Proud of Myself

Turned down movie night with my bull. I don't think he was too happy, but I'm tired of always being available.

Then go out and get a life so when he does call you actually aren't available.

how long have you been together? are you just newly dating?

We've been dating since February of this year. Houstonpeach74 - I do have a life, and I tend to incorporate him in quite a bit of it (until recently). I feel myself moving in a totally different direction sans the bull. He must've caught wind because he called this morning at 5:59am.

Posted by houstonpeach74
Then go out and get a life so when he does call you actually aren't available.

she just made a post about doing exactly that.

Posted by libra21
Turned down movie night with my bull. I don't think he was too happy, but I'm tired of always being available.

yeah, they get complacent sometimes. sounds like you feel you need more appreciation from him? bear in mind he may not be able to give this to you...then it's a case of put up or ship out...

I feel like when you've been with someone for that length of time, there really isn't such a thing as being "too available." That's more understandable if you've been seeing him for 2 weeks, but for like ten months?

If you feel like he isn't pushing his weight or not doing enough for you, maybe you should say something?

Has he turned down offers from you as well? I mean, I'm glad he's jumping over fences to get in contact with you, but I guess I'm just confused as to how you can be too available at this point.

I've been with my bull for seven months, and I cherish every opportunity to be with him. I guess I'm missing something here.

Posted by Candeh15
I feel like when you've been with someone for that length of time, there really isn't such a thing as being "too available." That's more understandable if you've been seeing him for 2 weeks, but for like ten months?

If you feel like he isn't pushing his weight or not doing enough for you, maybe you should say something?

Has he turned down offers from you as well? I mean, I'm glad he's jumping over fences to get in contact with you, but I guess I'm just confused as to how you can be too available at this point.

I've been with my bull for seven months, and I cherish every opportunity to be with him. I guess I'm missing something here.

Exactly.it's a little late for games,and we earth people don't care to play them.either you're ours,or your not.

Right-o.

You'd rather just disengage, disconnect without letting him in on it. Be honest. Don't just disappear like a coward. Tell him how you feel and you'd like to end things. Clean break. No hiding behind excuses and hoping he'll get angry enough to shoulder things so you can feel justified about walking away.

I've told him how I feel. It's as though he hears what he wants to hear. He doesn't address my concerns and acts like everything is normal (as if I've said nothing). At this point I think a great friendship would be more suitable, complacency is not something that I plan to deal with at this point.

Again then. Break it off. Mean it, be done. No phone calls, no visits, nada. It will allow him to accept and get over things properly. I'm not wild about people getting hurt, but a clean cut always heals better than a drawn out ragged one. For goodness sakes I hope you still haven't been sexing the man.

Nope... no sexing. Thanks for the advice guys!!

Posted by libra21
Turned down movie night with my bull. I don't think he was too happy, but I'm tired of always being available.

I've never quite gotten this concept...the "too available" thing.
I am a pretty busy little Ram, but if you are special to me I will get off my azz and make time.

Time is precious. Life is short. Make time for the special people.



**Of course this may well be the reason I am single....not saying I am right, but that is what my heart says.

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Posted by libra21
Turned down movie night with my bull. I don't think he was too happy, but I'm tired of always being available.

I've never quite gotten this concept...the "too available" thing.
I am a pretty busy little Ram, but if you are special to me I will get off my azz and make time.

Time is precious. Life is short. Make time for the special people.



**Of course this may well be the reason I am single....not saying I am right, but that is what my heart says.

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I agree with this...life IS too short !!

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Posted by libra21
Turned down movie night with my bull. I don't think he was too happy, but I'm tired of always being available.

I've never quite gotten this concept...the "too available" thing.
I am a pretty busy little Ram, but if you are special to me I will get off my azz and make time.

Time is precious. Life is short. Make time for the special people.



**Of course this may well be the reason I am single....not saying I am right, but that is what my heart says.

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Yes, you make time for the people that mean something to you!! Guess I'm not important enough (for him to get off his butt), cause all I get are daily phone calls (4-6 x per day).

Yep, you made him a priority, but if he is not reciprocating, then you did your best. I too, have been in this situation and I figure this way: I can't make a man want to be with me. It has to come from him and if he doesn't see that I am a woman who is worth his time, then I move on.

Mmm d'ya know what really irks me? When someone drops off the face of the earth via communication. Phone/texting etiquette. It's a conversation. One doesn't stop and stare at someone for hours on end across each other from a table do they? No, they do not. The same applies. It indicates lack of interest and sends a clear message of "I'm not interested enough/can't be arsed to take 60 seconds to hit a few keys and press *send*".

Libra..d'you not find 4-6 calls per day excessive? I would. If I rung someone that many times in a day they'd not only be in my head but in my heart as well. If the irritation is lack of his physical presence I understand but that many phone calls in a day is more than interested.

Actually I'd not ring someone that many times per day in any event, I'd feel like a damned nuisance. Overly needy cow too, I'd disgust myself.

Posted by venusianbull
Actually I'd not ring someone that many times per day in any event, I'd feel like a damned nuisance. Overly needy cow too, I'd disgust myself.

lol....I love to hear the bullettes' advice! VB, you are right, he wouldn't be calling if he didn't care.( or he'd be one creepy dude)..also, on another thread she said he told her he loves her and she does his financial stuff for him..

@Libra21...you might have trust issues, maybe someone cheated on you before? Just because he is busy (and for Tauruses, kids come first), just let things flow, try not to be so worried and analyzing all his moves. I am sure when he is with you, he gives you his FULL attention.

Posted by venusianbull
Mmm d'ya know what really irks me? When someone drops off the face of the earth via communication. Phone/texting etiquette. It's a conversation. One doesn't stop and stare at someone for hours on end across each other from a table do they? No, they do not. The same applies. It indicates lack of interest and sends a clear message of "I'm not interested enough/can't be arsed to take 60 seconds to hit a few keys and press *send*".

Libra..d'you not find 4-6 calls per day excessive? I would. If I rung someone that many times in a day they'd not only be in my head but in my heart as well. If the irritation is lack of his physical presence I understand but that many phone calls in a day is more than interested.

That's what I was thinking. My taurus guy doesn't even call/text me twice a day sometimes. If I got a call like 4-6 times per day, I'd be damn sure he is thinking of me. Sometimes, you have to sit there and evaluate what he's doing to show that he cares. Taurus people, so I've noticed, can be really subtle. They don't necessarily tell you how they feel, but their actions tend to be huge in a way. Sometimes I'll sit back and wonder if my taurus pays attention to me or cares about me; but he'll do something REALLY small that shows that he does pay attention to me and what I like.

Taurus people can be busy. Very busy. I also am beginning to think that you have insecurities about how people deal with your or the attention you're getting. I have them too; sometimes when my guy disappears for a couple of days or I don't hear from him, I feel like freaking out over it. I think you should have taken that offer to go and see the movie with him. He's busy, but he's still trying. Talk to him about your insecurities. He doesn't think there is an issue because in his own taurus way, he's trying to pay attention to you. Tell him that you want to do things where you're physically together. Set a date every week or something where it's just YOU TWO.

If he's busy you have to be more understanding of that.

If he's sitting on his butt at home, I think you have a right to be a bit upset.

There's nothing wrong with wanting quality time with someone.

He can save the "phone love" for someone else. Haven't seen him in a week and I've been off for the last 4 days. If I suggest an activity I get shot down. He suggests something (very seldomly) I'm suppose to jump. He seems quite satisfied with having a relationship via the phone.

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Posted by libra21
Turned down movie night with my bull. I don't think he was too happy, but I'm tired of always being available.

I've never quite gotten this concept...the "too available" thing.
I am a pretty busy little Ram, but if you are special to me I will get off my azz and make time.

Time is precious. Life is short. Make time for the special people.



**Of course this may well be the reason I am single....not saying I am right, but that is what my heart says.

Yes, you make time for the people that mean something to you!! Guess I'm not important enough (for him to get off his butt), cause all I get are daily phone calls (4-6 x per day).

if you think 4-6 phone calls a day = "guess i'm not important enough"

what do you really want? a stalker? any more contact than that and we're headed into creeperville. (conversation lenghth depending.)

it might not be him that's the issue. it could be that you have unrealistic expectations of what any man can give you.

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No unrealistic expectations here. A little quality time once in a while is cool. Believe me, I don't need some grown ass, needy man all underneath me. I have a life, a job, and an 18 year old away at college.

Posted by libra21
He can save the "phone love" for someone else. Haven't seen him in a week and I've been off for the last 4 days. If I suggest an activity I get shot down. He suggests something (very seldomly) I'm suppose to jump. He seems quite satisfied with having a relationship via the phone.

The question is, how often are you suggesting things and how often are you being shot down? Why are you being shot down? Are you suggesting things when he's unable to do them or does he clearly not want to go through with them. I understand that it'd be frustrating and worthy of walking out. However, I feel like we don't have enough information about your man or your relationship in general. If you have been holding back these feelings of frustration for a long time, you should have said something about it. He probably never saw an issue because you never made it an issue.

I'm not going to sit here and say your guy is useless or whatever. After 10 months, I feel like you guys should have come to a common idea of how to spend time with each other. I don't see my taurus for a week or a week and a half sometimes. We're both busy. However, none of that really bothers me greatly because I know we both have a life that we have to attend to. Was your taurus busy while you were off? Just some things to think about.

Now, if you want to end it, then do it. I honestly feel like you were looking for a way out for a bit and this was your opportunity. If so, make sure it's for valid reasons and talk to your taurus about it.

Posted by libra21
He can save the "phone love" for someone else. Haven't seen him in a week and I've been off for the last 4 days. If I suggest an activity I get shot down. He suggests something (very seldomly) I'm suppose to jump. He seems quite satisfied with having a relationship via the phone.

But didn't you just turn him down for movie night,just because?

I agree,you should just cut him loose.

Can't make a square peg fit in a round hole as Grandma used to say.

Posted by BellatheBull
Can't make a square peg fit in a round hole as Grandma used to say.

Lol Bella!

You guys have been most helpful, thank you!!! I know what my gut is telling me and I will follow it. Last straw was forgeting my birthday... I'm done.

so you just denied him...just cuz?


i think if anything, HE should cut YOU loose!

Can you believe that? He called me, I let him rant/vent/complain/whine for 10 minutes before I said "Do you realize today is my birthday?". Totally surprised, he didn't know what to say.

Douche is not the word!