Taurus Friend- Confrontation- Avoidance

Posted by Huldra
What's your sign, OP?

Posted by AgentP911
I'm curious, what exactly did you want him to do with that information?

You told him about not being special or whatever. What did you expect from this?

Posted by Tweety19

Posted by AgentP911
I'm curious, what exactly did you want him to do with that information?

You told him about not being special or whatever. What did you expect from this?

I expected a lot from a one-year old frd? My bad!
I expected him to talk to me one to one for once and not on groups. I expected him to realize that I feel he isn't valuing my friendship. Being honest was my fault I guess...

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Posted by Huldra
What do you want from this guy? Avoiding fibbing is in your best interest right now. You seem to emphasize friendship, but if you have romantic feelings for him, just take it as it is.

Earth signs have no patience for drama, they're very practical and direct. I can relate to it as my heavily aspected Venus is in Taurus.

You sound like me. If you love the guy, just calmly and gently state it. But don't do the classic indirect way, because that's the easy way to being viewed as a drama breeder.

Posted by Huldra
I'm sorry if I seem insensitive or hostile. I really am not. But I see a younger self in you and the past can be amusing sometimes.

Above all else, just don't lie to yourself. And if you want him, just open up sincetely. It is what it is, and you'll have to accept whatever he has to say. You don't have anything to lose, really.

Might spare you a good deal of emotional anguish if anything.

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Posted by Tweety19

Posted by AgentP911


perhaps he just didn't feel as strongly as you do about the friendship. it happens.

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Yeah..May be... I have put myself in a mess!! Ugh!!

Posted by KittyKnitter
if he was shocked that you felt like you weren't someone special and he tried to convince you, then his feelings for you are likely stronger than you know. you hurt him by not listening to what he had to say. if you were really his friend then you would have heard his side of things and both of you would have come to an agreement of sorts. that would be the fair thing to do. by not listening you shut him out and he is mad about that. in the same situation i would do the same thing he did.

but if i were you, i would open up. you got upset and he would understand that. by being honest you appeal to his emotions, which will soften him up to better understanding what you feel.if what you miss is the one on one chats and the close friendship you had then why not say it that way? if you want a strong friendship for now with the possibility of more in the future, then also why not say that? true it's a risk to reveal your feelings but better to take a chance then cut someone out of your life completely because they are not doing things the way you want them to do. that never works with a Taurus. they won't be pushed, ignored, told what to do or judged.

probably he thinks that you might be telling him he cannot be friends with them and also friends with you, and that is not what you are saying so you should clear it up. he has been a good friend and really what has he done that does not deserve honesty and clarity? explain things-not in a way that makes sense to you but in a way that makes sense to him because if you really do care about him, then you will put more effort not less into getting on to same page. and if he cares as much for you as you do about him, then get used to the work because he very likely is worth the extra effort.

Posted by 18scorpio
Hey Tweety19!

This sounds very similar to my experience with a Taurus guy and I did end up acting like you. I had feelings for him as well and I told him the exact same thing when I didn't feel valued. And it was terrible.

He cut off all ties and started avoiding me. At that time, I pushed him to start talking to me again. That was the worst mistake of my life. Six months went by and things were so weird and rocky. I know what you feel at the moment. So here's my advice to you:

You said that he has deleted WhatsApp and that he's left the group. I advice you to let him be. Don't try to contact him immediately. Give him space. When you told him about your feelings, you didn't give him a hint about what you want him to do with that information. Also, you put in a clause.. it wasn't just an expression of your feelings.. you brought in the "I feel like any other girl" angle. You see, when your Taurus wasn't talking to you apart from group chats, he didn't know that you liked him. So he didn't have a motivation to treat you any different. Get what I am saying?

So now, to your taurus, you seem to hold him accountable for not treating you right when he wasn't made privy to the existence of your feelings. And that is unfair, at least in his mind. I can bet that's how he feels at the moment.

He's cut himself off because he needs to decide what he's going to do. And trust me, he is going to take his time. So I suggest you go on with life. He will probably think over the possibility of having feelings for you and if he decides that he has, then he will come back. On the other hand, if he doesn't have feelings for you, he will let you know. But right now he just needs to think it over and it's best to give him space no matter how hard it is for you.

Posted by Tweety19

18Scorpio! I think I have got my answer as to what I should do next. And I liked that you explained it so very nicely and calmly. It's sort of clear to me now. Thanks so much! 😄 😄

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