Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by binaone
We never slept together, never hugged.

If I ever needed anything and had called he would be there in a heartbeat. He claim he respects me.

nothing happened!! all innocense BUT my biggest problem in all of this he was tooooooo reserved.

he is making himself available anytime i need him there


Doesn't sound like a player to me...

You need to adjust your expectations because dating is gonna continue to be a disappointment.
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He says one thing but when we meet its a WHOLE different vibe. So strong that everyone around us took notice only for me having to let them know that NOPE there is nothing there. You don't tell someone you care so deeply for them, express so much and shut down only to randomly pop up I guess to find out if i still care? It's too much! Honestly! But I do appreciate the lessons here though. Until this day I still believe he is a great man who simply wants OPTIONS? Or simply just doesn't know what he wants? In all I stuck by it for 7+ months. It wasn't until the recent ex encounter that made me pull the plug.
Posted by Shadowcat
Posted by binaone
Posted by Shadowcat
can you post the placements of both you and him.


Here are previous threads

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/taurus/need-advice-on-taurus-man-im-a-scorpio-woman-9307446/?p=2


https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/taurus/should-i-give-up-on-taurus-man-scorpio-woman--9501399/


moon
merc
venus
mars


go to astro.com

put his birth information in
if you don't have his time of birth, set it to noon.


Anyhow, I think you're overreacting.....go a bit slower. I'll still read the other threads
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I am not sure if I did the best job. I haven't gotten this deep into astrology however, it's certainly of interest to me and is why I am always on this site just reading. Please help shed some light. I've been very veryyyyy patient with this man. I would actually, go a step further to say this whole hellish process has helped me become more of a patient person. I genuinely wanted this to work but because of these crazy/passive games honestly, my heart couldn't take it anymore. I couldn't tell him how I felt because he already pushed the friendship card. Texting every min of the day to not texting at all. He would time to time text to "follow up" as an excuse to see me respond in regards to some nonsense topic. I still continue to play along. You see why I feel so played?

moon - Aries 9°15
merc - Taurus 17°31' R
venus - Pisces 18°12'
mars - Pisces 1°56'
Posted by hollyhock
I have a theory on Taurus men. Since they are earth but ruled by venus, I think many of them are earthy males but have a strong connection with their feminine side, which confuses them. So (if they are heterosexual), they are confused as well by the type of women they want. I find many Taurus men are with women who are very take charge/domineering. I think they also like the softer, quieter, more feminine woman, too. They can't decide since both seem to fit with their earth/venus.....so they go for both types.


Ah okay. Have a point there I'm certainly domineering go getter type for sure.
Posted by Shadowcat
can you post the placements of both you and him.


Placements?
LMAOO Oh my god! Can someone be genuine here? I mean well! maybe player isnt the word?
It's a genuine question? I come in peace!
In short, I just sent him a message stating we should celebrate each others success from afar. I didn't explain why, etc. because, that would mean admitting how I found out about the ex
Why do most of you (taurus men) lead women on? This is probably my third thread here. I am so grateful for all that have responded and shed light which led me to this post. Most if not all were sure he was courting me. We never slept together, never hugged. If I ever needed anything and had called he would be there in a heartbeat. He claim he respects me. It all started with him letting me know his feelings, however, when reciprocated on top of sharing the previous relationship I got out of...I believe is why he suggested I needed time to heal and we can thread to being friends for now. In this friendship, nothing happened!! all innocense BUT my biggest problem in all of this he was tooooooo reserved. It made me suspicious, i'd always open up because, for some odd reason I trusted him. VERY LONGGGG STORY SHORT! Find out his still in contact with his ex!! He mentioned they were over, however, part of why he wanted us to be friends was because he was working through his "issues" how are you working through getting over someone but host them whenever they are in town? So after snooping because, after 7 months I was about fed up of the waiting. I no longer wanted to waste any more time. This taught me a lot!! most will see this and say oh his still courting me why> because, he is making himself available anytime i need him there (which i rarely request! since, im really busy) After connecting all of this? I LOST ALL RESPECT. I feel played! why do you men do this? I'd have respected him a lot more if he was honest. You are not over her and still working through that whether or not you get back together at least I will no longer feel like my time was wasted because I would respect it but never stick around. Why do you string people along? Forgive me if it seems like I am generalizing here.



Posted by sagaciouscorp
YES Wait twelve years
Yes life is like the movies happy endings
You will get that man
He will not marry another after you waiting years for him to open up.
IM The one who invested my all with no happy ending
I wouldn’t recommend it.
But it’s your gamble because that is what it is a bet with high stakes


DAMN! That's deep yeah I aint waiting. With each passing day I feel a fool and stupid for allowing things to get this messy
Posted by Sodapop
I don’t think he’s into you romantically at this point and it’s up to you if you think you can be okay with just being friends. I personally couldn’t, not if my feelings and my heart are on the line. I don’t want to hear about his dating stories down the line or sit on the bench hoping and praying someday he’ll change his mind and catch feelings.

Also he doesn’t seem like he’s being as friendly or consistent as he once was, so even that he’s not being good at right now. Would you be okay with a flaky friend?

I know others said be patient and he sounds lovely and all that, but it seems like you’re unhappy and not having your needs met, it’s causing you endless anxiety and unhappiness. It’s also stopping you from initiating anything with someone new.

I had something end with a Taurus recently and he wanted to remain friends but I couldn’t do that to myself again. I already spent month waiting for something to change or wondering if he’s changed or I’m just inpatient and overreacting.

It shouldn’t be this hard. If it costs you your peace, it’s too expensive. I don’t want to just think about his needs, I’m thinking about my needs cause I bet you 110% that he’s doing the same for himself.

I know it worked for some people on here that have waited and had things eventually workout, but I know myself, and I know it would cause me to toss and turn everynight.

Ultimately it depends on you now and you know yourself and if you can handle it and not regret it down the line.



This truth hurts terribly but there's no denying it anymore. Thanks def working on how to address that considering the fact that I'm always the one asking to be left alone only to come back which his used to. I think it's best to not say anything at all and decline these morning run offers. Thanks ya'll
Posted by Leylia12
I've just red you other thread and to be honest he seems like a pretty nice guy. You said he is very supportive of you whenever you need him. You said he's very respectful and and prefer to be friend for now...

So the real question is... are you ok with his decision? Because you might have to wait for a while longer and still not get the result you're hoping for... or he might just confess his undying love for you tomorrow.... nobody knows... Whatever you decided to do... make sure that it's your own decision and that you will be able to deal with whatever the result is.

He said he prefer to be friends first...you have to understand that... right now... is he a good friend to you? If he is... then he didn't lie... he didn't lead you on...he is just doing whatever he said. Try not to mixe up what he's doing with what you're hoping him to do... that's where things get complicated and messy.

The problem seems to be you want more than what he can currently offer you...So again... what would YOU like to do... whatever decision you will choose... you need to understand there will be consequences...

You can move on go meet other people and maybe fall in love with someone else and be happy ever after and that's good for you!!! but understand that doing so you might lose whatever chance you might have to be with him as a couple. What I'm trying to say is just make sure that whatever you do... you have thought it through...just don't do things hoping to get a reactions or something out of him... because you'll just end up hurting th both of you.

My husband is a wonderful Taurus.... back then it took him over a year just to even flirt with me...so I know how frustrating it could be with them (I'm an Aries btw... so patience is definitely not my forte)... we finally got together after almost 2 years... then got separated for almost 12 years and finally ended up as husband and wife

Back then we were young and even though I didn't do it on purpose but I did hurt him very badly...after we ended our relationship the first time... I quickly moved on... and it took many many years for me to understand what I had actually lost that day...but no matter... I'm one of the lucky one as he had waited for me all this time and now I'm the happiest woman on earth!!! And I'll will not trade him for all the gold, diamonds... or anything in the world!! He's mine and mine alone



WOW! Thank you so much for taking the time to respond. I truly just don't get it and still learning this whole process. I now just give him his space and his taken notice so we rarely text...He'll only send something regarding sport or something related to my business. The wait has me guessing that maybe he lost interest? hence why I posted this asking if I should just give up. You know> but thank you
Posted by sagaciouscorp
Posted by binaone
Posted by sagaciouscorp
LEt it go
Waste no more time
If he reaches out the ball on ur court


Thats the thing he does reach out its usually related to sports. Thats one way we I guess we'd spend time. A friend mentioned its jutst his way of still feeling me out. but I appreciate the feedback


DO you THINK it’s sexy for a Man come around only to feel you out then leave.
Wasted years on a man like that
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His certainly worth the wait! Its all just new to me thats why I am posting for clarity. Thats all
Posted by sagaciouscorp
LEt it go
Waste no more time
If he reaches out the ball on ur court


Thats the thing he does reach out its usually related to sports. Thats one way we I guess we'd spend time. A friend mentioned its jutst his way of still feeling me out. but I appreciate the feedback

Posted by edgelord
taurus moves slow. you want something more fast paced pick a different sign. we take a long time because once we commit we're in it for good. it takes a LOT to end a relationship with a taurus. would you rather he tried to bang you right away and then ghosted? because it seems like you can't appreciate a good man. maybe you would be better off just telling him to go and then finding some treetrunkboy more to your liking.


Absolutely not!! I was just wondering how long that all takes and I guess what advice would fellow taurus give me in handling this situation better. I appreciate him very much hense why I posted this here
It's been months! Now 6 months and still nothing. He expressed interest and once i reciprocated he suggested we default to friendship. We both got out of relationships at the time. He would constantly text, that has now died out he would only text to workout. He would respond if I message him but I stopped. You can read original post below. I am just not sure anymore. Should I give up?


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It's been months! Now 6 months and still nothing. He expressed interest and once i reciprocated he suggested we default to friendship. We both got out of relationships at the time. He would constantly text, that has now died out he would only text to workout. He would respond if I message him but I stopped. You can read original post below. I am just not sure anymore. Should I give up?


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He no longer texts first as much it's me that initiates and immediately he respond. It's been months mann!! I just want to know if this will ever go anywhere or am I wasting my time? He is attentive in terms of if I am going through something he'll cheer me up. Most of our time are in gym but that is it!
Posted by Sodapop
Posted by binaone
Posted by Sodapop
Posted by binaone
Posted by Sodapop
How long does it talk y’all slow ass people to say you love someone, commit, become exclusive? You do realize we don’t have forever right? I mean I could just die right here right now.

What needs to be felt, done, met to feel these things?


hahaa oh my god! I guess this is a common thing with you taurus! I had to exit this bs friendship I was in. We were great but I couldnt lie about how I truly felt deep down.


Why did you feel like you had to lie? So you wouldn’t scare them away? I would have let them know anyway.. I noticed Taurus appreciate the love you’ve for them and will love you for it once they know, even if it wasn’t there before.

This bull just recently had an epiphany and he said all the time I thought you were flaky or wishy washy and uncertain about me, and just now I got it, you were scared of letting me know and risk getting hurt.. you were just shy of telling me how you feel. That’s after I told him sure sure this is casual no big deal I don’t want more (lying, of course) and he totally saw through my BS and said no, this isn’t casual to you, and it’s not to me either. He has a Scorpio moon so I think that’s how he can call me out on my BS cause he senses it.

View my post may give some clarity. I didn't lie, he expressed interest and I later did the same however, he wanted us to be friends first. Deep down I kept lying to myself really that I could continue on playing along. This taurus has a leo moon. I'm scorpio with sag moon. We get along great but my feelings for him are out of wack for me to stick around as his friend. Don't know how others do it. 5 months is freaking long enough!


I’m also a Scorpio with Sag rising sun so I totally get how your feelings sometimes seem like they’re oozing out of your skin pores on to him, things are felt so intensely if you have major water and fire in your chart, the Sag wants to rocket you straight into the relationship and the Scorpio going crazy obsessing about everything and overwhelming you with feelings.

His Leo Moon, must be such a charmer right!? Flirty?

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Read my post to fully understand. https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/taurus/need-advice-on-taurus-man-im-a-scorpio-woman-9307446/?p=2
Posted by Sodapop
Posted by binaone
Posted by Sodapop
How long does it talk y’all slow ass people to say you love someone, commit, become exclusive? You do realize we don’t have forever right? I mean I could just die right here right now.

What needs to be felt, done, met to feel these things?


hahaa oh my god! I guess this is a common thing with you taurus! I had to exit this bs friendship I was in. We were great but I couldnt lie about how I truly felt deep down.


Why did you feel like you had to lie? So you wouldn’t scare them away? I would have let them know anyway.. I noticed Taurus appreciate the love you’ve for them and will love you for it once they know, even if it wasn’t there before.

This bull just recently had an epiphany and he said all the time I thought you were flaky or wishy washy and uncertain about me, and just now I got it, you were scared of letting me know and risk getting hurt.. you were just shy of telling me how you feel. That’s after I told him sure sure this is casual no big deal I don’t want more (lying, of course) and he totally saw through my BS and said no, this isn’t casual to you, and it’s not to me either. He has a Scorpio moon so I think that’s how he can call me out on my BS cause he senses it.
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View my post may give some clarity. I didn't lie, he expressed interest and I later did the same however, he wanted us to be friends first. Deep down I kept lying to myself really that I could continue on playing along. This taurus has a leo moon. I'm scorpio with sag moon. We get along great but my feelings for him are out of wack for me to stick around as his friend. Don't know how others do it. 5 months is freaking long enough!