Why doesn't this feel right?

This is once again about the Aries dude with a Taurus stellium.

He used to send me messages every day for two months. Most of our conversations were sexual. He then proceeded to send me several semi-nude photos of himself (I didn't ask for them) and asked me to send him some too I refused, saying that he would probably get to see me in person when we meet up in about ten days.

This entire month, he has reached out maybe once every 3-4 days. I am letting him initiate and am keeping the conversation non-sexual, but I don't feel like he is interested in reciprocating much. A guy friend suggested that he wants to close the distance gap by seeing pics of me and imagining things. I don't know why that just sounds like a turnoff to me.

Anyway, we are due to meet up for a vacation together in 10 days. I fear he is only looking for one thing. I am debating whether I should just tell him that I feel he only sees me as an object. I've had issues with men seeing me as an object before. What do you think?

Posted by Koniucha
Have you met him before in person? I certainly wouldn't go on a vacation with a guy I have never seen. Sounds like trouble.

Oh yes. We were colleagues and have many mutual friends. It's just that we both had our contracts end and now work in two different countries.

Posted by starlover
Are you sharing a room with him?

No. He is coming to visit me but can't stay where I am staying so he will be in a hotel room.

Posted by starlover
It doesn't feel right because you are going with your gut feeling. Tell him you are not looking for sex only, but something deeper. You will know from his reaction what he is about

clear cut advice. it doesnt feel right because you know its not right. Listen to that gut of yours.

Once an aries stops initiating, theyve moved on to another target of least resistance.

Sending nude pics....clear signal of his intentions.

Uh, your fears would be correct. Sounds like he's in on it for just one thing. In my experience, guys who are only sexual when in touch are focusing on one thing. If he wasn't solely looking for that, he wouldn't be doing this shit.

I wouldn't bother unless you're down for that type of thing.

It's not that he isn't initiating......I am letting him initiate, but he used to initiate almost every day before and now it's like 3-4 times a day. Still, I only reply.

I guess when we meet in ten days I just have to spell it out to him in person.

feby, no he is supposed to come to my town for a visit.

Yeah, this week we've been exchanging lots of messages, but it seems that he only wants to talk about sex and to see semi-nude pics of me. Hmmmm, I guess I'll find out what he wants when he comes over in four days.....

Posted by lotus
Yeah, this week we've been exchanging lots of messages, but it seems that he only wants to talk about sex and to see semi-nude pics of me. Hmmmm, I guess I'll find out what he wants when he comes over in four days.....

I doesn't sound like it is a mystery.

It*

Men can be a total mystery sometimes.....

Yes, so no contact for four days now. He's arrived in my city tonight and hasn't contacted me, but he has Skype on mobile open for an hour now. Either he is full of himself and expects me to contact him, or he is seeing someone else and talking to her. Weird....