Offended by help and support

So my Taurus friend who is also a crush always seems to get offended when I try to help her or offer support - she always says that she is very independent and she can handle it.

It's not that I don't think she can handle it - it's that it is in my nature to want to be there for someone I care about?

Is this common with Taurus women? And if so, how can I be there for her without making her feel like she can't take care of things herself?

Just seems like people are always taking advantage of her and no one is ever really there for her...

What's your sign?

We are bullheaded, and detest feeling like damsels in distress. It's linear, you wouldn't understand it. We set an objective, focus on that particular goal, and we charge with very little distractions.

However, this is where the contradiction comes in, we want you to help us, it shows masculinity, leadership and reliability. It's an 'attractive' distraction.

Solution:

You have to learn to finesse your 'interruptions'....

Help her out, but immediately apologize for assisting her, by reassuring her...Sorry, I was just being a gentleman."

Contrary to popular belief about a strong female Bull and her independence, we're still big Venusian softies at heart who prefer an old fashioned courtship from a man who is quite chivalrous.

My Bday is April 22nd.

Friend zone doesn't worry me because I know I have to be in it before anything develops further €

You have good intentions, but they shouldn't be forced on someone. If the point of helping someone is to...well, help them, then insisting on helping someone who doesn't want it is counterintuitive, yes? Just because something is offered does not mean the recipient is obligated to accept.

That is, of course, you you genuinely want to help her just for the sake of helping her. All of this will be less easy to accept if you happen to have an alterior motive, say, wooing the Taurus lady, perhaps?

No ulterior motives here. Just feel like she is overworked (which she says she is all the time) and not appreciated. I feel like people take advantage of her and it drives me crazy!

But I can take a step back and let her come to me if that's what she wants. She said if she needs my help, she will ask which I get! Just in my nature to offer support for someone I care about so much

What is your sign?

Sagittarius

I know I know - but we are already great friends

Posted by Yoonited392
So my Taurus friend who is also a crush always seems to get offended when I try to help her or offer support - she always says that she is very independent and she can handle it.

It's not that I don't think she can handle it - it's that it is in my nature to want to be there for someone I care about?

Is this common with Taurus women? And if so, how can I be there for her without making her feel like she can't take care of things herself?

Just seems like people are always taking advantage of her and no one is ever really there for her...

Yeah it's true

Posted by Yoonited392
Sagittarius

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I wonder if you can handle the real emotions when they do come out because she could be the type to express deep and then you arent interested in anything more if things popped off between you two.
Because for now she will just tell you she is independent and don't need help we have it all figured out.

Posted by Yoonited392
No ulterior motives here. Just feel like she is overworked (which she says she is all the time) and not appreciated. I feel like people take advantage of her and it drives me crazy!

But I can take a step back and let her come to me if that's what she wants. She said if she needs my help, she will ask which I get! Just in my nature to offer support for someone I care about so much

I think that's your best bet. She'll most likely appreciate your concern coupled by your respect that she can handle things. Good luck.

@OP
I always love this quote: If someone steals your shirt, give them your coat, bulls are always getting used, to use your line, it’s in their nature, sometimes we see it, but still allow it, sometimes we slowly cut that person off, there are many threads on the disappearing act, our biggest problem (imho) is not cutting our ties until it’s too late.
Actions speak louder than words and being thoughtful, we love being pampered, even a simple dinner or saying thank-you hits the spot, to know you support us, but we need to make up our own damn mind, about you or the situation, hence some call it stubbornness, but they forgot the payload of determination and inner strength that comes with it, and maybe that same stubbornness has to defend you.

Change for us is like sunlight to a vampire, we do ask for help in a clandestine manner, I wouldn’t be here myself if I didn't find this forum and fellow bulls invaluable, but we have no problem owning up to the consequences of our actions,unless its the taxman.

If I need hrlp from someone i ask for it.. whats her mercury? that may help see how she communicates..

my mercury is in taurus

on a side note ... i was reading my teachers' notes on my school performance back then when i was younger than 6 yrs old .. and i was not surprised to see what they said

"she refuses help from anyone ..." i think enough said lol

So on another note -

I keep seeing that it is better to show a Taurus woman that you care rather than saying it?
What are some things that I could do that would be meaningful? I already bring her homemade meals every now and again and her favorite coffee...what else could I be doing to show her how much I care about her?

So what is special to do for Taurus