Loser attraction

alright i have serious questions. why are you women so infatuated in losers? don't lie. you women throw yourselves at losers and then come on here looking for a shoulder to cry on. i know a friend who can be described as a bum and women throw themselves at him. hes spends his money on all sorts of drugs and drinks heavily. hes so fucking lazy he walks around slouched over like hes about to give up and let gravity win. his parents pay his bills. so whats the delusion for women? what shuts down the inhibition of the female brain and activates the self destruction part?

Actually ive awys been the asshoe in the relationship n i jst dont find players or lsers attractive. i aways date good guys and i get a thril being their first. Otherwise guys turn me of therefor i turn to girls more like me. S im basiclly lesbian but if a guy is total clueless twat i get interested. it sad honestly. My current bf...tho aent spoken tohim for two nd a half months now is really sweetheart. he just an insecure piece of shit nd cnt help me cuz e cn even hlp his lame self. Oh well. I hope gets th point and gets soekn mre fit for him. hes my twin fir bt i need a girl.

And if yoh really want to know wht it is....it the manliness. Women seem to get confused bout what TRUE manlines is, possibly the fault of the entertinmen n what the po culture shws 'a man' to be. Theyre cool chill hot nd assholes. This is not true man. A man is someone shows love and isnt afrad to expresstheir love or cry or be afuckin human. rel mn recognisss he js a human being. And he protects hjs woman. he stnds up for her rather or not she is strog enough to do it herself. a real man takes care f his girl like a daughter. as old school as it souds, its true.

Posted by RumiLove
I think everyone deserves to be loved.. Loser or over-achiever. Being a loser(drugs, jobless, drinking, etc ) means he has problems and some women feel they could support and help. I think women who come here cry about their problems just want to vent their problems, sometimes people get frustrated.

Yes i agree....everyone deserves love....once they shape the fuck up an mke soething of themselves. you cant expect healthy relationhip if u make unhealthy life stye choices. you cnt loved if yoydont love yourself. to have lasting appy relationship u have to hv healthy happy life.

Its all about self esteem.

no one sees his life beyond his t-shirt. i know whats going on with his life because im his friend. all the women see is his slouched demeanor and thats enough for them to be drawn in, hes like a pitcher plant. just looking at him should be enough to convince a woman to turn the opposite direction. i think you women are right with your responses. im wondering what he is projecting because i don't see it. maybe its the ego

It's the male equivalent of "white knighting." They think they can "save" him.

Anyone who's attracted to someone else for the sole purpose of "saving" needs to be drowned in the dating pool. Absolutely disgusting way to go about dating, nevermind the fucked up issues the "rescuer" has.

Dating is not therapy... I think the sooner most people realize this, the happier they'll be in finding a mate.

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Posted by rockyroadicecream
It's the male equivalent of "white knighting." They think they can "save" him.

Anyone who's attracted to someone else for the sole purpose of "saving" needs to be drowned in the dating pool. Absolutely disgusting way to go about dating, nevermind the fucked up issues the "rescuer" has.

Dating is not therapy... I think the sooner most people realize this, the happier they'll be in finding a mate.

Lol. We are all in need of help in some form or fashion rocky. Nobody is perfect.

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You've seen some of the stories here, right?

It's WAY too common that we see people getting involved with someone who clearly shouldn't be dating.

"HE'S NICE WHEN HE'S HIGH!"
"HE'S NICE WHEN HE'S NOT CHEATING ON ME!"
"HE'S NICE WHEN HE'S NOT DRUNK!"
"HE'S NICE WHEN I ACTUALLY HEAR FROM HIM."

Standards. Have them, gawd.

Posted by Ssupes
Change does come from within. Love cures a lot of internal issues.

So the lovely traits above are something that love can cure? A perpetual loser who wants to use people to get by in life? Some woman should waste her time and energy on an emotional leech like that?

Yes, love cures that for sure.

I think you've missed the point of this thread if you're defending relationships curing the loser variety. There's trials and tribulations and then there's just being a waste of time. The OP is referring to the latter.

There's a sucker born every minute, right?

from what i figure, women know what they want from a man but they don't know how to find those desirable traits. so they go off on a trial and error mission without even knowing it. then they get trapped and talk themselves out of leaving the loser with a whole list of excuses.

Posted by LillyBlossom
Not me. I know what I want. I know how to get it. That is exactly why I am single.

+1

Being a loser and all I can answer this, though it's probably been answerer since it's obvious. I'm definitely not going read every post though.

The reason some women are attracted to a loser actually has a few reasons, and most are related to an egotistical or even insecure personality. Some feel they can fix the loser by what some would call white knighting. They think they possess the power to fix/change the person for the better, or can at least mold the loser into the type of person they desire. This normally never works however, and then loser drags the Knight down with them.

Second is because the woman is insecure. They feel like they down have the personality, looks, or wealth to actually obtain a decent man so they settle for a loser. This normally leads to an unhappy life for the woman, and chances are she is attractive with a great personality but couldn't see it within herself.

That's all I got so take it or fuck off

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Posted by MoonArtist
There's a sucker born every minute, right?

Yes indeed!

How I love sucking... 😄

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Ohhh, do tell! 😉

ok, so simply women have beliefs in what a guy has to offer, but they're just beliefs