Women who desire____

i think this can be also for men who desire ___ want ___

If you see a woman who has a good relationship with her man, do you desperately DESIRE so much to have that type??
or do you see it for what it is?
That that man isn't your type, and therefore, you're happy for them?
Just picking at the emotions here. For example, If i were single, and i saw my sister's with their men, i would feel happy for them. but i dont want those types. I know that for a fact.
So what makes us want /desire a certain type?

Are you the type that looks at other people and think, "ohhh i want that too!!" Like looking over the fence and desiring that.
Or do you try to center yourself and want what is best for you—http://www.salon.com/2013/06/02/the_truth_about_female_desire_its_base_animalistic_and_ravenous/

Posted by cheekyfaerie
I've looked at couples I'm close to and wished I had the type of relationship it looks like they have, but I've never coveted their mate.

thank you! that's also part of what i meant.

Not necessarily coveting that type of mate either.

because the person they chose is entirely not the type of person they would want.

But yes, definitely, you want that KIND, where it is harmonious, happy, content. But not necessarily the type of person.

which is, basicaly saying that it can be anyone else who can make you happy.

Posted by humbleknight
The idea that the grass is greener is usually a way for either a person to display their genuine happiness for that other person's happiness or their way of reacting to the concept of something they desire. A higher form of spiritual development would be to not think of oneself and share in that other's persons happiness by acknowledging it in the responsible and mature way.

this is definitely very evolved.

but i dont think it's that easy if for example, they're in a situation that they are unhappy in.

it's hard to be happy for others when an individual is miserable.

or maybe it is possible, to be happy for others, like say, going to a wedding and being teary eyed, cry for your sister, your cousin, your friend who is so happy, but you yourself, have not gone there. They can feel wonderful and happy for others, but they are so humble themselves, they have no thought of covetousness.

and what if they are the type they are so miserable they want to sabotage? Would any of you try to sabotage your sister's, cousins, friend's wedding?
do you feel it in your heart?

Posted by humbleknight
I could not bring myself to do that. My placements in water and passive aggressiveness would not allow that. Even as terrible as things go the only way I would know how to deal with those emotions is inwardly.

+100000

i definitely see what you mean/get you there.

Posted by ellle
I can't relate to any of this at all.

So much so, that I can't even answer your question.

i can feel it though, i can feel it on others....

but i can't relate to it, because i've never been jealous/envious of my sister's, cousins, friends, ect. I've honestly felt only bliss and joy for them, because i really want them to be happy.

but feeling it, i can feel it.

Posted by ellle
I can't relate to any of this at all.

So much so, that I can't even answer your question.

and that is good you don't relate to it.

i can tell you would be happy for your loved ones, and people you care about. Or even strangers i believe.

which in reality,that is normal for alot of people.

(not trying to be all wishy washy here) but seeing all sides...

alot of people don't know what they want, inside.

Posted by ellle
no, you aren't understanding.

I don't feel *anything*.

I don't feel happy, sad, envious, desire....nothing. nada.

I don't see how looking at someone else's relationship and *feeling* something about it is natural. At least not for me.

It has nothing to do with me....so, I can't really attach any feelings to it.

I don't know...I have no planets in my 4th or 7th house...that could be some kind of clue.

Sure, I've done the social norm thing and wished people congratulations on weddings and stuff....but, again, I'm not really attached to caring about it at all.

elle, i'm talking about your loved ones. how can you not attach feelings to that? if you see they are happy?

or if they are sad, if they are sad, you feel sad don't you?

i mean i saw your post on the revenge topic, and you were even saying out loud how you would only take revenge if anyone hurt your family, loved ones. That is feeling!!!

Posted by ellle
them being happy or sad in a relationship has nothing to do with me at all. I don't even care. Relationships are not a highlight for me. Hell, i don't know the relationship status of most of my family (or friends) and I can't be bothered to even ask. I don't associate 'happy' exclusively to pairing up.

that doesn't mean I don't have other feelings.

sure, if someone does hurt my family or loved ones....I would want revenge....but that can come to them in all kinds of ways...it's not centralized around relationships.

I assumed you were specifically talking about romantic relationships.

it's hard to explain, but romantic yes, but it can also platonic love (for your family, friends) it would apply since it is a kind of desirous covetous love some of us feel/desire to want.
because an individual still "covets",

no, many individuals remain single and are very very happy. But i honesty dont know if truly deeply inside they are happy. One day they could say out loud, "i've Always wanted to be with someone, live a life like that couple there or that couple there...but it just never happened, so i accepted that."
i mean who knows!?

i try to focus on pairing up romantically,since that was my Original post, but relationships can also be for mother,father, children, grandparents, ect.

oh ok, elle, you just want the best for your family. I do get warm fuzzies when i read about engagments and weddings though. lol
i love happy events. But i have also been through sad events (funerals, deaths, ect)
but no 7th.

aw that's so sweet!! ^__^

This topic is a very 4th house thing, IMO. Or maybe a moon and venus in water houses since both of mine are there.

I feel it completely. I even teared up throughout it.

I see old people on the street holding hands, my eyes well up. I see a father with his son on his back, my eyes well up. Total strangers, family, friends, I don't care who they are. The mushiness will never end in me.

It makes me SO happy to see people happy. It gives me faith in people, in connections, in innocence. There is not one inch of envy in me. I rejoice in it and I feel so blessed when I see it happening in the world.

I think I will climb 1000 more levels in mushiness the day my little Leo cousin gets married. Well, she's 14 so not a small Leo anymore but for me, she's my baby.

Posted by Damnata
This topic is a very 4th house thing, IMO. Or maybe a moon and venus in water houses since both of mine are there.

I feel it completely. I even teared up throughout it.

I see old people on the street holding hands, my eyes well up. I see a father with his son on his back, my eyes well up. Total strangers, family, friends, I don't care who they are. The mushiness will never end in me.

It makes me SO happy to see people happy. It gives me faith in people, in connections, in innocence. There is not one inch of envy in me. I rejoice in it and I feel so blessed when I see it happening in the world.

i like that too!! i get really weepy and happy. It's disgustingly so.

there's also the type that is secretly sexy hot and heavy too!!

we saw it one time on vacation.

Me and hubby were going one way and other family members and friends were going another, (it was in this big big abandoned abbey and there's lots of explore) and then we were going up this kind of broken stairway, towards a kind of gazebo, very out of place and there by the trees overhanging an older couple getting hot and heavy, just you know, small giggles and kissing on the neck, like they were doing something so secret and hidden.

We were like, uh oh!!! we're interrrupting!! So we went the other way. 😆

my husband goes, "think we should go in the other corner and do our own thing?" 😆

i was like, "so rude!!" 😄 😄

Posted by RumiLove
Watching a couple's chemistry is a beautiful thing on earth. I usually go into dreams of what my man and i will be like lol. But no... I never want that guy whom I'm looking at. Basically, I'm not even looking at him....it's the chemistry â¤

Everyone has good/bad traits. I think it's myopic to desire a guy you're seeing infront of you. What really pulls us is the thing that two people can create between them. That "creation"/chemistry is a beautiful thing to witness â¤

There's no way chemistry/connection can be the same between different people. It's each couple's own product....so yeah. I mean nooo. I never desire the other.

Chemistry!! 😄

Posted by starlover
I used to when i had the rose tinted specs on, but not so much now

Seeing so many married couples out together that look miserable and bored has made me realize i am very lucky to be happy with myself


Of course once in a blue moon you see a genuinely happy couple and i can feel very soft inside about that, but it is very rare i see that


Reality check, i guess?

it should be once in a rosey moon. 😄