Priorities

Just wondering if I'm the only Taurus that put work before a relationship, I mean it seems about right ..

Probably, my ex was stuck up my ass and never focused on work or any goals for that matter lol good job

Posted by AntiSocial
Just wondering if I'm the only Taurus that put work before a relationship, I mean it seems about right ..

I'm confused. "My" normal work schedule is M-F (no weekends, no overtime), Federal holidays off, 6:45 am-3:45 pm with two breaks in between. When I come to work I put on my "work hat on". Afterwards, whatever I do is "my time/my business". I do NOT bring my problems from home to work and vice/versa.

Okay, now about a relationship. IF he's my SO and he got hurt, I will submit a leave form and leave work to be with him. If he had a flat tire on his truck; by all means, I don't need to be there for him. If he's sick; he can take care of himself and/or drive to a doctor's appointment on his own; until I get home I can make chicken noodle soup, hand him a box of Kleenex, etc.

My work ethics are such as well as my "relationship" is. MY priorities are stated above as I need my job if I want: a roof over my head, food in my tummy, gas for my SUV, full coverage insurance for SUV, etc., etc, etc.

NOW, if you're a workaholic and neglecting your "relationship" you have to start focusing on that.

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

Posted by Redbull
Fa sho. Im assuming you mean romantic relationships. Cant do that without finances and work and that in an adequate place. Need the necessary comfort level. Priorities are important.

Can you please elaborate on not being able to have a romantic relationship without finances/work in order?

My relationships typically do take a large priority, I wouldn't sacrifice love for success/money/work. So just trying to understand your perspective as Taurus

Well sure I get lonely & I appreciate the company, but when I look at the bigger picture, I have to be focus on my work and avoid distractions that might seem cold but it doesn't benefit me being a bum for the sake of a relationship.

Posted by AntiSocial
Well sure I get lonely & I appreciate the company, but when I look at the bigger picture, I have to be focus on my work and avoid distractions that might seem cold but it doesn't benefit me being a bum for the sake of a relationship.

Why not both though?

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Posted by AntiSocial
Well sure I get lonely & I appreciate the company, but when I look at the bigger picture, I have to be focus on my work and avoid distractions that might seem cold but it doesn't benefit me being a bum for the sake of a relationship.

Why not both though?

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Have you ever missed your bf/gf bday or say you can't see them because you want to get an A on that test for weeks and the feeling of being successful is way more gratifying. Being lonely I can handle, but not giving yourself the best I can't even.

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Well sure I get lonely & I appreciate the company, but when I look at the bigger picture, I have to be focus on my work and avoid distractions that might seem cold but it doesn't benefit me being a bum for the sake of a relationship.

Why not both though?

Have you ever missed your bf/gf bday or say you can't see them because you want to get an A on that test for weeks and the feeling of being successful is way more gratifying. Being lonely I can handle, but not giving yourself the best I can't even.

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I mean... kind of?? Idk, I always preferred my boo lol success/money/materialism is never as fulfilling as a valuable relationship. You study for 1 year for that test, you feel great for that day, month, year but eventually you move on to what's next. But put effort, time and love into a valuable relationship and the satisfaction, bond and connection can last a lifetime. Seems like an easy choice for me... and then there's sex 😄

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Well sure I get lonely & I appreciate the company, but when I look at the bigger picture, I have to be focus on my work and avoid distractions that might seem cold but it doesn't benefit me being a bum for the sake of a relationship.

Why not both though?

Have you ever missed your bf/gf bday or say you can't see them because you want to get an A on that test for weeks and the feeling of being successful is way more gratifying. Being lonely I can handle, but not giving yourself the best I can't even.

I mean... kind of?? Idk, I always preferred my boo lol success/money/materialism is never as fulfilling as a valuable relationship. You study for 1 year for that test, you feel great for that day, month, year but eventually you move on to what's next. But put effort, time and love into a valuable relationship and the satisfaction, bond and connection can last a lifetime. Seems like an easy choice for me... and then there's sex 😄

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I've been there, my sex life is great I'm a Taurus & could go on for days, it's not like I starve my gf of that; but it doesn't mean I feel totally great if my life feels like I'm missing something just cause I'm getting mind blowing sex, knowing I can be a greater person. What are you going to do when you break up ,find another partner? Or be great as a person on your own with all the skills you can learn & accomplishments , you only get one life and time is valuable.

One of my best friends is a Taurus. Mom of two, works FT and goes to school. Puts up with her Sag husband. Strongest person I know.

Then there’s the Taurus I dated. Work ethic similar to yours. Except it wasn’t. He used work as a barrier because he wasn’t ready for a relationship.

So, yeah. Think it just depends on how much value you put on a relationship. That’s most people tho, when you think about it.

Posted by AntiSocial

What are you going to do when you break up ,find another partner? Or be great as a person on your own with all the skills you can learn & accomplishments , you only get one life and time is valuable.

lol, such a typical pragmatic Taurus. Most bulls I know have the same mindset, though. With money being one of the leading causes for divorce, it makes sense to want to get your career goals and finances in good standing before investing in a relationship.

I think it's admirable, as long as you don't take it too far. Ultimately, companionship is more important than money, but only if you have enough of the latter.

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What are you going to do when you break up ,find another partner? Or be great as a person on your own with all the skills you can learn & accomplishments , you only get one life and time is valuable.

lol, such a typical pragmatic Taurus. Most bulls I know have the same mindset, though. With money being one of the leading causes for divorce, it makes sense to want to get your career goals and finances in good standing before investing in a relationship.

I think it's admirable, as long as you don't take it too far. Ultimately, companionship is more important than money, but only if you have enough of the latter.

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Thinking about high school to college , it was cute those relationships, oh I'm not married , I'm still young. You sound confuse though, enough of the latter?

work before relationship all the way.

until i'm stable financially.

relationship is second

Posted by Sodapop
I read an article written by a psychologist about the bachelorette finale (Rachel is a Taurus) and described how sometimes these driven workoholic people sacrifice love for success (she didn’t choose the man she actually WANTED because she had a specific goal in mind) and it really made me realize how unhealthy this is. Maybe you don’t think so right now but I think as you get older you’ll appreciate relationships more.

I think people and relationships are irreplaceable. At least the good ones.

Reminds me of a taurus friend. We were both single at a time. There was a guy she really liked, but she felt like he wouldn't ask her to marry him for a while. Around that same time I met someone who I started to really fall for. He treated me the same way this guy treated her. Loving, affectionate, gentle, caring when she was sick. Was always there, didn't criticize much. When my guy started discussing future plans with me, hers was still saying he needed some time for some things to settle in his life. She left him when she met a Virgo who said women always leave him, that he wanted to get married and have children soon. He was also older so it was possible it would be soon.

I felt like that was her goal actually....to get married and have kids (which is not a bad thing in general.) But now she "puts up with him" not being as affectionate and loving, I feel that if she had chosen for love in the first place, she would be happier with someone more compatible right now.

The sad part is that guy's life has now settled and he is doing very well for himself. She sometimes brings him up when venting about the Virgo. They are now married and she's constantly upset about how he is. Yet, I know will still have kids with him because she "feels stuck"....since she married him, se's supposed to be the one she has kids with.

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Well sure I get lonely & I appreciate the company, but when I look at the bigger picture, I have to be focus on my work and avoid distractions that might seem cold but it doesn't benefit me being a bum for the sake of a relationship.

Why not both though?

Have you ever missed your bf/gf bday or say you can't see them because you want to get an A on that test for weeks and the feeling of being successful is way more gratifying. Being lonely I can handle, but not giving yourself the best I can't even.

No one in his dying bed ever says “Geez, which I took more shifts at work!” No, they say wish we spent more time with those we love.

I’m not saying throw your education and career away, that’s just stupid and you won’t have a relationship if you don’t have them, but the word sacrifice one for the other bears too much risk for me.

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I agree with you totally!! And also holy fuck, my ex is a taurus sun, cap moon STUBBORN TO DEATH and always very practical (major eye roll)

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Well sure I get lonely & I appreciate the company, but when I look at the bigger picture, I have to be focus on my work and avoid distractions that might seem cold but it doesn't benefit me being a bum for the sake of a relationship.

Why not both though?

Have you ever missed your bf/gf bday or say you can't see them because you want to get an A on that test for weeks and the feeling of being successful is way more gratifying. Being lonely I can handle, but not giving yourself the best I can't even.

No one in his dying bed ever says “Geez, which I took more shifts at work!” No, they say wish we spent more time with those we love.

I’m not saying throw your education and career away, that’s just stupid and you won’t have a relationship if you don’t have them, but the word sacrifice one for the other bears too much risk for me.

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Not saying you're wrong, but I don't want to be my dying bed either wishing I could've done more in life and not just think about smashing.

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Posted by AntiSocial
Well sure I get lonely & I appreciate the company, but when I look at the bigger picture, I have to be focus on my work and avoid distractions that might seem cold but it doesn't benefit me being a bum for the sake of a relationship.

Why not both though?

Have you ever missed your bf/gf bday or say you can't see them because you want to get an A on that test for weeks and the feeling of being successful is way more gratifying. Being lonely I can handle, but not giving yourself the best I can't even.

No one in his dying bed ever says “Geez, which I took more shifts at work!” No, they say wish we spent more time with those we love.

I’m not saying throw your education and career away, that’s just stupid and you won’t have a relationship if you don’t have them, but the word sacrifice one for the other bears too much risk for me.

Not saying you're wrong, but I don't want to be my dying bed either wishing I could've done more in life and not just think about smashing.

If you become really rich, can you mention me in your will? I really really want a yacht.

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Like I have time for that.

Posted by AntiSocial
Just wondering if I'm the only Taurus that put work before a relationship, I mean it seems about right ..

you might be right.

still I'd like to know first if you have Cap placements for your personal planets, or if your Sun is in the 10th or 6th house.