When a Taurus ignores you. (Page 2)

Posted by c0mrade
Ephflank,

I'm curious, What sign are you?

Leo with a Virgo ascendant...why?

Woah.. Leo? That's great! Just wanted to know. 🙂

Posted by venusianbull
Mistook my meaning. Love is worth it, relationship. Anything worth the having of is worth waiting and or fighting for. Too many, and I mean TOO many people go off half cocked on their own mental meanderings that have diddly squat to do with what the OTHER PERSON is GOING THROUGH.
I did not mean to infer or imply that someone should wile away their days and hours pining for some asshat that will never commit. I never meant that someone should swallow their sense of self ( but oh yes occasionally that pride ) or defer to their own internal voice of reason. See flags for what they are.
Every woman, every man makes mistakes in choice. And ironically it's these poor choices that lead us to the right one. After a time you don't sit there and think "Gee, why isn't Sarah/Bill into me?" you can smell 'emotionally unavailable', perhaps 'devoid of everything good that will serve me well' or 'Well of despair I'll shovel myself into with zero return'. No human wants to feel like an island of one in a relationship where two should be present ( and I do mean physically and emotionally..sometimes you can't have both. Reach out and touch someone..Ma Bell is there for a reason ). Said it once, say it again. Being alone and lonely is one thing, WITH someone and lonely is just suckitude.
My opinion, sans Marie Claire or Cosmo.

Thanks for your clarification..lots missed in internet delivery. And, yes... I do refer to others words at times..sometimes it gets across the point a little more poignant than my own..but not Marie Claire or Cosmo - they are a little over the top and misses the mark, LOL

and now the freakout portion of the evening begins...

me just showing up tomorrow - he could take that as being pushy? and Taurus people do not like being pushed. The last time I contacted him was Sunday so I have not been bothering him lately but I still am worried that he will take showing up the wrong way. I mean technically I still have a reason to show up - I have to give back his key... And he hasn't blocked my number or my profile on FB. So I am still thinking I have an opening. If he was super serious he would have done that; as we have both brought up blocking people on our cells in convo before.

How do I avoid being pushy? Now I am second guessing my idea. Damn my Virgo ascendant it's overanalyzing nature!!!! ahhh

Posted by MzDiana

Posted by venusianbull
Mistook my meaning. Love is worth it, relationship. Anything worth the having of is worth waiting and or fighting for. Too many, and I mean TOO many people go off half cocked on their own mental meanderings that have diddly squat to do with what the OTHER PERSON is GOING THROUGH.
I did not mean to infer or imply that someone should wile away their days and hours pining for some asshat that will never commit. I never meant that someone should swallow their sense of self ( but oh yes occasionally that pride ) or defer to their own internal voice of reason. See flags for what they are.
Every woman, every man makes mistakes in choice. And ironically it's these poor choices that lead us to the right one. After a time you don't sit there and think "Gee, why isn't Sarah/Bill into me?" you can smell 'emotionally unavailable', perhaps 'devoid of everything good that will serve me well' or 'Well of despair I'll shovel myself into with zero return'. No human wants to feel like an island of one in a relationship where two should be present ( and I do mean physically and emotionally..sometimes you can't have both. Reach out and touch someone..Ma Bell is there for a reason ). Said it once, say it again. Being alone and lonely is one thing, WITH someone and lonely is just suckitude.
My opinion, sans Marie Claire or Cosmo.

Thanks for your clarification..lots missed in internet delivery. And, yes... I do refer to others words at times..sometimes it gets across the point a little more poignant than my own..but not Marie Claire or Cosmo - they are a little over the top and misses the mark, LOL

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LOL 🙂

Cheesecake should definitely be in the Taursian book.

lol No ep it probably won't be seen as pushy. Virguy hit me up today, wished me a good morning and let me know he was planning on seeing me this weekend...how sweet *rolling my eyes* I guess he could tell I was ignoring him (though if you asked me I would guess he could care less) and took the initiative...which I have no problem with myself. Dont be surprised tho if he reacts slowly to your being there because although I'd be VERY happy to see the Virgo this weekend and I was actually thinking of him when he got in touch with me, Im still a little unsure how to respond to him. He's one of the only guys I've dealt with where I didn't feel like I was in control of myself...its funny because I think when we first started dealing I made him feel the same way.

Hey everyone,

So I stopped by my Taurus guys place (I guess he's my ex now!) and he did not answer so that is that. I left a note and the cheescake - I was not going to eat it so I figured why not leave it?

It sucks that someone you care about, who made promises to you just cuts you off cold turkey w/no explanation but that is life! I wish you all well w/your situations.

Was he home?

That's crazy 😢 I was looking forward to read how it went. I was eventually thinking about showing up at "my" Taurus' place as well. But there's always this risk of the whole trip being worthless if they really don't want to see you for whatever reason they might have in their heads.

Posted by ephflank
Hey everyone,

So I stopped by my Taurus guys place (I guess he's my ex now!) and he did not answer so that is that. I left a note and the cheescake - I was not going to eat it so I figured why not leave it?

It sucks that someone you care about, who made promises to you just cuts you off cold turkey w/no explanation but that is life! I wish you all well w/your situations.

And NOW he will more than likely contact you. I was surprised this morning with a call from the taurus at 6:35 and HE is NOT a morning person (so opposite of me). However, I am the one to scrutinize this whole thing. Being the Libra that I am, I know that this would be a tough relationship to take it any further than friends. But I truly lost interest.

Ephflank, just go on and stop thinking about him and enjoy life. Sometimes we want what we do not need and thank goodness that we find out later that we should have not even given the situation the time of day. If it is meant to be--he will contact you. I hope that you can come to some peace with the situation...I am truly sorry that you have had to go through this ordeal.

at least have some closure.

you would think that if you cared about someone as much as he said he cared about me that he would tell me what was wrong so I could have a chance to learn more about him as person and his likes/dislikes...it's one thing to do someting and know it pisses someone off but if you do something and that person has no idea what they are pissing off its not fair to write them off...but life isn't fair...

i can't be perfect all the time...one day someone is giving me their key, telling me how lucky they are to have met me and looking at apt's with me and then they just disappear

Sorry Hun *huggs* You'll be better off regardless

Hi Everyone,

Because a lot of people here were kind enough to take time out and respond to my posts I feel it is only right to keep you guys updated. As you know I went to my ex-es house. Where he was either not there or chose not to answer. I have since found out that he is upset about a few FB posts that went on the day he defriended me with a male friend of mine. He has asked me about this friend before and I have told him that he has nothing to worry about in regards to this person.

Long story short, as much as I want to be with my ex, as much as I adore and care for him, this incident speaks volumes about how the remainder of our relationship would continue if we were to stay together. I refuse to cut off friendships, walk on eggshells or change who I am as a person. At some point he has to trust me and it is obvious he does not. This hurts so much to have found someone you love, but know that you can't be with them. All breakups are hard, but breakup with someone you truly care about is a whole 'nother level of hell.

To give you guys a bit of a backstory I was the girl who never wanted to get married, never wanted to have kids and all that PDA crap and spending every waking minute with someone --ha I didn't believe in that either. I didn't think it existed. And he was the guy who changed all that. I tried explaining that to him so he would know just how much of an impact he made on me but it never got through??_he never full grasped that concept. And now that is the thing that is keeping us from being together

The insecurity over my feelings for him and the fact that I can't get over the fact that he did not confront me when I came to his apt. Those are two things that I cannot get over. I understand being angry but to me that was just cruel and took it to a whole 'nother level.

Anyways, that's my update.

Thank you for keeping us updated Hun. I hope that there will be another man who will come along, capture your heart and hold it tightly and warmly.

remember me everyone? well today as I lay in bed with a horrible 48hr stomach virus (watch out - this sucks) I check my phone and lo and behold mr. taurus texts me 'i'm sorry'...that's all.......i'm shocked, i'm pissed, i'm happy, i'm insulted. i'm ashamed.

shocked b/c well let's face it - its been two months since he disappeared out of the blue.

pissed b/c i feel like this apology is not about me; it's about him. it' selfish; he is just concerned about making himself feel better. this has nothing to do with me and is all about him. he doesn't deserve to feel better; what he did was wrong...

happy b/c i wanted the apology and i also feel like i am getting what i deserve and i feel vindicated

insulted b/c after all the put me through and this is all i get a 'i'm sorry' text...i deserve better. a phone call at least.

ashamed b/c i kind of want to talk to him and get an exact response of what happened?

and let's say this is him trying to come back? why now? what happened? did he get out there in the dating world and realize that its not full of an endless supply of p*ssy so now he wants to come to me? I am not anyone's second choice. I am not the girl you keep on the backburner. I am someone's first choice; I am someone to be proud of and someone that a man feels so lucky to have that he wouldn't dare fuck up like this and leave things to chance for a whole month...

ahhh, men...can't live with them; can't live without them

I'm trying to figure out how I'm going to respond when this Taurus comes back around. I think the last time I talked to him was on the 11th, so it's been about a month.

After I switched my phone service we texted back and forth and his texts started getting a little sexual, as usual, so I joked with him a bit saying that I take care of needs not wants. He replied back saying "this is a need" and I said "well go take care of it then, it doesn't have to be with me lol." That was the last text between us. Not sure if that pissed him off or what, but if he's gone he might as well be gone for good cause I can't deal. I don't appreciate that at all, cause attraction aside, I at-least thought we were associates/friends. Ah well.

Keep us updated ephflank and let us know if you decide to talk to him or not.

How about not respond to them? Let them sit and try to figure out what the heck you are thinking. If they really want it, then they should do what it takes. If not screw em'.

Posted by cancerlovestaurus
How about not respond to them? Let them sit and try to figure out what the heck you are thinking. If they really want it, then they should do what it takes. If not screw em'.

Yeah, I don't think I'm going to respond if/when he comes back around.

Wow, this is too funny. I was reading through the forum and had to register.

This topic came up with my Scorpio friend and I the other day. As I was explaining how well I can walk away and not look back, we talked about the crush he had on me decades ago. At the time I wasn't into him so I pretended I didn't know he liked me. Talking today, I finally admitted that I did know only because he kept asking and needed to know if I really did know. We lost touch, on my part this I am sure.

6 years ago, we cross paths again and exchanged numbers. We talked a bit, exchanged texts, then after a couple of months, I dropped off the planet again.

He asked what happened both times, the first time, I just wasn't that into him like that. I considered him more like a friend. The 2nd time I wasn't buying the sand at the beach that he was trying to sell me.

Now here 20 years later enjoying some great times and sharing some great laughs but he just isn't someone I see in my future. This time however, I will try to maintain the friendship.

i'd say taurus and scorp are best are reading body language

you should give her some time, even if you havent done anything to frighten her or anger her.. Sometimes we get a little scared, and to avoid having to confront our emotions and talk about thing we will just retreat. I have found that if something like this is happening with me it's best for the guy to just back off until i am ready to call him or talk to him, if you care about her i would give her that time and distance, but be there when she comes back around. It could take more time than a lot of men are comfortable with giving, but i feel safe assuming that she is worth the wait and you will be grateful you did in the end!

I have a taurus friend i txt how he dnt respond to my texts and he still does it. Andd some days ago i text em how he makes me feel as if i dont matter and if were friends /homies yo actions shows diff..n how u u kno feelings there im nt finna seat up here and like its ok...its mre but i call no answer im the type of person that like to conclude things the rightway..n also told em i feel like i cant fuck with u nomre..his stubborness is hurtful. But i text frd thru sun n called today but nomre texr since so 2 to 3 whole days no textin no merry xmas..wen i kno he aint gne respond..

*fuk*

Fuk with you nomre

Sorry sweetie, he has moved on or there is something he doesnt like about u. Usually we dont beat around the bush about how we feel. In his case he simply doesnt u like that much to pick up the phone or answer a text. We are good at dismissing people that we dont like out of our lives without u even knowing what happened. Try another taurus who is more mature.

As a taurus, when dealing with people i have to dig deep inside to see if i can deal with that persons flaws. If i cant i will not keep them around very long. If any way i feel that this person can not be positive addition or i cant learn anything from them , then its over before they know it.

Posted by SweetLibra

Posted by ilove2bATaurus
As a taurus, when dealing with people i have to dig deep inside to see if i can deal with that persons flaws. If i cant i will not keep them around very long. If any way i feel that this person can not be positive addition or i cant learn anything from them , then its over before they know it.

So why not just tell the person you don't think it's going to work out? Why just vanish, leaving the other to waddle in confusion? Do Taurus' ever end things with an explanation or do you always just disappear? How do you guys feel when the shoe is on the other foot and someone does it to you? Is it an upper hand type thing? Are Taurus intent on being the one to leave the relationship so not to be broken up with?

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Majority of the time i have expressed how i feel and it has been ignored. it depends on the person. If u are someone that i really want to get to know, i will tell u. But if u are not an interest to me, i just wont entertain u at all. For example : I met an aries man. We talked on the phone for about 3 weeks and all he heard was that i liked some of the same things as he but did not hear that i wasnt interested in a relationship at the time. I tried getting know him more but he kept pushing the relationship issue just because i wanted spend a little time with him. He told me that he couldnt just be my friend so i stopped calling him.

We know exactly what we want. If it doesnt work then why waste our time and urs?

Posted by SweetLibra

Posted by ilove2bATaurus
We know exactly what we want. If it doesnt work then why waste our time and urs?

Okay. I can understand that. But then why do some of you come back? If you've made that determination that you don't want a relationship, then why reappear after the disappearance? Do Taurus stand firm on their decisions or do you sometimes realize that you maybe judged someone on something very superficial and then regret making such a rash decision?

I realize this may not pertain to you specifically but since you are a Taurus maybe you can relate.

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We come because figure u have learned ur lesson and maybe you've changed. Sometimes it could be because were bored and need someone to talk to. Yes we do stand firm on our decisions but some yes we do realize that we may have pre determined our decision too quickly and want to try again if the issue wasnt that serious.

dear ephflank,

I am ignoring my ex girlfriend because, in all of my power i did everything i could to woe her, sent her flowers, lend her my car, spent 5000 dollars to get her car down here from Florida only to find out the engine had died. Baby sat for her son, brought her breakfast, drove her back and forth 60 miles a day and when one time i told her i couldn't help her anymore financially and she dumped me. You couldn't possibly imagine how this hurt me so. My way accepting the stupidity that i've cause to myself i went into a hell hole so i can't beat myself so that when i come out i will see the whole picture more clearly and start over. My financial security is so very important to me and when you threatnen that i'm gone. So if you didn't do anything wrong then he is wrong but if you did threatnen his security in anyway then you need to apologize and make an ammends. Thats the only way we Taurus men will forgive and give things another try.

Posted by ilove2bATaurus


Majority of the time i have expressed how i feel and it has been ignored. it depends on the person. If u are someone that i really want to get to know, i will tell u. But if u are not an interest to me, i just wont entertain u at all. For example : I met an aries man. We talked on the phone for about 3 weeks and all he heard was that i liked some of the same things as he but did not hear that i wasnt interested in a relationship at the time. I tried getting know him more but he kept pushing the relationship issue just because i wanted spend a little time with him. He told me that he couldnt just be my friend so i stopped calling him.

This^^^^^^^^

Posted by Mulligrub
I'm a Taurus woman and I tend to cut people off cold if they piss me off. I absolutely despise being told to answer for my actions or being told what to do.

I think for me if I ignore someone it's because I need to process my feelings on the matter before I respond. I don't like hurting people and will self-sacrifice to avoid someone else getting hurt to the point there is nothing left of me and then I have enough and out comes the bull anger!

I am a pretty forgiving person and always willing to meet someone halfway. If that person meant something to me then I will never leave them without closure and will always give them a logical and sound reason for me cutting off the relationship. If they were being a douche or didn't blip on my emotional radar then silence is all they get. If they were to sit back they would see the signs that the end was coming though.

....And THIS^^^^^^

Im a taurus girl and if i do that with a stranger then it means im not interested to know u closer or i just dont really like u..but being a slightly judgmental person u need to start opening coversations with me and then if ur really cool ill start taling more n more and also say hi to u the next time we see each other
But if we talk a little and i dont say hi to u again and STILL ignore u then I just dont like u

If ur talkin about a taurus person that ur ALREADY close with then probably u upseted them in some way u just gota go find out what rong and apologize and AVOID repeating ur mistakes too many times.

Sadly, I dont know the reason why i ignore ppl...

I think i just want to get through my daily routine perfectly and having a small convo with ppl around just isnt in my list of routines. And that's just me... just me... kk? i dont know about others but i just happen to do that. weird ryt? and i seems that im alright fine and dandy with it.... i dont know it... its confusing O_O

I'm a Taurus and I did so to break up with my boyfriend.
The Taurus guy I was seing did so to break up with me.

@OP- It's not that we love to ignore you, it's just we do get caught up in my own mind and always bettering ourselves..

SO lets say you communicate to your lover. Hey I would really like to hear from you more often? Is there any reason why you've been distant? Then listen, and then make a compromise usually there is something to work on both parties. So you ask him to open up more and then you ask is there something I can do to help oneself. Or this situation and fix it. So after talking just go do your own thing and let him think too..

@OP- Just give it some independent time and wait a little while and see if there are changes. If no changes then you might let go of him..

@TaurusMarine- are you in the military service? Which branch?

& a Taurus and Taurus is nice in the beginning huh? So what happened with you both?

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
@TaurusMarine- are you in the military service? Which branch?

& a Taurus and Taurus is nice in the beginning huh? So what happened with you both?

Marine Corps of course. Why?

@FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428, it was like 6 y/ago. He was 3 years my junior, wasn't mature yet I guess. Besides, he understood he had nothing to keep me. So I don't blame him.
Nice at the beginning? Hm.... it had passed 2 years before he asked me out. but then it went well. However, I never trusted him.

When I ditched another guy in the same way I understood that Taurus guy that did the same to me.
When we ignore it means we have finally decided the person isn't right for us....but sometimes we're coward to speak it up to face.

@TaurusMarine- I just looked at your screen name that that's great. Thanks for sharing...Thanks are you still active?

What do you like the most and least about the branch you have?

Yeah I've noticed certain things about talking to a bull too..IT makes me want to change my self to be less stubborn and less selfish.. in a realistic way.


I understand when you say we ignore cause we are cowards, but I ignore because there is usually something on my mind and I have to do this myself and I need space and time. I have an air fixed moon so the more I think the more I detach.. it's helpful because 8 out of 10 times I am often detaching at the little things..and 9-10 will complete disappear if I like you and you do or say something that isn't right. I usually feel it as red flags.. I will friend zone automatically.

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
@TaurusMarine- I just looked at your screen name that that's great. Thanks for sharing...Thanks are you still active?

What do you like the most and least about the branch you have?

Yeah I've noticed certain things about talking to a bull too..IT makes me want to change my self to be less stubborn and less selfish.. in a realistic way.


I understand when you say we ignore cause we are cowards, but I ignore because there is usually something on my mind and I have to do this myself and I need space and time. I have an air fixed moon so the more I think the more I detach.. it's helpful because 8 out of 10 times I am often detaching at the little things..and 9-10 will complete disappear if I like you and you do or say something that isn't right. I usually feel it as red flags.. I will friend zone automatically.

Still active, love it to pieces!
Yeah, I see where you're coming from...Yeah, when think i stay motionless. Especiallly when sb hurt me or said sth wrong. I WANT to justify that person but the deeds speak louder than words. That's why, for example, people who stop choosing me automatically seize to be right for me...even if I love them.

"IT makes me want to change my self to be less stubborn and less selfish"
You're a Bull as well, right? Why then?

P.S. I couldn't stay friends with any of the people who hurt me in some way.

@TaurusMarine- Where are you stationed? God Bless you my dear, takes bravery and courage. . If you ever need to talk I am here.

Yeah it's hard being friends with people who have hurt you. You have to look at the pros and cons? Sometimes we think we change change alittle bit for the right one. You often know right away if that's a person you want to get to know more, so become less stubborn, selfish, and open minded..

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
@TaurusMarine- Where are you stationed? God Bless you my dear, takes bravery and courage. . If you ever need to talk I am here.

Yeah it's hard being friends with people who have hurt you. You have to look at the pros and cons? Sometimes we think we change change alittle bit for the right one. You often know right away if that's a person you want to get to know more, so become less stubborn, selfish, and open minded..

Norfolk, VA. Thank you! I appreciate that. Actually soon on holidays.
I usually fail in relationships. People tend never meet my expectations. I can mistake infatuation for love or sth .. The feeling can be true but what they're based on - not necessarily.
So I ask myself, 'Is this relationship leading me in the direction where I want to go?" If not, I don't believe in people can change.
Of course, being less stubborn helps but the others also have to meet halfway. If they expect that only from you, then excuse me, that'd lead me ...but not where I wanna go.

hahaha. When a taurus ignores you- yes, you pissed him/her off. Just like my ex taur. I told him I cannot be his lover because I have someone special. He rage..and I like it when he is mad..because he is stubborn and I want to inject the dosage he needs. lol.

well, let me tell you - I am an older female taurus and have had plenty of lexperiences with men in my life - just dropping someone like a bucket of turds becuase something happened that just turned me completely OFF ... now listen - most of that happened when I was much younger and as I aged and got wiser i learned better how not to be so shallow - I would at least be upfront and tell them why/what was going on ... not sure that is the same with the male taurus but I agree with the other taurans here on the board - we don't handle conflict, we just stop - drop and then roll ... in all fairness to us we just don't give a dam - we know when it's over and so why would we need to talk about it - I mean what is the point becuase there is definitly no talking us back into something when we have our minds set. hard to understand for some but we get it and we are surely good with that lol !

to ctom01 - if your girl retreats a bit once in while when there is nothing wrong with the relationship - then just let her be and find something else to do - let her know that you are there to take her out when she's ready - we love that because it means that it's ok to be this natural woman who just needs a break once in awhile and means nothing by it - just a break to regroup, rest, rejuvenate ... she will return more beautiful than before ! we rock !!!

Posted by MzDiana
Even in my Libran retreat, I do not ignore ppl who call me or ppl who I say that I love. I do not understand it. Taurus men not texting, not calling back or even calling. Then I hear that they are insecure. Sounds pretty damn secure to me. I like/love u so I'm going to ignore u. Pretty ingenious concept if I ever in my life heard one.

Um can i ask...if u sexually sent voicenotes to ur taurus and he ignores u after he started sexually flirting with you...what does that mean?i did say sorry but his still ignoring me.

yo why bring up a two year old thread? how do yall find these threads? Lol