Send him breakup text.....will he answer?

So Aries/Taurus stellium dude and I were supposed to meet up this weekend after three months of texting, Skyping and sexting (we live in different countries). He came to my country for work and has his entire class of 25 students with him, plus three colleagues.

We were supposed to meet on Friday evening, but he cancelled because he said he could not escape dinner with one of his colleagues. Said he'd text me to meet the following day, but no text has arrived since Friday evening.

So today I sent him a breakup text. "Hey, John, I guess we will not be meeting. I don't feel like you are really into me anyway. It's OK, we can still be friends....xx"

What do you think? He has disappeared these past two days and although he may be on a trip with his students, he should have communicated with me. On Friday when he arrived he was bombarding me with texts, then nothing.

I feel disrespected.

breakup? it doesn't sound like you were in relationship. you should send him a thank you card for showing u he's a dick and a wimpy asshole. lol

lol @ this post.

Haha, well, after I sent him that text, he wrote back saying he's filming a documentary and is away from my city with his colleagues. He will come back "to claim me" in two days. He sent three different messages and kisses.

Maybe this is the way to deal with a disappearing Aries/Taurus? Yeah, ladies, break up and make him work for it. I haven't answered any of his three texts yet.

Sounds like you're perfect for each other

Posted by IllaLupus
Come back and "claim you"?
To me that makes it sound your nothing but something to achieve stab his flag in and move onto the next.

Why do you say that? Just curious....

I would just try and relax about it all now. Acknowledge his text with a 'sounds good :-)' or something that is nice but not OTT and that doesn't require a response.

You got a response. It sounds positive. Leave it at that and see what happens. I wouldn't 'chase' him. Just let him lead and contact you. If he does then go from there. If in two or so days time he doesn't then you have your answer. In two days he might get busy again with what he's doing, sometimes things happen. Leave him alone now, he knows where you are.

AgentP911, I agree. Sensible advice.

He just wants to fuck you, dear.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
He just wants to fuck you, dear.

hence the word "claim"

You don't know what he wants. He might want to fuck her and that's it or he might want a date or go for a beer or whatever.

The point is you don't know so play it by ear and then when the OP knows more she can make her judgement.

...he just wants to fuck her.

You do realize you're working with a male brain here, right? The sexting already says a lot.

1. Texting/Skyping
2. Sexting
3. Meet up
4. Banging
5. —?
6. Profit
7. Comes back to DXP wondering why he's gotten "distant" or "busy" or "weird."







If he doesn't do the "typical" male thing here, then he gets a gold star. But I'm sorry, you have your head up your ass if you think that only after 3 months of texting/sexting that he's not thinking about getting laid when meeting her. She's already set the bar pretty low for standards here.

I don't have my head up my arse and I don't think he's not thinking about getting laid.

If she opens her legs then he's going to take it. Most blokes will. It's how they're programmed.

My point is to be careful about being judgemental and writing something off or assuming a particular intention or outcome.

They live in different countries so meeting up would be tricky.

He's come to her country for work purposes.

So far he's been occupied with work duties so they have not met up.

Sure, every woman wants the fairytale where he drops everything to come and meet her but reality doesn't work like that.

She text him to say 'have a nice life' and he responded to say he is interested and will come and see her when he's free.

Now if he continues to piss about and doesn't see her at all then that's a poor show and he clearly wasn't interested enough. No bad reflection on the OP. That's just life.

If he does see her and all he wants to do is get his dick out then he's a bit of a knobhead.

If he does see her but is more gentlemanly like and they get on then it's down to OP to decide what she wants. Does she open her legs or not. What are they both hoping to achieve from this long distance situation.

We don't have the full story so it's easy to just say 'oh he wants to fuck her' and that's it. I'm sure he does but why not let the situation unfold and then the OP will know more once he does or does not meet her etc.

Yes, well, he should be coming back on his own to see me in the next day or so. I mean, he does have a group of over 20 students with him, so he is responsible for them. But what I don't like is that he did not tell me he'd be away with the group for so long....apparently, their plans changed and he didn't tell me.

It's obvious he wants sex. I mean, I want that too, I am no prude. It's just that I find it odd someone in a foreign country would text me for three months and be persistent when he is surrounded by women in his own country. Either I am really special and don't know it, the guy is hooked on texting foreigners, or he is interested in more than sex. I don't know....

Firstly, he's a man. He's not going to 'report' to you on stuff like that such as his work situation, timings etc.

We might think this is simple, common courtesy, considerate to do so etc but to a man this is not always how they work.

We have certain expectations of how they should act and when they don't live up to these we feel pissed off. We then feel like either writing them off or excusing their actions when in reality they are just being blokes.

Obviously there are certain things that should be expected but that's later on down the line when you know each other more or are in more of a relationship. That kind of respect and communication develops over time.

Given your situation I think it is unrealistic to expect much which is why I'm saying go with the flow and see what happens. There's nothing to lose and possibly something to gain.

I don't know the full story here but blokes wouldn't text or keep contact with a girl for three months if he wasn't interested in her. I don't just mean sex. I mean in general. Especially not when they are miles apart and don't owe each other anything.

The reason I say all of this is because your situation sounds a bit like mine.

I honestly think that sending him that breakup text was the best thing to do. It just taught him to be more proactive and that I am not going to put up with BS. You've got to speak up with men......it is a lesson I've learned the hard way with exes.

Posted by lotus
I honestly think that sending him that breakup text was the best thing to do. It just taught him to be more proactive and that I am not going to put up with BS. You've got to speak up with men......it is a lesson I've learned the hard way with exes.

yeah, that attitude is going to serve you well in the long run....

Posted by tiziani

Posted by lotus
I honestly think that sending him that breakup text was the best thing to do. It just taught him to be more proactive and that I am not going to put up with BS. You've got to speak up with men......it is a lesson I've learned the hard way with exes.

Lol there's a flip side to that coin. Did you ever think of what it taught you?


Now you'll be sending break up texts anytime you want something you're not getting.


Which isn't something anyone can tolerate long-term.

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Yes, but see, I actually *was* ready to give up and let him go. It's the whole attitude. I figured, if he likes me, he'll fight for it. If he doesn't, good riddance. Either way, I win. Better to know early than waste my time, right?

But see, I feel like you always have to give people the benefit of the doubt. In my case, it is still very early. On the other hand, though, men are known to take things for granted so a shakeup will often make them act.

Posted by lotus
But see, I feel like you always have to give people the benefit of the doubt. In my case, it is still very early. On the other hand, though, men are known to take things for granted so a shakeup will often make them act.

Do you even like men?