Taurus man deciding on what??

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Taurus and I have been dating over six months. He was the best companion I've ever had in the beginning and continued for quite some time. He told me multiple times he was glad he found me and enjoyed hanging with me and my family and friends. I've even hung out with his family on occasions. Recently he explained to me that he was slow at deciding and he really cared about me. I was confused about the "slow to decide" remark but I didn't think anything else about it until he started to slowly become distant. We haven't had a date or dinner in about three weeks, he hasn't offered to help me around the house, he isn't sending good morning text and calling regularly. I'm not sure if it something I did or what. I'm wondering when he's deciding, does it require little to no contact? I'm not used to that. This behavior is completely night and day to what he's been displaying. If I break it off with him, then he'll think I really didn't care about him, and I do very much so! I just don't know what else to do, I feel like I'm losing him to someone else or forever!!
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I haven't contacted him although he did send a text today due to thanksgiving. I responded about two hours later after I finished riding my motorbike. But nothing since. This is not traditional for someone who is interested a long term relationship. I'm being patient but I would prefer in the future if he would talk to me about what he's dealing with because I may be able to help. I'm moving on with my life style but I can't help but wait and worry about what's troubling him. I remember him mentioning to me that he has to ask himself several questions that have nothing to do with me. Should I be worried about someone else? If he treats me so nicely, I'm sure there is another women that knows how nicely she could be treated. Are Taurus men loyal while deciding?
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I remember you saying he had already decided?

Ask him what the problem is. It may not be you. He might be going through something.
This behavior just started recently...previously it seemed he had made his mind up and we talked about it vaguely. I didn't want to pressure him so I left the topic alone. I know he hates pressure! I do too! Coming from being and seeing him almost every chance we get, to not seeing or hearing from him at all, is just a shock to me. This is risky, he could lose me to another guy because I get approached often. But I'm loyal! I only want him! If I have to walk away, it would be hard but I am prepared to do it for my hearts sake.
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I haven't contacted him although he did send a text today due to thanksgiving. I responded about two hours later after I finished riding my motorbike. But nothing since. This is not traditional for someone who is interested a long term relationship. I'm being patient but I would prefer in the future if he would talk to me about what he's dealing with because I may be able to help. I'm moving on with my life style but I can't help but wait and worry about what's troubling him. I remember him mentioning to me that he has to ask himself several questions that have nothing to do with me. Should I be worried about someone else? If he treats me so nicely, I'm sure there is another women that knows how nicely she could be treated. Are Taurus men loyal while deciding?

If you want communication, why don't you start communicating? He can't read you mind. He may not realise that this is affecting you the way it is.

You don't have to make a big deal b about it. Just ask him, how he is. Remark that he has been quiet. Say you miss him him. Don't offer to help. You are not his mother. If he wants your help, he will ask you for it.

Most men don't want our help. They go away and work things out themselves. Mainly all they want is our support, even if it is a silent understanding of support.
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I remember you saying he had already decided?

Ask him what the problem is. It may not be you. He might be going through something.
This behavior just started recently...previously it seemed he had made his mind up and we talked about it vaguely. I didn't want to pressure him so I left the topic alone. I know he hates pressure! I do too! Coming from being and seeing him almost every chance we get, to not seeing or hearing from him at all, is just a shock to me. This is risky, he could lose me to another guy because I get approached often. But I'm loyal! I only want him! If I have to walk away, it would be hard but I am prepared to do it for my hearts sake.
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Dont start thinking about ultimatums in your mind. You're giving up before anything has happened yet. Just chill out.

Have a bit of faith.

(want to add here that I've either told myself this or been told this too many times to remember. Everytime I am grateful that I didn't spin out of control. Just wait. Don't fly off the handle after stirring yourself into a frenzy.)
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I remember you saying he had already decided?

Ask him what the problem is. It may not be you. He might be going through something.
This behavior just started recently...previously it seemed he had made his mind up and we talked about it vaguely. I didn't want to pressure him so I left the topic alone. I know he hates pressure! I do too! Coming from being and seeing him almost every chance we get, to not seeing or hearing from him at all, is just a shock to me. This is risky, he could lose me to another guy because I get approached often. But I'm loyal! I only want him! If I have to walk away, it would be hard but I am prepared to do it for my hearts sake.

Dont start thinking about ultimatums in your mind. You're giving up before anything has happened yet. Just chill out.

Have a bit of faith.

(want to add here that I've either told myself this or been told this too many times to remember. Everytime I am grateful that I didn't spin out of control. Just wait. Don't fly off the handle after stirring yourself into a frenzy.)

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That is great advice! I can remember multiple times I didn't jump to my conclusions and it all worked out for the best. This is hard and just a test of my patience. Holidays are harder!
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That is great advice! I can remember multiple times I didn't jump to my conclusions and it all worked out for the best. This is hard and just a test of my patience. Holidays are harder!
It's really hard. I've been with my bull 2.5 years and I still have my moments. This is a flaw with me. It's something I have to deal with and control. It's not a good side to me. It's one thing to not want to be taken advantage of, it's another to douse the whole thing in petrol and start playing with the zippy lighter at your mind's whim.

And you know, no matter how angry/annoyed/upset/distraught/fucked off you feel, you know when you see him all that flies out the window.

It doesn't matter how much that devil speaks on my shoulder, one glimpse from him and that whole slate is wiped clean.
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That is great advice! I can remember multiple times I didn't jump to my conclusions and it all worked out for the best. This is hard and just a test of my patience. Holidays are harder!
It's really hard. I've been with my bull 2.5 years and I still have my moments. This is a flaw with me. It's something I have to deal with and control. It's not a good side to me. It's one thing to not want to be taken advantage of, it's another to douse the whole thing in petrol and start playing with the zippy lighter at your mind's whim.

And you know, no matter how angry/annoyed/upset/distraught/fucked off you feel, you know when you see him all that flies out the window.

It doesn't matter how much that devil speaks on my shoulder, one glimpse from him and that whole slate is wiped clean.

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2.5 years...WOW! I only wish I could fast forward that long and be done with all this preliminary dating stuff. He's a dream come true and I know I am any mans dream! We balance each other really well. He just has to see that for himself. I can't make him see it. The slowness is new to me because when I make my mind up I'm sure and sometimes all in. Now that has gotten my feelings hurt before in the past but I still love, love!
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That is great advice! I can remember multiple times I didn't jump to my conclusions and it all worked out for the best. This is hard and just a test of my patience. Holidays are harder!
It's really hard. I've been with my bull 2.5 years and I still have my moments. This is a flaw with me. It's something I have to deal with and control. It's not a good side to me. It's one thing to not want to be taken advantage of, it's another to douse the whole thing in petrol and start playing with the zippy lighter at your mind's whim.

And you know, no matter how angry/annoyed/upset/distraught/fucked off you feel, you know when you see him all that flies out the window.

It doesn't matter how much that devil speaks on my shoulder, one glimpse from him and that whole slate is wiped clean.


2.5 years...WOW! I only wish I could fast forward that long and be done with all this preliminary dating stuff. He's a dream come true and I know I am any mans dream! We balance each other really well. He just has to see that for himself. I can't make him see it. The slowness is new to me because when I make my mind up I'm sure and sometimes all in. Now that has gotten my feelings hurt before in the past but I still love, love!

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He may see it already. You don't know what this quiet period is about. You're assuming it must be about you. He has other things in his life, it could be about that. You won't know until you talk to him.
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My two pence worth is this.

Let's take a deep breath, pause, then back up and rewind to the beginning.

You've been 'dating' for six months. That's a long, drawn out dating period. Are you exclusive?

After a few dates I'd expect to know what each other we're looking for. A relationship? FWB? Casual dating? Friends? I'd establish if what you're both looking for is a match.

If it's a match then after a few months, let's say three months of dating, I'd expect to have established if there's enough there between you to continue being with each other in whichever capacity that might be. If a relationship I'd be looking for exclusivity. If FWB or casual dating I'd be checking in with myself to see if it's still what I wanted and if it was worth it. If casual dating then it needs to go somewhere depending on what you're both looking for.

At six months that would be enough time to really start getting to know each other. Good communication. A settled routine of some kind. Meeting family and friends. More social things together. Expanding on the previous six months and making plans for the next six months. If at six months it's not quite fitting with each other then it could be time to move on.

On a side note, I get the impression from you that you're not quite present in this relationship. It's as if all your expectations are pinned on him to do something. You're focusing on what he hasn't done and what he's not doing. He hasn't asked you out to dinner in three weeks, he's not helped you round your house, he doesn't text in the mornings anymore etc.

Yet you're sitting there not really taking responsibility or ownership of your share of this relationship. You're preferring to wallow and ponder rather than communicate with him.

What's stopping you bothering with him?

At six months in, I'd recommend you work on your communication because if you're looking for something long term and this is how it is now then this is how it will continue.

Look at it differently. You're now getting to see the real man. This is who he is. This is how he deals with things. He probably doesn't realise what is happening or what the impact of this is on you. He's a bloke! Why not ask him out? Do something for him? Don't focus on this 'problem' which isn't a problem and just enjoy the time. He could probably do with his girlfriend bothering herself instead of thinking about dumping him or being dumped as soon as the shit hits the fan or something doesn't go her way.

And leave off the manipulation. Appreciate the simple nature of the Taurus man. They can be very good for scorps, even if they can be a bit slow and boring at times!
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That is great advice! I can remember multiple times I didn't jump to my conclusions and it all worked out for the best. This is hard and just a test of my patience. Holidays are harder!
It's really hard. I've been with my bull 2.5 years and I still have my moments. This is a flaw with me. It's something I have to deal with and control. It's not a good side to me. It's one thing to not want to be taken advantage of, it's another to douse the whole thing in petrol and start playing with the zippy lighter at your mind's whim.

And you know, no matter how angry/annoyed/upset/distraught/fucked off you feel, you know when you see him all that flies out the window.

It doesn't matter how much that devil speaks on my shoulder, one glimpse from him and that whole slate is wiped clean.


2.5 years...WOW! I only wish I could fast forward that long and be done with all this preliminary dating stuff. He's a dream come true and I know I am any mans dream! We balance each other really well. He just has to see that for himself. I can't make him see it. The slowness is new to me because when I make my mind up I'm sure and sometimes all in. Now that has gotten my feelings hurt before in the past but I still love, love!


"I know I am any man's dream"... You are pretty egotistical.. But the Taurus is already putting water on your ego....
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Don't confuse egoism with confidence. I am confident...everyone doesn't get it because confidence is intimating. To most who can handle it, confidence is sexy!
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My two pence worth is this.

Let's take a deep breath, pause, then back up and rewind to the beginning.

You've been 'dating' for six months. That's a long, drawn out dating period. Are you exclusive?

After a few dates I'd expect to know what each other we're looking for. A relationship? FWB? Casual dating? Friends? I'd establish if what you're both looking for is a match.

If it's a match then after a few months, let's say three months of dating, I'd expect to have established if there's enough there between you to continue being with each other in whichever capacity that might be. If a relationship I'd be looking for exclusivity. If FWB or casual dating I'd be checking in with myself to see if it's still what I wanted and if it was worth it. If casual dating then it needs to go somewhere depending on what you're both looking for.

At six months that would be enough time to really start getting to know each other. Good communication. A settled routine of some kind. Meeting family and friends. More social things together. Expanding on the previous six months and making plans for the next six months. If at six months it's not quite fitting with each other then it could be time to move on.

On a side note, I get the impression from you that you're not quite present in this relationship. It's as if all your expectations are pinned on him to do something. You're focusing on what he hasn't done and what he's not doing. He hasn't asked you out to dinner in three weeks, he's not helped you round your house, he doesn't text in the mornings anymore etc.

Yet you're sitting there not really taking responsibility or ownership of your share of this relationship. You're preferring to wallow and ponder rather than communicate with him.

What's stopping you bothering with him?

At six months in, I'd recommend you work on your communication because if you're looking for something long term and this is how it is now then this is how it will continue.

Look at it differently. You're now getting to see the real man. This is who he is. This is how he deals with things. He probably doesn't realise what is happening or what the impact of this is on you. He's a bloke! Why not ask him out? Do something for him? Don't focus on this 'problem' which isn't a problem and just enjoy the time. He could probably do with his girlfriend bothering herself instead of thinking about dumping him or being dumped as soon as the shit hits the fan or something doesn't go her way.

And leave off the manipulation. Appreciate the simple nature of the Taurus man. They can be very good for scorps, even if they can be a bit slow and boring at times!
There are several things I let unspoken because I was trying to gain an understanding of his current actions. We are exclusive and not FWB. Both of us were available when we met. He'd been single for two years, me for one year. We are both looking for the same things balance, trust, love, dependability and so on.

I have done a lot on my part of the relationship. I cook, I give small gifts, I sometimes pay for dinner and lunch. I include him in some decisions, not all. We have made future plans and trips with each other which are still pending. I'm not perfect, I have flaws but for the most part I am civil. I'm good with finances and maintain a healthy life style including running and working out. I have other hobbies , currently motorbike, friends and I love animals!

I'm giving him time to decide on what he wants to do because I understand this could possibly not be about me. I am remaining patient!
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That is great advice! I can remember multiple times I didn't jump to my conclusions and it all worked out for the best. This is hard and just a test of my patience. Holidays are harder!
It's really hard. I've been with my bull 2.5 years and I still have my moments. This is a flaw with me. It's something I have to deal with and control. It's not a good side to me. It's one thing to not want to be taken advantage of, it's another to douse the whole thing in petrol and start playing with the zippy lighter at your mind's whim.

And you know, no matter how angry/annoyed/upset/distraught/fucked off you feel, you know when you see him all that flies out the window.

It doesn't matter how much that devil speaks on my shoulder, one glimpse from him and that whole slate is wiped clean.


2.5 years...WOW! I only wish I could fast forward that long and be done with all this preliminary dating stuff. He's a dream come true and I know I am any mans dream! We balance each other really well. He just has to see that for himself. I can't make him see it. The slowness is new to me because when I make my mind up I'm sure and sometimes all in. Now that has gotten my feelings hurt before in the past but I still love, love!


"I know I am any man's dream"... You are pretty egotistical.. But the Taurus is already putting water on your ego....
Don't confuse egoism with confidence. I am confident...everyone doesn't get it because confidence is intimating. To most who can handle it, confidence is sexy!
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Not everyone can be wrong then, eh!

If 'everyone' doesn't 'get' it then perhaps you need to tweak 'it' a bit... Or a lot.

Confidence doesn't have to be intimidating. I will assume you meant intimidating. Why would you revel in being intimidating? What purpose is this serving for you? Perhaps not a great one at the moment in time.

Chill yer boots.
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That is great advice! I can remember multiple times I didn't jump to my conclusions and it all worked out for the best. This is hard and just a test of my patience. Holidays are harder!
It's really hard. I've been with my bull 2.5 years and I still have my moments. This is a flaw with me. It's something I have to deal with and control. It's not a good side to me. It's one thing to not want to be taken advantage of, it's another to douse the whole thing in petrol and start playing with the zippy lighter at your mind's whim.

And you know, no matter how angry/annoyed/upset/distraught/fucked off you feel, you know when you see him all that flies out the window.

It doesn't matter how much that devil speaks on my shoulder, one glimpse from him and that whole slate is wiped clean.


2.5 years...WOW! I only wish I could fast forward that long and be done with all this preliminary dating stuff. He's a dream come true and I know I am any mans dream! We balance each other really well. He just has to see that for himself. I can't make him see it. The slowness is new to me because when I make my mind up I'm sure and sometimes all in. Now that has gotten my feelings hurt before in the past but I still love, love!


"I know I am any man's dream"... You are pretty egotistical.. But the Taurus is already putting water on your ego....
Don't confuse egoism with confidence. I am confident...everyone doesn't get it because confidence is intimating. To most who can handle it, confidence is sexy!


Not everyone can be wrong then, eh!

If 'everyone' doesn't 'get' it then perhaps you need to tweak 'it' a bit... Or a lot.

Confidence doesn't have to be intimidating. I will assume you meant intimidating. Why would you revel in being intimidating? What purpose is this serving for you? Perhaps not a great one at the moment in time.

Chill yer boots.

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My boots are chill. Im not concerned about me being intimidating or confident right now. I appreciate the comment though. Sorry if we misunderstood one another.
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My two pence worth is this.

Let's take a deep breath, pause, then back up and rewind to the beginning.

You've been 'dating' for six months. That's a long, drawn out dating period. Are you exclusive?

After a few dates I'd expect to know what each other we're looking for. A relationship? FWB? Casual dating? Friends? I'd establish if what you're both looking for is a match.

If it's a match then after a few months, let's say three months of dating, I'd expect to have established if there's enough there between you to continue being with each other in whichever capacity that might be. If a relationship I'd be looking for exclusivity. If FWB or casual dating I'd be checking in with myself to see if it's still what I wanted and if it was worth it. If casual dating then it needs to go somewhere depending on what you're both looking for.

At six months that would be enough time to really start getting to know each other. Good communication. A settled routine of some kind. Meeting family and friends. More social things together. Expanding on the previous six months and making plans for the next six months. If at six months it's not quite fitting with each other then it could be time to move on.

On a side note, I get the impression from you that you're not quite present in this relationship. It's as if all your expectations are pinned on him to do something. You're focusing on what he hasn't done and what he's not doing. He hasn't asked you out to dinner in three weeks, he's not helped you round your house, he doesn't text in the mornings anymore etc.

Yet you're sitting there not really taking responsibility or ownership of your share of this relationship. You're preferring to wallow and ponder rather than communicate with him.

What's stopping you bothering with him?

At six months in, I'd recommend you work on your communication because if you're looking for something long term and this is how it is now then this is how it will continue.

Look at it differently. You're now getting to see the real man. This is who he is. This is how he deals with things. He probably doesn't realise what is happening or what the impact of this is on you. He's a bloke! Why not ask him out? Do something for him? Don't focus on this 'problem' which isn't a problem and just enjoy the time. He could probably do with his girlfriend bothering herself instead of thinking about dumping him or being dumped as soon as the shit hits the fan or something doesn't go her way.

And leave off the manipulation. Appreciate the simple nature of the Taurus man. They can be very good for scorps, even if they can be a bit slow and boring at times!
There are several things I let unspoken because I was trying to gain an understanding of his current actions. We are exclusive and not FWB. Both of us were available when we met. He'd been single for two years, me for one year. We are both looking for the same things balance, trust, love, dependability and so on.

I have done a lot on my part of the relationship. I cook, I give small gifts, I sometimes pay for dinner and lunch. I include him in some decisions, not all. We have made future plans and trips with each other which are still pending. I'm not perfect, I have flaws but for the most part I am civil. I'm good with finances and maintain a healthy life style including running and working out. I have other hobbies , currently motorbike, friends and I love animals!

I'm giving him time to decide on what he wants to do because I understand this could possibly not be about me. I am remaining patient!
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Fair enough. It doesn't sound like a huge issue or to do with you. It sounds like a healthy relationship which has come up against a rough patch. This really is the time where the initial best behaviour starts to fade a little and reality sets in. The time where you get to really see each other. It's not like you'd go through the next twenty years without any issues at all, is it!

Most of the time it is something unrelated to you. Some blokes need that time to process whereas others gossip like a girl!

I would drop those sabotaging thoughts of dumping and being dumped though. It's not doing you any favours.

Come to think of it, it was around six months when me and my Taurus had our first spat. Two stubborn arseholes discussing a sensitive subject at an inappropriate time! I told him to leave! All I was thinking of was having to be ready by 10:15 as I was being picked up (posh day out with the girls). I didn't realise it sounded so 'final'! He thought I was dumping him! He was devastated. It couldn't have been further from the truth though. The daft sod. We fixed it though. We had to. I was meeting his parents the next day for the first time!! Meh, it's been nearly a year and I've learnt to communicate better. He's not really one for man cave time. I have to force him to get out and go fishing with his mate or whatever.

I think just be there for him. He sounds like s nice fella.
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That is great advice! I can remember multiple times I didn't jump to my conclusions and it all worked out for the best. This is hard and just a test of my patience. Holidays are harder!
It's really hard. I've been with my bull 2.5 years and I still have my moments. This is a flaw with me. It's something I have to deal with and control. It's not a good side to me. It's one thing to not want to be taken advantage of, it's another to douse the whole thing in petrol and start playing with the zippy lighter at your mind's whim.

And you know, no matter how angry/annoyed/upset/distraught/fucked off you feel, you know when you see him all that flies out the window.

It doesn't matter how much that devil speaks on my shoulder, one glimpse from him and that whole slate is wiped clean.


2.5 years...WOW! I only wish I could fast forward that long and be done with all this preliminary dating stuff. He's a dream come true and I know I am any mans dream! We balance each other really well. He just has to see that for himself. I can't make him see it. The slowness is new to me because when I make my mind up I'm sure and sometimes all in. Now that has gotten my feelings hurt before in the past but I still love, love!


"I know I am any man's dream"... You are pretty egotistical.. But the Taurus is already putting water on your ego....
Don't confuse egoism with confidence. I am confident...everyone doesn't get it because confidence is intimating. To most who can handle it, confidence is sexy!
Confidence is sexy.. but your not very confident about how your Taurus man feels and if your "every mans dream".. he wouldn't be putting you on hold.
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im not very confident about my Taurus mans because of this type behavior. I can't remember dating someone like this before especially when everything is going so well. He does have me on hold but I still have other options that are currently on hold for me. I do not want to intice them because I know the past six months with this Taurus man has made progress for a solid future. I just want to make the right decision.
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I remember when my partner first after went awol. We weren't together then, still friends. I didn't hear from him for three days. None of my texts were answered. I couldn't understand what I did wrong. It came out of nowhere.

I fretted, I thought the worst, in my mind I was calling him all sorts of names, the next instance I was begging forgiveness.

After my final, pleading text, he responds. He's had a rough weekend. Nowt to do with me.

All of that emotion and time obsessing wasted. One time I broke up with him. Took me about 12 hours to realise my mistake but it hurt us. We went back a couple of steps there. I still regret it. It was a learning experience though.

He still goes into his shell now and again. Ive learnt that it's not about me. I give him his space, reassure him I am never far away then let him get on with it. After a day, he'll reach out and find me there.
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That is great advice! I can remember multiple times I didn't jump to my conclusions and it all worked out for the best. This is hard and just a test of my patience. Holidays are harder!
It's really hard. I've been with my bull 2.5 years and I still have my moments. This is a flaw with me. It's something I have to deal with and control. It's not a good side to me. It's one thing to not want to be taken advantage of, it's another to douse the whole thing in petrol and start playing with the zippy lighter at your mind's whim.

And you know, no matter how angry/annoyed/upset/distraught/fucked off you feel, you know when you see him all that flies out the window.

It doesn't matter how much that devil speaks on my shoulder, one glimpse from him and that whole slate is wiped clean.


2.5 years...WOW! I only wish I could fast forward that long and be done with all this preliminary dating stuff. He's a dream come true and I know I am any mans dream! We balance each other really well. He just has to see that for himself. I can't make him see it. The slowness is new to me because when I make my mind up I'm sure and sometimes all in. Now that has gotten my feelings hurt before in the past but I still love, love!


"I know I am any man's dream"... You are pretty egotistical.. But the Taurus is already putting water on your ego....
Don't confuse egoism with confidence. I am confident...everyone doesn't get it because confidence is intimating. To most who can handle it, confidence is sexy!
Confidence is sexy.. but your not very confident about how your Taurus man feels and if your "every mans dream".. he wouldn't be putting you on hold.
im not very confident about my Taurus mans because of this type behavior. I can't remember dating someone like this before especially when everything is going so well. He does have me on hold but I still have other options that are currently on hold for me. I do not want to intice them because I know the past six months with this Taurus man has made progress for a solid future. I just want to make the right decision.

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Sounds like you are not completely committed. I'm not saying that is good or bad, just pointing it out.
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That is great advice! I can remember multiple times I didn't jump to my conclusions and it all worked out for the best. This is hard and just a test of my patience. Holidays are harder!
It's really hard. I've been with my bull 2.5 years and I still have my moments. This is a flaw with me. It's something I have to deal with and control. It's not a good side to me. It's one thing to not want to be taken advantage of, it's another to douse the whole thing in petrol and start playing with the zippy lighter at your mind's whim.

And you know, no matter how angry/annoyed/upset/distraught/fucked off you feel, you know when you see him all that flies out the window.

It doesn't matter how much that devil speaks on my shoulder, one glimpse from him and that whole slate is wiped clean.


2.5 years...WOW! I only wish I could fast forward that long and be done with all this preliminary dating stuff. He's a dream come true and I know I am any mans dream! We balance each other really well. He just has to see that for himself. I can't make him see it. The slowness is new to me because when I make my mind up I'm sure and sometimes all in. Now that has gotten my feelings hurt before in the past but I still love, love!


"I know I am any man's dream"... You are pretty egotistical.. But the Taurus is already putting water on your ego....
Don't confuse egoism with confidence. I am confident...everyone doesn't get it because confidence is intimating. To most who can handle it, confidence is sexy!
Confidence is sexy.. but your not very confident about how your Taurus man feels and if your "every mans dream".. he wouldn't be putting you on hold.
im not very confident about my Taurus mans because of this type behavior. I can't remember dating someone like this before especially when everything is going so well. He does have me on hold but I still have other options that are currently on hold for me. I do not want to intice them because I know the past six months with this Taurus man has made progress for a solid future. I just want to make the right decision.



Sounds like you are not completely committed. I'm not saying that is good or bad, just pointing it out.

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I am as committed as I can be...6 months is kinda early to drop everyone that is interested in me. But I don't lead them on, they know I am exclusively dating someone but not who just yet. That doesn't seem to scared them off, I'm just being honest. Options are good but a Taurus man is forever!!!
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That is great advice! I can remember multiple times I didn't jump to my conclusions and it all worked out for the best. This is hard and just a test of my patience. Holidays are harder!
It's really hard. I've been with my bull 2.5 years and I still have my moments. This is a flaw with me. It's something I have to deal with and control. It's not a good side to me. It's one thing to not want to be taken advantage of, it's another to douse the whole thing in petrol and start playing with the zippy lighter at your mind's whim.

And you know, no matter how angry/annoyed/upset/distraught/fucked off you feel, you know when you see him all that flies out the window.

It doesn't matter how much that devil speaks on my shoulder, one glimpse from him and that whole slate is wiped clean.


2.5 years...WOW! I only wish I could fast forward that long and be done with all this preliminary dating stuff. He's a dream come true and I know I am any mans dream! We balance each other really well. He just has to see that for himself. I can't make him see it. The slowness is new to me because when I make my mind up I'm sure and sometimes all in. Now that has gotten my feelings hurt before in the past but I still love, love!


"I know I am any man's dream"... You are pretty egotistical.. But the Taurus is already putting water on your ego....
Don't confuse egoism with confidence. I am confident...everyone doesn't get it because confidence is intimating. To most who can handle it, confidence is sexy!
Confidence is sexy.. but your not very confident about how your Taurus man feels and if your "every mans dream".. he wouldn't be putting you on hold.
im not very confident about my Taurus mans because of this type behavior. I can't remember dating someone like this before especially when everything is going so well. He does have me on hold but I still have other options that are currently on hold for me. I do not want to intice them because I know the past six months with this Taurus man has made progress for a solid future. I just want to make the right decision.


You will eventually figure it out, take is slow with him.. my bf is a Scorpio and y'all are known to move fast when in love, that may be a part of the issue he's having. There are times I have to tell him to slow down because as an Aquarius I don't move fast either..
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You're exactly right...the older I get I realize it's best to take things slower. I've learned the hard way. I'm sure I've scared off a few good guys. Taurus man told me ahead of time he's dated some women that put a lot of pressure on him because I was wondering why he was still single. I couldn't believe a man like this is single! Since he explained that to me and after I realized how much I liked him, I didn't want to add any pressure to him. I could have slipped up a time or two. Scorpios are very strong willed, i am learning from this Taurus man that patience isn't so bad. Taking it one day at a time.
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I am as committed as I can be...6 months is kinda early to drop everyone that is interested in me. But I don't lead them on, they know I am exclusively dating someone but not who just yet. That doesn't seem to scared them off, I'm just being honest. Options are good but a Taurus man is forever!!!


Yes i understand that. I don't think it will do you any favours with taurus if they know you have other men waiting in the wings but you gotta do what you think is best.
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I am as committed as I can be...6 months is kinda early to drop everyone that is interested in me. But I don't lead them on, they know I am exclusively dating someone but not who just yet. That doesn't seem to scared them off, I'm just being honest. Options are good but a Taurus man is forever!!!


Yes i understand that. I don't think it will do you any favours with taurus if they know you have other men waiting in the wings but you gotta do what you think is best.
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I know!! As far as I know, he's not aware. He had been asking more questions about where I've been and what I've been doing when we part ways. I ride my motorbike a lot and I don't have any communication for a few hours. He doesn't blow up my phone with text or calls because I tell him what I'm going to be doing for next few hours. He encourages it even though other guys are around. He just want to know I'm safe.

You are very encouraging and I appreciate that! You words have lessened my anxiety over this issue! Thank

You!
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That is great advice! I can remember multiple times I didn't jump to my conclusions and it all worked out for the best. This is hard and just a test of my patience. Holidays are harder!
It's really hard. I've been with my bull 2.5 years and I still have my moments. This is a flaw with me. It's something I have to deal with and control. It's not a good side to me. It's one thing to not want to be taken advantage of, it's another to douse the whole thing in petrol and start playing with the zippy lighter at your mind's whim.

And you know, no matter how angry/annoyed/upset/distraught/fucked off you feel, you know when you see him all that flies out the window.

It doesn't matter how much that devil speaks on my shoulder, one glimpse from him and that whole slate is wiped clean.


2.5 years...WOW! I only wish I could fast forward that long and be done with all this preliminary dating stuff. He's a dream come true and I know I am any mans dream! We balance each other really well. He just has to see that for himself. I can't make him see it. The slowness is new to me because when I make my mind up I'm sure and sometimes all in. Now that has gotten my feelings hurt before in the past but I still love, love!


"I know I am any man's dream"... You are pretty egotistical.. But the Taurus is already putting water on your ego....
Don't confuse egoism with confidence. I am confident...everyone doesn't get it because confidence is intimating. To most who can handle it, confidence is sexy!
Confidence is sexy.. but your not very confident about how your Taurus man feels and if your "every mans dream".. he wouldn't be putting you on hold.
im not very confident about my Taurus mans because of this type behavior. I can't remember dating someone like this before especially when everything is going so well. He does have me on hold but I still have other options that are currently on hold for me. I do not want to intice them because I know the past six months with this Taurus man has made progress for a solid future. I just want to make the right decision.



Sounds like you are not completely committed. I'm not saying that is good or bad, just pointing it out.


I am as committed as I can be...6 months is kinda early to drop everyone that is interested in me. But I don't lead them on, they know I am exclusively dating someone but not who just yet. That doesn't seem to scared them off, I'm just being honest. Options are good but a Taurus man is forever!!!

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This is a problem. It's very contradicting. I noticed it before when you said something like 'his slowness or decision making is unusual as you work differently. You said when you make up your mind about someone you're all in... Sometimes.'

It's the sometimes bit. You've either made up you're mind and are therefore all in... or all out. You can't make up your mind and be all in... But maybe only sometimes.

It sounds like you have one foot in... But the other foot out... Just in case...

You are as committed... As you can be.

No. You're either in... Or out. At six months you're most definitely in otherwise you have been wasting your time.

It's nice to have options. Options during the early dating part is great but at what point do you relinquish all 'options' and actually be present and 100% committed? Everyone has options aside from their partner. You may not be leading your options on but to even really be acknowledging them as possibilities tells me you're not as in as you like to think you are.

You don't seem to be in at all. Perhaps you appear to be in with your words or on paper but underneath you've got a replacement lined up, ready to go... Just in case. Not just one replacement. An entire procession of them. All warmed up, just being kept there, in the wings... Just in case.

In case of what?

I dunno. There's something not right with this bit. I'm not picking on you but you might want to really consider how in you have been and are now.

For me, as a fellow Scorp, at six months, there were no other options. Sure, if it all went tits up then it wouldn't be difficult to find other options but it's in your mind set.

Maybe he can sense this. Maybe he can't. I'm just highlighting it as it sticks out like a sore thumb to me.
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No you're somewhat right...I am faster at decisions than most. As a result of this, I've been hurt. I don't want to be hurt again. Because of his slowness at decision making, scares me a little and leads me to believe he also has other options and he is at the point of making a decision. If he and I don't work through this, of course I'll entertain my other options when I am emotionally ready. I only want him and if he doesn't want me or this, than I shouldn't just completely unfriend my other options at this point? If any of my other options were as fascinating as my bull, I would have already pick one of them. But no way, I had to pluck a bull!!! You can't put all your eggs in one basket. We're dating not married! To other men, it seems as though I'm single until I inform them, which is what I am currently doing.

"Sometimes" really means you live and learn!
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That is great advice! I can remember multiple times I didn't jump to my conclusions and it all worked out for the best. This is hard and just a test of my patience. Holidays are harder!
It's really hard. I've been with my bull 2.5 years and I still have my moments. This is a flaw with me. It's something I have to deal with and control. It's not a good side to me. It's one thing to not want to be taken advantage of, it's another to douse the whole thing in petrol and start playing with the zippy lighter at your mind's whim.

And you know, no matter how angry/annoyed/upset/distraught/fucked off you feel, you know when you see him all that flies out the window.

It doesn't matter how much that devil speaks on my shoulder, one glimpse from him and that whole slate is wiped clean.


2.5 years...WOW! I only wish I could fast forward that long and be done with all this preliminary dating stuff. He's a dream come true and I know I am any mans dream! We balance each other really well. He just has to see that for himself. I can't make him see it. The slowness is new to me because when I make my mind up I'm sure and sometimes all in. Now that has gotten my feelings hurt before in the past but I still love, love!


"I know I am any man's dream"... You are pretty egotistical.. But the Taurus is already putting water on your ego....
Don't confuse egoism with confidence. I am confident...everyone doesn't get it because confidence is intimating. To most who can handle it, confidence is sexy!
Confidence is sexy.. but your not very confident about how your Taurus man feels and if your "every mans dream".. he wouldn't be putting you on hold.
im not very confident about my Taurus mans because of this type behavior. I can't remember dating someone like this before especially when everything is going so well. He does have me on hold but I still have other options that are currently on hold for me. I do not want to intice them because I know the past six months with this Taurus man has made progress for a solid future. I just want to make the right decision.



Sounds like you are not completely committed. I'm not saying that is good or bad, just pointing it out.


I am as committed as I can be...6 months is kinda early to drop everyone that is interested in me. But I don't lead them on, they know I am exclusively dating someone but not who just yet. That doesn't seem to scared them off, I'm just being honest. Options are good but a Taurus man is forever!!!




This is a problem. It's very contradicting. I noticed it before when you said something like 'his slowness or decision making is unusual as you work differently. You said when you make up your mind about someone you're all in... Sometimes.'

It's the sometimes bit. You've either made up you're mind and are therefore all in... or all out. You can't make up your mind and be all in... But maybe only sometimes.

It sounds like you have one foot in... But the other foot out... Just in case...

You are as committed... As you can be.

No. You're either in... Or out. At six months you're most definitely in otherwise you have been wasting your time.

It's nice to have options. Options during the early dating part is great but at what point do you relinquish all 'options' and actually be present and 100% committed? Everyone has options aside from their partner. You may not be leading your options on but to even really be acknowledging them as possibilities tells me you're not as in as you like to think you are.

You don't seem to be in at all. Perhaps you appear to be in with your words or on paper but underneath you've got a replacement lined up, ready to go... Just in case. Not just one replacement. An entire procession of them. All warmed up, just being kept there, in the wings... Just in case.

In case of what?

I dunno. There's something not right with this bit. I'm not picking on you but you might want to really consider how in you have been and are now.

For me, as a fellow Scorp, at six months, there were no other options. Sure, if it all went tits up then it wouldn't be difficult to find other options but it's in your mind set.

Maybe he can sense this. Maybe he can't. I'm just highlighting it as it sticks out like a sore thumb to me.

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No you're somewhat right...I am faster at decisions than most. As a result of this, I've been hurt. I don't want to be hurt again. Because of his slowness at decision making, scares me a little and leads me to believe he also has other options and he is at the point of making a decision. If he and I don't work through this, of course I'll entertain my other options when I am emotionally ready. I only want him and if he doesn't want me or this, than I shouldn't just completely unfriend my other options at this point? If any of my other options were as fascinating as my bull, I would have already pick one of them. But no way, I had to pluck a bull!!! You can't put all your eggs in one basket. We're dating not married! To other men, it seems as though I'm single until I inform them, which is what I am currently doing.

"Sometimes" really means you live and learn!
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No you're somewhat right...I am faster at decisions than most. As a result of this, I've been hurt. I don't want to be hurt again. Because of his slowness at decision making, scares me a little and leads me to believe he also has other options and he is at the point of making a decision. If he and I don't work through this, of course I'll entertain my other options when I am emotionally ready. I only want him and if he doesn't want me or this, than I shouldn't just completely unfriend my other options at this point? If any of my other options were as fascinating as my bull, I would have already pick one of them. But no way, I had to pluck a bull!!! You can't put all your eggs in one basket. We're dating not married! To other men, it seems as though I'm single until I inform them, which is what I am currently doing.

"Sometimes" really means you live and learn!

I agree with agent p. The problem is at 6 months I wasn't truly committed either. I wasn't entertaining the thought of other men but I definitely had one foot out. Maybe it is the air in me but I was ready to call it quits at the drop of the hat (and did several times).

No one wants to be hurt. It is the chance you take. It's the price of admission if you want a long lasting love. The thing is, without being vulnerable you will never get the thing you are searching for. So while you remain in a flinching position, your bull will know you are not a safe bet. He wont be vulnerable either and you'll have a stalemate.

And you can't say, I'll be vulnerable when he is. For it to work, you must be all in - in heart, body and mind.

Do you have any libra in your chart? You sound like one...a lot.
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No you're somewhat right...I am faster at decisions than most. As a result of this, I've been hurt. I don't want to be hurt again. Because of his slowness at decision making, scares me a little and leads me to believe he also has other options and he is at the point of making a decision. If he and I don't work through this, of course I'll entertain my other options when I am emotionally ready. I only want him and if he doesn't want me or this, than I shouldn't just completely unfriend my other options at this point? If any of my other options were as fascinating as my bull, I would have already pick one of them. But no way, I had to pluck a bull!!! You can't put all your eggs in one basket. We're dating not married! To other men, it seems as though I'm single until I inform them, which is what I am currently doing.

"Sometimes" really means you live and learn!

I agree with agent p. The problem is at 6 months I wasn't truly committed either. I wasn't entertaining the thought of other men but I definitely had one foot out. Maybe it is the air in me but I was ready to call it quits at the drop of the hat (and did several times).

No one wants to be hurt. It is the chance you take. It's the price of admission if you want a long lasting love. The thing is, without being vulnerable you will never get the thing you are searching for. So while you remain in a flinching position, your bull will know you are not a safe bet. He wont be vulnerable either and you'll have a stalemate.

And you can't say, I'll be vulnerable when he is. For it to work, you must be all in - in heart, body and mind.

Do you have any libra in your chart? You sound like one...a lot.

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Perhaps a Venus or moon in libra or other air sign?

OP, what's your chart and your man's chart?
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No you're somewhat right...I am faster at decisions than most. As a result of this, I've been hurt. I don't want to be hurt again. Because of his slowness at decision making, scares me a little and leads me to believe he also has other options and he is at the point of making a decision. If he and I don't work through this, of course I'll entertain my other options when I am emotionally ready. I only want him and if he doesn't want me or this, than I shouldn't just completely unfriend my other options at this point? If any of my other options were as fascinating as my bull, I would have already pick one of them. But no way, I had to pluck a bull!!! You can't put all your eggs in one basket. We're dating not married! To other men, it seems as though I'm single until I inform them, which is what I am currently doing.

"Sometimes" really means you live and learn!

I agree with agent p. The problem is at 6 months I wasn't truly committed either. I wasn't entertaining the thought of other men but I definitely had one foot out. Maybe it is the air in me but I was ready to call it quits at the drop of the hat (and did several times).

No one wants to be hurt. It is the chance you take. It's the price of admission if you want a long lasting love. The thing is, without being vulnerable you will never get the thing you are searching for. So while you remain in a flinching position, your bull will know you are not a safe bet. He wont be vulnerable either and you'll have a stalemate.

And you can't say, I'll be vulnerable when he is. For it to work, you must be all in - in heart, body and mind.

Do you have any libra in your chart? You sound like one...a lot.

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I was guilty of this. Thinking I'll be vulnerable or open up when he does. No options, but always one foot out and one foot in. Could not understand why it seemed he operated the same, but I felt I operated like that because he did. Libra Mars for me.

I wonder if guys like Taurus, or guys period, kind of rely on the woman when it comes to the emotional aspects of the relationship. Like we are suppose to take the lead emotionally why they take the lead with actions? Not sure if I'm making sense, but with a Taurus and even a Scorpio guy, they will stall unless they feel you are all in emotionally. That's kind of weird to me, because I'll stall too if I feel you are capable of stalling or not all in yourself. It makes me look at the guy and point fingers, but I wonder if I should.

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That is great advice! I can remember multiple times I didn't jump to my conclusions and it all worked out for the best. This is hard and just a test of my patience. Holidays are harder!
It's really hard. I've been with my bull 2.5 years and I still have my moments. This is a flaw with me. It's something I have to deal with and control. It's not a good side to me. It's one thing to not want to be taken advantage of, it's another to douse the whole thing in petrol and start playing with the zippy lighter at your mind's whim.

And you know, no matter how angry/annoyed/upset/distraught/fucked off you feel, you know when you see him all that flies out the window.

It doesn't matter how much that devil speaks on my shoulder, one glimpse from him and that whole slate is wiped clean.

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Exactly! Why are we women so stupid? Lol
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I believe that there is a mirroring effect that does take place. Especially in the getting to know phase. I acted from his actions because I'm always skeptical of people and not trusting. That's just me! Or maybe most scorps! I took it slow until I realized how far he was going to take it. Once I seen that at least my skepticism hadn't scared him off, I did act more interested and vested in the relationship. Hard to find someone who is opposite but also similar to me.
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No you're somewhat right...I am faster at decisions than most. As a result of this, I've been hurt. I don't want to be hurt again. Because of his slowness at decision making, scares me a little and leads me to believe he also has other options and he is at the point of making a decision. If he and I don't work through this, of course I'll entertain my other options when I am emotionally ready. I only want him and if he doesn't want me or this, than I shouldn't just completely unfriend my other options at this point? If any of my other options were as fascinating as my bull, I would have already pick one of them. But no way, I had to pluck a bull!!! You can't put all your eggs in one basket. We're dating not married! To other men, it seems as though I'm single until I inform them, which is what I am currently doing.

"Sometimes" really means you live and learn!

I agree with agent p. The problem is at 6 months I wasn't truly committed either. I wasn't entertaining the thought of other men but I definitely had one foot out. Maybe it is the air in me but I was ready to call it quits at the drop of the hat (and did several times).

No one wants to be hurt. It is the chance you take. It's the price of admission if you want a long lasting love. The thing is, without being vulnerable you will never get the thing you are searching for. So while you remain in a flinching position, your bull will know you are not a safe bet. He wont be vulnerable either and you'll have a stalemate.

And you can't say, I'll be vulnerable when he is. For it to work, you must be all in - in heart, body and mind.

Do you have any libra in your chart? You sound like one...a lot.


I was guilty of this. Thinking I'll be vulnerable or open up when he does. No options, but always one foot out and one foot in. Could not understand why it seemed he operated the same, but I felt I operated like that because he did. Libra Mars for me.

I wonder if guys like Taurus, or guys period, kind of rely on the woman when it comes to the emotional aspects of the relationship. Like we are suppose to take the lead emotionally why they take the lead with actions? Not sure if I'm making sense, but with a Taurus and even a Scorpio guy, they will stall unless they feel you are all in emotionally. That's kind of weird to me, because I'll stall too if I feel you are capable of stalling or not all in yourself. It makes me look at the guy and point fingers, but I wonder if I should.

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Im libra mars too. You're constantly looking for cues to mirror.

There comes a point I think where you just have to let go and free fall. You love because you love. Its not calculated. It's how you feel. Many people try to rationalise and control it. But it's love. By its very nature, it's uncontrollable. You have to let the chips fall where they may at a chance of something wonderful.

Like John says correctly, too much investment is never a good thing. That's not love I don't think - freely given without expectation. That's dependency borne out of selfish reasons.
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Mine

Sun. Scorpio

Moon Capricorn

Mercury libra

Venus sagittarius

Mars Virgo

Jupiter libra

Saturn libra

Uranus Scorpio

Neptune Sagittarius

Pluto libra

Lilith Sagittarius

Asc node cancer

His

Sun Taurus

Moon Leo

Mercury Aries

Venus Aries

Mars Aries

Jupiter Leo

Saturn Virgo

Uranus Scorpio

Neptune Sagittarius

Pluto libra

Lilith Leo

Asc node Virgo


He's not much of a "Taurus" is he? Only his sun! He has very strong fire placements. Those fire placements are probably far more dominant than his sun placement
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I didn't realize that. Hmmm
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Mine

Sun. Scorpio

Moon Capricorn

Mercury libra

Venus sagittarius

Mars Virgo

Jupiter libra

Saturn libra

Uranus Scorpio

Neptune Sagittarius

Pluto libra

Lilith Sagittarius

Asc node cancer

His

Sun Taurus

Moon Leo

Mercury Aries

Venus Aries

Mars Aries

Jupiter Leo

Saturn Virgo

Uranus Scorpio

Neptune Sagittarius

Pluto libra

Lilith Leo

Asc node Virgo


He's not much of a "Taurus" is he? Only his sun! He has very strong fire placements. Those fire placements are probably far more dominant than his sun placement
I didn't realize that. Hmmm

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He has these same placements as my fella:

Sun Taurus

Moon Leo

Mercury Aries

Venus Aries

Cap moon I found to be exceptionally serious minded, stubborn or set in ways, very guarded and reserved.

Sag Venus from what I know can be very flighty and doesn't rest well with a sun Scorp.

I have sag rising and Merc but in love I'm definitely a Scorp (sun and Venus) but I do like my freedom. Don't fence me in. I like to be free to wander but that's more philosophically or travel and experience related rather than wandering off with someone else! The commitment is very much there.

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That is great advice! I can remember multiple times I didn't jump to my conclusions and it all worked out for the best. This is hard and just a test of my patience. Holidays are harder!
It's really hard. I've been with my bull 2.5 years and I still have my moments. This is a flaw with me. It's something I have to deal with and control. It's not a good side to me. It's one thing to not want to be taken advantage of, it's another to douse the whole thing in petrol and start playing with the zippy lighter at your mind's whim.

And you know, no matter how angry/annoyed/upset/distraught/fucked off you feel, you know when you see him all that flies out the window.

It doesn't matter how much that devil speaks on my shoulder, one glimpse from him and that whole slate is wiped clean.


Exactly! Why are we women so stupid? Lol
Not all women are this way...

@Libraurus, you are a special breed...

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Yeah, Jeane is a special kinda stoopid! —
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That is great advice! I can remember multiple times I didn't jump to my conclusions and it all worked out for the best. This is hard and just a test of my patience. Holidays are harder!
It's really hard. I've been with my bull 2.5 years and I still have my moments. This is a flaw with me. It's something I have to deal with and control. It's not a good side to me. It's one thing to not want to be taken advantage of, it's another to douse the whole thing in petrol and start playing with the zippy lighter at your mind's whim.

And you know, no matter how angry/annoyed/upset/distraught/fucked off you feel, you know when you see him all that flies out the window.

It doesn't matter how much that devil speaks on my shoulder, one glimpse from him and that whole slate is wiped clean.


Exactly! Why are we women so stupid? Lol
Not all women are this way...

@Libraurus, you are a special breed...


Yeah, Jeane is a special kinda stoopid! —

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Finally hear from my bull...he apologized and said he had a lot on his mind. I'm just relieved he is okay!
Get used to that....

U will be hearing those words very very often.....

Good luck
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As we get closer, I would hope he can trust me enough to talk to me instead of leaving me to worry or confused. Id at least let the people I care about know I need some time to process my thoughts and everything will be okay.
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Finally hear from my bull...he apologized and said he had a lot on his mind. I'm just relieved he is okay!
Get used to that....

U will be hearing those words very very often.....

Good luck
As we get closer, I would hope he can trust me enough to talk to me instead of leaving me to worry or confused. Id at least let the people I care about know I need some time to process my thoughts and everything will be okay.
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i understand your sentiment but i hope you don't talk to him (or anyone really) with those words.
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Finally hear from my bull...he apologized and said he had a lot on his mind. I'm just relieved he is okay!
Get used to that....

U will be hearing those words very very often.....

Good luck
As we get closer, I would hope he can trust me enough to talk to me instead of leaving me to worry or confused. Id at least let the people I care about know I need some time to process my thoughts and everything will be okay.

i understand your sentiment but i hope you don't talk to him (or anyone really) with those words.

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Of course I'd never say it to him. Don't want him to flee again, at least not on my account. This was the first disappearing act! Going through this, has definitely humbled this Scorpio lady!!!
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Finally hear from my bull...he apologized and said he had a lot on his mind. I'm just relieved he is okay!
Get used to that....

U will be hearing those words very very often.....

Good luck
As we get closer, I would hope he can trust me enough to talk to me instead of leaving me to worry or confused. Id at least let the people I care about know I need some time to process my thoughts and everything will be okay.
This is how you operate... This is not how a Taurus man operates....

They are low on communication....
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