another virguy question

...like half the other threads here.

hi. i've been viewing this forum for probably a couple months now. basic story...crush on a virgo guy, trying to understand. only i realized that that particular virguy was not to be mine, so i'm accepting that and moving on.

and my research has led me to believe that i'd really like to date a virgo. i like the self-contained mildly-neurotic sarcastic types with slim builds and strong work ethics. sexy. not even joking a little bit. plus, i really like getting constructive criticism, though i can see how it might get old after a while. and you're fun to tease (and pretty easy, no offense, but in an affectionate way). and my grandpa was a virgo, and he was pretty much the best person ever. when i was in school, i had a lot of virgo friends. y'all are pretty hard to meet now though.

(me: oct 19: sun in libra, moon conjuct asc in leo, venus in scorpio, merc conjuct pluto in scorpio, mars in capricorn...and the rest is 1 more scorp, 1 more cap, and 2 sag, but i can't remember them offhand)

but i have a question...

how comfortable/willing/etc do you think the typical virguy would be dating a stripper?

i'm not slutty. i'm incredibly monogomous. the job is a job. and no one can ever guess if they don't meet me at work. it's actually a really fun game i play with people when i meet. first we'll talk about philosophy and sociology and such, then they'll get curious and ask me what i do...the looks i get when i tell them are absolutely precious. my favorite is when they try to make me feel better. and i smile. that judgemental libra grin, with that little scornful chuckle at the assumption that i need to be reassured about what i do. it's the way i can pay my bills while still having plenty of time to study

but yeah, should i give up on wanting a virgo, or are there actually some out there that would put up with a job like mine?

Woah... most Virgos, in my opinion, would be VERY uncomfortable with your line of work and would attempt to change you and the job you do.

However, if he doesn't have a problem with the job, he will have a problem with feeling secure with you.

Naturally, you would put off Virgos through hiding your emotions and your acting that you don't care.
So I think this is a very tough objective you have set for yourself.

Me in my 20's. Probably not.

Me in my 30's. Okay with it assuming my connection with her was super dope good.

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Posted by curious visitor

and you're fun to tease (and pretty easy, no offense, but in an affectionate way).

My Taurus GF would agree with you on that. She teases me something rotten, but I really enjoy it —cause she does it in such a sweet and funny way. Normally I absolutely hate being teased or made fun of, but she has such a delightful way of doing it that it is one of the things I??d miss the most if we ever broke up.

Posted by curious visitor

how comfortable/willing/etc do you think the typical virguy would be dating a stripper?

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From my perspective, not a chance! Forget it!! There is no way I could ever conceive of becoming emotionally attached to a woman who got naked in front of anyone other than me. I would be totally consumed by jealousy and would be totally unable to handle it. There's no way I??d go there in the first place and if I found out after I met someone it would make me run a mile. Don't even think about quitting your job either — The fact that you have the capability to do such a job makes you someone that he would not be able to accept, whether you??re actually doing the job or not. To me mine and my partner??s bodies are things that we only share with one another. I wouldn't date an actress either as she might have to kiss someone as part of a scene. To me it wouldn't matter that it was —only her job??, to me there are places (nudity, kissing) you simply don't go except with a partner, and furthermore, anyone who can detach themselves emotionally from those things, such that they could do them for unemotional purposes such as work, is not someone I could ever relate to. Obviously I can only speak for myself here, there may be other Virguys who are more relaxed about these things.

Posted by Cajunspirit
Woah... most Virgos, in my opinion, would be VERY uncomfortable with your line of work and would attempt to change you and the job you do.

However, if he doesn't have a problem with the job, he will have a problem with feeling secure with you.

Naturally, you would put off Virgos through hiding your emotions and your acting that you don't care.
So I think this is a very tough objective you have set for yourself.

i'd be willing to quit and do something else if i were in a serious relationship.

the main reason i do what i do is that it gives me lots of time to do things that make me (somewhat) happy, since i don't have to spend a lot of time at work to pay my bills. i think it's pretty much a fact that libras are only actually happy when we're in a relationship, though.

i actually offered to quit for a guy once. he was a pisces. he fell out of love pretty fast. they don't like that sort of thing. of course, he wasn't really in love in the first place. they're very delusional people. i've dated several before i finally realized just what they're deal was. never will again.

and yes, you're totally right about the hiding of emotions. i've got the indifferent act down. it's funny, because i care sooooo much about so many people/things. i don't know why i feel the need to hide it. i got a lot worse after what that one pisces did to me, but i'm working on it. i'm actually an incredibly sensitive, caring person. maybe too much, i get hurt easily.

i need to know reasons for things. if i know the reason, i can modify my behavior...
so why does the indifferent act put off virgos so much? what is it about it? is it just a need for reassurance? to know a girl is into you?

Posted by Virgo07
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haha. no.

Posted by sortilege85
As to you i knew plenty of libra women. Many of them were very attractive and humorous. Every one of them i've met really enjoyed my company, but I knew there were specific things between them and i that wouldn't last very long, and I knew if i took the chance it would end up disasterly. You probably enjoy virgo's a lot because they fit your description as your perfect lover because they are witty, charming and intellectuals that you can take both seriously and play. Its just that I didn't have much experiences with them due to the fact that they always had plenty (and i mean plenty) of men to choose from. So i kept as just as a friend and a jokester with them, nothing more.

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what were the things that would have become problems?

it actually isn't that they fit my discription. it's more because i tend to get along with them, and they have the least amount of bad qualities. or at least the least bad of bad qualities. the worst is the tendency to hold back and to disappear, but i can do those things to, so i try to be understanding.

and no offense, but i would never call a virgo a witty, charming intellectual. that's hilarious. my favorite things are all the weird little quirks you try to hide. i like it when people are nervous/anxious. you're very good at looking calm, but there's always that energy in the eyes, and i love it. it's really sexy.

theoretically, i probably do have a lot of guys to choose from, but i rule most out immediately. i'm actually a pretty atypical libra. i spend a lot of time alone. i'm a homebody. when i go somewhere, i just go to a coffeehouse with a book and ignore people. most of the guys who like me are the social types. as much as i like people, i don't like being around them so much. and even if they aren't social, they're definitely shallow. and that's an instant turn-off.

I totally agree with you when you said a job is a job yet there are so many negatives applied to stripping, that's next to prostitution in most of the people I know opinions, even today after putting stripping in the main stream as something fun to do at home and as work outs it still bears that slutty lazy cocaine addiction persona, I by no means feel women that strip are sluts and lazy dope addicts least not all of them.

The free spirit types like Aquarius and possibly even Libra men would most likely be more open to dating you without so many restrictions, virgo men and I can't speak for all virgo men on the planet but you would most likely have to go through many to get to one that will accept your life style , there so many men with personality disorders, sex objectification/addiction issues and the occassional guys that just are out for the night having fun going on in those strip clubs that a real decent stand up guy would not accept your life, he would not want all these horny sometimes horny and creepy men rubbing against your body, I can't be sure but those private lap dances would kill a relationship real fast lol, maybe if you sold your life style as something temporary and showed him a solid future plan with a clean exit out of that life he would be more willing to accept it. I think your on the right track though in knowing what you want, try out those zodiac date sites or forums were the virg guys hang out, I'm sure your bound to find a guy near you online if that seems like something you would be interested in.

I don't think it's impossible, with a bit of focus and honesty you could very well get the kind of guy you really want.

see shaks is down, now all you have to do is move to nederlands and it's on and popping LOL

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I think Im in e-love with tiki 😄

hehehehe awww shucks shaks, stop it....your making me soft

Posted by curious visitor

i think it's pretty much a fact that libras are only actually happy when we're in a relationship, though.

Sad but true.

i actually offered to quit for a guy once. he was a pisces. he fell out of love pretty fast. they don't like that sort of thing. of course, he wasn't really in love in the first place. they're very delusional people. i've dated several before i finally realized just what they're deal was. never will again.

This relationship works for a while but ultimately the Libra hides too much to fulfill the Pisces need to be needed feeling.

and yes, you're totally right about the hiding of emotions. i've got the indifferent act down. it's funny, because i care sooooo much about so many people/things. i don't know why i feel the need to hide it. i got a lot worse after what that one pisces did to me, but i'm working on it. i'm actually an incredibly sensitive, caring person. maybe too much, i get hurt easily.

I have a Libra ex, so I fully believe you sweetheart. Ya'll can be so difficult to get through to.

i need to know reasons for things. if i know the reason, i can modify my behavior...
so why does the indifferent act put off virgos so much? what is it about it? is it just a need for reassurance? to know a girl is into you?

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A resounding YES.
My girlfriend likes to tell me I am the girl. I need lots of reassurance. I need consistency. I need to be certain you are for me.

He can easily fall in love with you, but you would have to lower your guard. We both know how you feel about that.

You're too much of a big soft loving teddy bear to do that 🙂

I apologise, but I can't help but project my feelings for my Libra ex in my writing.

CV,

Okay I'll give you a real answer 😛

I'd say it really depends on his confidence level. Good friend of mine stripped at one of the local clubs (She has a son, awesome kid, money was good enough to help make sure he got what he needed, etc) and she tried to set me up a few times with some of her co workers. I didn't really have a problem with the idea.

My loss of interest in them had zero to do with them stripping for a living.