Heart is hurting from a Virgo

Have been in a relationship with a Virgo for 10 months, we are at the point where I had to cut him off. He is not ready for a relationship and we have discussed it, and he has told me this several times. But very confusing, as within the past week, he has gone from "you are my sweetheart" to completely being cold and not caring about me, to helping me fix some items in my house to not caring completely (used to care a lot) to short conversations to calling me. So confused, but I know within me I can not tolerate this behavior and have made a choice in my heart to cut it off. I told him to forget about me, however my heart is aching SO bad. What does this all mean to you. I know that we do indeed care about each other a lot, have feelings for one another and there is a connection somehow. But am so confused by his actions. Thoughts? I know he thinks I will always be there, because we were talking and he said something to the effect of "you'll be around". He also has been scarred and is so afraid to open his heart due to fear of being hurt and admitted to me that we should of been together from childhood. I know he also is still dealing/healing from other relationships as am I. What do you think? This is tough for me.

Also lately he purposely makes himself forget details about me, I have to repeat things to him, like he is trying so hard not to care about me on purpose.

It sounds like he is very well distancing himself and pushing you away for whatever reasons. You're probably correct about it being appropriate to end the relationship.

If the connection between the two of you is as strong as you appear to believe it is, then perhaps there will be a time in the future when you're both more prepared for a healthy and functional coupling.

Posted by TMV
It sounds like he is very well distancing himself and pushing you away for whatever reasons. You're probably correct about it being appropriate to end the relationship.

If the connection between the two of you is as strong as you appear to believe it is, then perhaps there will be a time in the future when you're both more prepared for a healthy and functional coupling.

thank you. agree.

Posted by Curiousram
I'm sorry ;/ virgo men are experts at this. Hope it works out for you

agree he's very experienced, but what do you mean by this? Experts at pulling away? Why wouldn't he just be a total jerk, instead of 50% ?

Posted by Librascorplover
Have been in a relationship with a Virgo for 10 months, we are at the point where I had to cut him off. He is not ready for a relationship and we have discussed it, and he has told me this several times.

What do you think? This is tough for me.

Is it the Virgo's fault because he was honest and told you "several times" he is not ready for a relationship? He's keeping it casual and he's following up on what he told you "several times".

You made the choice to settle for that, so you really don't get to complain about it or question it.

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Posted by Curiousram
I'm sorry ;/ virgo men are experts at this. Hope it works out for you

agree he's very experienced, but what do you mean by this? Experts at pulling away? Why wouldn't he just be a total jerk, instead of 50% ?

They are masters at pull and push its what they do, at least for the male virgos.

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I guess the question is what does this mean and does it last forever?

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Posted by Librascorplover
Have been in a relationship with a Virgo for 10 months, we are at the point where I had to cut him off. He is not ready for a relationship and we have discussed it, and he has told me this several times.

What do you think? This is tough for me.

Is it the Virgo's fault because he was honest and told you "several times" he is not ready for a relationship? He's keeping it casual and he's following up on what he told you "several times".

You made the choice to settle for that, so you really don't get to complain about it or question it.

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Never said it's his fault, actually appreciate this about him however no matter the relationship you can treat a human with kindness.

He is treating you the way a man would who doesn't want a relationship with a woman. A man who doesn't want a relationship and has openly and honestly told the woman this, doesn't have to answer to your needs. He made it clear he's not going there.

Unfortunately your definition of "kindness" is your need to have a relationship with him and to "act" like he is. Doesn't make sense does it??.. As a result and since he doesn't want a relationship, you define it as not being kind. Not so.

^^^^^I was thinking the exact same thing.^^^^^^

He was quite candid & sincere about his reasons. Emotionally, he just isn't ready. This could be due to a myriad of things, past relationship issues, finances, insecurities, unrealistic expectations or no real strong emotional connection at the present time.

@Librascorplover---

Were you looking for more communication from this Virgo or closure?

Posted by TaurusBull1977
^^^^^I was thinking the exact same thing.^^^^^^

He was quite candid & sincere about his reasons. Emotionally, he just isn't ready. This could be due to a myriad of things, past relationship issues, finances, insecurities, unrealistic expectations or no real strong emotional connection at the present time.

@Librascorplover---

Were you looking for more communication from this Virgo or closure?

TaurasBull1977

You know the more I read your replies, the more I've come to appreciate your analytical perceptions and your inquisitiveness. As a Gemini, I'm insanely inquisitive. Perhaps you have some gemini placements?

I recall our last thread where you asked me some questions. Actually your inquires were pretty savvy. I think sometimes when we read someone's opinion about how they view our scenario, we take it personal. We think how can anyone understand where we're coming from; they didn't experience the scenario I did. However, I think you have a keen ability to have a clear perception and share some empathy.

I like how you are able to make your point and list your insights in a clear and concise manner.

I may not always agree with you, but you always make me rethink my POV.

Sorry if I hijacked this thread. Not my intent, just wanted to post this.

Posted by gemini64
As a Gemini, I'm insanely inquisitive. Perhaps you have some gemini placements?

My Moon is in Gemini. 😉

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Posted by gemini64
As a Gemini, I'm insanely inquisitive. Perhaps you have some gemini placements?

My Moon is in Gemini. 😉

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Ah ha! I knew it!

btw, as someone who has your moon in Gemini as well as being an Earth sign, how do you process emotions? In other words, if you start having deep feelings for someone, do you push them away or do you pursue?

I've read that someone with a moon in Gemini change their moods often and because of that, are constantly at odds with their more grounded earth sign. Because of the polar opposites at odds, it causes inner personal conflict.

Would this be accurate for you as well?