Both Virgo Suns in love!?

I am deeply in love with my Virgo Sun, Aries Rising and Scorpio Moon man... We had that instant attraction with each other from the first day we met. As a Virgo Sun, Capricorn Rising and Leo Moon woman, I was attracted with his straightforward approach. But things drastically changed... I thought I knew him very well but when we decided to live together, he started to act really strange maybe it's because of his Scorpio Moon? When it's good, it's great but when things are bad, it's really horrible. Especially with my moon in Leo, I tend to be so emotional when neglected but I do forgive easily. He, on the other hand, results to sulking and power struggles. His ways are quite confusing and hurting... He says he loves me deeply though and that I'm "the one" for him. By the way from the first day we met up to this day, he literally sends me text messages just to check how am I doing. We've been together for 4 years and we were able to survive a 2 year long distance relationship as well. I do a lot of compromising in this relationship and often times my patience is tested... any helpful insights how to deal with these placements? Thank you!

Posted by sweetplum15
he started to act really strange maybe it's because of his Scorpio Moon?

Explain this strangeness.

Posted by sweetplum15
Especially with my moon in Leo, I tend to be so emotional when neglected but I do forgive easily.

So emotional as in dramatic? Are you throwing tantrums?

Posted by sweetplum15
he literally sends me text messages just to check how am I doing.

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That sounds like he cares about you.

4 year relationship? There must have been some escalation to this..I don't see how he could just get sulking and engage in "power struggles" out of the blue. There's more to this story..so what is the real trouble? Where do you two conflict?

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Posted by sweetplum15
he started to act really strange maybe it's because of his Scorpio Moon?

Explain this strangeness.

Posted by sweetplum15
Especially with my moon in Leo, I tend to be so emotional when neglected but I do forgive easily.

So emotional as in dramatic? Are you throwing tantrums?

Posted by sweetplum15
he literally sends me text messages just to check how am I doing.

That sounds like he cares about you.

4 year relationship? There must have been some escalation to this..I don't see how he could just get sulking and engage in "power struggles" out of the blue. There's more to this story..so what is the real trouble? Where do you two conflict?

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He acts detached and distant sometimes, though we're physically together, it feels like he's not there in the moment with me. It's strange because he was always attentive...

To be honest I could be really dramatic and childish when insecure and we result to a big fight with my temper going out of hand to the point of saying things I regret later on. I tend to force him to express himself emotionally and to tell me exactly what's wrong but then he just sulks at a corner, refuses to let me know what's wrong and just gives me the silent treatment. All I wanted was for us to connect emotionally but it seems that he's too deep for me to understand. I can't read his mind and I can't stand the awkward silence when we fight. I wanted to understand him more but how?

Posted by sweetplum15
To be honest I could be really dramatic and childish when insecure and we result to a big fight with my temper going out of hand to the point of saying things I regret later on.

That's Virgo anger, and we suck at it. Saying the meanest shit in a fit of anger and then wondering why people cannot get over it, while choosing not to think about the emotional wounds we inflict. You need to address that. Just because you're having a fit of anger does not give you the right to inflict emotional damage

Posted by sweetplum15
I tend to force him to express himself emotionally and to tell me exactly what's wrong but then he just sulks at a corner, refuses to let me know what's wrong and just gives me the silent treatment.

Well he is just taking space from you and the fighting..rather than get angry at you. He's probably giving you the silent treatment in the hope that you can calm down and just approach him differently. Not harping about emotional expression.

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All I wanted was for us to connect emotionally

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You guys live together right? And have been together for 4 years? It seems you are connected emotionally except when the fighting occurs. What makes you think you aren't, in general? I mean, it seems you put a lot of weight in the fighting and not the rest of the relationship. If only the sulking part upsets you and the rest is good..then why put stock into what upsets you?

Posted by tiziani
Emotional connection (face palm) do they sell this concept to you all in the street or is it actually FDA store approved by now?

It's catering..for feelings. Hey, if they can cater to weddings, why not start a business centered around a different type of catering too? 😛

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Posted by sweetplum15
To be honest I could be really dramatic and childish when insecure and we result to a big fight with my temper going out of hand to the point of saying things I regret later on.

That's Virgo anger, and we suck at it. Saying the meanest shit in a fit of anger and then wondering why people cannot get over it, while choosing not to think about the emotional wounds we inflict. You need to address that. Just because you're having a fit of anger does not give you the right to inflict emotional damage

Posted by sweetplum15
I tend to force him to express himself emotionally and to tell me exactly what's wrong but then he just sulks at a corner, refuses to let me know what's wrong and just gives me the silent treatment.

Well he is just taking space from you and the fighting..rather than get angry at you. He's probably giving you the silent treatment in the hope that you can calm down and just approach him differently. Not harping about emotional expression.

Posted by sweetplum15
All I wanted was for us to connect emotionally

You guys live together right? And have been together for 4 years? It seems you are connected emotionally except when the fighting occurs. What makes you think you aren't, in general? I mean, it seems you put a lot of weight in the fighting and not the rest of the relationship. If only the sulking part upsets you and the rest is good..then why put stock into what upsets you?

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Thank you for your response! _??_

I've been working with my anger issues already and I'm a bit calmer now. _—

I always try to convince myself that he just needed the space during the fight but him not talking to me for days is punishment. I guess I'll just have to deal with it—

Yes, we live together. I think we don't emotionally connect in a sense that we disagree on a lot of things which only surfaced when we started living together. He cannot forget our past fights and he tends to bring them back today though it was already 2 years behind us. I put a lot of weight in our fights because from the moment we started the big fights he seemed so emoti

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-onally distant, detached and cold. He also started to manifest demanding and controlling behaviors which my Leo moon won't allow but still I made compromises. We both like to be in control. With his Scorpio moon and lots of water signs in his chart, he is more sensitive than I am. I feel that he put a wall between us from the moment we fought even though we are in good terms.

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Posted by tiziani
Emotional connection (face palm) do they sell this concept to you all in the street or is it actually FDA store approved by now?

It's catering..for feelings. Hey, if they can cater to weddings, why not start a business centered around a different type of catering too? 😛

holy damn.. I think I did 😱

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