Posted by Damnata
1)No clue what a Voygo is.
2)You should practice integrity and not give a fuck. Men are territorial about women and the kind of men you refer to will always keep women in the wings for booty calls.
3) When you say "overly intimate", do you mean fucking or what exactly?
Posted by iamwhatiam
Overly intimate by introducing you to their children and allowing them to call you "mom"
Posted by iamwhatiam
having sex with deep intensity/making love,
Posted by iamwhatiam
doing me huge favors any time or ask (or dont ask) for it, ensuring that I'm exercising and eating right,sharing deep information, being territorial...
Posted by iamwhatiam
say they dont want a relationship and date other womenclick to expand
Posted by soultalk
bottom line is we (virgos) try to assume the worst firstso when things don't work out, we think to ourselves 'I KNEW IT'
Posted by iamwhatiam
Why is it that men will lead you on by being overly intimate, say they dont want a relationship and date other women, but then be super pissy when you treat them as friends only? Also, why is it that men like this seem to be falling in love one moment and then iced cold the next? What is going on? What should I do about it?
Posted by DamnataPosted by iamwhatiam
Overly intimate by introducing you to their children and allowing them to call you "mom"
^This part I don't believe. You must have run into someone particularly fucked up..because it's mostly women who fuck men and bring them around the house..I see it on this forum all the time.
Posted by iamwhatiam
having sex with deep intensity/making love,
^This is all subjective and it's mostly from the female perspective. It can be a one night stand, a fwb or marriage..sex is sex.
Posted by iamwhatiam
doing me huge favors any time or ask (or dont ask) for it, ensuring that I'm exercising and eating right,sharing deep information, being territorial...
^This is something a nice male friend would do for you also. Deep information can also be shared. I already addressed the territorial thing.
Since he said and did the following:
Posted by iamwhatiam
say they dont want a relationship and date other women
= I do not want a relationship, having sex is all there was. Maybe we've been friends before and now that we've reverted to the old friendship I feel guilty for taking advantage of you...or maybe I will be nice to hit it one more time..or as many times your boundaries permit.
I know people always say to look for actions but if someone tells you straight up they don't want a relationship, it should be the cue for you to let them go (unless you're not after a relationship).
Hope some men chime in but this is how I see it.
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Posted by soultalk
to answer your question, these are just my thoughts, when a person says no to you and still tries to flirt with you, ask you out etc., he does not give a damn about you. a decent person will stay away from you after saying no to you and knowing you have feelings for him that he cannot return. a decent person is not selfish wanting ego boost, but respects your feelings and keeps his distance from you in order to not hurt you or give false hope to you. so when someone says one thing and acts the other way, give yourself some space to think about it all. usually keeping in touch with such a person will only give you more heartbreak. and if he really develops feelings for you or changes his mind he will come back even if you have cut contact with him. he will find you. then you can decide whether you still want him 😛
of course all this is easier said than done 😆
Posted by LadyOfRebirth
Either you're compatible or you're not. Simple as that. If you find yourself worrying/being miserable more often than being happy it's not what you should go for really. Relationships should contribute to your life and make you feel happy. If you're not happy then why even give that person the time of day?
Posted by iamwhatiam
Why is it that men will lead you on by being overly intimate, say they dont want a relationship and date other women, but then be super pissy when you treat them as friends only? Also, why is it that men like this seem to be falling in love one moment and then iced cold the next? What is going on? What should I do about it?
Posted by truecap
Keep being who you are whether he's around or not. Don't change anything you're doing. He might be mirroring your mirror.
Seems like you're letting your insecurities rule your actions and/or thought patterns. Be confident and secure in yourself.
Then, if you're still not happy and continually having doubts, he's not the right man for you.
Posted by LetltBPosted by iamwhatiam
Why is it that men will lead you on by being overly intimate, say they dont want a relationship and date other women, but then be super pissy when you treat them as friends only? Also, why is it that men like this seem to be falling in love one moment and then iced cold the next? What is going on? What should I do about it?
Because you allow them to?click to expand
Posted by iamwhatiam
Why is it that men will lead you on by being overly intimate, say they dont want a relationship and date other women, but then be super pissy when you treat them as friends only? Also, why is it that men like this seem to be falling in love one moment and then iced cold the next? What is going on? What should I do about it?
Posted by iamwhatiam
OK so I took the tip to stimulate an aqua's brain to attain a deeper connection, but every time I attempt to bring a rather stimulating question or topic to the conversation, my aqua just looks at me with a timid/confused face. Why? He is not like this when he is conversing with his friends (regarding topics that are more simpler than the ones I bring up or just as challenging). And, I have always been challenging, this is not me doing a complete 180 and changing my behavior on him. Is is not comfortable with me? What's the deal?
Posted by P-Angel
Posted by iamwhatiam
OK so I took the tip to stimulate an aqua's brain to attain a deeper connection, but every time I attempt to bring a rather stimulating question or topic to the conversation, my aqua just looks at me with a timid/confused face. Why? He is not like this when he is conversing with his friends (regarding topics that are more simpler than the ones I bring up or just as challenging). And, I have always been challenging, this is not me doing a complete 180 and changing my behavior on him. Is is not comfortable with me? What's the deal?
I was referring to his behavior as far as how he is with a group of people vs how he is with me individually when it comes to his style of humor and some of the topics we discuss. Yes, we talk about deep things that is going on in his personal life. But when it comes to off the wall topics, he does not entertain me the way he entertains groups. Clear enough?
You started that ^^^^ thread 3 weeks ago in the Aqua room.
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Posted by iamwhatiam
Why is it that men will lead you on by being overly intimate, say they dont want a relationship and date other women, but then be super pissy when you treat them as friends only? Also, why is it that men like this seem to be falling in love one moment and then iced cold the next? What is going on? What should I do about it?
Posted by Damnata
1)No clue what a Voygo is.
2)You should practice integrity and not give a fuck. Men are territorial about women and the kind of men you refer to will always keep women in the wings for booty calls.
3) When you say "overly intimate", do you mean fucking or what exactly?
Posted by iamwhatiam
Why is it that men will lead you on by being overly intimate, say they dont want a relationship and date other women, but then be super pissy when you treat them as friends only? Also, why is it that men like this seem to be falling in love one moment and then iced cold the next? What is going on? What should I do about it?
Posted by TaurusBull1977Posted by iamwhatiam
Why is it that men will lead you on by being overly intimate, say they dont want a relationship and date other women, but then be super pissy when you treat them as friends only? Also, why is it that men like this seem to be falling in love one moment and then iced cold the next? What is going on? What should I do about it?
He's super-pissy because being friend-zoned doesn't come with convenient sexual benefits.
There is nothing to psychoanalyze at all really.
Somehow, he's presented 'jerk' tendencies, and you're making it an astrological issue.click to expand
Posted by iamwhatiam
.... but then be super pissy when you treat them as friends only?
Posted by iamwhatiam
*clears throat* Unfortunately when I friend zone him, I FWB zone him and we still have sex. That's what confuses me.click to expand
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