Will Taurus Come Back?

Please, lend me your wisdom!

I'll try to keep this short. Cancer/leo cusp here
- met a year ago through mutual friend.
- he's dropped best friends b/c they got gfs & became too busy or had kids. he left them before they'd leave him.
- claimed he'd never loved a girl before. 2 long-term relationships.
- we have almost everything in common, excellent chemistry physically, emotionally, mentally..
- went on 2 dates last year in the same week, one was 6 hours, the other 4. i had to end both b/c of college & curfew >.> Both were spontaneous. 1st time, I asked him out, 2nd time he did. no sex, his choice, he wanted to wait
- got distant after 2nd date, coaxed it out of him & found out that he was in financial ruin b/c of his ex.
- got distant again after his second attempt at a job left him without work b/c the machines broke down.
- weeks later, learned he was traveling the states doing odd jobs.
- told him i would've waited for him & he said he was never coming back to our town again, that he was moving to CO, 1700 miles away.
- he said i could visit, i said i wouldn't. we kept talking, and i got over my pain. we grew closer.
- 2 months into "relationship," before he'd moved to CO, I said i should go with him, read the maps for him. i was kidding, but he told me i should.
- he wasn't moving till the 30th & said he'd visit me on the 4th of July. said if i'd really wanted to come, he'd get me. i didn't believe him b/c he'd gone back on his word b4.
- we sexted in June & he said he'd never felt this way b4 & then he disappeared. blocked me days l8er

- found him on a dating site & sent him holiday msgs over 7 months time. it finally showed that he'd read em after i sent one that said "i loved you and..."
- we resumed talking for 2 months. we were bffs again. he took pics of his fridge to show me how empty it was xD i told him I'd come cook for him & he said i was always welcome.
- i bought a roundtrip ticket after more discussion. he was so excited, we both were.
- as the date drew closer, i got scared. told him there were 3 possible outcomes. never explained 'em to him b/c that same day, I told him about a health condition i was insecure about, & he took it like a champ. we talked about other things, but by the end of the day, he was gone.
- he didn't delete me or block me. he knew if he did we'd be over. i made that clear in the beginning.
- i spent 4 weeks trying to figure out what i'd done wrong. i thought he was mad at me or jealous over a checkers game, long story. & no, he wasn't.
- after 4 weeks of texting dead air, off and on, i called it quits. as soon as I did, i realized why he was silent & wrote him 2 days later.
- in response, he blocked me on everything. i think i scared him w/ those 3 possible outcomes, 1 of them WASN'T me not liking him but i never told him that! i'm in love w/ him, but he didn't know.
- i tried to explain. i confessed my love. I'm trying to respect his decision, but is he really gone? 😢

Huh?

Seems like major pain in the ass syndrome and who needs that. Not I even though I did at your age. So I get it. But really that's like list of deal breakers. 20 years later that is so much information not to think about if taurus are serious they are no doubt. And some just are meant to be friends...

If they are or were friends in the past everything changes and possibly don't really like going back to once was as Taurus, like to move forward even after a few issues. If those few issues you guys don't work out don't wait to long as you are young, smart, full of life.

Go be a good strong, independent woman and got get your own things, job, car, and place, don't move or have sex with him.

Don't force friendships later it is you that will smdh later in life.

He will find another girl in another state too.

Taurus is the "stubborn" one of the Zodiac signs. And I agree (too much drama). I was getting "dizzy" trying to get back to your scenario/situation as I was reading. He's NOT financially stable. Since you mentioned he had no children (thank your lucky stars; since child support will kick in), not financially stable with a job, then yes, then was going out of state ("CALGON, TAKE ME AWAY!"). Leave him alone. He's got allot on his plate. Sexting isn't the same as the true physical one (AND I'M NOT DISSING YOU FOR SEXTING AS I AM NOT A TROLL).

Stay strong little Cancerian/Leo (cusp). Keep us posted 🤗 (CYBER HUG).

Love,

Eva

Thanks everybody. Sorry for making it so jumbled, it's just a lot that happened lol I feel like he blocked me that first time b/c he wanted to break away from ppl trying to hold him back. That's what his ex did, big time. He'd wanted to travel, and he even had job opportunities to train people in different states, but his girl never wanted him to, so he didn't. & to feel the complete betrayal from her... she made him quit his job and promised they'd move to a house her uncle had in another state, but she never intended to do that, & he found out that all of it was a HUGE lie. All of that happened just a couple months before dating me, & all of the upheaval that came from being with her... I get it. I didn't want him to go to Colorado. Once or twice I made my stance clear, but I also told him that I respected his choice. So I don't really know... maybe he saw no point in talking to me anymore since I wasn't going to go with him, & I'd told him I wouldn't visit either.

This time I think he blocked me b/c he was too scared to take this any further. He has fears of abandonment that date back to his childhood, & I left him b/c he was taking too long. I don't know what he was trying to figure out, but maybe he blocked me b/c I failed his stupid test? It's not like he's been in a relationship where he loved the girl. He'd stay with them out of convenience and loneliness. If he was falling for me, our relationship would've been a different domain, completely out of his comfort zone, BUT the more I think about it, I feel like if he REALLY liked me, he wouldn't have let fear keep him from building something with me. I think it's for the best that he's gone, like all of you have said.

It just sucks, b/c I'd never felt this close to my ideal guy! My dad used to tell me find someone with the same dreams, goals, similar interests, chemistry, someone who's your best friend, & he was all of that. To me, he was the whole package, a slightly damaged one, but I thought love could fix it lol it's just the lack of communication... seriously, he could've just told me he needed time to think instead of leaving me to assume I'd done something wrong.

He doesn't sound like the best catch around...

Posted by AgentP911
He doesn't sound like the best catch around...

Lol well what can I say, sometimes you can't see the forest for the trees. But seriously, I appreciate everyone's input. It's good to get another opinion that isn't coming from my family or friends. Strangers are always easier to listen to b/c there's no bias. So, again, thanks.

I'm gonna move on. I've already told myself it'll get easier with each day. I just hope it's true xD

Posted by kairi2723

Posted by AgentP911
He doesn't sound like the best catch around...

Lol well what can I say, sometimes you can't see the forest for the trees. But seriously, I appreciate everyone's input. It's good to get another opinion that isn't coming from my family or friends. Strangers are always easier to listen to b/c there's no bias. So, again, thanks.

I'm gonna move on. I've already told myself it'll get easier with each day. I just hope it's true xD

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Don't worry, we've all been there with not seeing the forest for the trees! This one just doesn't sound right at all. Far too much shit going on between you both.