsess" from afar.

I'm a Taurus male and I suggest she give that Taurus male an ultimatum.

I am 100% in favor of turning the tables on someone whose actions make you feel pinned to a wall. I already don't like the jealousy issue with this guy. I think she should put his ass against the ropes fast, before she makes a real investment in him and that crap of his goes unchecked for so long that she thinks she has to play along.

If he's a decent guy, he'll start to reevaluate.


I like the way you think. But what kind of ultimatum would you suggest? I've already deleted him from Snapchat twice, matched with him on the dating app 3 times, and both flaked on hanging out a few times. I've told him twice that "this isn't a match" and "goodluck" and failed hard. He didn't budge, but he did start to kinda initiate again.

I don't know why you would start something that can only get going with a power play.

To me he sounds like he setting you up as a FWB.
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also, I wasn't trying to use a power play exactly, more like I got annoyed and forgave him / got over bein annoyed. Seems like he did too cause he literally showed up to my house one day when I was sleepinz

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Sun in Bull, Moon in Fish, etc.
Posted by 4ever_confused
Posted by Bricks195
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100
Posted by 4ever_confused
Posted by Bricks195
Some of the things I see on these forums make me shake my head.

"Is this a Taurus thing? Are all Scorpio men like this? If I make my Pisces feel more secure, will he stop passive-aggressively dicking me around and commit? Will my Sag stop cheating on me eventually if I'm patient?"

Smdh.

This guy sounds like he has a big problem with jealousy and now he's trying to make you jealous. He can't handle you having other guys in your life, so now he's got this other girl-maybe-and he's using her-if she's even real-to hurt you because he thinks you might have other guys in your life.

The fact that you couldn't get simpatico and meet up at the festival or subsequently probably adds to it for him.

When I was younger, jealousy was a bigger issue for me. It would bug me if I thought my girlfriend was flirting with someone else, but I never would say anything. It would stew inside me and the girl could usually tell, but I would deny it.

As I got older, I stopped getting so jealous. I think a couple of the girls I dated when I was younger really were too flirtacious with other people. The women I've dated as a full-blown adult haven't acted that way.

Hate to say it, but that contrast-super chill one minute, jealous bastard the next-is kind of a Taurus thing. I think we have a tendency to be placid and harmless as a rule, but easily triggered by certain things to be jerks.

That isn't an excuse, though. Your dude needs either time to grow up or someone to get in his face and tell him his bullbutter won't fly. Personally, I respect women who won't take my butter. Maybe he needs you to call him out on his jealousy issue, let him know you'll leave him in the dust if he doesn't cut the crap.


haha! i like how annoyed this is making you feel too! yes!!
i thought he was joking about there being other guys bit, i mean, is he serious? i never chase this much, but i really dig him.
i never saw it from that point of view, i wasn't being flakey because of another guy, it was literally the worst timing. my phone service cut off during the festival and i was dead asleep the second time. i can see it from his point of view though...
well for now he's ignoring me :/ i've tried giving him an ultimatum before but he will just drop me so hence why i've backpeddaled.


I'm not sure of your sun sign but DO NOT give ultimatums to anyone.... They don't work and you are in no position to especially to a Taurus male.. He will leave you in the dust forever once he has dug his hoofs in... He has already tried to go out with you a few times (although mine hunted me down for 18 months but that is another story). I suggest you stop chasing him and give him space and if he is still interested he will show up. Just continue to "obsess" from afar.

I'm a Taurus male and I suggest she give that Taurus male an ultimatum.

I am 100% in favor of turning the tables on someone whose actions make you feel pinned to a wall. I already don't like the jealousy issue with this guy. I think she should put his ass against the ropes fast, before she makes a real investment in him and that crap of his goes unchecked for so long that she thinks she has to play along.

If he's a decent guy, he'll start to reevaluate.


I like the way you think. But what kind of ultimatum would you suggest? I've already deleted him from Snapchat twice, matched with him on the dating app 3 times, and both flaked on hanging out a few times. I've told him twice that "this isn't a match" and "goodluck" and failed hard. He didn't budge, but he did start to kinda initiate again.
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I don't know what kind of ultimatum. If you guys are barely talking right now, I'd say don't bother. Just go on with your life.

If he pops up here and there, contacts you to complain about his life, hangs out with you and acts like he owns you and no one can talk to you, that's when you need to set things straight.

Even if he just goes back to stalking your Snapchat and asking about the guys you hang out with. That would be a good time to tell him he better stop acting like you can't have guys as friends or he can get lost and bother someone else.

Are you still trying to have a relationship with him? I'm starting to forget all the details here lol.
female
aqua sun taurus moon *~
Posted by jeane
Posted by 4ever_confused
Posted by Bricks195
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100
Posted by 4ever_confused
Posted by Bricks195
Some of the things I see on these forums make me shake my head.

"Is this a Taurus thing? Are all Scorpio men like this? If I make my Pisces feel more secure, will he stop passive-aggressively dicking me around and commit? Will my Sag stop cheating on me eventually if I'm patient?"

Smdh.

This guy sounds like he has a big problem with jealousy and now he's trying to make you jealous. He can't handle you having other guys in your life, so now he's got this other girl-maybe-and he's using her-if she's even real-to hurt you because he thinks you might have other guys in your life.

The fact that you couldn't get simpatico and meet up at the festival or subsequently probably adds to it for him.

When I was younger, jealousy was a bigger issue for me. It would bug me if I thought my girlfriend was flirting with someone else, but I never would say anything. It would stew inside me and the girl could usually tell, but I would deny it.

As I got older, I stopped getting so jealous. I think a couple of the girls I dated when I was younger really were too flirtacious with other people. The women I've dated as a full-blown adult haven't acted that way.

Hate to say it, but that contrast-super chill one minute, jealous bastard the next-is kind of a Taurus thing. I think we have a tendency to be placid and harmless as a rule, but easily triggered by certain things to be jerks.

That isn't an excuse, though. Your dude needs either time to grow up or someone to get in his face and tell him his bullbutter won't fly. Personally, I respect women who won't take my butter. Maybe he needs you to call him out on his jealousy issue, let him know you'll leave him in the dust if he doesn't cut the crap.


haha! i like how annoyed this is making you feel too! yes!!
i thought he was joking about there being other guys bit, i mean, is he serious? i never chase this much, but i really dig him.
i never saw it from that point of view, i wasn't being flakey because of another guy, it was literally the worst timing. my phone service cut off during the festival and i was dead asleep the second time. i can see it from his point of view though...
well for now he's ignoring me :/ i've tried giving him an ultimatum before but he will just drop me so hence why i've backpeddaled.


I'm not sure of your sun sign but DO NOT give ultimatums to anyone.... They don't work and you are in no position to especially to a Taurus male.. He will leave you in the dust forever once he has dug his hoofs in... He has already tried to go out with you a few times (although mine hunted me down for 18 months but that is another story). I suggest you stop chasing him and give him space and if he is still interested he will show up. Just continue to "obsess" from afar.

I'm a Taurus male and I suggest she give that Taurus male an ultimatum.

I am 100% in favor of turning the tables on someone whose actions make you feel pinned to a wall. I already don't like the jealousy issue with this guy. I think she should put his ass against the ropes fast, before she makes a real investment in him and that crap of his goes unchecked for so long that she thinks she has to play along.

If he's a decent guy, he'll start to reevaluate.


I like the way you think. But what kind of ultimatum would you suggest? I've already deleted him from Snapchat twice, matched with him on the dating app 3 times, and both flaked on hanging out a few times. I've told him twice that "this isn't a match" and "goodluck" and failed hard. He didn't budge, but he did start to kinda initiate again.

I don't know why you would start something that can only get going with a power play.

To me he sounds like he setting you up as a FWB.
click to expand


Yeah possibly. Hence my username, 4everconfused, I still don't understand what the heck is going on or why he's acting like this, but I'm not super attached to what's going to happen. I posted this topic to try to decipher his behavior and I'm intrigued by all the different responses I've gotten πŸ€“

Posted by 4ever_confused
Posted by Bricks195
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100
Posted by 4ever_confused
Posted by Bricks195
Some of the things I see on these forums make me shake my head.

"Is this a Taurus thing? Are all Scorpio men like this? If I make my Pisces feel more secure, will he stop passive-aggressively dicking me around and commit? Will my Sag stop cheating on me eventually if I'm patient?"

Smdh.

This guy sounds like he has a big problem with jealousy and now he's trying to make you jealous. He can't handle you having other guys in your life, so now he's got this other girl-maybe-and he's using her-if she's even real-to hurt you because he thinks you might have other guys in your life.

The fact that you couldn't get simpatico and meet up at the festival or subsequently probably adds to it for him.

When I was younger, jealousy was a bigger issue for me. It would bug me if I thought my girlfriend was flirting with someone else, but I never would say anything. It would stew inside me and the girl could usually tell, but I would deny it.

As I got older, I stopped getting so jealous. I think a couple of the girls I dated when I was younger really were too flirtacious with other people. The women I've dated as a full-blown adult haven't acted that way.

Hate to say it, but that contrast-super chill one minute, jealous bastard the next-is kind of a Taurus thing. I think we have a tendency to be placid and harmless as a rule, but easily triggered by certain things to be jerks.

That isn't an excuse, though. Your dude needs either time to grow up or someone to get in his face and tell him his bullbutter won't fly. Personally, I respect women who won't take my butter. Maybe he needs you to call him out on his jealousy issue, let him know you'll leave him in the dust if he doesn't cut the crap.


haha! i like how annoyed this is making you feel too! yes!!
i thought he was joking about there being other guys bit, i mean, is he serious? i never chase this much, but i really dig him.
i never saw it from that point of view, i wasn't being flakey because of another guy, it was literally the worst timing. my phone service cut off during the festival and i was dead asleep the second time. i can see it from his point of view though...
well for now he's ignoring me :/ i've tried giving him an ultimatum before but he will just drop me so hence why i've backpeddaled.


I'm not sure of your sun sign but DO NOT give ultimatums to anyone.... They don't work and you are in no position to especially to a Taurus male.. He will leave you in the dust forever once he has dug his hoofs in... He has already tried to go out with you a few times (although mine hunted me down for 18 months but that is another story). I suggest you stop chasing him and give him space and if he is still interested he will show up. Just continue to "obsess" from afar.

I'm a Taurus male and I suggest she give that Taurus male an ultimatum.

I am 100% in favor of turning the tables on someone whose actions make you feel pinned to a wall. I already don't like the jealousy issue with this guy. I think she should put his ass against the ropes fast, before she makes a real investment in him and that crap of his goes unchecked for so long that she thinks she has to play along.

If he's a decent guy, he'll start to reevaluate.


I like the way you think. But what kind of ultimatum would you suggest? I've already deleted him from Snapchat twice, matched with him on the dating app 3 times, and both flaked on hanging out a few times. I've told him twice that "this isn't a match" and "goodluck" and failed hard. He didn't budge, but he did start to kinda initiate again.
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I don't know why you would start something that can only get going with a power play.

To me he sounds like he setting you up as a FWB.
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