Don't understand what's going on

This topic was created in the Virgo forum by Allwomenvirgo on Tuesday, March 4, 2014 and has 31 replies.

Understanding Virgo Behavior in Workplace Interactions

Virgos are often cautious and observant, which may make them seem distant or reserved. His actions could be driven by shyness, professionalism, or interest. It is important to communicate clearly and set boundaries if you feel uncomfortable. Remember that individual behavior varies regardless of zodiac sign, so avoid overanalyzing based solely on astrology.

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@Allwomenvirgo
12 Years

I just started working a new job and the guy who trained me is a Virgo. He is attractive but it seems like all the girls stay in his face and I am not sure if he is shallow or not, he stays with headphones on so he maybe on the phone or listening to music. But when we would work together everytime I turned around he seemed to be right up on me like if I wasn't paying attention we might have kissed or rubbed up against each other. But after I found out there were girls that he may have been dating talking to or liked him I cut communication off even if we worked together. But now we don't work together much but the supervisor (who he stays around) puts me in a position where I am in his eye sight she even gave me the same days off as him. But even if I am not he has showed up where I was. He has long hair that he keeps tied up. I got my hair done now he keeps it down and out. But he won't talk to me since I won't talk to him. But the funny thing is no one spoke to me before when I spoke to him now that I am not people do. What do I do about this. I don't understand and I am a Virgo. Am I reading to far into this? What is he thinking?

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@Este8
13 Years1,000+ Posts

You don't understand what's going on because there is nothing going on until a man asks you out. Then that means your dating and getting to know each other. This all sounds like fantasy island mixed with a good dose of wishful thinking. If this guy digs you, he'll ask you out.

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@Allwomenvirgo
12 Years

We talked about places we go.... Everything was fine until someone stated how all the girls stay in his face, and how females be checking on him so I backed off. To Enoch like I said I am a Virgo so I know how they do but I am a woman he is a man.

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@Allwomenvirgo
12 Years

I felt that way too like you are just all up in my space but brushed it off like maybe I am tripping or seeing something other than what it is. But doing the work I do you tend to want to get it done and fast so... But can a Virgo male or someone who knows how they think answer this. Is this guy playing a game...

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@Damnata
16 Years25,000+ PostsVirgo

I honestly think someone is trolling me.

Just the other day I mentioned how some Virgo chicks are delusional...

...and immediately you come into the room and prove my theory. Delusional much?

Oh you also brought up shallowness but you're the one talking about him being attractive and him having long hair tied up (why does this shit really matter?"

So I will change my stance from Delusional much..to Delusional and shallow much?

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@Allwomenvirgo
12 Years

Wow I thought this was a Virgo forum. People come on and ask a question people offer advice etc. but I am being called delusional. Wow maybe if what I wrote was read then there would be some understanding to what I am saying. This guy while yet is attractive seems to get a kick of the attention he gets which can seem shallow. When I stopped giving him any attention because it seemed like people thought something was going on people mainly females went from going me "the look" to hey I was looking for you, how are you etc. and he went the complete other way as well. From being all invading my space to hardly speaking at all. I am the type who wants to go to work do my job etc with no drama. No one should interfere with someone's lively hood. So I am asking how do I deal with this guy it is friction and everyone can see it. You can't work with someone as a team when the team is not talking or lacking because they can't be around each other and if that is delusional I guess I am.

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@P-Angel
21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces

Posted by Allwomenvirgo

I just started working a new job and the guy ......

But after I found out there were girls that he may have been dating talking to or liked him I cut communication off even if we worked together.

He has long hair that he keeps tied up. I got my hair done now he keeps it down and out.

.... he won't talk to me since I won't talk to him.

wtf? ... is this a joke?

You're suppose to at least ACT professional at work. I realize that you obviously aren't mature by nature .... but, at work you should at least try and act like it.

:::: shakes head ::::

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@Shescomeundone
12 Years500+ Posts

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by Allwomenvirgo

I just started working a new job and the guy ......

But after I found out there were girls that he may have been dating talking to or liked him I cut communication off even if we worked together.

He has long hair that he keeps tied up. I got my hair done now he keeps it down and out.

.... he won't talk to me since I won't talk to him.

wtf? ... is this a joke?

You're suppose to at least ACT professional at work. I realize that you obviously aren't mature by nature .... but, at work you should at least try and act like it.

:::: shakes head ::::

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Yes, so this creep should act professional and he is not... Getting into someone's personal space like that is not professional... He sounds like a player who has probably tapped every woman in the office... She's new meat so the other women were checking her out.. Being bitchy because they assumed she was gonna fall into his little game...

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@Allwomenvirgo
12 Years

Ha I don't work in an office I work in a warehouse. Overnight at that and to add to that some of these girls come in here with make-up on lipstick, eyeliner, etc. The behavior I am speaking on is accepted here a lot of people get married to people wolvo work here I even heard 3tumes over. Don't ask how or why. I just want to be able to deal with this guy and these girls when I work with him.

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@Allwomenvirgo
12 Years

Oh and did I mention while he was training me one of his girls came over and said to me in front if him "Don't he look sexy"? I was like what kind of question is that I thought it was a joke so I asked was it a joke she said no and he just had this big old smile on his face. Wtf

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@P-Angel
21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces

Posted by Allwomenvirgo

I am the type who wants to go to work do my job etc with no drama.

And yet .... all you've talked about in here is bullshit.

Like hair and make up, and who likes who, and stands next to who, and who is talking in a room ... you talk ABOUT other people, which leads to drama.

And not one single word about your work. Not one mention about your goals, or your ethics ...

You're suppose to be professional at work .... you're not suppose to be paying attention to eye-liner

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@P-Angel
21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces

Posted by Allwomenvirgo

The whole point of this forum is how to deal with him if I have to work with him. (Gag reflex)

1. leave your emotions out of it, if you think you can. To end with (gag reflex) is insinuating that your desire for angle of conversation be centered around your aversion to a person.

2. you were suppose to learn how to deal with other people starting in childhood. did you just crawl out from under a rock?

How can it be that you made it to adulthood, and don't know how to interact with people you don't really want to?

Why have you been rendered stupid?

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@P-Angel
21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces

This isn't even an issue ... this is a supposed adult who is clueless on how to cope with other people.

When I encounter adults (usually Virgos, unfortunately) who have the emotional maturity of a 5-year-old ... I'm astounded, to say the least.

There is no issue here.

The situation is that you like a person who you have to realize is different from the first impression you got from him .... and your brain shut down because it doesn't know how to continue living if your initial expectations aren't met.

You sound really ignorant.

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@Allwomenvirgo
12 Years

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by Allwomenvirgo

I am the type who wants to go to work do my job etc with no drama.

And yet .... all you've talked about in here is bullshit.

Like hair and make up, and who likes who, and stands next to who, and who is talking in a room ... you talk ABOUT other people, which leads to drama.

And not one single word about your work. Not one mention about your goals, or your ethics ...

You're suppose to be professional at work .... you're not suppose to be paying attention to eye-liner

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Are you serious didn't know this was about how to do my job what I do or whatever this was to ask how to deal with this guy every girl I seen come in contact with has google eyes for. I said the type of environment I work in I even stated the mentality of the people. I am not interested in anything other than what's going to keep me employed while being drama free. Look if you can not be useful; even helpful (pulling up a chair) take a seat grown folks are talking.

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@P-Angel
21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces

Posted by Damnata
P, we also go for people who don't breathe.

I just don't get it.

You have to live in a world where EVERY person around you is different, and sometimes you have to interact with them.

So, what do you do?

Do, you stop at every sentence a person says and go ask strangers at a random forum how to deal with it?

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@P-Angel
21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces

Posted by Allwomenvirgo

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by Allwomenvirgo

I am the type who wants to go to work do my job etc with no drama.

And yet .... all you've talked about in here is bullshit.

Like hair and make up, and who likes who, and stands next to who, and who is talking in a room ... you talk ABOUT other people, which leads to drama.

And not one single word about your work. Not one mention about your goals, or your ethics ...

You're suppose to be professional at work .... you're not suppose to be paying attention to eye-liner

Are you serious didn't know this was about how to do my job what I do or whatever this was to ask how to deal with this guy every girl I seen come in contact with has google eyes for. I said the type of environment I work in I even stated the mentality of the people. I am not interested in anything other than what's going to keep me employed while being drama free. Look if you can not be useful; even helpful (pulling up a chair) take a seat grown folks are talking.

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But, you're not being drama free ... your focus is on the drama.

You have no clue about that ... do you?

Seriously .... there really are people this dumb.

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@Allwomenvirgo
12 Years

Posted by P-Angel

This isn't even an issue ... this is a supposed adult who is clueless on how to cope with other people.

When I encounter adults (usually Virgos, unfortunately) who have the emotional maturity of a 5-year-old ... I'm astounded, to say the least.

There is no issue here.

The situation is that you like a person who you have to realize is different from the first impression you got from him .... and your brain shut down because it doesn't know how to continue living if your initial expectations aren't met.

You sound really ignorant.

NOT!
I have no problem interacting with people, adults, child, etc even know it alls who have all the answers that insult people when their opinion wasn't asked for (have a seat). Do I like this guy no I don't eat where I ish maybe people like you do or some others that have given an unintelligent response to what I asked. Or stated something that had nothing to do with what I am asking. But since we are on the topic of employment jobs you know how you make a living (hand on chair) how about you tend to what you do and roll. Thanks for your input! Bye

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@Damnata
16 Years25,000+ PostsVirgo

I think what it boils down to...our emotions get riled up easily and we lose sight of reason and start to build fantasies around what we "feel" is going on.

Everything gets distorted in an instant.

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@P-Angel
21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces

Posted by P-Angel

The situation is that you like a person who you have to realize is different from the first impression you got from him .... and your brain shut down because it doesn't know how to continue living if your initial expectations aren't met.

I have a really hard time getting people like you, to be honest.

You want to know how to deal with a person who is actually different from your first impression of him .... and that situation literally applies to every fucking person you meet, considering the majority of humans wear masks at first meeting for appearance purposes.

And this is something you should have learned as a child. So, what? ... were you locked up in a room all by yourself from the day you were born until you got this job and that's why you have no clue on how to deal with another person at work, who is different from the idea you have planted in your head as to how he is suppose to be?

Or .... are you so out of control with your emotions that it has shut your brain down?

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@P-Angel
21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces

Posted by Allwomenvirgo

I have no problem interacting with people, adults, child, etc

And yet ... your question is wanting to know how to deal with a person you work with.

So, I guess your emotions have so much control over your brain that you cannot even stop yourself from contradicting yourself.

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@P-Angel
21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces

Posted by Damnata
I think what it boils down to...our emotions get riled up easily and we lose sight of reason and start to build fantasies around what we "feel" is going on.

Everything gets distorted in an instant.

Well, I thank my lucky planets everyday that I'm able to continue thinking, even though I also have emotions.

It literally boggles my mind that people can't

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@P-Angel
21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces

Posted by Allwomenvirgo

Look if you can not be useful; even helpful (pulling up a chair) take a seat grown folks are talking.

Here's the responses you got from page one:

"Your an idiot!!!"

"You don't understand what's going on because there is nothing going on"

"This all sounds like fantasy island mixed with a good dose of wishful thinking."

"As for your question, I don't quite understand it, and I think you're reading way too much into it."

"Just the other day I mentioned how some Virgo chicks are delusional..."

Is that ^^^^^^^^^^ the conversation with the grown ups you are talking about?

So, literally EVERY person can tell you the same thing ... and you still don't get it?