Help with a Virgo Male, please and thank you (Page 2)

Posted by capbaby
'The pieces in me tends to think the best out of everyone again not everyone is wonderful. '

having pisces in venus I know. We love easily and love everyone even when we shouldn't 🙂

Dont regret the text. You didn't do it for him. You did it for you🙂

Date, meet others, you'll do ok, and find the one who is right for you.

Yes capbaby that is true I did do it for me =D

p-angel please speak your mind hun.

Oh man yeah I think it's over for the Virgo.

The Libra just did something that I told him not to do unless he is serious. He said that was fair and he did it. Then he knows I adore music and he told me 2 weeks ago this song he loves so to get to know his personality (music does show this... well for me) and I told him I loved the song because I do. Now he told me he was listening to this song (dropping hints) so I looked listened to it and the lyrics struck me so being analytical I looked them up. Here it is...

Anxious and worrying, so you spend your whole life hurrying, searching for something better than what you knew before and always knowing you are you and you are going to even up the score, is that what you're always fighting for? It's a long way back to a place once called home you left behind and it's a long night out with nothing much to say, and it's the things you hold in sight that you dream less of every night until you guess it never mattered anyway. And we've all got hearts and they keep beating and they keep telling us what we should say and it's hard to listen anyway but these days we are in tune with the way we love the afternoon as it fades slowly to a restful night. Everything is magic until it becomes routine, in your bedroom, on the road or in the corners of your dreams, and I sure hope we aren't just spinning our wheels. Whatever happens, I think you should know I'm just glad it feels like anything at all. So don't push me down, I don't go down easy. And don't pick me up just to see me be the boy you knew. It's just the distance between we and who we wish that we could be don't seem so far, I guess, as it did so long ago.

This applies a lot to what we spoken about. He knows about my history and he knows my apprehensions. I just thought it was down right adorable that he told me about this song. Then what do you know he said I have to go running around I can't talk for a while but I'll be back and we'll chat like we always do. Adorable. I LOVE that he does his own thing, he's a big flirt, but he also talks about other stuff than just flirting. Don't worry I'm NOT getting ahead of myself. lol

Good for you! 🙂

Haven't met a Libra man I could stand for long romantically but then I am a Cap/aqua sun with Aries rising. LOL
I 'get' my virgo..completely.

my advice to you..get to know these men as friends. Nothing sexual..not even sexual talk. First. You will know just how interested they are in YOU first as a person. Having mars in scorpio, i sucked at that, but i learned..the hard way..

Thank you capbaby! It's different with the Libra than the Virgo. Very strange don't get me wrong I do like both of them. But, I dunno this freaking Libra my goodness lord. Yikes! I mean that in the best possible way! I don't know his moon, ascending or descending. I think that would be weird if I asked him hey what time were you born?

He flirts but he is tasteful and I am the same. No sexting or anything!! lol I'm shy and very much so. The steamest we got was who is going to win the make out war. lol He knows I'm shy and he is extremely respectful and appreciative of that. We are going to met soon I think this weekend. So hopefully I won't be stood up again! bahaha If so, then I would be like okay I need to see a psychiatrist because something is seriously wrong with me. lol

He also says stuff like I don't go around laying great kisses on girls. Then he said I want to give you a kiss... nothing lewd just a kiss. Then we will move quickly onto another topic like which book do you love. We do more serious talk than flirting. We have been talking for 2 weeks and we just started flirting the last day or two.

sounds like he might be more of a match for you. You might be in the same place in life too which makes it work with one vs another.

I'll say this...Meet him first before applying what you feel onto him, he may not measure up to what he's selling you and that can lead to disappointment.

Meet him first, date him a few times and then see if you still feel the same. I can honestly say that you'll most likely get a broader view after date 4, the first few dates he'll be on his best behavior that's why it's important to meet first, then sit down and observe and judge your experiences with him more objectively and not from all the sweet mental connection communication you shared with another because it's more often than not NOT REAL and fleeting. Keep your head out of the clouds or yeah your dating experiences will not be that great b/c it's fantasy based on your part thus once reality sets in you can find yourself deeply frustrated and disappointed with the dating process.

ITA with Tiki. tbird does what i often do having pisces in venus and it often does lead to disappointment. When u haven't met them,spent any length of time with them in real time, you only have this tunnel vision of them. But the reality can be quite different.

tbird..I hadn't dated in 20 some years. Its hard..its not like it was back when I was a teen. And even as a teen I dated same guy through high school. One piece of advice..guys can say anything but it doesnt make it true. i went out with many toads. had my heart stepped on. But with each one, you learn.You pick yourself up, brush yourself off, and start again. or you stop awhile and just be content alone...and sometimes love finds you.

ITA with Tiki. tbird does what i often do having pisces in venus and it often does lead to disappointment. When u haven't met them,spent any length of time with them in real time, you only have this tunnel vision of them. But the reality can be quite different.

tbird..I hadn't dated in 20 some years. Its hard..its not like it was back when I was a teen. And even as a teen I dated same guy through high school. One piece of advice..guys can say anything but it doesnt make it true. i went out with many toads. had my heart stepped on. But with each one, you learn.You pick yourself up, brush yourself off, and start again. or you stop awhile and just be content alone...and sometimes love finds you.

Tiki and Capbaby thank you again you guys are so right! Like I said before sometimes I hate being a Pieces. I try and try and try but sometimes he say stuff that makes me melt! Damn Libras lol!

I'm trying to be removed as all heck and I am very much more removed with the Libra than the Virgo.

I'm on an online dating site and I'm starting to notice that the Virgo only comes on for a min a two when I am on then pops off so I don't know if he is scared I'm going to jump down his throat (which I would never, I'm not confortantial) or maybe he is peeping my profile because I have updated it since he stood my fish as* up.

Oh god sometimes I just feel like saying forget it! I'm going to a convent and becoming a nun! =D

Honestly tbird, he's not scared, he know you are a "good woman" and that you are not all that mad b/c you've extended communication and he's chosen to avoid and ignore, do yourself a huge big favor, SIGH RELIEF b/c this is most likely the real him, he's the type that avoids conflict and creates conflict by making little things bigger than what it really is, you don't need that and I know you don't want that so be happy that you see the real him and move on to someone whose mature enough to own his errors. If I were you I would delete all those bogus emails and hide him so you can't see when he's on if that's possible or delete him altogether and just move on for now, he's not a child, he's a grown man and if he's truly interested he'll come back around eventually and maybe you'll be open to giving him another shot if your not already involved with someone else.

So for now say forget it, forget him and move on, please don't tie yourself up over an unavailable man, they are completely frustrating to deal with, they make you feel wrong inside, they make you feel desperate inside b/c the silence is emotionally disturbing especially when all you did in the past was be available to one another and mutually communicate without any avoidance or pitfalls of conflict and that can drive you bonkers not being able to do what you used to do together but for now it's over, I know that doesn't sit well with your ego but you'll have to face it and move on, this won't be your first or last encounter with men like him and if you don't know how to deal with it now well your dating experiences won't be fun b/c there will be times you'll connect with someone and he'll back out and if you don't train yourself to move on you'll experience a lot of heartache.

So this is an opportunity to set a boundary for yourself. Make it a rule that if a man disappears on you that you won't waste time on him mentally nor emotionally, make it a rule to move on and you can always be flexible about this rule b/c maybe you'll want to give it another try if he comes back around but make sure 2 strikes you're out, don't give him a 3rd chance to disappoint and lead you on.

So stop worrying about him, block him or hide his profile and not allow him to be relevant anymore..He had his chance and he blew it (least for now he has) now shift your focus on the man/men who are AVAILABLE.

Thanks Tiki... okay I did something BEFORE I read your message but I got my answer in a round about way. Lets say he didn't know he was speaking to me. Why he blew my fish as* off was because drum roll please.... I have kids. He KNEW about my kids. It's on my profile twice we even spoke about them!!!! He asked do I have shared custody and asked how they were doing! Meh? Is this guy on drugs?!!!!

What a treetrunking jerk. I'm not going to lie I cried for like 20 seconds then it just shut off. Then it went to that treetrunking douche doesn't DESERVE one iota of a tear he didn't DESERVE the kindness I extended to him. His dog is probably sitting on his lap. I wished the worse for him and then about 5 mins later I'm okay. I thought to myself I'm a good woman. A damn good one. I'm a rare girl and if he is too dam* stupid to realize that then that on him. I'm better without him. I would of hate for it to go further and he be like what he said in the message, "she had kids and I wasn't into it."

So I got the true ugly side of this Virgo! I get it now I can release and let go I received my closure and if he does come crawling back I'll tell him I'm too busy with my children to give him a moment of my time. They deserve all of me and he deserves nothing from me. Not even a go fly a kite off a cliff. I thought Virgos don't indulge in crap like that... maybe he's ruled by another planet... plant douche bag.

Strange I feel like Sally Fields I went thru like 10 different emotions in 10 mins! lol Like knowing your about to die all those phases! lol But in the end that helps to know the reason. It helps to know I did nothing wrong he was the douche. I just need to be careful next time about connecting to someone so quickly you know?!

Thank you so very much everyone for all of your help! I did delete all his messages and I want to block him... I want to look into that.

Again muchos gracias mi amigos!

Virgo's usually like kids. he's a jerk so don't let him rent space in your head!

Posted by capbaby
Virgo's usually like kids. he's a jerk so don't let him rent space in your head!

That jerk had been evicted and he's bags are out by the dumpster! I have my closure I have moved on! Doesn't take too long for Pieces... once we discovered the reason...well for this Pieces.