Telling a Taurus man how you feel

Hey Everyone!

I am back and writing about my Taurus man again. Since the dreading conversation of his uncertainty about us this is what has happened, I took a little breather to digest how I felt but after a few days of no contact I sent him a quick message, it was light and playful. We like opposing teams in the NHL and they were playing each other so I cracked a little joke, it was light and fun. He did respond was a sly comment back and that was it. A couple more days went by and he actually began to contact me, my little bit of space has been appearing to be working. The communication is not quite the same as before but I love hearing from him and glad that the communication is still open. I have not seen however in about 2 weeks or so.

My new dilemma is that during this time of space while he sorts out what he wants, I am learning how real I feel about him. I have a lot of hope about him and want to patient. I know pressure of getting into a relationship makes him nervous and I never implied any pressure previously about that before he told me he was unsure. At the time like I mentioned before I was enjoying our slow and steady space. Now that I know he is unsure about me I am not sure what is best, my heart wants to blurt out how amazing I think he is, but I worry because I feel if I tell him how I feel it will push him away. I ultimately want to draw him closer.

Right now I am already anxious cause I am not sure how he feels about me, and during this time he could very well not want more from me anyways. But if I come out right and tell him that I care for him, he may take it like I need more right nowI could push him to the decision? The situation has created a pressure in me that didn't exist before.

How do you Taurus feel about others sharing their feelings? Or just sit tight for now and hang in there till I really can't take it anymore!

Sit tight and allow things to unfold naturally, telling a man that is unsure about you how you feel about him will push him away, you've pushed him away prior to reconnecting so doing the same thing will only bring the same result.

So since he's not that into you what are you going to do with yourself? Are you going to get back out there and date which can inevitably lead to a man wanting you just as much or more than you want him? Or settle by waiting on a man? Just curious.

mk86 tell him how you feel, i am a person of touch feel and hear, don't expect me to read your mind, tell me that you care if you want me to stay. I will chase only so far and if i tell you i'm unsure is because i'm hurting inside that i'm not getting the emotional security within my partner, and my scorpio girl is doing everything in her power not to make me secure, so i'm taking the steps to withdraw so i don't get hurt.

@Mkb86 I read both of your post and you reminded me so much of myself I thought I'd throw in my 2cents! I'm dealing with a Taurus man as well (you can see my neurosis splattered all over this forum) and we 2 had a similar conversation a little over a month ago. The gist: It needs to go slow build from friendship etc etc. Well being the neurotic Virgo that I am I did exactly what @robyn808 said in your previous post: "But I have had people focus on the negative connotation and see the glass as half empty, completely miss the point of what I was trying to communicate. If your so focused on what the negative outcome will be then you will miss the opportunity to let the possibility of a positive outcome influence how you treat this relationship. Classic case of self fulfilled proficiency." Much as I wanted to override my instinct to pull away I simply could not get the word friend out of my head to the point that I missed everything else he said in that conversation. For the next few weeks I all but shut down. I went through the motions (responded to texts, answered my phone etc) but I just couldn't me my normal affectionate funny self. It's still a struggle now but I'm doing much better at it. My sudden pulling away I think helped us both to realize we like each other a bit more than we initially thought and his pursuing me while I pulled away and taking the time to explain what he meant by slow and growing from friends helped me to understand that with a Taurus it's really true about S.L.O.W. and that if you bail when you don't get that instant gratification then you've just confirmed that you would not be there for the long haul; which is essentially what they are looking for. I'm learning to walk not sprint the path with this guy (which I think is actually a good thing as sprinting the path obviously hasn't worked yet). But in the same breath I've made a point to casually date other people (even though I'm not interested in ANY one else) just as a way to keep myself from falling to far to fast with this guy. @Robyn808 was right about paying attn to what they don't say either; I've noticed with my Taurus he let's his emotions out in brief spurts randomly when I think they begin to overwhelm him. That's when I get to see what's behind that hard Taurus facade of his. I am by no means an expert as I am knee deep in the "path" but my advice is to take is slow be as open as you can without losing yourself and pre-occupy your time. Long-winded as ever I know :-)