What should I do Taurus?? I'm all ears!

He wants to have a "relationship" via his computer.

If he was that interested he'd have met you by now. Seriously, after a year you'd have gotten to know each other well.

the thing with online is that it creates this whole bubble whereby the effort isn't needed. You're missing out on the other aspects of a relationship - the physical intimacy, cuddles, kisses, caressing. You're missing out on tone of voice, facial expression.

Have you spoken on the phone?
Is he in fact, married?
Does he have a partner?

It's easy to be attached to someone who fits your ideal of a partner but it's time you seriously gave thought to the possibility you'll never meet and it'll never progress.

What do YOU want out of this?
Are you happy with the way things are?
Do you feel he's making as much effort as you?

Ask yourself these things.

Is there any reason why you can't go visit him?
How far away does he live?

Thanks so much for your reply!

He lives across the world so I wasn't too concerned about the visits as the distance is considerable. I don't know what I want. I love his friendship but I think you might be right with respect to him wanting a relationship on his computer. Why do people do that? Is that supposed to be fun? I just don't get it. He doesn't have a partner because like I said, we have friends in common and it's not like that. I think the distance is the biggest thing. I think the trick is not to get too wrapped up in it and try to keep it light. I don't know why that is so hard for me because I'm a Gemini and it should be no problem but he just got to me. He also did not come across as a player but as I'm the one who got played, I would say that. He just seemed like a true person.

Anyway, thanks again for replying, so sad. Oh well.

Yeah, that's real good advice. Thank you. I get so caught up in wanting things to happen 'right now' and forget to just take day by day and figure out what I want. I want to continue to get to know him. I don't like the pace but he has said that we have to just live our lives until we meet. He says I am very special to him and it's just because of circumstances for us both that things can't happen right now. I think he is just better at compartamentalizing it all than I am but I guess men are always better at it. I feel so comfortable talking to him on the phone, chat, email, whatever that I hope I am not making it more than what it is and I hope he is not a game player. I feel like we are very well matched personality wise and wondered what you all think of our combination. I posted our charts for you.

His chart
Sun Taurus 4.51
Moon Virgo 25.41
Mercury Aries 8.15
Venus Gemini 19.20
Mars Gemini 18.41
Jupiter Capricorn 8.19 R
Saturn Gemini 5.22
Uranus Libra 15.29 R
Neptune Sagittarius 4.39 R
Pluto Virgo 29.50 R
Lilith Scorpio 6.47
Asc node Aquarius

My Chart
Sun Gemini 2.21
Moon Taurus 27.36
Mercury Taurus 7.48
Venus Taurus 6.49
Mars Aquarius 9.47
Jupiter Sagittarius 1.29 R
Saturn Taurus 26.48
Uranus Libra 9.41 R
Neptune Sagittarius 1.41 R
Pluto Virgo 27.03 R
Lilith Virgo 29.16
Asc node Aquarius 17.43



It's so fascinating what you guys can see when you look at the charts. Can you look at ours and give me some input. Really appreciate it!

Thanks so much 69Vvirgo! But can you break down what you mean by being compatible with two of his passion planets etc.?? I don't know very much so not sure what is interesting about it. He defin. seems to have upper hand and I can't stand it. His Eros is Aquarius and mine is Gemini. His Psyche is Virgo and I am Cancer. Does that help? I just feel like this man has a hold on me and I don't understand it! Thanks for taking the time!

Hahaha! You are funny! But you hit the nail on the head, he is hot and then cold and then back to hot again. I blow the same and that's why I sometimes feel like I am a game. But why would anyone spend over a year if it was a game??

I can tell it's going to be something that will really be intense so that has me trying to take it a step at a time. For a Gemini, I am really deliberate and I also don't like to feel that I am 'making' him want us to go further. I want him to want it too and act on it. However, just from the year interaction, I can tell you he is very hard to figure out. He is very attracted to me physically and mentally so lots of flattery, which I am not big on, but he will never come out and say, I'm coming to get you. I had to put all my cards on the table and then he acts like I should just know how he feels. So then he tells me and then withdraws. Whenever I feel we make headway, he withdraws and that is so annoying. I will see him and am planning a trip by the end of the year but in the meantime, should I be less accessible to force a reaction from him and make him open up? Or do I just stay the course, trusting that we are just in neutral and it's not that it's bad but it's just waiting? I tell you 69virgo, just from our interactions, it is going to be incredibly hot when we do meet. Maybe that is why I'm so nervous...

You give good advice, thank you 69virgo. I will do as you say because you are right, we teach people how to treat us. It's very hard for me to be patient but I will give it a go. I just hope that I am not mistaking gold for brass...lol At least you did not think we were incompatible from our charts. Thanks again!

Thanks Starfish! I appreciate your comments and I will do that, you make good sense. We haven't got together physically for valid reasons that I don't want to go into here but I accept them. I would be THE LAST person to think I could ever have got caught up in an online relationship. But never say never I guess. Having friends in common and the fact that we just found it easy to share our lives, added to the ease of the relationship. We also are both very expressive and verbal - so the mounting attraction from real time pictures and conversation can be just as heady as the person being in front of you, believe me! It may just be something that happened at the right time, just not the right place! LOL I like what Virgo69 had to say and I think he has given me some good advice, so I will try to not go crazy and keep it real. I like his neutral image, that rings true for me that we are just in neutral. I love that our charts vibe though so thanks again!

Posted by Lizuz
Yeah, that's real good advice. Thank you. I get so caught up in wanting things to happen 'right now' and forget to just take day by day and figure out what I want. I want to continue to get to know him. I don't like the pace but he has said that we have to just live our lives until we meet. He says I am very special to him and it's just because of circumstances for us both that things can't happen right now. I think he is just better at compartamentalizing it all than I am but I guess men are always better at it. I feel so comfortable talking to him on the phone, chat, email, whatever that I hope I am not making it more than what it is and I hope he is not a game player. I feel like we are very well matched personality wise and wondered what you all think of our combination. I posted our charts for you.

His chart
Sun Taurus 4.51
Moon Virgo 25.41
Mercury Aries 8.15
Venus Gemini 19.20
Mars Gemini 18.41
Jupiter Capricorn 8.19 R
Saturn Gemini 5.22
Uranus Libra 15.29 R
Neptune Sagittarius 4.39 R
Pluto Virgo 29.50 R
Lilith Scorpio 6.47
Asc node Aquarius

My Chart
Sun Gemini 2.21
Moon Taurus 27.36
Mercury Taurus 7.48
Venus Taurus 6.49
Mars Aquarius 9.47
Jupiter Sagittarius 1.29 R
Saturn Taurus 26.48
Uranus Libra 9.41 R
Neptune Sagittarius 1.41 R
Pluto Virgo 27.03 R
Lilith Virgo 29.16
Asc node Aquarius 17.43



It's so fascinating what you guys can see when you look at the charts. Can you look at ours and give me some input. Really appreciate it!

um, it's been over a year already.

Yeah, it's been a year but I am not fussed with the time because I know why. I will take your advice under consideration though and let you know how it turns out. If, of course, this board is still around in the year 2050. LOL LOL Thanks anyway!!

Just to fill you in, it's been a month and I have had a 'come to Jesus' moment and decided on May 20th that it has been over a year and if he is not able to start taking some steps forward, I am done. I told him that I give thanks for the joy we gave each other but I can't continue on this path. He can contact me if he wants but if he doesn't, I'm at peace and to be honest, I really am. Not living with the uncertainty and confusion has been really restful. 🙂 Every day I don't hear from him confirms to me that I made the right decision. If he contacts me again, I will update you but I am not holding my breath. I think the answer to this Taurus puzzle lies somewhat between NZ Aqua and 69Virgo and it may not have been our time right now, if ever. Taurus men, I have heard, are patient and never really go away so only time will tell. Thanks you guys for helping me with this one.

Dating a Leo man now, in person, and whew, no guessing needed here. It is quite refreshing, LOL!

Oh, and you too Starfish! Thanks!

Okay, I promised to keep everyone updated and I will...

Status: so I dated the Leo for 2 months and missed the Taurus. Wrote him and restarted contact. I did not end it in a bad way with him, I just was honest and he appreciated that. So restarting contact was no big deal as we do have a friendship albeit an online one.

We have been talking as much as usual by bbm and on phone. The phone part is new but we have been getting along really well. Fast forward to now, I always go to the Caribbean for 10 days in February. He is always on another island for about 3 months a year. We made plans to hook up. I have my plane ticket booked and vacation planned, he is coming to where I will be and is bringing one friend. He says he is going to do it but I don't think he has actually booked yet. This trip is 5 weeks away.

I have been talking to him regularly while he has been on vacation and it has been smooth sailing. Last week for the first time, we were talking and he just left the conversation, we were on bbm. I had asked him when he was going to call me again cause it was his turn!! No response. I did not take it on and about 5 days later I just sent him a hello and he responded normally and we chatted for a bit. I told him I had to talk to him and he told me he would call me in a little bit. It's been 2 days and nothing. So this morning I wrote a nice email letting him know I wanted to talk to him re: an event we both wanted to attend when he comes. I need a quick answer on if he wants tickets. That was 2 hrs. ago. I see he has read it and nothing.

So I open it up to you. We should have bets going...what do you think? I am getting a funny vibe and think that this is the beginning of the end and I will never hear from him again. I get wierd vibes and I just kinda feel this deep down. This is also the wierdest situation I have been in in my life so anything is possible.

I know some of you think I am a big loser for sticking with this for so long. Please don't bother to tell me that again! LOL I know, I know, I went in with my eyes wide open and am really just looking for some company and support while the car wreck happens, know what I mean? LOL So any bets on what's gonna happen? I'll tell you all the play by play.

I don't think you're a loser, plenty of us have done odd things for a relationship, or the chance of one.

So, my bet? He isn't keen on meeting.

I don't know why, and neither will you unless he tells you, but I don't think he wants to meet. I feel there is someone else in his life, or he's indecisive because there's potentially another woman in his life.

I'd say cut him loose.

Sun Taurus 4.51
Moon Virgo 25.41
Mercury Aries 8.15
Venus Gemini 19.20
Mars Gemini 18.41
Jupiter Capricorn 8.19 R
Saturn Gemini 5.22
Uranus Libra 15.29 R
Neptune Sagittarius 4.39 R
Pluto Virgo 29.50 R
Lilith Scorpio 6.47
Asc node Aquarius


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lol I have the same except for the Moon, it's in Leo for me. And it's interesting i've had a few online relationships in the past too. LOL All those girls are from a far away country.. i've been chatting with them for years... one of them for more than 3 years. Like you said.. at first I was so excited chatting for hours.. and when time goes by its starting to get bored. But I still have feelings for them. 🙂

Thanks so much NZ Aqua! I remember you from last time, you provided sane advice to me then too. I am going to play this one out to the end. I am not contacting him again so in a sense, I will be cutting him loose if he never responds but you know, I just wish I could figure this out. Why not just say, I am not interested anymore, I don't want you or whatever the deal is. I just don't understand how people can be so heartless, I mean, it's been a couple of years we have been chatting now. It's not like I'm a stranger on the street. So thanks for your reply and I'll let you know how the car crash turns out. lol

To Comrade, thank you as well! My question to you is, why do you guys set us up like that and then not show? Don't you want to meet if the relationship is going well? You did not give your bet so I am interested in your opinion since you have been in this situation. The one you have chatted with for years, would you meet her? How about give her the courtesy of an explanation...

I am actually more curious at this point to see what he does. My brother made me laugh, he's a taurus too, I said, why wouldn't he say he is not coming, that would be easy, easy, easy... My bro said, er...cause he's crazy, crazy, crazy!! (He has been on this whole thing from the start and just as baffled as I) I laughed so hard! Now that's the Taurus that I know! Anyway, thanks for the thoughts and have a fantastic day!

You need to be a bit real about relationships.
May be he likes to talk to u,have some good sweet talks.But thats it.
I don't see anything serious happening on ground.And wouldn't expect much unless u come to live nearby.
I don't know how sincere u r but he might be going out with other girls too.
What benifits you are getting from a relationship which does not have a definite direction.
Or in case you both too young and still time to think about future den datz different story but if you want him to get serious about it den copy/paste the lines you wrote here to him 🙂

Good luck

Naw Taurus guy, we are in our 40s and have both been very definite about the direction - to meet each other and see how it unfolds. He lives in Europe and I live in North America so the meeting ground is in the Caribbean where we both holiday. We have both been planning and as far as I knew, our rendezvous was a go. Now this not answering thing has come up and thrown me into a little bit of a tailspin.

I am not going to stress it. If he means what he said and said what he meant, then it's all good. If not, time will prove him a liar and it would be up to me how I deal. I am just over rationalizing situations. We have a good connection and if he does not take a chance with me, then it's just a pity. I was being flippant by calling him a douchebag but that was my anger and ego.

Life is long and very surprising so right now, I am just taking bets and looking for a little company on this journey. 🙂 Thanks for the input Taurusguy! Appreciate you taking the time and giving your two cents. I love getting other viewpoints because there is always something that I may have missed.

Okay, so he responded and I feel a bit better. He was doing the typical Taurus thing of concentrating on a problem and forgot to write me back. He is good with everything and is still trying to make the trip. I responded to him and then he wrote back asking me a question. I have yet to respond. I think I am going to not be as available this time around. I think they get complacent and while they go on their merry way, they have no idea that we are in emotional meltdown from a different interpretation of the silence.

So this is the new manner of communication for us. Let's see if it works and let's see if our rendezvous will come off. I swear, by the time our trips get here, I'm going to be a crazy, dribbling idiot from all the stress!! LOLOL

Thank you for the backseat driving! It is good to have you guys to vent to and I will keep you updated.

Cheers!

"I think I am going to not be as available this time around."

Lizuz, you are a clever girl honey! lol 🙂 These Geminis.. grrr... JK!