Help with a Virgo Male, please and thank you

My sun is in Pieces, moon is in Taurus and ascending is Sag. I have been talking to a Virgo for a very short amount of time. We have tons in common and want the same things out of life. We have only communicated through texts and messages never on the phone or in person. His dog died yesterday and he told me he was heartbroken. I informed him that I am a good listener and that I can be there for him if he would allow me to be there. After a considerable amount of hours he opened up and let me know what happened and that he was upset. I told him that I understood, tried to console him and told him that what ever action he took not only would I understand it I would be fully support it and not think differently of him. We set up a meet and greet before this conversation. It happened to be the death of his beloved puppy was the day before our meet and greet. I was sat and waited and no show, no call, no nothing. I texted him no word so I left. I sent him a message very nice not calling him out his name but explaining my confusion and my disappointment in myself for letting him get so close to me. I wished him all the best that the world had to offer. I didn't cry in case your wondering. It's strange... my instincts are telling me that this will not be the last time I have some sort of dealings with this Virgo and he is being reclusive due to the feelings he is having because of the loss of his dog. Am I wrong? Am I being nieve? Is this some sort of test? Any and all advise would be deeply appreciated!!

I know some Virgo's may smirking and saying "oh he's got you in the palm of his hand."

yeah, he's gone robocop on you...they do that. it's up to you. maybe his puppy dying rendered him temporarily disabled and he couldn't let you know he wasn't going to turn up.

he might come back. then you get that anxiety as to whether or not he'll do the same thing again. LOL coincidentally my friend was stood up by a virgo today. no word, no nothing. fwiw i do think sometimes guys just back out of things and don't speak up because of...whatever.

but it sets a standard. take their shit once, you might be taking it again at some later date. it's flaky and a guy who's fully interested won't behave like this, imo.

as for the fucker who stood my friend up today...i reckon he's delusional and has a secret girlf who wouldn't let him out to play today. his loss

and not being funny, you're not his counsellor. so you allow him to lean on you...then you tell him you're disappointed you let him get so close. erm you invited him in. it's a shame for you he didn't deserve that level of consideration but it's not like you didn't have ulterior motives anyway.

Thank you for the replies. As far as I said I was disppointed that was completly on me. I fully understand that I don't feel jilted and I do not think in any way shape or form that he is to blame. I don't mind being there for him actually I prefer it. My thing was that I only let a select few people get that level of compassion from me. I'm nice don't get me wrong but my heart doesn't crush like a normal Pieces does. As far as alterier motives... not so much I just wanted to be there for him. Now if your are implying consoling someone in turn makes me feel good then yes you are correct but if you mean it in other ways I am afraid to let you know that you are incorrect.

Lol thank you 69virgo. That was my inclination to do but wouldn't he think that I was playing games with him and then he would pull back even further?

Another thing is that I know he must have some sort of feelings for me because he wouldn't of opened up to me if he didn't. He called me suga and baby. Also he started cussing in texts which stunned me.

Thank you again. 69 I have been lurking this site for a while. I analize things like I said I'm not the normal Pieces. I have noticed you are one of the Virgos on here who actually tries to educate other signs about your sign. Virgos are very complicated and hard to understand so I apperciate you giving us ingorant folks some insight into the mind of a Virgo. Yet alone a male Virgo. I'm not sucking up or anything I am just showing apperication. I am very well aware that Virgo's have the ability to tell you to go kiss me as* and go to hell and completly mean it.

I meant my not me. Sorry I had to fix that or it would of bothered me for eternity.

Aww thank you! I would love to be treated that way and I would be extremely lucky for that Virgo to be the one to be the one to treat me as such. I mean business and I want to show him that I do... my apprehension is that I don't know if he receprocates those feelings. I would hate to be waiting by and be a fool because he does not see me in such light. I think he likes me but I don't want to assume. I love facts and logic I need that to function. No games. Just truth and communication is all I require at this time. If he does not like me I will move on with no tears shed.

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Posted by tbird
I meant my not me. Sorry I had to fix that or it would of bothered me for eternity.

Lmao.....🙂

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See I'm not a typical Pieces. If I was I would of left that alone. Honestly I wouldn't even noticed it.

Thank you 69 have a wonderful day!

I will be sure to do so. I'm going to be doing some drinking tonight. lol so yeah it WILL be glorious! Oh let me clear that up I'm not drinking cause I was stood up. I'm going to a costume party. lol I had to clear that up.

I dunno but I wouldn't get all that excited over an imaginary friend, it's not really real until it's real and text message/email only type connections aren't real IMO. His dog died boo hoo hoo, not a good excuse to stand someone up, this guy probably is married or has some live in girlfriend or he could be a 75 year old hell who knows LOL. I would have communicated to him that my time is precious and if he's not going to show up then let me know in advance and then I would have offered him consoling over the puppy but I wouldn't have allowed him to know that his feelings are more important than mine by giving him more consoling after standing me up, that's just me and how I would deal with it.

Also isn't there any REAL men you can be with and interact with instead of limiting yourself to a guy that only text messages and messages, there is no way you can absolutely know you both have anything in common unless you actually spend real one on one time together. Keep your feet on the ground and your head out of the Pisces clouds, this guy probably isn't who he's presenting himself to be and standing you up is a neon RED flag.

Oh I informed him that I had better things to do than sit around and wait for him. I consoled him before I saw him not afterward. I did send him a text after he stood me up but that was for me. That way I have closure and can move on. Your right about no getting serious about him until after we meet a bunch of times and the connection still resumes pursue it. That is why I wanted to meet him I wanted to see if that connection is constant and not over the phone. My question was more if I was wasting my time with him.

The analytical part of me is saying he is a treetrunking jerk for standing me up. The pieces part is saying well there is a reason and if he comes and talks to me (within my own personal time line) and has a damn good excuse then maybe I'll give it another go. I treetrunking hate being a Pieces I hate the attention I get from men. I don't want it. I just want to be left alone. If I see someone I'm interested in then I will pursue them. There are a lot of guys that I talk...not in that way. They are always screwed up in some fashion (hell we all are) but the market of men in my area is stunted. Very stunted. So I guard myself. I don't do this ever. So I'm like oh great. I'm stupid a-treetrunking-gain. Ahh lord. It's like I can't win ever. Maybe I'm just picking the wrong men. I dunno. Sorry I have been drinkimng and that tree trunking Pieces in me is coming out. For the love I despise being a Pieces at times.

Posted by 69virgo
Tiki .....🙂

I'm sorry I do not know what you are referring to. Please enlighten!

Hi 69! How are you hun?

Omg if my puppy died I would seriously check myself in somewhere (I'm am a very stable person). I would say give him a break-who wants to chat when you loose your child.

Posted by tbird
Oh I informed him that I had better things to do than sit around and wait for him. I consoled him before I saw him not afterward. I did send him a text after he stood me up but that was for me. That way I have closure and can move on. Your right about no getting serious about him until after we meet a bunch of times and the connection still resumes pursue it. That is why I wanted to meet him I wanted to see if that connection is constant and not over the phone. My question was more if I was wasting my time with him.

The analytical part of me is saying he is a treetrunking jerk for standing me up. The pieces part is saying well there is a reason and if he comes and talks to me (within my own personal time line) and has a damn good excuse then maybe I'll give it another go. I treetrunking hate being a Pieces I hate the attention I get from men. I don't want it. I just want to be left alone. If I see someone I'm interested in then I will pursue them. There are a lot of guys that I talk...not in that way. They are always screwed up in some fashion (hell we all are) but the market of men in my area is stunted. Very stunted. So I guard myself. I don't do this ever. So I'm like oh great. I'm stupid a-treetrunking-gain. Ahh lord. It's like I can't win ever. Maybe I'm just picking the wrong men. I dunno. Sorry I have been drinkimng and that tree trunking Pieces in me is coming out. For the love I despise being a Pieces at times.

Wasting time? It all depends on what you envision how the connection should expand and develop and if he is not demonstrating by showing up to a date then you aren't really expanding and developing with one another then yeah maybe you are wasting your time.

I don't know why you'd hate attention from men, I don't know why you want to be left alone, that sounds really weird and off balance b/c you can't meet a GOOD man by hating attention and wanting to be left alone well it seems you are being ass backwards, wanting men that don't appear to want you so really the virgo's behavior adds up, he's treating you like he doesn't want you and he's left you alone b/c you want men that don't want you so yeah it's a self fulfilling prophecy. The more you say to yourself I want to be left alone, I don't want attention well THOSE KIND OF MEN WILL SHOW UP, he'll treat you like he doesn't want you and it's your fault b/c you are gravitating towards

I don't want attention well THOSE KIND OF MEN WILL SHOW UP, he'll treat you like he doesn't want you and it's your fault b/c you are gravitating towards men that will treat you way and rejecting men that won't treat you that way.

To break that habit before it totally develops into something bad for you, stop NOT WANTING attention, try being more appreciative. It is stupid to reject men that want you, THAT MAKES NO DAMN SENSE, if you want to get married or if you want to have the opportunity to get into a committed relationship it doesn't make sense to reject men that APPRECIATE you and want to get closer to you.

If you want to date then give the men that give you attention a fair chance, go out on dates, really give them your undivided attention, you could easily be passing up a good man b/c your hell bent on pushing them away, stop doing that.

He made a date and he should be courteous enough to say I can't make it but to stand someone up well that's just rude and that sets the tone of how things are going to be with him in the future with made up excuses, she has no way of knowing he's being honest about the puppy but I'll give him the benefit of the doubt but standing a person up is a huge no no, he lacks consideration and to me being considerate is important, it says a lot about the persons character.

Posted by tbird
I don't mind being there for him actually I prefer it. My thing was that I only let a select few people get that level of compassion from me. I'm nice don't get me wrong but my heart doesn't crush like a normal Pieces does. As far as alterier motives... not so much I just wanted to be there for him. Now if your are implying consoling someone in turn makes me feel good then yes you are correct but if you mean it in other ways I am afraid to let you know that you are incorrect.

yeah i totally got that cos i'm the same. i'm selective with the compassion thing...working on making it less exclusive 😉

just go easy with being there for him...some people just take and take when you allow it, esp when it's someone you fancy.

Tiki when I said I don't want attention for men what I meant more was I don't mind talking to guys in real life. I will be nice and considerate. If I am interested in the person then I will let my intentions be known. I don't like attention from men when it's coming at me in a perpetual motion. I mean all the time, all day, all freaking night, inappropriate times. I understand that Pieces' have an allure and I am a ascending Sag so my personality really shines when you first meet me, I'm funny, outgoing and spontaneous. I tend to draw people in groups. I'm not bragging please don't take it like that I am just informing you why I said why I said. For instance last night I was the costume party and a guy I know likes me he kept hitting on me all night, following me around like a lost puppy. I kept moving away from him and when he tried to touch me I would back up, shy away and leave. I was while I talking to another guy, he became extremely jealous and started to try to claim me. He kept saying my name in a way that made me want to crawl out of my skin. So I became more distant from him and actually started to become scared. He got severely drunk and started to grope me. Guys DO this with me. My friend says it's because I'm the "Snow White" type of Pieces that and the Sag thing can be too much for some men.

I dunno. That is more of what I meant that kind of attention. The cat calls, the touching that men try to do when I just found out their name, the whole I'll leave my wife for you. I don't know these men. I don't put my hands on them I don't flirt like a Pieces. I'm friendly and endearing but I'm not batting my eyes, getting extra close and touch my hair type of girl because I know how guys act with me even without me doing that. I find that deeply uncomfortable. If a guy is cool and my "type" of guy I would be receptive to that.

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Posted by tbird
I don't mind being there for him actually I prefer it. My thing was that I only let a select few people get that level of compassion from me. I'm nice don't get me wrong but my heart doesn't crush like a normal Pieces does. As far as alterier motives... not so much I just wanted to be there for him. Now if your are implying consoling someone in turn makes me feel good then yes you are correct but if you mean it in other ways I am afraid to let you know that you are incorrect.

yeah i totally got that cos i'm the same. i'm selective with the compassion thing...working on making it less exclusive 😉

just go easy with being there for him...some people just take and take when you allow it, esp when it's someone you fancy.

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I will... that is a MAJOR problem I have. When I care for someone I will give all of the compassion my heart can muster. Almost always it's taken for granted then I'm like lesson learned and self has been noted. With the Virgo I'm like okay lesson learned BUT I'll give you a break because I know how much he cared about his puppy. I wouldn't of wanted to go to the date. Actually I had a feeling it was going to play out this way before it happened. So when it did I was like alright my instincts were right again so it didn't blindside me... which I guess is easier to digest.

But he is a jerk for not telling me. If he comes back... I will be following 69's advice. He will be paying for that error of judgement. =) I won't be cruel.... for that is not what constitutes me as a woman.

"I mean all the time, all day, all freaking night, inappropriate times. "

You are not appreciating your magnetic gift, there are women who wish she could be a man magnet, my point being be more appreciative of having something that comes NATURALLY for you and to you, there are many women who don't attract men naturally.

As you mature you'll be able to control how much energy you put out there with men, instead of running away from men which will only rev up his male instincts and natural desire as a man to chase you, instead stop, face him and ask him to stop it, stop following you b/c making you feel uncomfortable and leave you alone, being direct with people can really help set boundaries.

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Good point... never looked at it like that. I am not confrontational person but I need to become one in this instance.

Thank you Tiki! See that is why I LOVE talking to Virgo's you guys have a wonderful way of spinning you around and helping you face whatever ails you.

LOL I'm an Aquarius but that's okay b/c I love my virgos....

Practice being a bit more assertive especially towards unwanted attention.

LOL Oops sorry! See that is what I get for assuming. =D

I will be sure to do so. As far as the Virgo male... I understand that Virgo's won't really admit when they are wrong. I sent him a text message asking him if he felt compelled to let me know what happened that would be lovely. To me I left the ball in his court and he would approach me if and when he wants to. But now I'm starting to think wouldn't he avoid that conversation?

I want to talk to him but I don't want to seem weak willed. Should I call him? Also keep in my we never spoken on the phone.

"Should I call him? Also keep in my we never spoken on the phone."

Oh lord don't keep reaching for him if he hasn't responded to your previous message, chasing a virgo male (or any man for that matter) for reciprocation and communication won't work, leave him alone and honestly really he's a jerk for standing you up and if you chase a jerk you'll send him the wrong message, that you love jerks, you loved to be jerked around/mistreated and I know that's not the case so don't do that.

Don't be so desperate to be rejected again, leave his flaky no show ass alone to deal with whatever it is he's dealing with.

Don't be so desperate to be rejected again, leave his flaky no show ass alone to deal with whatever it is he's dealing with.

LMFAO I'm sorry that is hilarious! I will be sure to do so. I don't want to chase him I really really don't want to. The Pieces in me wants to chase because I like him to but the analytical part is saying if he is interested have him come back and apologize then maybe we will see. I just wanted to make sure I don't have to initiate the conversation.

Posted by tbird

Oh I informed him that I had better things to do than sit around and wait for him.

And yet, in the OP I got a completely different interpretation of your signals.

In fact, I got the impression that you put way more expectation into him than you should have, and then when he didn't own up to your unrealistic expectations of him, you then sent a message implying that you were bailing on him because he wasn't acting according to his presentation .. which of course, isnt' the truth.

He didn't give you a false presentation ... rather, you deluded yourself into thinking less was more.


Probably due to being a Pisces.

What Pisces says and what Pisces does ... are two different things.

You say to tiki (or whoever you were talking to) that you told him that you had better things to do than sit around and wait for him, or whatever you said ..... when in reality, below is the initial impression you gave him.

Which is fucked up, actually ... because if you later told him you have better things to do, then you've given him mixed signals.

Posted by tbird

... I can be there for him if he would allow me to be there.

I told him that I understood, tried to console him and told him that what ever action he took not only would I understand it I would be fully support it and not think differently of him.

this is a person who never even met ... and you are expressing to him the complete opposite of ... you have better things to do in your life.

How can you possibly know that you would be in full support of him and not think differently of him .. when you don't even know him?

Virgos aren't like others .. they aren't going to fall for bullshit.

What likely happened is just what I am telling you ... he thought about how supportive you are of a person you don't even really know, and making the insinuation that you would be devoted, and him thinking that you are full of fluff.

And then turn around after the non-meet, and make the insinuation that you aren't waiting for him, so if he's interested he better step up to the plate?

Seriously .... what kind of unrealistic expectation are you going to place on him next?

ITA with Tiki.

Virgo bf..Ive learned..

-blows up my phone all day text or call just to talk to me
-tells me he loves me at end of every convo.
-tells me when if he cant talk to me due being in an area of no service or other
-little possessive but its ok..I'm a cap and can handle that and blow it off cause its just part of who he is-a little insecure but then so am i at times.
-never changed a thing about himself after we were intimate and neither have i.
-accepts my faults and i, his.
-shares his whole day with me down to last detail.
-He needs his space sometimes and I am not a ball and chain person..so let him have his space and he'll come back to you. Same with me.

And this goes with most signs..if hes into you completely, you will know it. you become the center of their world. This particular virgo does have aqua moon, so freedom is important, but they will always come back to YOU.

The Taurus with an aqua moon..he didnt make me 'important' enough. Only running on HIS time. See the difference?

Posted by capbaby

This particular virgo does have aqua moon, so freedom is important, but they will always come back to YOU.

The Taurus with an aqua moon..he didnt make me 'important' enough. Only running on HIS time. See the difference?

I find it very disturbing that people get a notion in their head, and just run with it ... as if it's relevant to anything other than theirself.

Case in point .... you speak to this woman as if he was hers to begin with, to come back to.

He isn't her boyfriend, nor anywhere near boyfriend status .. infact, she's never even met him .... so, how is implying to her that if he feels her an important item in his life that he will come back to her ... actually help her with the reality of the situation.

You are talking to a Pisces .... don't encourage the delusion

I don't see how I am sending mix signals. Please explain that

I told him the day before our meet and greet that I would fully support him in his decision about talking to the vet who played a huge role in the death of the puppy. I went the following day for our date and was stood up and I sent him a message telling him that if he stood me up to let me know no worries or drama I'm a big girl. After about 10 mins with no call no show I informed him that he won and that I had better things to do than sit and wait for a date who is not coming.

How is that mix signals? Was I supposed to sit there and wait all day for him? If so my Pieces would of been coming out. So I left. I don't think that was the wrong decision. When I said I would be there for him I was I wasn't lying and when he told me the situation I was there for him.

I been talking to other men that I am interested so it's not like my whole world is based off of him. I would like to get to know him more but if he doesn't reciprocate I have no problems and I will go and move on.

I don't see how me expecting him to show up at a date that he initiated setting up is being delusional. If you say your going to do something do it. That's not being delusional.

What I said about supporting him wasn't bullbutter and I wasn't trying to win him over. The supporting was about him going to yell and raise all kind of hell in the vet's office or if he just dealt with it internally. The reason I said that is because I myself can see me doing either or. When I said I wouldn't think of him differently I meant more as I wouldn't be like oh wow cause you did this with the vet your a jerk.

Now he IS a jerk for standing me up! Period end of story you can't slice that pie a different way if you are it's the Pieces in you yourself that is coming out. I'm not standing there for 20 years waiting for a man like you said I never met in real life.

Communication to me is important. For me to understand someone I must have communication. So if he took that wrong then he should of sought out an explanation. This man has no problem asking questions and if he doesn't understand something he has no qualms about asking for clarification.

Virgo's did you think I'm full of bullbutter and sending mix signals?

Sorry for all of the posts but I keep on thinking about things to say. He has called me pet names like baby and suga I've NEVER did that. We talked a lot in the time we knew each other. If my feelings were not being reciprocated he would of never of said we should meet it can't go wrong either way, he wouldn't of called me pet names, he would of NEVER ever opened up to me. He texted me when he was at work... a lot! He sent me a pic of himself AT work WHILE he was at work! He changed his routine for me. He told me when I get home within 5 mins I do such and such. He spent the time on the phone texting me and not doing his routine.

He is a Virgo you know.... he wouldn't of even done one of those things yet alone all of them. He is not full of bullbutter but I'm being delusional and filling him with bullbutter? Wha?!?!

So P-Angel what are you saying that I should be doing... because you are severely confusing me.

"You are talking to a Pisces .... don't encourage the delusion" LOL PAngel..true 🙂 And I am Pices in venus..

Tbird..dont contact him any more. let him come to you. If he's seriously interested in you, he will come to you, and won't back out or make excuses, and would have called to say he couldnt make it. it is that simple.

I will be sure to do so. I will move on. Thank you capbaby. If you can please point out my delusions that would be amazing! Sometimes Pieces do things without noticing their errors. Please provide constructive criticism so I can grow as a woman. lol

Oh and tbird..I've known my virgo for 12 years... 12 years platonic friendship til recently. We shared all those things u talked about..platonically for 12 years! That does not mean hes serious about you, wants a committment with you. Its what u have in your head that means hes serious.

He'll take it even further with you when he knows what he wants and does commit by doing what those other things I posted. Or do what Pangel did with her spouse I read in another thread. 😉 I too told my virgo man he was MINE. Know what he said? I will love you forever. And i said, "i know you will' 🙂

What thread was that on? See now what PAngel said is really bothering me. I don't want him to think I was full of bullbutter and I'm not. I don't want him to think that I am sending him mix signals and that he cannot contact me. Is that the vibe you are getting?

yes.

unrealistic expectations that Pangel said.

He knows you like him. You won't wait, yet you call and chase him.

yes he would change his routine..for awhile. To get to know you. The initial attraction. The initial 'high'. The attention he wanted and needed. You were highly available whenever he wanted you..on HIS time.

when I told a taurus i wouldnt 'wait'..I didn't. No texts, no phone, deleted him off FB..complete silence. I never asked him for an explaination. And I dated others until Virgo. Out of the blue., Taurus texts me OFFERING an explaination. On HIS terms. Virgos too wont own up, offer explainations, or admit to wrong easily or willingly, unless they truly CARE. However, taurus and I had already dated for a few months..you only have a toe in the door..

I'd send one text..'if you seriously want to meet, let me know.' And then leave it.

So where I screwed up was the text after the standing up... I should of been completely silent?

By the way I was talking to other guys I wasn't putting my eggs all in one basket. Of course the Virgo was my favorite. I do have a date set up with a Libra that is very sweet and appealing to me. So I will continue to talk to the Libra and others if they appeal to my own personal list =D lol

Alright I sent him a text with exactly you said. I doubt if he texts back but oh well the ball is most definitely in his court.

"Virgo's did you think I'm full of bullbutter and sending mix signals?"

I don't see you being full of it or sending mixed messages but I do see you creating an imaginary connection with a man you've never met, it's really unrealistic to say you have things in common and want the same things out of life when there hasn't been real live one on one time spent together and lots of it so it appears you may be imagining him as this IDEA guy and he may have backed out of the date b/c he know he has to measure up to that idea and it's best to leave it as imaginary, less pressure on him to be someone he's not.

It took him hours to tell you what was wrong and you OFFERED him support, that's needy behavior and can really turn a man off from you and then you sent a text letting him know you were disappointed that you opened up to him, well he didn't ask you to open up to him, he didn't force you to be his support over the dog, matter of fact he told you after hours of you convincing him it would be okay for him to open up and yeah you just opened up a can of worms b/c he probably didn't want to discuss and became overwhelmed with emotion (that's even if the damn dog died sorry but I can be skeptical, part of my aqua nature).

Yes he was a jerk for standing you up and not coming up with an explanation but I feel you had high expectations over a man that you IMAGINED him to be and not for who he really is and that probably was part of the reason he backed out (including the dog situation).

He'll come your way with an explanation in due time until then get back out in the real world and keep dating, virtual dating is just ONE way of many to develop your dating social skills and inevitably meet someone that you share mutual interest and chemistry with.

Also just a bit of dating advice, don't get into heavy discussions via text messaging, reserve it for one on one time and also don't OFFER yourself up on a platter by GIVING to a man b/c you unknowingly MAKE IT ALL ABOUT HIM and putting the spot light on a man by giving yourself up emotionally can make him feel pressure and very uncomfortable, so next time don't give in so quickly and be that available for one man you haven't met yet because you can unknowingly tell a story about yourself, it can translate over as desperation so next time take your time, being too nice and pushing for communication can backfire on you and translate over to a man as needy and full of expectations so next time don't get into those kind of discussions, change the subject and if he wants to discuss it he'll do that easily without hours of goading and convincing him it's safe.

So you've text him one last time, it's in his court, don't reward him anymore for his silent behavior by giving him more attention, let it rest.

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Posted by tbird
Alright I sent him a text with exactly you said. I doubt if he texts back but oh well the ball is most definitely in his court.

You didn't need to send him one more text...he knows you're around anyway...

and you did send him mixed messages...one minute you said you would be there for him if he allowed and the next you said you're not hanging around and waiting for him...don't ever tell someone you would be there for them they need to gain that special treatment...otherwise you risk being taken for granted or used...

And another thing just by your posts...you are already getting your emotions way too involved before even meeting this Virgo...where is your Pisces detachment gone ??

Use it...that's what gets them interested...

If ever a guy stands you up...the next time don't even bother texting them for explanation...write them off...they can come to YOU...

Think about it...a person *knows* you will be meeting them at a certain place/time yet they continue to go about their day knowing full well you will be standing/sitting waiting and they say nothing...no excuse and the puppy dying is probably bullshit anyway...

Don't believe anything from anyone you have never met ...ever !!

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Thank you so much everyone. Damn now I'm regretting that text. I was on the dating site that I met him and I have been texting and talking to men. Good thing is I'm not thinking about him as much as I was before. I see what you are saying Tiki about me scaring him now. I will keep that in check. I'm just honest and straight forward and that can bite me in the as*.

I'll try my hardest to be more skeptical. The pieces in me tends to think the best out of everyone again not everyone is wonderful. I'm so freaking new to this dating thing it is ridiculous. I've been married for 13 years to my high school sweetheart and I didn't date anyone really before then. So now being thrown into this scene with no practice with tons of guys who have been in the circuit since birth. I'm really at a disadvantage. I really truly appreciate all help you give.

'The pieces in me tends to think the best out of everyone again not everyone is wonderful. '

having pisces in venus I know. We love easily and love everyone even when we shouldn't 🙂

Dont regret the text. You didn't do it for him. You did it for you🙂

Date, meet others, you'll do ok, and find the one who is right for you.

Thank you so much guys. My heart feels really full and inflated right now from all of the caring posts. I can't grow as a woman unless I know the problems I am making. I want to meet the right guy and I can wait. I can! Seriously don't laugh lol

I just got really excited about him cause everything matched up but yeah he could of been full of bullbutter. I know he's been looking at my profile. Probably just debating but honestly my Pieces reserve is coming back. He is loosing me more and more each day plus that and I'm talking to this Libra. Holy hell Libra's, sweet jebus!

Yeah I know you guys are probably like ouch Libra hunny no. Don't worry I give him is space and I like that he gives me mine. Libra's and Pieces are similar in the way that we are used to being chased. We like it when we get our attention then back off your going to make me drown if you smother me. I can't swim and I feel constricted and uncomfortable. So I like that a guys leaves me alone after he gives me attention. It shows he has a life. When I was texting the Virgo and the Libra I don't bombard them with texts. I promise! lol

We talk for hours and then he goes and does his thing and I'm like hell yeah! Then a few hours later he always texts me back. The difference between a Libra and a Pieces is that when a Pieces needs a break we usually say goodbye or see you later a Libra just wanders off which I can see how people get confused by it. I look at it as his scales were weighed heavily on you for a while it needs to balance out. So yeah Libra's are easier to understand for me than Virgos. Not that I don't love you Virgo's too! =D