Taurus is AWOL

And I'm wondering whether I should, and what to do about it.

Last time I heard from him we got in a bit of a fight. He canceled our plans, again, due to a migraine, again. Told me over text. I'd rather talk about things in person, but that is hard when I only see him once a week if I'm lucky. Tried to tell him that I'm feeling unimportant, and he told me to quit whining. I dont care what sign you are, that is inconsiderate and shows a lack of caring and interest. Otoh, who doesnt get snappy when they feel like shit? I ended the conversation by saying I just wanted you to know how im feeling, we can talk about it when you feel better, I really like you. And later that evening, one saying goodnight, hope you feel better, I just miss you. Havent heard from him in three days. Which is unusual, usually we text every day. So, do I write it off? Wait? Send him a text just saying something simple like, thinking about you, hope you feel better? I dont want to come across desperate, I'm not, but I do really like him and I'm not the type that gives up easily, in anything.

Impulsiv, it is a combination of a few things. I'm here in this city with almost no friends. Working on that, but it leaves a lot of lonely and boring nights. Its my own insecurity. I guess I could have been being inconsiderate.. hmm...

Elle, *I* don't think *I* was being snappy, he was. But I can forgive that if its just because he felt like shit..

Everyone, the rest of the story (that I didn't know if you all wanted to hear, but now sounds like it might be important) is after he told me to quit whining I said 'are you serious? I was being serious' and he said 'yes I'm serious, do you think I like feeling like this?' and I said 'no but there are plenty of days you don't and you still don't make time to see me' and he said 'I told you I had a lot on my plate' (grad student who works full time and takes work home) and I said 'well maybe you don't have time for a relationship then' and he said 'if thats how you feel, I'm not going to argue with you right now, its making my head hurt'. So maybe I'm in the wrong?

I did send those two other texts also though, the one saying 'we can talk about it when you feel better, I really like you' and then the one saying 'hope you feel better, I just miss you' AFTER that conversation. Haven't heard a word. I don't feel apologetic for how I FEEL, but maybe my delivery was a bit insensitive? (damn sag merc again)

So now.. send him a text saying I'm thinking about him? Write it off? Wait? One person told me to call him up and GO OVER THERE, without an invitation to talk about it..? Course I can't just show up, not like I have a key.. IDK what I should do.

Well, I figured if there was a possibility I came across as insensitive, I'd go with the send him a text option and see what happened. I figured, whats the worst that can happen? He won't answer, and I'll have mine. Apparently he was giving me some space to think about things, which is funny, because that's exactly what I was trying to do. So we talked, I told him how I'm feeling, and he said seeing me more will be hard.. but he said it in a way that implied that he would (and wants to) if we can find a way. And he gave me some shit about being an over emotional scorpio 😛 and anyway, it was very nice and now I can see what he thinks/feels and after that serious conversation got over with, we just had a nice time talking and joking about stuff.

You see him once a week.

Texting is not conversation or bonding.

The headache is you.

Move on. Date others, eat free food and be merry.

You don't sound happy and you're questioning yourself.

Thing is, you're entitled to be unhappy if the situation didn't make you feel nice.

However, it's better to look at why YOU are unhappy, instead of putting it on him. Sometimes, people just can't give you what you need. if you don't get enough from this guy and he can't give you anymore right now - don't put your energy into thinking the relationship is anything but casual.

Asking him for more and more isn't going to get you more - it's going to get you a headache.

Painful to move on? Most likely - but WAY better in the long run if you're in a constant state of frustrated unhappiness.