Question for my fellow Taureans

Ok, without getting into a huge thing, I have a question. Recently me and my (now) ex-Leo were having a discussion and he said that I was nonconfrontational. I took offense to that and defended myself, as he appeared to be implying that I was "weak"-- WHICH I'm not. Needless to say, among other things, this relationship is done; however, that has stuck in my crow and I want to know how you all feel about confrontations?
Obviously, people are different and your upbringing, personality, etc makes a difference, but here is the way I roll in my life:
a. I don't (typically) give unsolicited advise; however, if you ask me, I'm going to tell you the truth, and I expect/demand, the same.
b. I pick and chose my battles - it's not so much the path of least resistance, it's more of "do I really want to fight over something that doesn't mean that much to me?" If the answer is no, then I move on and let it go. If it's important, I fight like hell for it.
c. I'm relatively "drama free" -- I don't like it, and I don't prescribe to it. Period. "Don't start none; won't be none!"
d. It takes a lot to get me upset, but once I am - it's OVER. I am the proverbial "cut off your nose to spite your face/stubborn ass Taurean."
So, I'd like to see if it's just me. Another of my fellow, favorite DXP'ers and I have discussed this situation, and she's very similar to me in the nonconfrontational front, so I'm curious about other Taurus folk.

"Whether I'm confrontational or not depends on whether it's that time of the month or not...which is when I get snappy big time.

LOL, Elena, you are the woman! You crack me up!
When I'm sick, I get snappy, cause I feel like crap. I just want to be in my own safe lil warm cocoon away from the world, so if I have to interact and be nicey nice to people, it's like people are dancing my my nerves with razor blade shoes - I want to yell!!

Taurus are known for their extreme patience and not so great communication and this is taken as non-confrontational. But push a Taurean too far, and you'll find your confrontation (and probably one you don't want to see).

Yes Chocolate, it is over. It was not the non-confrontational item that was the main issue. It was something much bigger that I can not overlook nor forgive, so yes, on my side it's over. I agree that he wanted to "see what I was made of" and now, to his detriment, he has. I don't play games. I'm forthright about my needs, and clearly he and I were not on the same page. Regardless, the comment got under my skin. Unfortunately, he WILL see that -- his loss, not mine.

Incidentally, I forgot to add that yes, I have confronted him on a couple of things; hence the demise of the relationship. Unfortunately for me, somethings are deal breakers for me - no use wasting MY time, I don't give a damn about his, cause he's already wasted enough of mine.

Confrontations are pretty pointless most of the time in my eyes. As soon as people get heated it's like talking to a wall (myself included). Nothing gets heard and nothing gets fixed if people are in that mode.

Most people won't start a physical fight with me either which is probably my preferred method of dealing with arguments (which is a bad way, I know I know). And I'm not the type to initiate either cause of my own personal beliefs and the way I was raised.

I pretty much agree with all your points in the 1st post except that for A, even if people ask me advice I tend to not wanna give my view cause I prefer to stay out of peoples' business although I don't mind knowing what's going on.

Thanks Ferdy 😉 - yes, definitely his loss. I won't lose any sleep, believe that!
Yeah Taurus83 a lot of people think of confrontations and fighting as "passionate" and ways of showing they are "in to" relationships. That's not me. I'll let a person know I'm in to them (once I'm comfortable), and I'm most definitely passionate, I just direct it in other ways 😉.

*smooches* Yes Chocolate, many think Taureans are dense and slow.....so not the case on my front. I listen, and I'm a firm believer that if you listen closely it's what ISN'T said that sometimes means the most 🙂
I'm definitely keeping it moving, and trust in the fact that I had my few days of sadness...but that's well behind me. Life is too short to waste on the unworthy and unappreciative. Holla' 😉

Thanks Chocolate - I appreciated your 411 too. I hold nothing against Leo's because of one unfortunate experience. I think his sign was NOT the problem. LOL.

Yup, exactly, totally different levels. Life goes on, and in time we may be able to be friends again. I hold no ill will...I just am moving on to enrich my life.

"We get really strong really fast." Damn straight!
I'm not going to penalize the next person, BUT, all bets are off, and they will definitely need to put in some time and work. I'm not looking for anyone right now. I have a lot to focus on anyway, so everything does happen for a good reason. Also, you are right, whether they are 27, 37 or 47, they can be immature! I've been pretty fortunate with the guys I've dated (by and large), and I will be again in the future.

LOL, yes GB, he IS an ass, but I knew that before the aforementioned convo we had. You're right, he was TRYING to get in my head and get a "rise" outta' me.
Wish I could smack people; however, that's not the best solution either (although it would make me feel better - 🙂)

I don't know Ferdy...I've lost that loving feeling!!! LMAO! It will come back again.........

LOL, don't worry Ferdy, "This Too Shall Pass."

I am most definitely non-confrontational, and this has caused major problems in certain relationships - people do seem to think that if you aren't shouting you don't care. I prefer to keep a level head and look for a more practical solution, because once I am pissed off it's not a pretty sight, only one of my bf's has seen me like that and he was appalled to be honest! Think it was the shock, as I'm very placid and can take a lot of stick before I break. And unfortunately it's usually the straw that breaks the camel's back that sets me off so I end up looking like a mentalist! But it does take a lot to get a rise out of me.

@ Copperhead -- yeah, it's not pretty when I get upset. My ex-fiance (a Libra) that I was with during college and engaged to for a year (7 years together) only saw me get mad 2 times. He said it wasn't pretty. He was scared too! LOL. He said, "Nobody should EVER cross you. You're scary!"

You know Chocolate. I'm a giving person to my friends and family, but I'm not a "girly girl." I don't run around proclaiming love and all that. It takes me a long time to fall in love; but it's bad, because when I was younger it took me awhile to fall out of love 😢
I guard my heart, because I HATE rejection or feeling like a fool. My ex-Libra fell in love with me in 2 months, I was still seeing other guys until I was ready! I fell in love after about almost a year, but when we first broke up (reconciled, but ended up not being together) it broke my heart. But, first time shame on you, second time shame on me. He was never able to really hurt me again, because I blocked off a lot of myself. It's crazy, but it's my self preservation.

But I do love hard and will do anything to make that person happy - and I expect the same. Not quid pro quo, just what people do in relationships. I like fun and excitement, so I keep it spicyyyyy 😉 lol

Ferdy!!! You are nauuuuughty 😉 LOL!

"Something hard.."
LOL, I'll just stop 🙂
At least we are laughing and not smacking people!!!

That's right Chocolate. If you don't look after/take care of/love yourself - who will—?
I have girlfriends who fall in and outta' love with every passing yahoo that asks them out. I'm just not like that. I'm not judging them, it's just not my thing. I do the chosing - I don't just go out/fall for anybody who asks me out. But, that works for some people, so it's all good.

Nope Ferdy, don't change, just try to find the right guy who is WORTHY of all that love 🙂

Word Choco! It does take time to build. A relationship is like a business (I know people hate to hear this since relationships are supposed to be about love, blah, blah), but you want the BEST business partner you can possibly get, because they can make or break you!

*licks lips* Hmm Ferdy, have you been holding out on me girl? LOL 🙂
Oy, it's like something in the air. Me and the Leo are done, and now the Cancer (who I haven't talked to in a few months) has been blowing my phone UP for the past few days, as well as this Virgo (whom I will NOT even pretend any interest). Cracks me up how life is!

Choco, I have no damn idea. Me and Cancer have known one another forever, and "dabbled" after me and my ex-fiance and I broke up. BUT, he's a Cancer. Nothing wrong with them, but for me, he's worse than a female. He gets his feelings hurt so bad by me! He's very attractive, well dressed/groomed and $ $ $ , and of course PLENTY of women; however, I'm his "one that got away." I couldn't be with him. I've known him too long and I got his #!
Now, back to Ferdy. Oh Ferdy, come out, come out, wherever you are 😉 LOL!

LOL. Yeah Choco, I was trying to be delicate and PC, since there are young people on the board 😉

Ferdy, we'll see what 2009 brings us!

"Cooking for my loins!" LMAO
Oh Choco, what are we gonna' do witcha' LOL!
One of my girls wanted me to go on a Hedonism trip with her, but she's been seeing this guy, so she may not want to go now. That means I'll be traveling on some trips alone to do naughty things that nobody will ever know about ...*laughs wickedly*

Good riddence, I have spent too much time on guys that were not worth it too, USC take care of you and experience life and OMG I totally agree about cancers, too clingy, the last one was of the most gorgeous guys but he got hurt so easy and ended up being a pain

@ Choco - oh, I won't be going on a Hedonism cruise; I can create Hedonism wherever I go! LOL. I'll be going to London, Ireland and Amsterdam this year -- I think there will be PLENTY for me to "do" while I'm abroad 😉
Thanks Taurgirll 🙂 I always take care of me; fortunately I learned that at a young age. Doesn't mean I don't have setbacks or sometimes get my feelings hurt,but by and large I try not to waste my time. As everyone knows, time is $ $ $ to Taurus people! LOL and we surely don't waste that!
Yeah, me and Cancer men is tough! I'm a little too honest for them.