Ample confusion

OK, so I met an amazing virgo guy this year. We almost instantly hit it off and became friends and started hanging out. Time passed, and over the months we started getting closer to each other. I'm a cap so it takes me a while to show my true self, and I think its the same for him. We hung out a lot over the summer and I started to develop feelings for him. I started getting frustrated though because it seemed that every time we started getting close he would pull away. I would spend the night at his house and then I wouldn't hear from him for a week.
School started back up again, and we started going out with our group of friends rather then it being just me and him. One night, after I was feeling particularly frustrated, we all went to a bar. Everyone had been drinking including us. His friends kept asking me about our relationship and kept saying that he was shy. I approached him while he was on his phone and asked if he was talking to other girls. He replied, why does it matter? And I told him that I had feelings for him. He told me that he might not feel the same way I do. Those were his exact words.
I was really upset and didn't talk to him for about a week. Then the next weekend our groups ran into each other at the bar. I wouldn't talk to him, and he finally pulled me aside and said that we needed to talk. He was crying and telling me that he wanted things to go back to the way they were. However, he didn't admit to having feelings for me. I have never had a guy that I have not dated, cry over me before. It was especially surprising because he had NEVER shown that kind of emotion before. Now he texts and calls me all of the time, and it's hard because I still have feelings for him. I can't stand seeing him that upset though, so I am trying to let things go back to normal. Can anyone tell me what's going on?? Virgo help??

From what I understand....
Us male V's tend to speak with our actions more so than our words. Im not saying he isn't willing to say it but you may need to calm him down from whatever state he's in before you poke him verbally.

When I get upset, angry, or whatever about something, my chic tends to try "calm" me down first before starting to pull words out of me about whatever the hell is going on. It...works lol.

"I approached him while he was on his phone and asked if he was talking to other girls."


wtf? ^^^^ why would you put this kind of emotional pressure on a guy who hasn't even conveyed his feelings to you yet? Nor had you at this point conveyed your feelings to him?


"He replied, why does it matter? And I told him that I had feelings for him. He told me that he might not feel the same way I do."

I agree whole-heartedly with his response to you. You have no ground to make such a stand with a man to whom neither of you have expressed your feelings for each other.

At that point, he owed you nothing .. and it wasn't your business to put him on the spot like that about his peronal business. At that point, you had no idea whether he felt the same way back, and stepped over the line in making the assumption that he was bound to some kind of loyalty to you.


"He was crying and telling me that he wanted things to go back to the way they were. However, he didn't admit to having feelings for me."


wtf ... again


This man was trying to slowly develop a relationship with you in which he obviously was regarding .. and then you changed the tables on him and first spoke out-of-line to put him on the spot by inferring by your demand of who he was talking to that he had to prove loyalty to you ... then you ignore him, I would suppose as a form of punishment ... and then actually "say" in here that he still hasn't admitted feelings for you, eventhough, by his emotional reaction that indeed he must be feeling something because his tears show a clear indication of you hurting his feelings by the way you have treated him ...... with your demand of his loyalty, and then ignorance?

"I can't stand seeing him that upset though, so I am trying to let things go back to normal. Can anyone tell me what's going on??"

Yeah, I'll tell you what's going on .... you've fucked with his head, lady, and because he has feelings for you, this fucking has hurt these very feelings by turning them around on him, as if he had done something to cause you an injury.

P-angel,
This wasn't the first time that I had admitted that I had feelings for him. I had told him a couple of times how I felt, but he never really responded. So I took a chance in telling him that night. I did not do it the best of ways, but I'm a cap and I'm pretty emotionally retarded. I feel these things intensely (cancer moon), but I have no idea how to convey feelings. I haven't felt this way before so its really hard to not be scared about the whole situation...

Everytime we get close he pulls away from me, and that hurts because I dont normally let people in so quickly. I don't mean to mess with his head...I just kind of reacted to things without thinking them through...

My great grandmother just died last week and I was a mess. Both of my best friends were out of town and I was in my apartment alone. I couldn't handle it, so I called him and asked if he could stay with me. He came and picked me up and I spent the night at his place while he took care of me. I have never felt so taken care of and safe. He told me to let him know if I needed him.

Its been about a week since I have heard from him. I asked him if he wanted to hang out the other night and he said maybe. Then I didn't hear from him again. Do virgos just need a lot of space?? This is the part that confuses me because I think I'm really falling for him...

P-Angel was right wtf are you doing? Why are you letting yourself get so attached to someone in a romantic sense that is just trying to be your friend? If a virgo wanted to be with you he would. Like any man, if they want something they go after it. I knew my virgo for one week and by the end of it he asked me to be his girlfriend. We dated for a month and than I moved away. Virgo men have alots of female friends and they treat them like girlfriends. My virgo was best friends with this cancer girl and they hugged and hung out all the time (she was overweight and totally unattactive) but he loved her. And I'm sure if something happened between them he would cry too. I wouldn't take this as he likes you in a romantic sense. I think he just really really loves you as a friend.