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When a Taurus ignores you.
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Yes... Taurus man do then when you have pissed them off, betrayed them, or hurt them...
Is the way dealing with their anger...
Let him cool off, although if what happened is your fault, sent a text message apologizing.. and let him know that you understand your mistakes
Once cool off he will get in contact again
Good luck
Is the way dealing with their anger...
Let him cool off, although if what happened is your fault, sent a text message apologizing.. and let him know that you understand your mistakes
Once cool off he will get in contact again
Good luck
If a Taurus retreats and cuts off all contact it is either a time to reflect or deeply wounded and needing time to get a handle on things.
Posted by Valentina
Yes... Taurus man do then when you have pissed them off, betrayed them, or hurt them...
Is the way dealing with their anger...
Let him cool off, although if what happened is your fault, sent a text message apologizing.. and let him know that you understand your mistakes
Once cool off he will get in contact again
Good luck
Hi Valentina, is it the same for a Taurus girl?
Posted by venusianbull
If a Taurus retreats and cuts off all contact it is either a time to reflect or deeply wounded and needing time to get a handle on things.
Hi Venusianbull, it's probably a time to reflect, I don't think I've done anything mean or cruel to her. How long would this time last? Should I be the one to initiate contact or wait for her?
My friend is starting to irritate me with this again. His ignoring is intentional because he'll text "what's up" and when I reply there's nothing from him for a few days. I think he may be hurt that I didn't pick up when he called one day(phone wasn't near), but really, that's no excuse for this behavior.
Posted by lnana04
My friend is starting to irritate me with this again. His ignoring is intentional because he'll text "what's up" and when I reply there's nothing from him for a few days. I think he may be hurt that I didn't pick up when he called one day(phone wasn't near), but really, that's no excuse for this behavior.
Hm, it really is something. I'm hoping our Taurus friends can shed some light on the whole ignore thing really. 😢
If he just ignores you for no reason, then that means everything is fine and he likes you. But if he ignores you after a small problem or something like that, then that is something.
i am interested to know how do you react to this....do you not contact them at all? I am going through the same thing. No warning at all...my taurus guy just dropped off the face of the earth
i just wanted to add that my taurus guy defriended me on facebook for NO reason at all. otherwise i would not have been worried and would just think that maybe he is tired or something. The only thing that I can think is that one of my FB poss bothered him or something...he has not responded to any of my texts and I don't know what to do or what I could have possibly done...all this happened following a wknd at his place where he gave me a key? so confused right now...
Could it be, that you had too many guys commenting on your page or something? Have you asked him why he deleted you?
Mine did the same about 2 weeks ago and after I asked him why he said that there were "all those random dudes" and that he can not just sit there and watch all this stuff happening. So my bull did it out of jealousy and because he wanted to set a sign (we haven't been talking for a week before he erased me).
Mine did the same about 2 weeks ago and after I asked him why he said that there were "all those random dudes" and that he can not just sit there and watch all this stuff happening. So my bull did it out of jealousy and because he wanted to set a sign (we haven't been talking for a week before he erased me).
hmmn, i just thought of this but there is this one guy that he said intimidated by who posted on my page...but obviously i did not think anything of it. any advice on how to get him to talk to me? i wish he knew just how much i care about him. I have dated people before but never emotional connected w/him before. i wish he would see that for me its just him and no one else...
Well that might have been it, especially if he already told you he did not feel comfortable about this guy. Taureans are possessive and don't like to see "their" partners with somebody else.
Since he gave you the key to his apartment it's a sign that he likes and trusts you. I think you have to be extra sensitive with your words and actions now. After he came to you with such a big move he is now watching your behavior and action. Maybe you should send him a friend request or simply ask him why he did that, obviously he wants any type of reaction out of you.
Since he gave you the key to his apartment it's a sign that he likes and trusts you. I think you have to be extra sensitive with your words and actions now. After he came to you with such a big move he is now watching your behavior and action. Maybe you should send him a friend request or simply ask him why he did that, obviously he wants any type of reaction out of you.
hmmn, well i have contacted him since i saw he defriended me...i have heard nothing back, so i am worried...last night i left him alone but i feel as if i have nothing to lose so I am contacting him again today...he only thing i can hold on to now is that i still have his key so he will contact me at the very least at some point for that but who knows...
the thing is I did not respond to that guy when he posted on my wall - how can he blame me for that? or at least say SOMETHING, anything ...this just cease contact thing w/no explanation...not cool at all...
the thing is I did not respond to that guy when he posted on my wall - how can he blame me for that? or at least say SOMETHING, anything ...this just cease contact thing w/no explanation...not cool at all...
taurus female here, i agree with VB 100% . we are very deep thinkers..the retreat is because of some inner conflict that we are trying to figure out. now the problem with that is it could take a minute for me to resurface depending severity of the inner conflict.i know i have a hard time expressing myself sometimes and when i have things to say,and i may retreat until i can pick up the nerve..but it can be a millions reasons why but it definately is an unsolved inner conflict that causes the retreat. i suggest you gradually contact her, and allow what needs to come out happen...good luck
Even in my Libran retreat, I do not ignore ppl who call me or ppl who I say that I love. I do not understand it. Taurus men not texting, not calling back or even calling. Then I hear that they are insecure. Sounds pretty damn secure to me. I like/love u so I'm going to ignore u. Pretty ingenious concept if I ever in my life heard one.
i wouldnt necessarily ignore the person, if the person calls me i would talk to them,but i probably wouldnt reach out to that person until the inner conflict has ended, because we are independant thinkers and i definately wouldnt want to impose my issue on anyone. and for someone to interrupt that thinking time, i may not want to talk,get irritated and take it out on that person which i consider unfair, so to keep from causing other issues i prefer to think alone..if that makes anysense
I can think is that one of my FB poss bothered him or something
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There you go! This can defntly make him feel insecure and ignore you. Don't initiate contact. Let him think you don't care.. and after 2 weeks just casually test him hey.. it's been long? 😉 What sign are you by the way?
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There you go! This can defntly make him feel insecure and ignore you. Don't initiate contact. Let him think you don't care.. and after 2 weeks just casually test him hey.. it's been long? 😉 What sign are you by the way?
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Posted by intellectualbrat
When a Taurus man get's upset I don't care how mad you get him, if he loves you he will keep some sort of communication going..he will not totally ignore you..Sorry but not happening...Now if he does totally ignore you and no phone calls or maybe not even a goodnight text..he has moved on..he thought about it and it's just not happening.They do take some time if they want to re think some things..but while doing this he will not IGNORE. I was with a Bull for 3 yrs and I don't care how mad he was, he would always find an excuse to come by, maybe to drop off something I left at his home or to come and see the kids(not his kids) and bring them McDonalds or something..but he kept some sort of communication open. Taurus women are almost the same.. I will ignore you if I don't care aymore.If I still have feelings I will not ignore.Good luck!
Yes and to add...we'll shut off if we feel we are doing all the leg work when affection or attention is not reciprocated. We love the chase and the witty, flirty dialogue that is exchanged, so if there is no vernacular foreplay, the game gets boring...The quickest way to encase our hearts with ice and steely resolve is through a compromised trust or a matter of infidelity. We screen everyone that ever gets into our inner circle and once damaged we rather turn away in disgust.
Every woman deserves a man who calls her baby, kisses her like he means it- cos he does, holds her tight like he never wants to let her go -bcos he doesnt, doesn't cheat, wipes her tears when she cries, doesn't make her jealous of other women; instead makes other women jealous of her, is not scared to let his friends know how he really feels about her and let her know how much he really loves her...calls and texts back not ignoring her.— — — I have a feeling that Taurus Men are not the one for this type of Woman.
@Lizuz - I agree with everything you just wrote. I have no idea why my Taurus guy disappeared but at this point I have to accept that sometimes people do things and you get no explanation even if you deserve one...I didn't do anything wrong and day by day it will hurt a little less until I'm over it...
I'm going to write an email saying how I feel about him b/c at this point I have nothing left to lose and I don't care if I look stupid. I mean it looks as if I won't see him again anyways so who cares! :-)
I'm going to write an email saying how I feel about him b/c at this point I have nothing left to lose and I don't care if I look stupid. I mean it looks as if I won't see him again anyways so who cares! :-)
what his moon sign? his ascendant? venus and mars?
ha, well i will try and give you the VERY short version...Everything was going along as normal and following a wknd at his apt where he gave me a key...2 days later he defriends me on Facebook and stops all contact...
I don't know why....He was the one who initiated everything...I did not want to be pushy at all in the relationship - I tried to do everything 'right' (i.e. my Virgo ascendant); so it couldn't be that I was trying to move things along too fast..anywho, I texted him and called and I did not receive a response...that has been since Wednesday night...
I finally decided that I even if I look stupid and completely hopeless I am going to write him an email letting him know how I feel about him. Not an angry email; something really from my heart. I figure if I'm going to go down I might as well go down in blaze of glory! lol I have never done anything like that before, but I figure if I really like this person it is worth it to bite the bullet and go for it. I will have been true to my feelings. I mean he is clearly being true to his feelings and not thinking about how this makes me feel so I'm going to do the same for myself...
I don't know why....He was the one who initiated everything...I did not want to be pushy at all in the relationship - I tried to do everything 'right' (i.e. my Virgo ascendant); so it couldn't be that I was trying to move things along too fast..anywho, I texted him and called and I did not receive a response...that has been since Wednesday night...
I finally decided that I even if I look stupid and completely hopeless I am going to write him an email letting him know how I feel about him. Not an angry email; something really from my heart. I figure if I'm going to go down I might as well go down in blaze of glory! lol I have never done anything like that before, but I figure if I really like this person it is worth it to bite the bullet and go for it. I will have been true to my feelings. I mean he is clearly being true to his feelings and not thinking about how this makes me feel so I'm going to do the same for myself...
Guys it could just be an emotional outburst or he for some reason have realized that relationship with you should have not started a first instance.Few things to know about taurean:-
1. They don't start relationships just like that.Unless he is a player who just wants sex we think ahead and take one step at a time to develop relationship.Because a serious relationship matters a lot to us because we naturally tend to become lot giver,lot sensitive with that person.We may not expect romance and entertainment all the time but mental peace is of top priority and a sign to disturb our mental peace is something we can't take.And above all break up from a serious relationship could be taken as an eternal setback.So in short taureans put lot of effort,time,patience in analyzing person,creating harmony or building the solid ground for a relationship.
2.Taurus giving you key to his appartment.Baby its serious stuff. We won't let you to even drive our car unless we trust and care...A lot..lot.
3.Time to time by acts and words taurus tells you what he likes and dislikes.He tells you what will please him and piss him off.And above all he knows you know it.So when you do something den surely you knew what you are doing.
So in your case I beliv you have done something that you knew would upset him/dis respect him/affect his mental harmony. Taurus men are not insecure.Its just they know ppl so well that they know why and for what ppl do it.They are not a@@holes but if you find him an a@@hole den its got something to do with u.He might know motives of this guy.He would definitely know your week points.Why wud u let some guys presence affect ur mans harmony (esp when u think u love him like anything).Do you really love him like anything or these are just words.Because words to us are just an information which we authorize wen u act.He has given you keys and beliv me lady he trust u a lot and wen u make him feel that you cannot respect him for a guy—Serious thing.TRUST IS hurt..Presence of this guy apparently is not a big issue..But what is more important is are you reliable enuf in issues/situations that need much more honesty,committment.trust,loyalty and support (these are extremely important for taurus).Taurus prefers two type of woman.One strong who knows what she is doing.Another passive who does not possess any threat to his mental peace.
Good luck
1. They don't start relationships just like that.Unless he is a player who just wants sex we think ahead and take one step at a time to develop relationship.Because a serious relationship matters a lot to us because we naturally tend to become lot giver,lot sensitive with that person.We may not expect romance and entertainment all the time but mental peace is of top priority and a sign to disturb our mental peace is something we can't take.And above all break up from a serious relationship could be taken as an eternal setback.So in short taureans put lot of effort,time,patience in analyzing person,creating harmony or building the solid ground for a relationship.
2.Taurus giving you key to his appartment.Baby its serious stuff. We won't let you to even drive our car unless we trust and care...A lot..lot.
3.Time to time by acts and words taurus tells you what he likes and dislikes.He tells you what will please him and piss him off.And above all he knows you know it.So when you do something den surely you knew what you are doing.
So in your case I beliv you have done something that you knew would upset him/dis respect him/affect his mental harmony. Taurus men are not insecure.Its just they know ppl so well that they know why and for what ppl do it.They are not a@@holes but if you find him an a@@hole den its got something to do with u.He might know motives of this guy.He would definitely know your week points.Why wud u let some guys presence affect ur mans harmony (esp when u think u love him like anything).Do you really love him like anything or these are just words.Because words to us are just an information which we authorize wen u act.He has given you keys and beliv me lady he trust u a lot and wen u make him feel that you cannot respect him for a guy—Serious thing.TRUST IS hurt..Presence of this guy apparently is not a big issue..But what is more important is are you reliable enuf in issues/situations that need much more honesty,committment.trust,loyalty and support (these are extremely important for taurus).Taurus prefers two type of woman.One strong who knows what she is doing.Another passive who does not possess any threat to his mental peace.
Good luck
Posted by intellectualbratPosted by FrictionPosted by intellectualbrat
Yes and to add...we'll shut off if we feel we are doing all the leg work when affection or attention is not reciprocated. We love the chase and the witty, flirty dialogue that is exchanged, so if there is no vernacular foreplay, the game gets boring...The quickest way to encase our hearts with ice and steely resolve is through a compromised trust or a matter of infidelity. We screen everyone that ever gets into our inner circle and once damaged we rather turn away in disgust.
Taurus are protectors of their hearts..and before they hurt him/her they will leave..and if you hurt them..it wont be easy..that Taurus will never come back..we dont take cheating well at all.
So it doesnt make us cold we are just cautious..because when we love someone they become our universe.click to expand
I feel the same way...how do TWO ppl with these same traits get past the ground floor. If we are both screening and protecting we are NOT leaving room for any type of development. This seems good and well in theory, but I find it to be full mularkey in practice. This is too complicated if we are both looking, scrutinizing and weighing in on who we are allowing into our inner sanctum. IJS
Just a thought: How does a Taurus really ever have a relationship with all of this going on? Does this practice REALLY save their precious heart (seems they make crappy decisions and get hurt anyway)?
Woah! Why is everyone just assuming I did something wrong? If in fact is one of my facebook posts did anger him why wouldn't he say anything...or if it was some guy who posted on my wall...why wouldn't he say anything...and furthermore I honestly can't control what someone else does? Plus, I have told him before that guy disgusts me?
I don't understand why you wouldn't give your significant other the benefit of the doubt or at least asks them, "hey, what's up w/your FB?"
And I supposed I've messed everything up even more...I sent an email last night...
I don't understand why you wouldn't give your significant other the benefit of the doubt or at least asks them, "hey, what's up w/your FB?"
And I supposed I've messed everything up even more...I sent an email last night...
Yea, I have thought about going over there...I feel like its easy to ignore texts or emails but if a person is right there you see the look in their eyes, the distress on their face...
I basically wrote in the email how I really felt about him...I mean I am hoping that when he reads it, it will make him see that I couldn't do anything to him if I really felt this way...
But who knows?
I basically wrote in the email how I really felt about him...I mean I am hoping that when he reads it, it will make him see that I couldn't do anything to him if I really felt this way...
But who knows?
Posted by intellectualbrat
I think we cant be with flaky or wishy washy people..we need to know you are serious...
OK, understood. But this seems to me like someone asking for more than they, themselves are bringing to the table. I guess I need to balance these scales and am looking at the balance. I am not going to ask more of the other person than I AM WILLING to GIVE. This is starting out unbalanced and they are seeking someone to complete them..not fair. Now I truly see why the majority of questions are about Taurus men who are supposed to be the salt of the earth. MY GOD, can anyone say, "Therapy!" —??
True. And at times full extension is there and utterly missed by someone else. Or it is mired in someone elses internal detritus. Po-ta-to, poh-tah-to. Flows both ways.
Posted by Lizuz
Interesting...but sometimes when you make yourself so hard to reach, you miss out on some pretty wonderful things.
I totally, unequivocally, unrelentingly agree 100% .
And as I stated before, I have observed and listen to them whine about having been hurt and that is why I dont, wont and cant.....
Well, something was off with the detection, my friend. Either your system is broken, or your system is broken.
Blech! NO woman likes limbo. That's not sign related, that's just Suckville period. Makes me want to kick a man in the taint just for making a woman a nutter when she doesn't have to be. A lot of dudes pull the silent schtick. I can't answer for WHY Taurus men do this, if I could I'd be rich as Croesus and sipping margarita by the beach forever and amen. I'll tell you what though. If I did have the key to mens hearts, the window to their souls and gifted women with it, or the reverse...everyone would be bored shitless. I guarantee it. HO HUM, it's effortless.
I want to give up hope b/c I am thinking then maybe it will start to bother me less, but I also want to stay positive... it hurts that someone i truly cared about...that i was falling for would so easily doubt me and cast me aside due to an FB post..
I wish he could stop being emotional and look at this logically...
It's taking everything in me right now not to message him again...why push someone away without talking to them? If you really caredf or them you'd at least hear what they have to say...I am starting to think this risk/love thing is not worth it...
I wish he could stop being emotional and look at this logically...
It's taking everything in me right now not to message him again...why push someone away without talking to them? If you really caredf or them you'd at least hear what they have to say...I am starting to think this risk/love thing is not worth it...
Oh it's worth it alright, but if he's throwing a man snit it's best to just lay down a Flake bar and a box of manpons and back on up. In other words, leave be and allow him time to pull his head out. Fear of rejection is what he's stressing about. You know what? Tough. No one is perfect, poo happens and people say dumb crap. It's called life. Give him a bit of time. Then see.
Posted by venusianbull
Oh it's worth it alright, but if he's throwing a man snit it's best to just lay down a Flake bar and a box of manpons and back on up. In other words, leave be and allow him time to pull his head out. Fear of rejection is what he's stressing about. You know what? Tough. No one is perfect, poo happens and people say dumb crap. It's called life. Give him a bit of time. Then see.
what fear of rejection should he have? We have planned for the future. I hve sent him an email laying out how I feel and he still does this crap? how could someone doubt this or even think I would do anything to jeporadize what I have? The thing is he knows that the silent treatment drives me up the wall as I told him about what my ex used to do. I feel like he is doing this on purpose. I mean even if he cursed me out ...at least i would lknow why...at least there would be closure...this is like a special "F" you...
Part of me thinks he is just deleting my messages w/out even reading them...
"The thing is he knows that the silent treatment drives me up the wall as I told him about what my ex used to do. I feel like he is doing this on purpose."
He probably is. From what I know of my friend, he likes reaction and what's better than doing the thing they know will tick you off? That sucks to confide in someone about what you dislike and for them to turn around and do it to you.
He probably is. From what I know of my friend, he likes reaction and what's better than doing the thing they know will tick you off? That sucks to confide in someone about what you dislike and for them to turn around and do it to you.
I went through all these.... and i sat down, as a great virgo i am, and came out with one possible solution, if it works great, if it doesnt then i am not going to lose anything, so for 3 days now i am doing REVERSE PSYCHOLOGY!!!
And you know, it started working, he told me he didnt want us to talk so frequently, so i thought i wouldnt call him at all and i would leave it up to him... when he calls me i DO answer and i do talk to him like i used to. But i showed him that its OK if we dont talk a lot, today I KNOW he was testing me, and he didnt call me, i didnt either!!
Just after he finished work he called be and he was like, are you OK? and i said yeah fine and you? (cheerfully) and he was like... you didnt call me... and i said well i agree with you!! lets not talk so frequently, since you want it its fine with me!!! And guess what... he was talking to me for 50 minutes on the phone!!!!
I am still sweet and affectionate when he calls, but i am not calling him at all! i agreed with you not talking so frequently although i didnt really wanted that!
Reverse Psychology example: If one says you are ugly, instead of saying —how dare you?! I am not!?? Just say, —oh, ok, thanks.?? Look at the reaction of the other person. She??ll be confused and would likely say —Actually, I am kidding.?? Or yes, she might go to her course of action of continuing BUT in the back of her mind is a question why weren't you affected. So that other person will continue seeking for your attention and will never say you are ugly again.
So do not call, text or email at all, let him wondering what you are doing, and if he contacts you talk to him fine, as u used to, then Do not contact him you first, he will wonder why you didnt do so!!!
And you know, it started working, he told me he didnt want us to talk so frequently, so i thought i wouldnt call him at all and i would leave it up to him... when he calls me i DO answer and i do talk to him like i used to. But i showed him that its OK if we dont talk a lot, today I KNOW he was testing me, and he didnt call me, i didnt either!!
Just after he finished work he called be and he was like, are you OK? and i said yeah fine and you? (cheerfully) and he was like... you didnt call me... and i said well i agree with you!! lets not talk so frequently, since you want it its fine with me!!! And guess what... he was talking to me for 50 minutes on the phone!!!!
I am still sweet and affectionate when he calls, but i am not calling him at all! i agreed with you not talking so frequently although i didnt really wanted that!
Reverse Psychology example: If one says you are ugly, instead of saying —how dare you?! I am not!?? Just say, —oh, ok, thanks.?? Look at the reaction of the other person. She??ll be confused and would likely say —Actually, I am kidding.?? Or yes, she might go to her course of action of continuing BUT in the back of her mind is a question why weren't you affected. So that other person will continue seeking for your attention and will never say you are ugly again.
So do not call, text or email at all, let him wondering what you are doing, and if he contacts you talk to him fine, as u used to, then Do not contact him you first, he will wonder why you didnt do so!!!
Posted by Valentina
I went through all these.... and i sat down, as a great virgo i am, and came out with one possible solution, if it works great, if it doesnt then i am not going to lose anything, so for 3 days now i am doing REVERSE PSYCHOLOGY!!!
And you know, it started working, he told me he didnt want us to talk so frequently, so i thought i wouldnt call him at all and i would leave it up to him... when he calls me i DO answer and i do talk to him like i used to. But i showed him that its OK if we dont talk a lot, today I KNOW he was testing me, and he didnt call me, i didnt either!!
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So do not call, text or email at all, let him wondering what you are doing, and if he contacts you talk to him fine, as u used to, then Do not contact him you first, he will wonder why you didnt do so!!!
its kind of easy for you to be so relaxed because at least he told you he didn't want to talk as much. When someone disappears without warning...that sucks even more...And to add insult to injury my bf(?) is a paramedic so if I don't hear from him like usual. That means something not so good could have happened.
That being said...my bf(?) has said he does not like to feel like he was told to do something so I wonder if I continue to leave him alone will he come around when he feels as if he wasn't ordered to...
The thing is I don't know if he's just trying to restablish his independence (however stupid he is going about it) or if he has really said goodbye...ahhhh the not knowing!
sweetie my bull disappeared over a stupid argument and i hadnt heard from him for 4 months... and we were engaged....
then he came back making it clear to me that he doesnt want us to be together again.. but his actions say different... and as soon as he felt he were getting too attached again, he didnt want us to speak as frequently...
does a bull can drive you nuts— i bet everything on that!!!
then he came back making it clear to me that he doesnt want us to be together again.. but his actions say different... and as soon as he felt he were getting too attached again, he didnt want us to speak as frequently...
does a bull can drive you nuts— i bet everything on that!!!
well obviously I did not know your back story 'Valentina' so sorry!
i just can't believe someone would give up a happy relationship for a perceived slight. and he's doing the one thing he knows gets to me.
i just can't believe someone would give up a happy relationship for a perceived slight. and he's doing the one thing he knows gets to me.
would someone really defriend their boyfriend/girlfriend over a FB status they took offense to? I am just starting to think that there is something bigger going on...like people do not actually do that do they?
Im currently ignoring a Virgo....cuz he pissed me off again. For some reason I think I take him way more seriously than I should and he says things...maybe jokingly, that just rub me raw...so I try not to talk to him for fear of being riled up over something Ive taken the wrong way then looking like a weirdo when I confront him...it might not be that he took offense to the FB status so much as he DOESNT want to take offense, so he ignores it and voila, indifference is now insanely easy.
— He's Worth it!!!! —?
You must decide and not let anyone, anywhere tell you that he is. At the end of the day...it is your heart- your feelings- your peace of mind at stake here.
Women are wasting their breath, their effort and a lot of viable eggs on men who have no intention of fully committing. Not now and not this century.
I??ve gotten quite a few anonymous reader questions from women lately who are asking if I think their men are ready to commit and each and every story they share with me involves the same disappointing non-climactic didactic.
The guy has issues.
He's lazy (in EVERY aspect). He's on Facebook with pics of him boozing it up with other women. He's out every night with his boys. He's unsure about them because he's still jaded from his previous bad relationships, etc.
I'm also certain the women involved with these men have issues themselves otherwise, they wouldn't hesitate to find someone much more suited for their requirements.
And as my own personal philosophy dictates:
If you wait around for someone who has nothing to give, you??ll end up right back where you started. With nothing. Nothing but regrets and numbered days and years of irretrievable time- time that could??ve been spent building a future with the right man instead of turned upside down being miserable with the wrong one.
I also believe that women attract the type of men they are intended to attract at certain stages in their lives. Women who are out of stock emotionally and in maturity are bound to be attracted to men who mirror the same traits. Yet, sometimes it's hard to read the men we??re with along with and their intentions especially when we??re wearing our idiotic foolish blinders.
Which leads me to my first point??_
Maturity
Let's see now, you want to know if that guy you??re with is ready to commit, yet he can't fix the day-to-day odds and ends around the house, has trouble getting out of bed in the morning and is next on the —to be fired?? l
You must decide and not let anyone, anywhere tell you that he is. At the end of the day...it is your heart- your feelings- your peace of mind at stake here.
Women are wasting their breath, their effort and a lot of viable eggs on men who have no intention of fully committing. Not now and not this century.
I??ve gotten quite a few anonymous reader questions from women lately who are asking if I think their men are ready to commit and each and every story they share with me involves the same disappointing non-climactic didactic.
The guy has issues.
He's lazy (in EVERY aspect). He's on Facebook with pics of him boozing it up with other women. He's out every night with his boys. He's unsure about them because he's still jaded from his previous bad relationships, etc.
I'm also certain the women involved with these men have issues themselves otherwise, they wouldn't hesitate to find someone much more suited for their requirements.
And as my own personal philosophy dictates:
If you wait around for someone who has nothing to give, you??ll end up right back where you started. With nothing. Nothing but regrets and numbered days and years of irretrievable time- time that could??ve been spent building a future with the right man instead of turned upside down being miserable with the wrong one.
I also believe that women attract the type of men they are intended to attract at certain stages in their lives. Women who are out of stock emotionally and in maturity are bound to be attracted to men who mirror the same traits. Yet, sometimes it's hard to read the men we??re with along with and their intentions especially when we??re wearing our idiotic foolish blinders.
Which leads me to my first point??_
Maturity
Let's see now, you want to know if that guy you??re with is ready to commit, yet he can't fix the day-to-day odds and ends around the house, has trouble getting out of bed in the morning and is next on the —to be fired?? l
Mistook my meaning. Love is worth it, relationship. Anything worth the having of is worth waiting and or fighting for. Too many, and I mean TOO many people go off half cocked on their own mental meanderings that have diddly squat to do with what the OTHER PERSON is GOING THROUGH.
I did not mean to infer or imply that someone should wile away their days and hours pining for some asshat that will never commit. I never meant that someone should swallow their sense of self ( but oh yes occasionally that pride ) or defer to their own internal voice of reason. See flags for what they are.
Every woman, every man makes mistakes in choice. And ironically it's these poor choices that lead us to the right one. After a time you don't sit there and think "Gee, why isn't Sarah/Bill into me?" you can smell 'emotionally unavailable', perhaps 'devoid of everything good that will serve me well' or 'Well of despair I'll shovel myself into with zero return'. No human wants to feel like an island of one in a relationship where two should be present ( and I do mean physically and emotionally..sometimes you can't have both. Reach out and touch someone..Ma Bell is there for a reason ). Said it once, say it again. Being alone and lonely is one thing, WITH someone and lonely is just suckitude.
My opinion, sans Marie Claire or Cosmo.
I did not mean to infer or imply that someone should wile away their days and hours pining for some asshat that will never commit. I never meant that someone should swallow their sense of self ( but oh yes occasionally that pride ) or defer to their own internal voice of reason. See flags for what they are.
Every woman, every man makes mistakes in choice. And ironically it's these poor choices that lead us to the right one. After a time you don't sit there and think "Gee, why isn't Sarah/Bill into me?" you can smell 'emotionally unavailable', perhaps 'devoid of everything good that will serve me well' or 'Well of despair I'll shovel myself into with zero return'. No human wants to feel like an island of one in a relationship where two should be present ( and I do mean physically and emotionally..sometimes you can't have both. Reach out and touch someone..Ma Bell is there for a reason ). Said it once, say it again. Being alone and lonely is one thing, WITH someone and lonely is just suckitude.
My opinion, sans Marie Claire or Cosmo.
Posted by ephflankPosted by venusianbull
Oh it's worth it alright, but if he's throwing a man snit it's best to just lay down a Flake bar and a box of manpons and back on up. In other words, leave be and allow him time to pull his head out. Fear of rejection is what he's stressing about. You know what? Tough. No one is perfect, poo happens and people say dumb crap. It's called life. Give him a bit of time. Then see.
what fear of rejection should he have? We have planned for the future. I hve sent him an email laying out how I feel and he still does this crap? how could someone doubt this or even think I would do anything to jeporadize what I have? The thing is he knows that the silent treatment drives me up the wall as I told him about what my ex used to do. I feel like he is doing this on purpose. I mean even if he cursed me out ...at least i would lknow why...at least there would be closure...this is like a special "F" you...
Part of me thinks he is just deleting my messages w/out even reading them...click to expand
Not a special 'F' you, a way to bring you to heel via mind game knowing full well it's a trigger point.
For whatever slight, real or PERCEIVED. ^
I usually try to be very practical and hold back, but I am going to try my hardest with this man. The feelings I felt or real so I'm going all out. Worst case scenario it doesn't work out but hey??_if so it's not like I'm going to see him again!
Tomorrow I am going to go over to his place w/ cheesecake (his ultimate fav) and peanut butter (which he loves too). I'm not going to be emotional. I am going to remain calm, apoligise and logically explain myself and the situation. I think it will be harder for him to ignore/deny if I am there and if he sees me it will make him melt a little. Plus, he knows I hate coming to Queens so that will be a big thing too.
It might sound weird but I take it as a good sign that he hasn't cursed me out or anything. I think that counts for something. Doesn't love mean you are willing to look stupid.
So guys wish me luck??_either way I will update tomorrow!
Tomorrow I am going to go over to his place w/ cheesecake (his ultimate fav) and peanut butter (which he loves too). I'm not going to be emotional. I am going to remain calm, apoligise and logically explain myself and the situation. I think it will be harder for him to ignore/deny if I am there and if he sees me it will make him melt a little. Plus, he knows I hate coming to Queens so that will be a big thing too.
It might sound weird but I take it as a good sign that he hasn't cursed me out or anything. I think that counts for something. Doesn't love mean you are willing to look stupid.
So guys wish me luck??_either way I will update tomorrow!
AbsofreakingLUTELY you need to swallow pride on occasion or risk looking silly or like a nutter. I wish you the absolute BEST of luck that things get sorted. Sic' him Killer. 🙂
Hahahaa, Bulls and cheesecake. That needs to be in the handbook.
Hahahaa, Bulls and cheesecake. That needs to be in the handbook.
Ephflank,
I'm curious, What sign are you?
I'm curious, What sign are you?
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