Dumb Question about Virgos & Sex?

I'm new to this message board but as my name says, I need help.

I have a virgo guy I've been seeing about 6 months who is 16 years my senior. Very attractive, we talk all the time on the phone & see each other when we can, since he works nights & I work days.

Well things have finally started heating up, or so I thought.

It seems every time we get going necking & things he acts like he's afraid to have sex. I hate to use the word afraid but we'll be going at it & I'm all ready & he seems to enjoy turning me on, yet I can't tell if he is turned on.

May sound dumb, but the other night we just kissed & hugged & fondled for 2 hours & I never did know if he had an erection lol. Sorry I know it's not funny but it was like we were uncomforable or something, though I didn't think I was.

So tell me, Virgo guys do you think he likes me & was turned on but was maybe scared or apprehensive or whatever?

Help!!

Thanks

I know the way I think is pretty odd, so I can't really help you at figuring him out. But, you might try to find out if he is a virgin. Hopefully that is it, because that would probably be the easiest thing to deal with.

First of all, I said I was 16 years YOUNGER than him, I am in no way 16 years old LOL. I'm wayyyy over 16 🙂

He is pretty private so if I blurt out what I'm thinking about sex I think he'd flip so that's why I keep quiet. He has to know that I want him.

Oh & he is in no way a virgin, he's in his late '50's.

We're suppose to go out Fri night. I'm half afraid to touch him, I think it may be like you say maybe he has performance anxiety?

You Virgo men are so hard to figure out lol.

Well, about asking him outright what he wants or likes.

I sent him an e mail after the 1st time we fooled around & asked him straight out if he enjoyed our bedroom time. He never replied to the e mail, and has never brought up the subject, so I let it be. I don't want to hound him about it, I know when he needs his space & I try to give it to him.

So after he didn't reply I assumed (which I know it's a dumb thing to assume anything about anyone) he didn't enjoy our play time. Until 2 weeks ago, that is when the incident happened where I described that in the initial note here.

So here I am boggled again - he didn't come right out & say he enjoyed our 1st playtime, but he didn't fight me or push me away the 2nd time we spend 2 hours fooling around in the bed LOL Go figure!!

hi help66,

maybe he's going through the Mid-life crisis or his peepi refuses to perform for him the way it did.

well in that case u r sure to have a hard time to put him where u want him but i am sure once u succeed, u should be feeling wonderfully successfull. goodluck.

the way ur trying hard (bend on) this one, i'll say that ur beautiful.

perk up laddie. give the lady her due.

Goodness how does he hold on for 2 hours without dipping his wick. That guy must be a control freak. 🙂)

On friday, i would advice, that u dont bring in any extra or new maneuvers into ur foreplay. just stick to ur proven ways in the beginning. He surely must have a plan up his pants. but if u dont see it coming then and only then pull out ur cards. like trying to go for a french or something. do it as if ur out of control without looking him in the face. From the way he acts u'll know. If he gains lots of CONFIDENCE in u, ur a winner.
Happy hunting.

Help66 -Virgos like sex like anybody else. However, when you mentioned his age late fifties. That maybe what the problem is. Men in later years require more stimulation than younger men. Keep in mind men are said to reach their sexual peak around 18 or so. He may need some enhancement or talk. He maybe nervous about it. You know Virgo men are insecure some. Maybe he thinks he can't please you. Believe me it has nothing to do with you. Men at that age are more visual and sometimes if they watch something that is arousing that can help. Does he have medical problems? Is he on medication - some medicines can cause a man not to obtain an erection for any lenght of time. I know these are personal questions, but you have to consider them and the source.

I see a man that is in his late fifties also - and he satifies me, but he does not need sex all the time. He's 58. He's also a Virgo. Sometimes I dress up in "things" or we watch an erotic movie - some men that age are on viagra or some other form of male enhancements.

So that is my answer to you about that.

OFA dont u think 'peepi' is sooo cute LOL LOL

"Men at that age are more visual and sometimes if they watch something that is arousing that can help"

If u make young men watch visuals, u will have 'instant salutes' just like instant coffee. 1 2 3 and hey! presto. LOL.

Next time u r burdened with a complacent peepi throw him, well dressed, to a tongue wagging Gemini. She's bound to make huge tents come up in a giffy.

Hey Glee,
I have read almost all ur posting in the beliefnet.com - 'Virgo Scorpio' board. I know u dont know me at all but i just want to say how much i love and respect u for the patience and love that u have shown to ur virgo. Just hope he knows ur value. Ur unique amoung women.

Scorpios i find generally have deep understanding but have such huge egos that, i have found many including women looking down upon others. People tend to believe what they see and completely miss the loving heart that could have been theirs for the asking. LOL

Whats happened to Crescent77. hope she's well. pls pass on my regards & respect to her if u r in touch.

Hey doesnt Viagra bust (break) ur heart? 🙂

and does 'Viagra' and 'Virgo' have any similarities? 🙂

I have read almost all ur posting in the beliefnet.com - 'Virgo Scorpio' board. I know u dont know me at all but i just want to say how much i love and respect u for the patience and love that u have shown to ur virgo. Just hope he knows ur value. Ur unique amoung women.


Thank-you Soulness - Yes it's been a hell of a ride with me and the Virgo I know. As for him if he gets it tho' sometimes I think yes and then other times, I just ride it out. I notice that some Virgos can really be surrounded by caring and love and they don't see it. They are too busy analyzing and thinking in a kind of self-absorbed way. Therefore when they are left - they never see it coming. And if they do see it then it's too late. It takes some more hurt and pain for them. Personally, I think some Virgos are just unhappy people. The see the negative alot. They get bogged down in a lot of thinking and tend to overthink and it turns out wrong for them.

I believe they do better with someone who gently guides them and don't try to control them.

FOr me , it's been like a see saw sometimes - but I knew instinctively when to back off - and allow him time and space. There have been times when we have just not spoken for a while- after he said something hurtful to me. Just so you know, it has not been a bed of roses with this guy. But if you truly try to understand the personality they do tend to be shocked that you do - then they will try to come around.

I have to ask, because my sister was in a situation like this before, are u sure he can umm physically perform? My sister's bf was just embarrassed about it, he was an older man that is why i asked. It might just be something that is not the easiest topic to discuss.

Next time u r burdened with a complacent peepi throw him, well dressed, to a tongue wagging Gemini. She's bound to make huge tents come up in a giffy.

I have to laugh at that one - toss him to a Scorpio - Scorpio/Virgo click sexually - it's been almost fours years for us and it's like a honeymoon still.

Funny you mentioned a Gemini - my friend was involved with a Gemini - it never worked for him - a little after we met, he left her. Sexually it wasn't hot, and she talked a mile a minute. Which irritated him

Glee - ur previous post burst tears over here.

hey, have u ever introduced him to ur post in beliefnet or here. perhaps u could selectively feed him some astrology 🙂. i am sure he'll balk but i do think u r sure to see his cogged wheels starting off slow and then broooooo....wroooommm.

I am sure ur virgo has hardened ways. dont know if opening up his mind will do more good or bad, at his age. but he's not that old yet, is he. LOL

"Next time u r burdened with a complacent peepi throw him, well dressed, to a tongue wagging Gemini. She's bound to make huge tents come up in a giffy"

No, what i meant was that a gemini is capable of giving u an abnormal erection without using the body. Just by talking. I have been up and abt from 8 AM to 5 PM on many days. I quit that job soon enough. Mind u it was a respectable work place.

"Stop Worrying and Start Living" by Dale Carnegie, i think is a good capsule for the virgo. it has helped me. Dont know abt virgoes and the lot but there r millions out there who worry to death and curse themselves for things they had, or think they had done unwittingly. sitting on a time bomb of Worry. very difficult to get over that kinda thinking pattern.

Ur thinking on the virgo 'worry-thinking' might be correct. It comes out of a self castigating attitude. flogging oneself for not doing/saying the right thing. God! u dont know how heart & head crunching it is. U dont know how many times i had wanted to just die. Kindof like disappear into the earth. 🙂

Glee, pls dont take this to ur head but i just cant help telling u, U r a GEM. 🙂

Help66, what happened on Friday. we r all so anxious and waiting. ur disappearance makes me have negative/worrisome thoughts. helppppppppp..............

branh0913,


"But I think it is more of an agreesive woman who desperately wants me to take control. Sounds confusing. I like more dialogue that revolves around,"I need a man, can you fill that order big daddy?", "show me what you got, because I need someone to give it to me good". I like THAT kind of control, now that is going to bring one hell of an agressive streak out of me."

LMAO...that is so so true, my virgo of many years fit that statement to a tee. Hell, still does, we've been apart for a few years. But if there is one thing he can not say no too, it is that type of stimulation. Doesnt matter how busy, how angry...or what ever, it always winds up the best sex ever. Thanks for reminding me..

Sunshine....

The Virgo I see is pretty much regular - most days. He's really sweet - but it took years to get him to relax and to give of himself - sometimes he may still balk and drive me totally bonkers at times - I just tell him, gee you are so grumpy today - and then he laughs at himself - with a you think so? I have to laugh at him.

And I don't know about Gems - but whenever we are with each other - it's always seeing you can come out their clothes the quickest. It's strange that at out age - we are so hot for each other. I had always read that Scorpio/Virgo pairings were pretty good - and now I see. We have been lovers and friends now for almost four years - and it gets better and better. I think the key thing is patience with a Virgo. The passion is so great now it's unreal sometimes.

We cuddle and laugh like teenagers sometimes - and giggle like little children in a candy store - but this was not without a degree of pain at first.
He's 58 and I am 55.....

Of course it was a DUMB question? STILL IS?. And only DUMB people fall for it.


Goddamn? grow up people and see the world in front of you without help?..


YOU GUYS MAKES ME PUKE??

Of course.. Those who reacting to this STUPID question are not VIRGO?


(noticing)—..

OOOOooohh I have a Virgo guy in front of me.. I say something and he feel other way??HELP..!


DUMB?.. give it up you idiots?. (I felt that way too)?

Don?t like it..??... sue me—?.


DUMBs——??.