How can you tell how a VIRGO really feels??

okay.. so im a scorpio female and i was dating a virgo male... well actually it was always kinda on and off... long story... well when i first met him he was basically a player, always talking about hott chicks and making out with different girls... and i told him it was stupid n i wasnt attracted to it at all.. and he changed all that becuz he liked me... so we started hanging out and stuff and we dated which only lasted a week becuz he wud always get mad over the same thing-"he didnt like other guys always hitting on me"... and he thought i didnt care that it bothered him... anyways... after a couple days he wud text me and say sorry and want me back and me all depressed until i agreed... and then when we dated again it always lasted a week n then ended for the same reason.... the 4th time we dated tho it lasted 3 weeks and i thought we were doing pretty good and he was always telling me that he thinks it was meant to be and that he wanted to marry me and that he loved me and he wanted me to promise him that i wud never leave him n he promised me the same thing... than one day some guy from my work asked me if i wanted a new bf and i told my virgo bf about this n he started accusing me of wanting to leave him for this other guy and i told him it was a stupid thing to think... anyways he broke up with me and his reasons were that he didnt feel a connection n that he doesnt think it was meant to be... which i just dont get how he can change his mind like that... n he ignored me for the longest time and said it felt weird being around me... but he said he still wanted to be friends.. but he always acts different towards me then anyone else when we hang out... like he barely talks to me.. and he became such an ass... like hes always talking about hott girls and pussy... and it seems like he doesnt it on purpose.. my friends say they catch him starring at me.. and he thinks im still hott n says he doesnt hate me... and sometimes i think maybe he wants me back.. but im not sure :S:S....so if anyone knows if theres a reason hes acting this way to me or if its possible he cud want me back.. let me know... it wud help alot... im really confused :S:S

Just going off of what you stated above, which of course, is only from your perspective, for he isn't here .. you didn't like him flirting, so he stopped, things got better between you until you told him about a man who asked you to change boyfriends ..

"and i told him it was stupid n i wasnt attracted to it at all.. and he changed all that becuz he liked me"

"we dated which only lasted a week becuz he wud always get mad over the same thing-"he didnt like other guys always hitting on me"

At this point, you fully realize that he doesn't like men hitting on you.

"the 4th time we dated tho it lasted 3 weeks and i thought we were doing pretty good and he .. wanted to marry me and that he loved me and ...than one day some guy from my work asked me if i wanted a new bf and i told my virgo bf about this"

You got him to stop flirting with women and he agreed because he wants to be with you, the two of you went off and on for awhile, always breaking up because he doesn't like men hitting on you, which you are fully aware (btw, did he know about these men hitting on you BECAUSE you told him about it) .. then finally when he gets serious and says he wants to marry you .. you tell him about a man who wants to be your boyfried.

Now you want to know what happened? I'll tell you .. Scorpio women use their sexuality as weapons to gain attention, and with this particular man .. the game didn't get you the attention you sought.

So, that's what I see happened judging purly from your post. It appears to me that you don't really want him, you just want him to be jealous of you. Some men will do this, rest assured .. A Virgo WILL NOT ..

"so we started hanging out and stuff and we dated which only lasted a week becuz he wud always get mad over the same thing-"he didnt like other guys always hitting on me"...

"and he thought i didnt care that it bothered him..."


And he was right. This bothers him, this bothers him, this bothers him .. and he thought that you didn't care about it.

"than one day some guy from my work asked me if i wanted a new bf and i told my virgo bf about this"

So, you tell him about another man, anyway, KNOWING it bothers him.

"which i just dont get how he can change his mind like that"

He didn't change is mind per se .. the light went off and he woke up.

very well said..

aloha....

funny how life works.
she should've never told him that about what that other guy said, if she was a true "playah".
But lucky for him that she did cuz now he knows and did exactly what he had to do.

life goes on.

I have an uncle in his 60's who still acts like he's in high school!),
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Uncle MUST be virgo! :-))

HAHAHAHA

They move really fast...
People don't change for others they do so for themselves maybe he cover up those nasy ways a little, but they're still there.

you need to move around sweetie.
when words and actions don't agree you're setting yourself up for deceit. Try reading what you just wrote as though you were me or anyone but yourself... See the sense it makes to care or even wonder what he's feeling. It's hard but try it... might help a bit.

Haven't known any Vigos to back and forth with someone they really like you could be on the wrong side of the game...

He didn't change his mind just like that... do you determine what you want to believe as truth...hold on I'll be right back.

Genuine love does not start with an emotion. It begins with a state of consciousness, of clear awareness, of a deep understanding of both the self and the other person. Then, the emotions arising from this are legitimate, natural fruit. Tenderness and affection are among them. When an emotion comes first, it is not genuine love, only a counterfeit, which is really a craving , or passion, or a wish to flee from an unwanted self into the other person. Love is not dependency, idolization, sentimentality, craving, or physical attraction. Human relationships based on these attributes are strained, ready to break apart at any moment. ... ... ... V. Howard --- This goes for genuine like as well.



Usually we want what we want and create an idealization of that person in our minds that we fail to see who is really standing in front of us

"ok so how do you tell if you are on the phone and can't see him..., hmm...?"--- Go with that gut instinct... the one that came before the one you called your first instinct it's usually right.

Real VirGuys don't talk on the phone unless they have to, so ask him to put it in writing; if he agrees, and does, then he was telling you the truth... I think I can agree with this... if he's lying he's not gonna give you something you can definitely hold him to later... I've never been able to hold a Vurguy by what he says...

Virgo Males are like pancakes. One minute they all sweet, charming and want to spend alot of time with you and then the flip over to the other side and act like the don't know you or they are bothered by you. I don't think they know what they feel from one minute to the next. Very Exhausting!!

"So, that's what I see happened judging purly from your post. It appears to me that you don't really want him, you just want him to be jealous of you."

....That part isnt true becuz i do really want him.. but ya i do realize i totally screwed it up myself and that i told him about the guys knowing it bothers him.. but honestly from my point of view, i told him becuz i didnt wanna keep stuff like that from him, i think it wud bother him alot more if he found out guys were secretly hitting on me and i wasnt telling him.. i think he wud start to wonder why i wudnt tell him. But than again that just my point of view..

well he stopped ignoring me and agreed to be friends... and when we hang out it all seems normal again.. but lately i catch him ALWAYS staring at me.. and he makes it soo obvious yet too.. not sure if that means anything though... oh well. .

Wrong - as usual! He's an April 27th TAURUS...
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Who you?
Seems like you might have it wrong! as ONLY virgos in 60 can behave as being 16 and that means a virgo can give falls DB and say I am taurus!

I like Taurus folks as they make a good team with Caps rather then stereotypes virgos!

falls

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MEANT FALSE!!! (Courtesy multiprocessing)

we caps in general are reserved and can be detached. However, for the fortunate (or unfortunate ) few (ppl and things), we can be very affectionate and passionate, even to a point of obsession.

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I FULLY AGREE and may add, that the object of affection will probably never know how deeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeply we love him/her as most of the times we will be damn GOOD at hiding out feelings because if we do expose, the other person will be overwhelmed 😉!

"that the object of affection will probably never know how deeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeply we love him/her as most of the times we will be damn GOOD at hiding out feelings"


Sounds like a Virgo .. feelings without expression .. that's what all of keep bitching about with them.

I think she meant to say:

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ANOTHER VIRGO STUPIDITY OF GUESSING AND ASSUMING WHAT OTHER'S THINK!

BECAUSE YOU CONCLUDED WHAT I MEANT BY YOURSELF W/O ANY INPUT FROM ME BY MODIFYING MY STUFF W/O MY PERMISSION, YOU WILL NEVER KNOW WHAT I REALLY MEANT.

SINCE THE CONCLUSION YOU DREW IS BASED ON YOUR ASSUMPTION OF "WHAT I MEANT", IT IS ***NOT TRUE***.i.e. IT IS FLAT WRONG!!!!!!!!!!

Wow! Like an evolved Virg. COOL!
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Yup ! You see DC, we caps need to be EVLOVED, since virgos will never evolve and in order to "manage" them one needs to constantly enhance tricks and game playing skills on a daily basis, in particular for a person like me who has to deal with virgo tricks/games every day, I need to be stronger 😉! On a daily basis, it would be atleast one of my virgo friends, him or my dad creating tricks or useless scenes and to make them to do things on my terms is such a headache and HARDWORK that only playing manipulative political games/tricks seem to be a short cut. i.e. For me planning to take out my dad and mom for dinner on their wedding anniversary for a very long married life has been a challenge for me due to my virgo dad's preferences for food, location, driving distance, availability and on and on and on ... which at first started with him saying "I DO NOT SEE A NEED TO WASTE MONEY ON DINNER IN A FANCY RESTURANT - Your mom will cook something **I LIKE**, and we will all eat!"... After a looooooooooong lecture by me and my brother, he is now ready but with so many IFs and BUTs that I am on edge to call if off!

These folks are a big time boring headache! and expert in ruining any thing of great value..

REMINDER!!!!!! VIRGOS DO NOT FEEL THEY ARE ROBOTS AND ROBOTS DO *************NOT*********** FELL , NO MATTER HOW HARD WE TRY OR DO WHAT EVER FOR THEM!
THEY ARE BAD PEOPLE!

MEANT!
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DO *************NOT*********** FEEL..

BYE!

SG, I agree to an extent .. but, I also comprehend the angst. It's very frustrating to be with a person who NEVER wants to do something with you because they want to .. they only do it because they have to be forced, or convinced .. after time, a person begins to feel as though thier company isn't desired, nor appreciated. Eventually, a person gets to the point where I am. I would just go without him and start to have fun with other people and not out of spite, rather, because I still want to live.

In this situation, it's the father and not the lover .. but, it still applies. After time, a child begins to think that her father doesn't want her, if he has to be prodded to show attention and told to enjoy family time.

The will to continue showing love gets strangled .. the firey passion of love in all forms diminishes.

I am suspecting, if my dad told my mom to tell me what he wanted me to do..!!!!


I think I am thinking too much. Even if he did so, I am tired to play any more and he is my dad so no complains!

I have VERRRRRRY DEEP EMOTIONS. It's true. You can usually tell how I feel by slight 'quirks' in my face; I asked my Sagittarius Girl about it and she says 'Your eyes get darker, and colder, and the corners of your eyes 'pick up' like your eyes are being pulled'lol I know I feel so strongly I can easily overwhelm any person I meet with savage energy. I'm not saying this beucase I want to toot my horn either. Virgo is about the 'struggle' of doing the right things (high road) and taking the selfish path (low road). We are at times internally ambivalent, containing black and white within and are intense and storming on the inside below anyone's awareness; we don't want anyone knowing our soft spots or weak points. we aren't usually a nervous lot, that's Gemini's thing; Virgo's all about keeping it together in crisis, using logic, and swift action. Virgo makes it a POINT to be self-controled and in awareness of all functions it has, so no emotion gets out before a Virgo knows about it.....We don't feel our personal hell is to be shared with the world; we feel it's for us and us alone, which makes us appear selfish, and reserved, and aloof. We feel deeply and understand that the world isn't for the sensitive, and softspoken; we understand this world could chew us up, and spit us out easily, so we may turn off our feelings for a while, and leave the 'logic light on'....we are possessed with strong intellect and powerful emotions; we just feel most people will take advantage of us, and that is a Fear I think haunts EVERY virgo. We are usually about taking the high road, and we slip and take the word 'veangeance' to a whole other level.....We just don't want to hurt our loved ones with our own mess so we may simply say; 'It dosen't concern you' or 'stay out of it' there's a reason for it, and we think it's not relative to you, so why go into depth with it?. We are very emotional folk, and saddly the world dosen't stop for the bleeding heart of man.

guys like dy, are harder to read; he's light on the surface but you just 'know' when things are going foul with him. He's Virgo to the Core...When we get quiet, or when we seem to give off that 'cold air current' or give that chilly voice....yeah, where pissed. lol, but reading us isn't that easy. if you're a Scorpio treat us the same way but keep in mind the detached quality Virgo displays as well. We don't need too much touchy-feeliness just enough to know we're respected, loved, and that the door is open if we need you.

Personally, Virgo's are the easiest to read.

Most of the girls or people who have problems with virgos are usually the ones stuck on themselves trying to promote themselves and their own signs; and when someone presents you with an honest answer, they mostly get upset, and vent about how it didn't go their way. I am a Virgo, born September 6, 1988; I've been a Virgo for my whole life, and I think I know a little something about it.....I know I can't get too hung up on a person becuase there is always the possibility that they will end up trying to use me, and if you feel you can do it even on the Down low.....well not only will I find out, I launch a one-man civil war on your ass.

lmao @ P-Angel

hehehhe the ONLY reason the Virguy is so easy to read is becuase I just put him on display for y'all! lol hehehehe otherwise you'd all just go back to hairsplitting his 'wildly mild' ways! lol 😛 This board wouldn't even be here along with it's many other counterparts if y'all thought it we're so easy! lol silliness.....Sheesh, I don't see anybody runnin' over to the Scorpio board questioning the Scorpion Male's temperment lol sheesh you ladies really know how to put on a show for a guy....and to think, I never even asked! lol 😛

"the ONLY reason the Virguy is so easy to read is becuase I just put him on display for y'all"
"This board wouldn't even be here along with it's many other counterparts if y'all thought it we're so easy"
"and to think, I never even asked! lol"


What makes you think I was referring to YOU? Because YOU put him on display? You actually think that because you talked about reading Dyr and yourself, that this is some kind of an awareness that people wouldn't know otherwise? Because I wouldn't be intuitive enough to be able to know without you saying it?

Silly children, lol

My quiet competence blah blah blah....
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Again! Self proclaimed flattery!

Did you know, if you are really good , you don't have to broadcast! People are not as stupid as you think they are. They do figure out who is competent, intelligent etc.

VIRGOEXALTED 5/23/2007 5:49:43 PM | ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.215
18 years old

the ONLY reason the Virguy is so easy to read is becuase I just put him on display for y'all!

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OMG ..

:O

About what, Devil?

Pooey?

P-Angel:What makes you think I was referring to YOU? Because YOU put him on display? You actually think that because you talked about reading Dyr and yourself, that this is some kind of an awareness that people wouldn't know otherwise? Because I wouldn't be intuitive enough to be able to know without you saying it?

Silly children, lol

lmao @ P-Angel....😛 um, if you would've come to this 'revelation' yourself, you could've just easily left the whole topic alone; like I said, your trying to promote yourself, all the while you DON'T EVEN REALIZE YOUR BEING 'TOYED' WITH😉 lol P, for an older Piscean, you lack the intutive facilites needed to actually 'home-in', becuase if you possessed them, even needing to respond to a Virguy at this point would be personally pointless for you because you've already gotten to your 'inconqueorable truth' lol hate to break it to ya babe, but your not winning any popularity points in this poll. Now, WHO'S silly? lol 😛 You always seem threatened when some Virgo happens to speak up to 'counter' your view; why do I ALWAYS smell subjugation in everything you say/do on here? Now, this is the part where I TELL YOU to Fire back with some 'witty retort' and you storm off, or ramble on about how well you know ALL OF MANKIND, OR AT MINIMAL VIRGUY KIND lol!; why? lol this isn't that big an issue P! Now I know why you do this; it's beucase you NEED us....lol face it, where astropartners Virgo and Pisces; problem is, can you deal with that?. You've been a 'cool' person to speak with as of late, and you usually drop knowledge; but this is to why I pose this at you; why do you go beneath who you are to one-up someone else? I sense insecurity, and the 'pomposity' thing is irritating; at least I've told you how I felt, and at the core of this, isn't that what this is all about? how you can tell how a VIRGO really feels??.

SEE TITTLE OF BOAR😱 'How can you tell how a VIRGO really feels??' well, I think I've just spelled it out for ya! lol; I speak for myself, not for dy; Myself is my observations/findings that ALWAYS remain 'under development' so feel free to teach; I'm always learning.

As I said; Virgo isn't as likely to show their emotions on their sleeves; but underneath those layers there's a fire there; most don't like to acknowledge this becuase there's a quiet type of pride there in the fact that we are so good at self-control; we're keen, and sharp on the human psyche; we're aware that people AREN'T perfect, and that they can get over, use, and abuse others for personal gain; we view the human for their good and bad, and despite this try to view the person as 'one continuing entity' meaning you are both 'selfish and generous' Virgo now wonders 'How am I to move forward/trust this person when they are indeed far from perfect?' They are processing using their feelings but using that mind to come to a resolution; it's like a private 'board room meeting' between the self. We don't go pouring our feelings out to any 'ol just anybody; we need to figure you out, and know that we can turn our back, and you won't stab us in it. Virgos tend to feel deeply, but instead of expression they hold onto that emotion and use it for person profit and turn it into practical/useful/applicable knowlege.

ex. 'I remeber when I loved this woman, and she stomped on my heart; I have to be sharper, I have to adapt my straedgy so as to minimize this pain' The mind is just used to control the feelings but alot of good that does when a Virgo explodes.....

popularity?

Hahahahahahahaha

I know huh? Crazy right? I told you we'd be laughing on this when we reflected on it! lol

I'm actually glad though P that you are like this; it 'challenges' me, and I'm becoming all the more sharper at reasoning with people in general, and using that intuition; I'm just looking at this as experience. Not to place myself on some kind of pedastol, no point in that; may as well call myself 'god' and knock the 'grand man's' block off! lol I'm just trying to learn. I do however know how I feel, and I speak it just as clearly as you, and to anyone whom I deem worthy. You can't show your hand to any joe blow! Gotta be a little more perceptive and probing of people's motives. I know your just being you and I respect it. But anyone I respect I challenge; It's my way of knowing that 'authority does indeed still rule'. Can't have any old plain jane leadin' this charge called life right?

It's weird, but it's my way of saying 'your alright! But I need to know this.....' I will challenge you to give me answers, but I don't ALWAYS anticipate/expect to recieve them; gotta push out on your own and get some answers that make sense for you! although you older folk on here are wise, you could at least agree that you're not omncient!. Throw me a bone huh?! lol 😛 I'm sorry if I push 'too' hard.....got a problem with that....lol

I think it was supposed to be 'cheapest' .. but, not sure, really.

It's so hard for us mere mortals to understand a raison formidable like caprigirlwithvirgo, ...........
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So true! A case in point! HAHAHAHAHA

DO not even try! Your low level can't understand me! It will be a wasted effort!

It's a loooooooooooooong weekend, since I have life, I am off the dxp and the office.
You continue bluffing about me - I like your efforts w/o any fees in making me more popular than I already am!

I think it was supposed to be 'cheapest' .. but, not sure, really.
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If I am not sure of something I will keep my mouth SHUT.

Still doesn't make sense though, if it was that word .. 'one cheapest bastard'

needs to have "of the most" inserted

Or, you are the cheapest bastard here

Insults don't quite have the intended flavor when it's the words are garbled.

The funniest part to me is because it's a 'language' blunder .. which is something you are quite astute in .. that really kind of makes it humorous as hell, in reversal.

"If I am not sure of something I will keep my mouth SHUT."

lol

It's so hard for us mere mortals to understand a raison formidable like caprigirlwithvirgo, ...........
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So true! A case in point! HAHAHAHAHA

DO not even try! Your low level can't understand me! It will be a wasted effort!

LOL, You're STILL on a NUMERICAL VALUE SYSTEM....lol....that's humoring you, but being honest with you took the words right outta my mouth with this one Capgirl... we CANT understand you becuase it is a WASTED EFFORT; why try to decipher madness?; and guess who's the CORE of the wasted effort? lol....I'd give ya a hint but I'm sure you catch my drift lol 😛

Question for you virgo males... since they are supposed to be "clean" and into hygiene... does this mean virgo males would refuse to let a women give him a blowjob? or deep down wud they be wanting it and love it?

"Just pay attention and your time on f****** up your young "wife"! You might be only good for that! instead of misguiding others by your "wisdom"!".......that's crap talk from a supposed! lady.....crap bad language, crap manners, crap attitude.....so you don't agree with Dy - build a bridge and get over it!!!- handle yourself and your language better with more respect and dignity for your own self and towards others - you think using bad language is gonna make you come across as extra special or knowledgeable or extra "anything" in anyone's eyes— except as a woman of little or no substance in my opinion...so why show yourself up and pull yourself down to gutter level with this rude talk Capgirlwithvirgo......——...so enjoy your long weekend and maybe make it a lonnnnnnnnnnnnng time before you come back on board.......I hate it when people get "personal" with others who have shared valuable insights into their lives and love like DY has about his lovely wife Debs:-)........and as for your 15 workers in the office.....yeah....I don't fcukin think so Ms. Mary MakeBelieve....there you go....bad language from me even.

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