Capricorn with a virgo somehow things are gone upside down!!!

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Capricorn2019
@Capricorn2019
6 Years

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Hey ive got a short story for whoever can help me basically i started speaking to this virgo about october online, we hit it off straight away even doe that was never our intention she told me how she just came out of a bad relationship which she was in for 2-3 years. Which she got cheated on rapidly and suffered abuse and finally had enough of the guy and told him to go, I understood her situation but the more we talked the deeper we fell for each other from the first time we met we decided we wanted to be a couple! Ive only saw her three times by the way but we speak everyday second time perfect third time perfect, i could really see a future with her and still kind of do the things we said we want together were so deep and was like a magical love story! Long story short she calls me paranoid and last weekend before she went out we had a fall out due to me making stupid insecure remarks which I greatly regret, but realising what ive done I messaged her puring my heart out explaining how sorry i was I thought it would help but didnt help. It came to the point where she said im doing her head in because im sending too many messages so she asked for some space, i kind of chose to ignore it thinking i could sweet talk my way back in and it didnt work after a long arguement and many mean things frm her end for example saying i stress her out and if its like this now what would it be like in the future. So i took that defeat but she rang me out of the blue on the same night and told me she loves me mixes messages here!!! so i agreed to really give her space we didnt speak for 12 hours today (i know what your thinking but you have to understand we went frm talking everyday fone calls facetime the lot to this). Anyway after the hours went past i asked if she needed more space and she said yeah some how we got talking, I said basically that it was my fault and i would change and this is not who i am it was just a moment of weakness i have spoken to her earlier on the fone the convo wasnt are usual selfs but what can I expect in this situation. I have chosen to give her all the time she needs for us to sort this but shes not too sure it will i know that ive scared her but would never do her wrong or make the same mistake i dont know whether i have lost her for good or the space is going to sort us out i just dont want to be waiting for nothing but hate the fact of loosing her i need help guys what do you think i should do sorry for the movie lol.
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Give her some time. I think when she called to tell you she loved you was just to say like “hey I know your stressing me out and such and I need space, I don’t want this to seem harsh. I still love you, but I do need space, please”.

Coming out of an abusive relationship may have branded her to leave at any sight of manipulation. And I mean ANY. Which isn’t really her fault. She unfortunately has a huge wall around her heart rn and against better judgment (in my opinion) fell into another relationship right after the last one and now is taking it out on you.

If you really wanna be in a relationship, be patient and give her space and time. I’d advise that y’all just stay friends for now so she can heal on her own but I suppose y’all won’t.
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Capricorn2019
@Capricorn2019
6 Years

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Thank you soo much for your feedback it has helped me alot yesterday she rang me again and explained how she felt as i was being too much and it reminded her of her abusive ex. So i used this chance to explain why i was messaging her so much and told her i would never become like him and would respect her space no matter how long it took or how much she needed hope i done the right thing im ment to be seeing her next month🤦🏾‍♂️ When it comes to whens enough time you could answer how longs a piece of string i guess!