The graceful Taurus - A male cancer's perspective.

First I'll begin by sharing some information about myself as I am very new to the website. I am a 22 year old college student (July 12). I am also an employee working at least 5 days a week, counting the 2 days I miss in the fall and spring semester that means I work weekends. I'm also the president of a club on campus, a member of the student government senate and I regularly volunteer in my community.

Enough about me, on to the perfection that I was introduced to a month ago. It was just a regular Saturday, I planned dinner and movies with a friend and his wife. We visited a local wings/beer restaurant, it was my first time at this one as I had already become accustomed to another one in town. My friend told me as we sat down that he didn't like the place so I didn't expect much. Our waitress came over and I began ordering drinks, I didn't really look up much as I am usually not interested in women that work at restaurants because their job is to treat customers well and some of them are very flirty (I know, don't judge a book by its cover). Dinner moved forward and as I mentioned to my friend that there was jerked chicken on the menu he tried to speak in an accent and I explained to him that jerked chicken is a Jamaican dish, not one synonymous with Trinidad (my place of birth). Suddenly the waitress says "what's wrong with Jamaica?!" The thought in my mind was uh oh, the lady carrying my food is not happy with my comments. My response was "nothing, Jamaican!" We had a short laugh about it and she left to deal with other tables. Throughout the night we had other moments that caused my interest to peak and my friend of course added fuel to the fire by telling me "she's cute dude, you should get her number!" She is cute and I did not want to admit that I thought so, her family is from Jamaica but she has a lovely caramel color, she has long hair and unlike many women I meet she isn't much shorter than I am. I'm very cautious with women, so I finished dinner and left her a well deserved tip, not because I was interested in her but because she was great at her job.

About a week after this incident I revisited the restaurant after work with the same friends and after cleaning up a bit I joined them at the table, to my surprise I was a bit saddened when they told me she wasn't working that shift. As a matter of fact I wanted to leave, it wasn't worth the visit. After more visits I found out that she is a college student as well.

She works 5 days a week and goes to school 2 days. That may be very simple to some but to me it was all it took for me to want to become a matador and engage in a few rounds with this Taurus.

Three days ago I returned to the restaurant and requested her. This time she was a lot more responsive to the signs I showed her. Her movements were precise yet powerful, her words were meaningful, her smile was captivating, and her eyes as we looked into each others were comforting. As the night neared an end she moved closer and closer, she actually remembered my dessert of choice and reminded me that she loves it also. I poked questions at her all night, "why don't you join me?" "I'm going to the movies after, I'd love to have you come with me." "You should have some dessert with me!" She didn't outright decline my advances but reminded me she was at work "No... You're gonna make me get fired" with her cute smile.

I've spent years in college reading and studying psychology and, while it's not my major, I feel very comfortable in saying that it has taken my already acute sense of emotions and increased them. This girl is a tough one, I normally draw women to me without even noticing them. As I lifeguard during the swimming classes at my college I hear women talking about me, I'm approached more often than I even take a minute to see if someone is attractive enough for a fling. I am not interested in many women but this one is not just another woman. I'm intrigued, I want to learn everything about her, I am willing to be patient, if I get 10 minutes to speak to her every time I visit the restaurant it's worth it. She seems to me to be in every way the visible personification of absolute perfection. In stating that I am not ignorant as to what the other signs offer, I've dated a pisces (ooh la la), a scorpio that is on the line of obsession but plays her emotions ever so calmly, a cancer that reads me better than I can read her (my competitive side went crazy).

Now to the point, what do I do with this princess to make her my queen? I am a trained public speaker and every time we speak I gain a bit more of her trust, I see it in her eyes as she walks by looking into mine and smiling. I can be very very patient as long as there is progress, no matter how slow but I am afraid I'll lose interest and this amazing girl if I do not get a sign of mutuality about our feelings.

What would it take? I have months to dedicate, maybe a year, I just need the progress before I have to leave to a faraway university to begin my engineering studies.

It sounds like she likes you. Either that or she knows how to flirt to get tips. How does she act with other male customers? Do you know if she's single? You should try to make plans before or after work. Ask for her numbers so you can talk to her more. The best way to get a Taurus is by romancing her with music, food, sweet affections, genuine compliments, nature, or small thoughtful gifts. Move slowly and never push. I dated a cancer for over 2 years. It took us over 2 months to make it official that we were a couple. After that we were inseperable. Very sweet love.

Thank you for your response Taurusgirl3! I hope the feelings are mutual, I'm flirty but rarely am I so drawn to someone and I have a great feeling about her. She is great with people, customers included but there is an obvious line that she draws with them. She is very shy, maybe more than me, but every time she does speak to me I wish she could keep going for hours. I don't believe she was doing it for tips. My last visit there she stopped by many times and at one point leaned onto the table and just looked at me without saying anything then smiled and walked away. We found out we went to the same high school and have chatted on Facebook, I've left her my number but she hasn't used it yet.

Is there any particular side of me that I should avoid showing her? I regularly have business lunches/dinners, should I use that restaurant for business only or would she appreciate seeing my business and personal side as well?