Clingy/Neediness for Dummies volume 1

To all of the broads/dudes who don't know what being clingy/needy is...HERE IT IS. Read it & weep. Or better yet LEARN SOMETHING.

These are based on MY own experiences so if you don't agree, who cares.

1) Someone who calls my phone or texts 5 times in a row without giving me the opportunity to respond. Are you on fire? Are you getting robbed? Are you dying? No? Ok well there is no need to keep blowing up my phone like a fucking lunatic. It's obviously not important because if it was, ya would have left an emergency message.

2) Getting familiar too soon/rushing the relationship to quickly, such as:
Going above & beyond.

ALWAYS dropping everything for me when I call, which makes me think you have nothing else going on.

Divulging too much information, I like a good mystery.

Wanting my attention all the time/expecting me to spend all of my free time with you or just want to see me everyday. I can't even see my parents everyday. I like a healthy amount of space.

3) Calling again right after I speak to you. Yes I had a guy do that before. Right after we hung up for the night, he calls 5 minutes later like I never spoke to him. Really?

4) Getting jealous because I "like" a status or picture on fb. It's FACEBOOK. Are you kidding?

5) Always asking me what I'm doing if I'm on my phone or pc.

6) Seeing me conversing with a guy & coming over to start a convo out of left field. The only reason you came over here is because you see me chatting up someone you feel inferior to or threatened by.

7) Jealous of my accomplishments. That's not very manly. You're behaving like a bitch.

8) Someone who is accusatory.

Um yeah...that's about it. Here are a few others I found to be great as well:

Posted by TheMoodyVulcan
Things I see as being clingy/needy:

Constantly asking what I'm thinking or feeling, and then not wanting to accept the answer that I give. If I'm staring at a wall with a blank look on my face, don't be surprised and act offended like I'm trying to hide something when I say I'm not thinking about anything (or at least not anything relevant). Sometimes I really don't feel anything about anything in particular and a sappy movie or human interest piece or cat pictures on the internet isn't going to change that.

Getting in a huff when I say I don't care about something. It really doesn't matter to me where we eat, what movie we watch, if we do or don't visit your mother who I think of as the devil incarnate, or which one of us has to go to the store later. Really. I don't give a crap. Just make up your mind and stop trying to trick me into doing it for you.

Going spastic when I call your mother the devil incarnate. She says far worse things about me and turnabout is fair play. If you're not going to jump her case, don't get on mine either.

Asking which color of curtains I think goes with the decor and then getting fussy when I tell you pick out whatever you want. Again, I don't give a crap. I'm probably not going to be looking at the stupid curtains anyways so just get what will make you happy and stop treating it like a crisis.

Insisting that I should give a crap about something your cat has done. It's not going to happen.

Flying off the handle because I checked out another person in public. I'm human, I have eyes, and that body that just passed by was a good looking one so I noticed. That doesn't mean that I'm bored with you, fantasizing about getting dirty with them, or wishing that you looked more like them. In case you haven't noticed, you're the one I'm with, not them, and I'm not going to go chase them down in search of anything more than a quick second glance. Don't think I haven't seen you do the same thing. Get over it.

Searching my email and phone for incriminating evidence. Yes, I have attractive friends. Yes, I've thought about sleeping with some of them before. Yes, I did text that person agreeing to meet for a drink. Because we're friends and even though I've thought about it, that doesn't mean that I want to shag them. In case you haven't noticed, you're the one I come home to and not them.

This...

Posted by TheMoodyVulcan
Giving me a dirty look for handing you a tissue when you start crying. That's my idea of being considerate and caring. And I really like this shirt so I don't want your snot and eyeliner all over it. Consideration goes both ways.

I don't always know the right thing to say or have anything to say at all. It's not a personal sleight so stop taking it as one when I don't feel like indulging mindless chatter.

Getting angry when I invite you to go to the gym with me. You're always complaining that we don't spend enough "quality time" together so I offered. It sounded like a good idea at the time.

And for the love of all that is good in this world--stop asking me if I think you look fat. It doesn't matter what I say, you'll get pissed so shrugging and walking away is the only thing I can do that won't guarantee that I'm not getting lucky tonight. And for the record, if I thought you were getting fat, you'd be seeing a lot more diet food around the house.

Getting offended when I try to get lucky and all you want to do is cuddle. What did you think was going to happen when you came over and started rubbing all over me? I can be happy with a snuggle time that doesn't go anywhere but it would be nice if you said something so I wouldn't get my hopes up.

Getting offended when all I want to do is cuddle. It doesn't mean that I'm not attracted to you or anything else. Sometimes I'm just not in the mood. It happens.

No, I didn't notice your new haircut. Why? Because it looks the same as the last ten you've had.

No, I don't notice when you have a "fat" day or a bad hair day. You always look great to me. If you didn't I wouldn't still be attempting to convince you to try that move we saw in the Kama Sutra. Yes, I'm a pig. I know. *shrugs*

This...

Posted by TheMoodyVulcan
Getting grabby in public. I'm not stupid. I know that the only reason you decided to hold my hand or kiss me right now was because you felt threatened by another person. You are not a dog and I am not a tree so stop trying to mark your territory.

It's okay to let go of me at a party. Seriously. Clinging to my arm like a spider monkey is not attractive. Ever.

Flirting with someone else to make me jealous. *rolls eyes* Yeah, I know what you're doing. And I also know that you're not going to go through with it so all you're doing is making yourself look like an ass and getting someone else's hopes shot down. And if you did go through with it, this would be a very different conversation so grow up and get over the fact that I'm not an overbearing possessive control freak. You know, like your ex was whom you still complain about.

Getting jealous because I mentioned my ex. They're an "ex" for a reason so stop stalking their Facebook page looking for old pictures of us together.

Yes, I have pictures of my ex and I together. Why did I keep them? For the same reason that I also have that incriminating picture of me at the Christmas party last year. It's a memory of a good time that I can still laugh about, but that doesn't mean that I miss it or want to do it again.

Picking a fight because you don't think I pay enough attention to you. Negative attention may still be attention but it's also still negative, and while I openly admit to enjoying the kissing and making up part, it doesn't make me want you more than I would have without the fight. If you want my attention all you have to do is??_ well, you already know how to get my attention when you really want it.

This...

Posted by TheMoodyVulcan
Trying to tell me that I don't care about you enough or as much as you care about me. First, you really have no clue what I'm thinking about. I know this because if you did, you would stop asking. Maybe I don't feel a need to tell you that I love you as often as you would like, but that doesn't mean that I don't feel it. I think about you all the time. You factor into all of my decisions, plans, and scenarios about the future that I think of. I wonder what you think and feel. I wonder how you would react to things that I think about and feel. I get insecure and wonder if you still find me as attractive as I do you. I remember everything about you and the things that you tell me, especially the stuff that hurts. So I don't remember a specific detail on a moment's notice but there's a lot of information to sift through so give me a second to dig it up. I know all of your facial expressions and what they mean. I know the way you smell so well that I could find you in a dark room full of other people. Sometimes I snuggle with your pillow because it sucks when you??re not there and it smells like you. Never doubt that I hurt when you hurt just because I don't show it on the outside. Never doubt that I'm happy when you are just because I don't show it. There is no doubt in my mind that I would take a bullet for you. Hopefully I??ll never have to, but I'm okay with it because that's the kind of thing I think about every day.

Yes, I do think you??re neurotic and kind of insane and an emotional basket case with no self-control. But I still love you. Why? I don't know. Really, I have no clue. I just know that I do so stop asking and be happy with the fact that I keep coming home to your crazy ass. Now have some chocolate and think about that for a while.

& This...

Posted by Missvirgo99
I think it has been described to you perfectly but since we are having the conversation I will respond also .

Someone who has to be in my company constantly , whilst being in a relationship is nice i also like my own company and my own space . As the relationship progresses I'm happy to go with the flow but I don't want someone in my face the whole time .

Gift buying , whilst most women love it I don't like or feel comfortable with emotional manipulation , gifts are nice on special occasions but not as a random thing because If things don't work out I usually end up feeling bad and almost guilty that someone has gone out their way for me and I feel like this .

Someone that has to go out with you when you want to go out and do things with your girlfriends , awkward and it's usually men that do the cheating that think that your going to behave that way ... Reverse psychology I believe that's called .

Someone who doesn't let you make / have your own choices .... Ergh ! Nothing worse then a control freak which brings us back to the fact Scorpio24 is never going to regain " control " we don't LIKE IT !

Why can people just not go with the flow and enjoy their relationships ? It appears that there has to be a obscene amount of pressure placed on one or the other .

Oh & this...

Hopefully there won't be anymore, "He/she disappeared, help"!,"My Virgo won't contact me", "Hot & Cold Virgo", "Virgos suck", "need help with my Virgo", "Virgo is becoming distant" threads. Who am I kidding? This is DXP. Of course there will be more of those threads...smh.

If you exibit ANY of the following, THAT IS MOSTLY WHY. Get a fucking grip. 🙂

hahahahahahahaha!!! +1zillion!

Posted by TheMoodyVulcan
Haha, I forgot to mention one thing that always bugs the hell out of me.

Bathroom time is personal time. Do not follow me in there. Ever. I don't care if I'm taking a shower or touching up my mascara. As far as you are concerned, when that door closes I am on another planet out of reach for any communication because I love you less every second you stand there trying to talk to me while I'm taking care of business.

Unless there's a bone sticking out or you can't stop the bleeding, whatever you have to say can wait five minutes.

Hey WAIT A MINUTE! I do this to my bull... Only when he is in the shower though, and it leads to some pretty steamy shower time. Now I have to decide if I should stop... sunofa!!!

Posted by TheMoodyVulcan
Haha, I forgot to mention one thing that always bugs the hell out of me.

Bathroom time is personal time. Do not follow me in there. Ever. I don't care if I'm taking a shower or touching up my mascara. As far as you are concerned, when that door closes I am on another planet out of reach for any communication because I love you less every second you stand there trying to talk to me while I'm taking care of business.

Unless there's a bone sticking out or you can't stop the bleeding, whatever you have to say can wait five minutes.

LMAO! GTFOH...You actually get followed in the bathroom? That's just too much. You can't even pee in peace. Smh.

Posted by msmarilynmanson
sooooo, no dick/tit grabbing in public and no texting 5 times in a row unless on fire or getting robbed. #writing down lmao! jk jk this in great info, thank you🙂

Hahaha...I mean, I DO like to grab in public, but not out of a place of insecurity. It's usually out of a place of horny. 😛

You're welcome hun!

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Posted by neuroticvirgo

Posted by TheMoodyVulcan
Haha, I forgot to mention one thing that always bugs the hell out of me.

Bathroom time is personal time. Do not follow me in there. Ever. I don't care if I'm taking a shower or touching up my mascara. As far as you are concerned, when that door closes I am on another planet out of reach for any communication because I love you less every second you stand there trying to talk to me while I'm taking care of business.

Unless there's a bone sticking out or you can't stop the bleeding, whatever you have to say can wait five minutes.

Hey WAIT A MINUTE! I do this to my bull... Only when he is in the shower though, and it leads to some pretty steamy shower time. Now I have to decide if I should stop... sunofa!!!

I don't know... if it's leading to some *steamy* time then that kind of falls under the "you know how to get my attention when you really want it" clause. You're good to go. Carry on.

😉

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*wipes sweat from brow* EXCELLENT! I could not bare it if I were clingy...

Slightly off with the neediness thing but if you want a relationship with a virgo do not make MESS !

Anyone that creates or looks a mess need not apply to date a virgo . I am so anal where it comes to mess , thought i'd throw that in just to be super informative to these people .

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Posted by msmarilynmanson
whats with all you prudes not wanting people to watch you pee haaaaa!,jk

I'll quote Carlos Mencia on this one. I don't want to know that anything goes on down there. Why? Because sometimes I eat at that restaurant.

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Lol.

Posted by Missvirgo99
Slightly off with the neediness thing but if you want a relationship with a virgo do not make MESS !

Anyone that creates or looks a mess need not apply to date a virgo . I am so anal where it comes to mess , thought i'd throw that in just to be super informative to these people .

Hahahaha...seriously. I do appreciate a well groomed man. I'm talking nice haircut, attire, smelling good, no "scruffiness". IDK I just have a thing for when a guy has a beard or hair that is just messy & all over the place, it turns me off. They just look like they haven't bathed.

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Posted by Missvirgo99
Slightly off with the neediness thing but if you want a relationship with a virgo do not make MESS !

Anyone that creates or looks a mess need not apply to date a virgo . I am so anal where it comes to mess , thought i'd throw that in just to be super informative to these people .

my september 3rd virgo was a dirty mess at home, i mean bad. have any of you heard of and uber messy virgo guys?

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I can be messy if I'm depressed or stressed out with too much going on with life. Its like I have so much on my mind I physically can't clean my house. But I always keep my body groomed.

Are you on fire?! Priceless!!! Lmao

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Posted by Missvirgo99
Slightly off with the neediness thing but if you want a relationship with a virgo do not make MESS !

Anyone that creates or looks a mess need not apply to date a virgo . I am so anal where it comes to mess , thought i'd throw that in just to be super informative to these people .

my september 3rd virgo was a dirty mess at home, i mean bad. have any of you heard of and uber messy virgo guys?

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Heard? I've seen it. I have a Virgo guy friend who is messy as hell. When I visited him I couldn't believe how he was living. There was just mess all over the place. I think I was allergic because I kept rubbing my nose when I was there, lol.

And as a houseguest he is just awful & it really pisses me off. I've told him about this too. I love him but damn...

He's really greedy. He'll eat ALL of something, not just a reasonable portion, & will not leave any for somebody else, leave empty containers on the counter, the sink is only a second away, taking things out & leaving them there, I REALLY LOATHE THAT!!!!! Dammit, if you use it or take it out, PUT IT BACK!

Not asking for linens, but instead USES MY TOWEL. You already know I was livid. Oh & he doesn't wash his hands. Ewwwwwwwwww!!!! YES. He is a Virgo! Not all Virgos know what hygiene is...believe it.

I might be the only one that thinks that a clingy guy is cute....It sure beats being ignored 🙂

Posted by size zero superhero
-Holding me to(convenient)double-standards; you're offended after I kicked it with our mutual friends and you weren't notified about the outing, despite that I'm not insulted or demanding answers if the shoe's on the other foot. Grow up.

-Frequent guilt trips. Couldn't I just call my parents for that purpose instead?

-Competitiveness, sizing me up and becoming threatened by my life style /achievements, rather than congratulating.

-Transparent compliment-fishing. A classic symptom of neediness.

Seriously...which reminds me I forgot 1.

9) Someone who keeps asking me to do something when I've clearly gave them a blantant no. That annoys the shit out of me.

Posted by TheMoodyVulcan
Haha, I forgot to mention one thing that always bugs the hell out of me.

Bathroom time is personal time. Do not follow me in there. Ever. I don't care if I'm taking a shower or touching up my mascara. As far as you are concerned, when that door closes I am on another planet out of reach for any communication because I love you less every second you stand there trying to talk to me while I'm taking care of business.

Unless there's a bone sticking out or you can't stop the bleeding, whatever you have to say can wait five minutes.

Now that^^^is a very important one! lol Hopefully everything you shared some take a least a piece of it or at least have a better understanding. Unfortunately..some will not. 😢

I think a messy virgo = a depressed Virgo.

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Posted by Missvirgo99
Slightly off with the neediness thing but if you want a relationship with a virgo do not make MESS !

Anyone that creates or looks a mess need not apply to date a virgo . I am so anal where it comes to mess , thought i'd throw that in just to be super informative to these people .

my september 3rd virgo was a dirty mess at home, i mean bad. have any of you heard of and uber messy virgo guys?

Heard? I've seen it. I have a Virgo guy friend who is messy as hell. When I visited him I couldn't believe how he was living. There was just mess all over the place. I think I was allergic because I kept rubbing my nose when I was there, lol.

And as a houseguest he is just awful & it really pisses me off. I've told him about this too. I love him but damn...

He's really greedy. He'll eat ALL of something, not just a reasonable portion, & will not leave any for somebody else, leave empty containers on the counter, the sink is only a second away, taking things out & leaving them there, I REALLY LOATHE THAT!!!!! Dammit, if you use it or take it out, PUT IT BACK!

Not asking for linens, but instead USES MY TOWEL. You already know I was livid. Oh & he doesn't wash his hands. Ewwwwwwwwww!!!! YES. He is a Virgo! Not all Virgos know what hygiene is...believe it.

haaa! yes. ive known 2 that were messy and dirty at home. i mean dirty. both had drug, drinking problems and depression not sure if that had anything to do with it. i still very much loved them.

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Well if it was coming from a place of depression, I can understand. We have all had times where we've felt down & just didn't want to do anything. But I'm talking of someone who is just used to living that way. Just never cleans & is content with it. Yuck.

supposed to be "at least"

lol @ Tubbs & Crocket! 😄

Posted by tiziani
I preferred The Moody Vulcan's version. Yours was moreso about your fear rather than someone else's neediness.

I do hate people that call you more than once before you'd had a chance to ring them back though.

No. This is based on my EXPERIENCES with men, in case you didn't catch that. I clearly stated it in the beginning. What do you mean exactly by fear? Fear of what?

LOVE IT!!!
Seriously cracked my shit up!

Posted by tiziani
I get that it's based on your experiences and I respect that. I just prefer TMV's because it's based on external behaviour that other people can control/change their attitude and become less needy.

Yours is based on your own internal factors (could be fear of any number of things... most likely fear of people leaving your life suddenly but I'm no shrink) that no one can control.

Even if a guy did call you say the right amount of times that one week and you then decided it's no longer "too soon" to do more, you'd still be left in a relationship with your internal factors to deal with.

Hence there's not much he can do to change that through his behaviour. And when I say "you" I suppose it's a more generalized you in this case, not directly accusing you. Since there are a lot of people that do this and find perfectly happy relationships where people can give them what they want when they want.

I used to be a person who displayed some of the things I mentioned, so I recognize it in someone else & see how aggrivating & detrimental it is. Never said my relationships were perfect. I have been hurt before, but the difference is I've since learned from my mistakes, not to EVER repeat the same dumb shit again, if these are the "internal factors" you speak of, then yes.

But I'm not trying to get anyone to become less needy. They will need to learn that themselves. Not my responsibility.

You were not successful...😛. Hahaha...enjoy your night.

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Posted by Missvirgo99
Slightly off with the neediness thing but if you want a relationship with a virgo do not make MESS !

Anyone that creates or looks a mess need not apply to date a virgo . I am so anal where it comes to mess , thought i'd throw that in just to be super informative to these people .

my september 3rd virgo was a dirty mess at home, i mean bad. have any of you heard of and uber messy virgo guys?

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yes me lol I'm also born on sep 3

And this is why Virgos should only marry Virgos.

Waiting for the day I date a V-chick, I'll probably propose to her on the first date lol

I'm also September 3rd 🙂 I have only known two other Virgo's and they are exactly the same as me .

For me mess = suffocation and hyperventilation . I cannot bear if other people come to my home with kids in fact I'll do everything in my power to avoid the situation .

If anything is going to get me in a bad mood it will mess .....

and......... wanting to see me Every Week.
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