Liking an ex’s picture. What’s the big deal?

Had a recent breakup with someone I loved very much. She’s the first person I ever thought about marriage and kids with. She broke up with me, tried to reconcile a week later, told her no, and said I had moved on.

I admit I ended up messaging her a handful of times that same I told her no. A week later I told her I was struggling with the breakup. I just recently liked a picture that she posted. My brother said I’m clearly still emotionally attached.

Here’s the thing, I’ve always kept my exes my social media after the breakup. Matter of fact I liked a picture my previous ex from a couple of years ago posted this weekend. My brother said but that’s different because she’s from the past, while this breakup is still fresh. I don’t see it that way at all. An ex is an ex.

So what’s the big deal with liking my most recent ex’s picture when I like my old ex’s picture too?

I don't know. Maybe it's the stubborn bull in me, but I think my brother is dead wrong.

Had a recent breakup with someone I loved very much. She’s the first person I ever thought about marriage and kids with. She broke up with me, tried to reconcile a week later, told her no, and said I had moved on.

I admit I ended up messaging her a handful of times that same I told her no. A week later I told her I was struggling with the breakup. I just recently liked a picture that she posted. My brother said I’m clearly still emotionally attached.

Here’s the thing, I’ve always kept my exes my social media after the breakup. Matter of fact I liked a picture my previous ex from a couple of years ago posted this weekend. My brother said but that’s different because she’s from the past, while this breakup is still fresh. I don’t see it that way at all. An ex is an ex.

So what’s the big deal with liking my most recent ex’s picture when I like my old ex’s picture too?

I don't know. Maybe it's the stubborn bull in me, but I think my brother is dead wrong.

I don't understand why you would tell her you moved on a week later, if you loved her, unless you were doing that specifically to hurt her more.

Second, given that girls can be neurotic as hell, and you knowing she really wanted to work it out, liking her post could be taken as you still being interested. And I have a feeling, you know this as well.

The fact that you admit to struggling still, indicates that you are no where near being over the break up. So yes, your brother is right, right now you should be avoiding your recent ex at all cost, until you find yourself indifferent to her.

Posted by nikkistar
I don't understand why you would tell her you moved on a week later, if you loved her, unless you were doing that specifically to hurt her more.

Second, given that girls can be neurotic as hell, and you knowing she really wanted to work it out, liking her post could be taken as you still being interested. And I have a feeling, you know this as well.

The fact that you admit to struggling still, indicates that you are no where near being over the break up. So yes, your brother is right, right now you should be avoiding your recent ex at all cost, until you find yourself indifferent to her.

“liking her post could be taken as you still being interested. And I have a feeling, you know this as well.” (I don’t know how to bold lol)

^^^^

In regards to the bold he DEFINITELY knows that. That’s why I suspect OP is doing it. He knows he screwed up and is trying to indirectly communicate with her so she’s says something first instead of putting himself out there. Did you see his previous post?

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Posted by nikkistar
I don't understand why you would tell her you moved on a week later, if you loved her, unless you were doing that specifically to hurt her more.

Second, given that girls can be neurotic as hell, and you knowing she really wanted to work it out, liking her post could be taken as you still being interested. And I have a feeling, you know this as well.

The fact that you admit to struggling still, indicates that you are no where near being over the break up. So yes, your brother is right, right now you should be avoiding your recent ex at all cost, until you find yourself indifferent to her.

“liking her post could be taken as you still being interested. And I have a feeling, you know this as well.” (I don’t know how to bold lol)

^^^^

In regards to the bold he DEFINITELY knows that. That’s why I suspect OP is doing it. He knows he screwed up and is trying to indirectly communicate with her so she’s says something first instead of putting himself out there. Did you see his previous post?

I tried that too before and I had the same weird letterings lol you tried to highlight something in bold huh

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Haha yea I did

As your brother said, you're still emotionally attached. There's noting "wrong" with this, it is what it is. Your recent ex is aware of this fact, while the distant exes wouldn't necessarily assume such a thing. You've already said that you are struggling with the breakup and you're demonstrating that you're having trouble letting go.

To recap, you didn't like your ex's inconsistent behavior so you didn't take her back when she wanted to reconcile. However you're still keeping the emotional link by remaining in contact with her. If you're hoping to move on, it's a lot easier to do so when you don't have continued exposure with the ex.

Basically your brother is telling you to stop looking at her social media and liking her photos if you actually want to break things off. Otherwise you're only fooling yourself.

Posted by dannmann1992
Had a recent breakup with someone I loved very much. She’s the first person I ever thought about marriage and kids with. She broke up with me, tried to reconcile a week later, told her no, and said I had moved on.

I admit I ended up messaging her a handful of times that same I told her no. A week later I told her I was struggling with the breakup. I just recently liked a picture that she posted. My brother said I’m clearly still emotionally attached.

Here’s the thing, I’ve always kept my exes my social media after the breakup. Matter of fact I liked a picture my previous ex from a couple of years ago posted this weekend. My brother said but that’s different because she’s from the past, while this breakup is still fresh. I don’t see it that way at all. An ex is an ex.

So what’s the big deal with liking my most recent ex’s picture when I like my old ex’s picture too?

I don't know. Maybe it's the stubborn bull in me, but I think my brother is dead wrong.

You're in denial and still extremely emotionally attached. Plus yes your stubbornness might equate to illogical defiance. Am assuming your brother is a lot older and has a vast wealth of experience under his belt.

Posted by tiziani
Sounds like you're going through the adult version of the "terrible two's".

Why do you say that?

Posted by Chuckcem
As your brother said, you're still emotionally attached. There's noting "wrong" with this, it is what it is. Your recent ex is aware of this fact, while the distant exes wouldn't necessarily assume such a thing. You've already said that you are struggling with the breakup and you're demonstrating that you're having trouble letting go.

To recap, you didn't like your ex's inconsistent behavior so you didn't take her back when she wanted to reconcile. However you're still keeping the emotional link by remaining in contact with her. If you're hoping to move on, it's a lot easier to do so when you don't have continued exposure with the ex.

Basically your brother is telling you to stop looking at her social media and liking her photos if you actually want to break things off. Otherwise you're only fooling yourself.

Well when I was struggling that was a month ago. Plus, I’ve always kept my exes on social media. So how exactly am I fooling myself?

I think the real question here should be, have you moved on? Then get into the rest.

I think you are emotionally detached from being emotionally attached.

But that's ok - some day you'll figure it all out ...

If it's not offensive to the ex (person) whose picture you are liking then what is the big deal here ? who cares what other people say - you just have to be ok with yourself

Posted by LibraLovesHim
I think the real question here should be, have you moved on? Then get into the rest.

He mentioned a few weeks ago or maybe even last week how he was on a date and video snapped his plate of food and his date happened to be in video and then posted it on social media.We all said how it was obvious he did that on purpose, even though he wouldn’t admit it. The ex was super mature and said how it hurt her that he moved on but she was happy for him. He sent her a question mark. She said I’m talking about your date. He said I’m sorry I loved you a lot but we *insert whatever reason they broke up*and then told her it’s not wise to give information about his dating life. I’m pretty sure those were the highlights of his previous post.

So heck no he hasn’t moved on. At least to me he hasn’t *shrug

Posted by tctao
I think you are emotionally detached from being emotionally attached.

But that's ok - some day you'll figure it all out ...

If it's not offensive to the ex (person) whose picture you are liking then what is the big deal here ? who cares what other people say - you just have to be ok with yourself

You’re saying basically he’s trying to pretend like he doesn’t care? If that’s what you mean I think I’m emotionally detached from being attached too and it ends up backfiring a lot unfortunately smh.

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Posted by tctao
I think you are emotionally detached from being emotionally attached.

But that's ok - some day you'll figure it all out ...

If it's not offensive to the ex (person) whose picture you are liking then what is the big deal here ? who cares what other people say - you just have to be ok with yourself

You’re saying basically he’s trying to pretend like he doesn’t care? If that’s what you mean I think I’m emotionally detached from being attached too and it ends up backfiring a lot unfortunately smh.

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cocaine is a terrible drug

Posted by tiziani

Posted by dannmann1992

Posted by tiziani
Sounds like you're going through the adult version of the "terrible two's".

Why do you say that?

Because you look like you're pointing our conflicts that you setup.

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Hmm gotcha.

Posted by dannmann1992

Posted by Chuckcem
As your brother said, you're still emotionally attached. There's noting "wrong" with this, it is what it is. Your recent ex is aware of this fact, while the distant exes wouldn't necessarily assume such a thing. You've already said that you are struggling with the breakup and you're demonstrating that you're having trouble letting go.

To recap, you didn't like your ex's inconsistent behavior so you didn't take her back when she wanted to reconcile. However you're still keeping the emotional link by remaining in contact with her. If you're hoping to move on, it's a lot easier to do so when you don't have continued exposure with the ex.

Basically your brother is telling you to stop looking at her social media and liking her photos if you actually want to break things off. Otherwise you're only fooling yourself.

Well when I was struggling that was a month ago. Plus, I’ve always kept my exes on social media. So how exactly am I fooling myself?

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If you're not struggling anymore, then it's not a big deal. I'm guessing your brother told you this when you were still getting over your ex. I've also kept exes on social media, it's not really an issue because I don't take social media seriously.

I personally won't like a recent ex's photos because I don't want her to get the wrong impression that I'm following/stalking her. Basically I don't want to send out the wrong message. It's really up to you how you want to interact with her. I suggest creating more distance if you're still trying to get over her.

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Posted by dannmann1992

Posted by Chuckcem
As your brother said, you're still emotionally attached. There's noting "wrong" with this, it is what it is. Your recent ex is aware of this fact, while the distant exes wouldn't necessarily assume such a thing. You've already said that you are struggling with the breakup and you're demonstrating that you're having trouble letting go.

To recap, you didn't like your ex's inconsistent behavior so you didn't take her back when she wanted to reconcile. However you're still keeping the emotional link by remaining in contact with her. If you're hoping to move on, it's a lot easier to do so when you don't have continued exposure with the ex.

Basically your brother is telling you to stop looking at her social media and liking her photos if you actually want to break things off. Otherwise you're only fooling yourself.

Well when I was struggling that was a month ago. Plus, I’ve always kept my exes on social media. So how exactly am I fooling myself?

If you're not struggling anymore, then it's not a big deal. I'm guessing your brother told you this when you were still getting over your ex. I've also kept exes on social media, it's not really an issue because I don't take social media seriously.

I personally won't like a recent ex's photos because I don't want her to get the wrong impression that I'm following/stalking her. Basically I don't want to send out the wrong message. It's really up to you how you want to interact with her. I suggest creating more distance if you're still trying to get over her.

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Isn’t this the same OP who just tried to make his ex jealous?

Posted by dannmann1992
Had a recent breakup with someone I loved very much. She’s the first person I ever thought about marriage and kids with. She broke up with me, tried to reconcile a week later, told her no, and said I had moved on.

I admit I ended up messaging her a handful of times that same I told her no. A week later I told her I was struggling with the breakup. I just recently liked a picture that she posted. My brother said I’m clearly still emotionally attached.

Here’s the thing, I’ve always kept my exes my social media after the breakup. Matter of fact I liked a picture my previous ex from a couple of years ago posted this weekend. My brother said but that’s different because she’s from the past, while this breakup is still fresh. I don’t see it that way at all. An ex is an ex.

So what’s the big deal with liking my most recent ex’s picture when I like my old ex’s picture too?

I don't know. Maybe it's the stubborn bull in me, but I think my brother is dead wrong.

It doesn't matter. Like away.

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Posted by Chuckcem

Posted by dannmann1992

Posted by Chuckcem
As your brother said, you're still emotionally attached. There's noting "wrong" with this, it is what it is. Your recent ex is aware of this fact, while the distant exes wouldn't necessarily assume such a thing. You've already said that you are struggling with the breakup and you're demonstrating that you're having trouble letting go.

To recap, you didn't like your ex's inconsistent behavior so you didn't take her back when she wanted to reconcile. However you're still keeping the emotional link by remaining in contact with her. If you're hoping to move on, it's a lot easier to do so when you don't have continued exposure with the ex.

Basically your brother is telling you to stop looking at her social media and liking her photos if you actually want to break things off. Otherwise you're only fooling yourself.

Well when I was struggling that was a month ago. Plus, I’ve always kept my exes on social media. So how exactly am I fooling myself?

If you're not struggling anymore, then it's not a big deal. I'm guessing your brother told you this when you were still getting over your ex. I've also kept exes on social media, it's not really an issue because I don't take social media seriously.

I personally won't like a recent ex's photos because I don't want her to get the wrong impression that I'm following/stalking her. Basically I don't want to send out the wrong message. It's really up to you how you want to interact with her. I suggest creating more distance if you're still trying to get over her.

Isn’t this the same OP who just tried to make his ex jealous?

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Not sure.

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Posted by dannmann1992

Posted by Chuckcem
As your brother said, you're still emotionally attached. There's noting "wrong" with this, it is what it is. Your recent ex is aware of this fact, while the distant exes wouldn't necessarily assume such a thing. You've already said that you are struggling with the breakup and you're demonstrating that you're having trouble letting go.

To recap, you didn't like your ex's inconsistent behavior so you didn't take her back when she wanted to reconcile. However you're still keeping the emotional link by remaining in contact with her. If you're hoping to move on, it's a lot easier to do so when you don't have continued exposure with the ex.

Basically your brother is telling you to stop looking at her social media and liking her photos if you actually want to break things off. Otherwise you're only fooling yourself.

Well when I was struggling that was a month ago. Plus, I’ve always kept my exes on social media. So how exactly am I fooling myself?

If you're not struggling anymore, then it's not a big deal. I'm guessing your brother told you this when you were still getting over your ex. I've also kept exes on social media, it's not really an issue because I don't take social media seriously.

I personally won't like a recent ex's photos because I don't want her to get the wrong impression that I'm following/stalking her. Basically I don't want to send out the wrong message. It's really up to you how you want to interact with her. I suggest creating more distance if you're still trying to get over her.

Isn’t this the same OP who just tried to make his ex jealous?

Not sure.

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I am.

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Posted by dannmann1992
Had a recent breakup with someone I loved very much. She’s the first person I ever thought about marriage and kids with. She broke up with me, tried to reconcile a week later, told her no, and said I had moved on.

I admit I ended up messaging her a handful of times that same I told her no. A week later I told her I was struggling with the breakup. I just recently liked a picture that she posted. My brother said I’m clearly still emotionally attached.

Here’s the thing, I’ve always kept my exes my social media after the breakup. Matter of fact I liked a picture my previous ex from a couple of years ago posted this weekend. My brother said but that’s different because she’s from the past, while this breakup is still fresh. I don’t see it that way at all. An ex is an ex.

So what’s the big deal with liking my most recent ex’s picture when I like my old ex’s picture too?

I don't know. Maybe it's the stubborn bull in me, but I think my brother is dead wrong.

It doesn't matter. Like away.

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Thanks. I didn’t see it as a big deal either.