questions about the male bull...

How long do they take before ,commiting to a relationship or droping the courtship?

Is a month and a half too soon to sleep with one?

If you waited, then did it can you stop until he actually commits if you suspect hes still seeing other people?

I waited two weeks to sleep with my taurus. I thought that was pretty long considering his crazy high sex drive!

Mine took forever to do all of those things. Don't expect them to be all open and communicate their feelings for a long time or if ever!
Either he will commit or not...withholding sex won't do a whole lot me thinks...

haha, i waited 2 weeks to sleep with mine too but it was only because he was on tour for most of that time!

it really depends on the guy in question regarding commitment. i dated 2 of them (one i am still with) around the same time. the one i'm not dating anymore wanted a commitment from ME after about a month. he was extremely attracted to me and wanted me for himself. unfortunately it fell apart cuz i'm the one who didn't want to commit to him. he knew it from the start too. the one i am still dating is a lot like me. heh. it's weird between us i guess. we're FWB yet we're pretty committed to each other. the option is open to have sex with others but we haven't cared to make that venture. plus he constantly says that i am "his".

withholding sex from a bull is not gonna do any good. trust me. most ppl in my life are taureans. they are some seriously horny bastards!

"withholding sex from a bull is not gonna do any good. trust me. most ppl in my life are taureans. they are some seriously horny bastards!"

Amen sister! Never a good idea. The more sex the better...
It's amazing how my husband's mood shifts entirely based on sex.

I see...I wasent planning to withhold it to push him to commit. im happy with the pace things are going- but the Idea of sleeping with someone whos sleeping with other people kinda turns me off! hes taken me on a trip, takes me out to eat often, has introduced me to all of his friends etc...But I cant help but wonder if hes actually taking me seriously and just not ready to say it or if he sees it as a fwb relationship. Its only been a bit over 2 months and im ok with it taking 2 more, Im really not in a rush either.

Ramfish: how long did it take yours? any tips on keeping him interested and or signs of interest/loss of interest to look out for?

Well, lady you will never know until you bring it up with him. I guess that's the assertive Aries in me telling you that, but that's the only way you will know.

How long did it take my bull to commit? Very tough question...
I mean, we were exclusive pretty much from the word go, but I always questioned his feelings for me. Hell, I still do ten years later! I think it's because I'm very open and up-front and he's well...not. He's a non-communicator. I have to pull shit out of him. He's not very good at expressing his love.
Now, your bull may be different, but this is how mine was and still is.

Regarding keeping him interested...wow, that's tough too!I'd say good sex and companionship are always good. Be an independant girl and don't expect too much from him cause you won't get it!

By the way...I completely understand you not wanting to sleep with him when he's sleeping with others. I would straight up let him know that and you are interested in trying to be exclusive.

don't expect ur taurus to verbalize anything. u could be waiting around forever. it's not that they're being secretive but they just don't express themselves that way. if u are direct with ur communication and ask him outright he will give u an honest answer. they prefer u to be straight forward with them and in turn they will be the same... but only if u initiate first. just go for it, be confident, and prepare urself for the truth.

Posted by ramfishtwins
Well, lady you will never know until you bring it up with him. I guess that's the assertive Aries in me telling you that, but that's the only way you will know.

How long did it take my bull to commit? Very tough question...
I mean, we were exclusive pretty much from the word go, but I always questioned his feelings for me. Hell, I still do ten years later! I think it's because I'm very open and up-front and he's well...not. He's a non-communicator. I have to pull shit out of him. He's not very good at expressing his love.
Now, your bull may be different, but this is how mine was and still is.

Regarding keeping him interested...wow, that's tough too!I'd say good sex and companionship are always good. Be an independant girl and don't expect too much from him cause you won't get it!

i just have to say that i feel u on this! my strategy is a little different though. i don't try and pull anything out of him. instead i just keep steadily and consistently expressing myself, without overdoing it so he knows i'm being genuine, which in turn makes him more comfortable with the idea. he will then voluntarily step out of his comfort zone every now and then and tell me how much he appreciates me. i don't lead on to think i expect much from him because i really don't. it's just that i know this tactic works 😉

God lady...I wish I had your strength! Maybe it's harder for me cause I'm a crazy Aries and sooooo very impatient.

I know that this is the basis for our many issues. I wish we were more similar cause damn...it's really hard.

Thanks for all the insight ! i really appreciate it🙂 I really dont expect much either..I like him the way he is and as long as He dosent take me for granted when were commited ill be just fine.(besides id never let him my scorp wont let me lol) I spoke to him about my concerns and told him that I thought perhaps he takes gilrs on trips dedicates songs etc to all of them and that perhaps its just part of his game...He was so comforting i felt silly lmao he just told me that hes taking his time and scared of loosing his freedom and having to ask permission to leave the house! lmao like i said before, im not interested in rushing things but at some point ill bring up the question of him sleeping with other people...any ideas on the best way to ask? I have a tendancy to blurt things out rather directly and agressivly lol...while i hate gray zones I find it difficult to admit anthing that makes me seem week lol

Posted by fish-scorp-libra
Thanks for all the insight ! i really appreciate it🙂 I really dont expect much either..I like him the way he is and as long as He dosent take me for granted when were commited ill be just fine.(besides id never let him my scorp wont let me lol) I spoke to him about my concerns and told him that I thought perhaps he takes gilrs on trips dedicates songs etc to all of them and that perhaps its just part of his game...He was so comforting i felt silly lmao he just told me that hes taking his time and scared of loosing his freedom and having to ask permission to leave the house! lmao like i said before, im not interested in rushing things but at some point ill bring up the question of him sleeping with other people...any ideas on the best way to ask? I have a tendancy to blurt things out rather directly and agressivly lol...while i hate gray zones I find it difficult to admit anthing that makes me seem week lol

yeay! now look at that! u used the direct approach and u got a straight-up, honest answer! i don't know what it is about the bulls but they never fail me in this department. not one of them. i freaking love it because it makes communication, at least for me, sooo much easier! i'm very direct and prefer to just come out with any issues that arise. even though they won't initiate it if i ask them they will tell me and it's usually the truth.

Just a quick update...I wanted to releave some of the pressure i put him under with all my little "whats goimg on here fits lol so I didnt call him when i finished work...sure enouogh I updated my facebook status and guess who txted me and called me to scolled me for not being asleep like a good little girl lmao. Then he teased me by doing an imitation of my grilling him and said he couldnt really get mad at me...Im too perfect—?lmao he also came out and told me how hes a very pasionate person and how when he loves he loves alot and when he hates he hates alot...and ofcorse he added in a "joke " about sex for good mesure. Dont you love it when you realize that your worried about nothing—

That's great!! Sounds like he's a good guy. I would continue to be upfront with him and see where this goes.

Posted by ramfishtwins
I know that this is the basis for our many issues. I wish we were more similar cause damn...it's really hard.

ur adorable! and i don't mean that in a condescending way.

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Posted by ramfishtwins
I know that this is the basis for our many issues. I wish we were more similar cause damn...it's really hard.

ur adorable! and i don't mean that in a condescending way.

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LOL! Good, cause I didn't take it that way!

Thanks lady!

I really enjoy reading your posts/comments...you have great insight!