Relationship anxiety.

Yes,I'm guilty of relationship anxiety.I don't know why but I am scared of both distancing and intimacy.Distancing makes me wonder if he still feels the same and too much intimacy freaks me out since I'm scared of how long that should last.I don't know if it's me wanting to just feel secure or me being paranoid all the time.I read an interesting article on this which segregates you in one of the three attachment styles:
http://www.psychalive.org/how-your-attachment-style-impacts-your-relationship/
Since we deal in astrology here,I'd like to know Is it a Taurus trait? Or should I blame my Virgo moon and Rising?
Or is it just my psychological construction that is at fault? The sad part is,I'm not among the 60% people that have a secure attachment style.

It's all your air placements in your chart just need to find a balancer to completely know where you stand and come from and they see you and get to know you in person or over phone..

So yeah your moon, mars, mercury, venus will cause they way you feel.

How are you btw?

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
How are you btw?

Hey FDTW! Nice to hear from you 🙂
I'm swinging between being very happy to sad.I don't know what to do.I've gotten into a relationship with the man I've liked for 4 years now,it's been 3 months since and I still feel lost.It's my first relationship but all this anxiety and all,it's wearing me out.I just don't feel secure,I'm going crazy.Every few days I find myself analysing my relationship,thinking over and over if this will work.No,he doesn't give me that hard a time.He's nice and affectionate,just like everybody is when in a relationship.I however do not know what I want.I mostly question whatever he does in my head.I'll give you an example,just today we've been texting(cllg is over so we're now long distance, currently at our parent's place until we move to our job cities,so conversations are limited since we both have strict parents) he sent me sweet things and all.However,everytime he would go offline without reading my text,I would feel let down,regardless that he's being so loving.An hour ago he called me to inform me that his hangouts is crashing and his msgs are not getting delivered,I was outside so told him I'll talk to him later.I called him 20 mins back,he didn't answer and now I'm engulfed with feelings of rejection and I'm feeling he doesn't want to talk to me perhaps maybe because I do this or that.I somewhere know it's not a big deal,maybe he's busy,he'll call back later,ppl do miss calls but no,I'm just filled with anxiety and am questioning what is happening. 😢 It sucks. I am scared I may be ruin everything because of this.

@Op Damn you are so all over the place with your emotions, feelings, action, and thought process of this guy.....I'm like how you describe only when there is really something to be thinking about that I need to know for me. We only know want we need and it takes time to find it. We may go straight in and say fuck it I'll take the risk and then later it goes to shit because have seen certain behaviors or red flags to be thinking about this guy probably because of your own past or upbringing or even friends going through this too.

And it takes a special person to deal with us. We're perfect and do strive for perfect mates. Not everyone knows or understand us and our thinking. We know what we like when we don't we simply think about it and then decide if it's really that important or issues really need to be discussed. If not we let it go. But what's the issue with him? Really?

How long you'll been doing this?

Now I would say just relax and if you trust him and he does want to work it out then you both will.

You are in the process of moving so how about takes some time for you, get your own place just in case, still get your job, and live the life you need. Not everyone is going to be compatible and our thinking so much. It's obsession and you got to talk to him calmly and listen. Then express since you both have different mons, mars, mercury, and venus too.

Posted by Ilovemyaqua

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
How are you btw?

Hey FDTW! Nice to hear from you 🙂
I'm swinging between being very happy to sad.I don't know what to do.I've gotten into a relationship with the man I've liked for 4 years now,it's been 3 months since and I still feel lost.It's my first relationship but all this anxiety and all,it's wearing me out.I just don't feel secure,I'm going crazy.Every few days I find myself analysing my relationship,thinking over and over if this will work.No,he doesn't give me that hard a time.He's nice and affectionate,just like everybody is when in a relationship.I however do not know what I want.I mostly question whatever he does in my head.I'll give you an example,just today we've been texting(cllg is over so we're now long distance, currently at our parent's place until we move to our job cities,so conversations are limited since we both have strict parents) he sent me sweet things and all.However,everytime he would go offline without reading my text,I would feel let down,regardless that he's being so loving.An hour ago he called me to inform me that his hangouts is crashing and his msgs are not getting delivered,I was outside so told him I'll talk to him later.I called him 20 mins back,he didn't answer and now I'm engulfed with feelings of rejection and I'm feeling he doesn't want to talk to me perhaps maybe because I do this or that.I somewhere know it's not a big deal,maybe he's busy,he'll call back later,ppl do miss calls but no,I'm just filled with anxiety and am questioning what is happening. 😢 It sucks. I am scared I may be ruin everything because of this.

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don't worry! welcome to relationships where at times we are all a mess, a jumble of insecurities and anxieties. you are feeling this way because it means so much. that is ok. it's a good thing. it's supposed to mean a lot. the key is entrusting our vulnerabilities and our hearts with those who will be good shepherds of these gifts.

the longer you are in the relationship the easier it will become. you'll find your groove and start to trust the feelings of your partner.

what you are going through is completely normal. it will pass.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/get-hardy/201203/the-early-stages-falling-in-love

Posted by Ilovemyaqua
Yes,I'm guilty of relationship anxiety.I don't know why but I am scared of both distancing and intimacy.Distancing makes me wonder if he still feels the same and too much intimacy freaks me out since I'm scared of how long that should last.

It's probably the ambiguity with your Taurus Sun and Venus in Gemini.

But I could be wrong.